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writes:Hi, I'm 17 and i really need some help; the thing is i really hate the way men are! I hate how they check out other girls and some boys just dont have respect for girls, all they want is sex! If theres a half naked girl on the tv or something an my brothers watching the tv i have to turn it off because it gets me so angry. I look at him and he's got a really pervy look on his face so i turn the tv off quickly! He is 14.I get so angry if my bf of a year checks out another girl in her bikini. I can't go to the beach with him anymore because i hate it so much. I have told him this recently. What shall i do? I just hate men :( I really don't wanna be like this and im sorry if i have offended any boys on this but i really need help as soon its gonna ruin my relationship :( Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 While I agree with you that many men are crude and vulgar in public by openly expressing or showing their appreciation of women, we are "programmed" to be attracted. Whether you consider it the design of God or nature, or whatever, we normal men are "turned-on" by the female body. We are sexual beings, like every other thing on Earth that lives and multiplies.
As an older man, I can recall a time when perhaps men were not as gross and indelicate about it, particularly in the South in America, but you can be sure that we had naughty thoughts running through our heads. It's our nature, and quite a few women are much the same these days. We would all have died out as the human race long ago if we weren't mutually attracted.
Yet I agree with you that some (most?) men have become more loutish and indecent about displaying their captivation. Many of us are still more gentlemanly and "cool" about it. But you should not begin to develop hatred of all men because some are vulgar. That would be unhealthy for you. Try to accept it before you will need psychiatric treatment. Love ya girl.
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reader, Blitz35 +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Well if it really bothers u... try to advoid anything that will make ur bf or ur borther not check out chicks... less tv... um not going to the beach... honestly im in a relationship and i love her to death but i do sometimes check females out... its jsut a guys thing but wats wrong wit it is that ur not suppose to check them out when hes wit u... now thats just rude and sick... honestly u need to talk about it wit him ... tell him that u dont like it at all and that its really affecting ur relationship wit him... good luck
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