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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other men and he knows that. I had no problem with their size. I do however wish my amazing boyfried was larger in size! Yes, I happen to be a woman who appreciates a larger size. I have never once expressed this to him much less dropped a hint because I don't want to offend him. He happens to be the smallest I have ever been with. How can I, explain my preference to him without insulting him? Is there a safe suppliment out there that will enhance his size. I don't want to mention it to him at all if there is no SAFE and EFFECTIVE suppliment he can take. So how should I go about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well to answer that question/point made...no he is not 6inches he is less than that. I doubt that he is 5inches :( I mean I feel bad about it too. But I think in me case weight does come in to play. The other guys I hae been with were not over weight. So he is the first heafty boy I have been with. So then I guess I should discuss with him a workout plan. ;)
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Hi there,
sorry we are being a little bit mean towards you. I guess for us guys we all group together when we hear that one of our team isnt able to satisfy his partner size wise, it gets us all thinking if we are really satisfying our own partners.
To answer your question before, I believe loss of weight can be a factor for sure. One , with a decrease in weight there should be more room for his erection to stick out as it were. Secondly with loss of weight he should be able to maintain a firmer erection for longer as well.
But none of these things I believe will make a major difference, I guess he is a bit smaller than some of us were thinking in the first place ? I say this as you mentioned that none of the other guys had this problem, so unless you were amazingly lucky in picking all big guys , then most would have been around the normal length of 6 inches?
You have a similiar situation to a girlfriend of my wife. She dumped a guy last year as he was only barely 4 inches when erect and moreover he was not much in the girth department either. I asked ny own wife if it would have been a deal breaker when we started sleeping together ( bless her ), and she said we wouldnt have made it to our second make out session long ago if I had a small one. But she is a bit of a size queen my wife, so I guess it's down to personal preference. Some guys cant get turned on unless they have a nice heavy pair of breasts to play with and some girls are the same unless they have something sizable to fill them up. I guess you have to decide if you can live with being not fully satisfied in the bedroom over having a great relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well now that I know this pills don't work for men I can spot questioning the advertisment I see. I do not prefer a REALLY HUGE PENIS. Yes I have experienced one before and it was not all that great. I just wanted one a little big bigger than my boyfriends. I should probably pay attention more to his LEVEL of excitment and see the difference it makes in his size. We have played with toys before...and no I do not like the really large dildo's either. So maybe Im just being too picky. But at the same time....he is the smallest I have ever experienced....although since he lost about 45lbs I this he has seemed a bit bigger.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 There is a vast amount of information (testimonials) regarding one of the major advertisers in the U.S.A. called "Extenze" which most everyone seems to consider a big scam. It apparently does not only fail to work, but the company allegedly rips people off in a big way. I think that all that hooplah about some pill making a guy's pecker bigger is just a lot of bull. We have what nature provided and all we can do is learn how to best use it.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (11 March 2008):
sorry to say , but no chance. The only way to get surgery and from what I hear it only increases the size when its flacid ( so whats the point!)
At least you are honest, but is it really a big dick you want or just one that is normal sized. Have you ever experience a large penis? I say this as my current partner's previous boyfriend was very well endowed. While she loved it at first she said after a while she kept getting thrush and also he had a "big dick ego" in that he felt not much need to pleasure her just to ram his big wanger in and out of her. Now I dont have a small one but nor is it big, but my partner dumped her boyfriend with a big one for me, so for most woman being with a big one is not the be all and end all.
Have you tried a large vibrator/dildo? We use one on occasion as my partner loves to be filled right up every now and then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I've already told you - there is no such supplement!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, he is an amazing BF and no I have never mentioned it. Now Im not sure if I will. I should also probly mention that he is a little bit on the heavy side. Therefore is it true that if a man is more fit and loses a bit of weight then it will add to his size..down there? Also I too would like to know if any male has used a supplement and it worked and was safe.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (9 March 2008):
My suspicion is that all the supplements being touted for "male enhancement" are probably bogus shams, much like many (but certainly not all) herbal or vitamin supplements. However, if any male on this site have actually experienced positive results, I'd like to hear about it. However, I've been turned down a couple of times in life for being somewhat above average, which was perhaps almost as devastating as being told that you're too small.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Most men are incredibly sensitive about their size, this is so true that some sex-experts even go so far as lying that size don't matter or that they are all pretty close when erect anyway. BULLSHIT. Size matters, and the differences are huge.Now you got to understand one thing, if you guy starts thinking that it ain't big enough he is REALLY going to be hurt. Even more then you might be if he said you had to get bigger tits. Breast enlargement is a cakewalk compared to the surgery to enlarge a penis.Also surgery only gives very small increases in size, half a centimeter. There is no research that proves that any supplements or non-surgery methods work (if any did all men would be walking around with donkey dicks). About the only thing that does work are penile rings and that just helps make sure the penis is at maximum enlargement (size varies on how excited the guy is).I have once read somewhere that being overweight hurts the erection but don't remember if it was size or potency related.You can try a couple of things, different positions allow different eh "access", make the most of what you got as it were. Experiment with positions until you find one where he can penetrate deeper.You yourselve can train your muscles to clench, this don't make up for lack of length but I seen girls have a really good time with just a finger inside, surely his penis is larger then that?Maybe you could satisfy your needs for a large one with a dildo? But remember, guys have a really fragile ego when it comes to their size, are you really prepared to deal with him being hurt because he feels he is unable to satify your needs? Seeing a girl get really passionate when you are doing her with a 12 inch dildo requires a strong ego. Not all men have that.How would you feel if he told you that your pussy wasn't right for him? That he prefers a girl whose vagina couldn't be used as a hangar?You say he is an amazing boyfriend, if the sex otherwise is good, then ask yourselve if you are willing to risk it all. Remember men and women both have this weakness. If you ask him to upgrade his equipment can he ask the same of you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): You can't ever say anything about this to him without mentally scarring him.
There's no supplement for enhancing penis size, despite many efforts to find one over the years - such as dessicated tiger penis for example - and he's got what he's got. Hanging a brick off the end won't work either. The only way of increasing size is surgically, much the same as a boob job.
Viagra, Levitra and Cialis etc. will make it stiffer for longer, but will not increase the size at all.
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