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writes:I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make me appear very desperate to sign up to something like that, and make it seem that I couldn't simply find a girlfriend through going out in the city. Then again, this could be seen as just a way of trying to find somebody. Making more of an effort, as it were.How do other people look at this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): hunny it was a idea just to help you in anyway that made you happy as thats all I care about, and if it helps you in anyway then its your choice only a idea not something I say you have to do as I dont tell anyone what to do, pLUS ALL DATING SITES ARE ADVERTISING! for money or for free its advertising for people who dont find the time to find a partner, Just advise thanks laura!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I had a free lunch today hunny so there is such a thing its called friendship... god bless hunny xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 The PlentyofFish site truly is FREE, but it has not been productive for me. Guess it depends partly on where you are, and in my case, age. Younger women often don't appreciate older men, even if experienced, loving and nice.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 That is called commercialism. Sorry ,there is no free lunch.
You will only get disappointed if you joined them and pay up.
Don't waste your money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): Hunny at the top of this page is sometimes a dating site ad and its free, sometimes there are gay ones advertised to so im not telling you to pop to that but take a look hun its there now ok TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaving looked at the sites, pretty much all of them expect you to PAY to see other profiles. It seems so unfair. With that service you can find people with the same interests as you, yet you can't actually do a damn thing about it without it costing you money! At my age, I'm not willing to pay for it. I'll just have to try and find somebody outside of the internet, and that is probably a good thing too. But I've struggled to do that so far.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I met my bf online. We have been going out for about seven months. Go for it!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (8 March 2008):
With today's hectic lifestyle, many people do not have the time to socialize and they are going more online to meet their partners.
With the net , you can find more prospects.
Today, people do not think of it as desperate but more of another means to find a partner.
There are some who find this method ineffective and has taken to advertising on the streets.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I personally myself wouldn't join a dating agency, I would prefer to find someone not intentionally looking for someone but I'm the one that makes the stop and think I want to be with her.
I would use something like a chatroom, you'd get to know people, have a good giggle and possibly meet something of the opposite sex.
But if you do, do this do it with caution as you would anything because although you can meet some unsavory people in the pub or something else people find it very easy to hide behind what they make themselves become through a PC screen.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 March 2008):
Well, I have met my last few girlfriends on dating sites, and I'm on a couple of the "Adult" or "Sex" sites as well - but many of the women listed on the latter are fake listings, teasers, sluts or otherwise very questionable. No results at all except some empty promises and sexy talk. Just signed up for a short time on the naughty sites and have no plans to continue. Some regular dating sites may actually hook you up, but they certainly are becoming greedy and costly in America. Try for the "free" ones, if you can find one, or at least those that allow responses to "featured" or "upgraded" members without cost.
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reader, kirstylou +, writes (7 March 2008):
 No you wont be looked upon as desperate!
Alot of people meet people over the net nowadays.
I have myself.. i find it easier because you can chat to them and get to know them alot before u decide to meet. I know alot of people who are together from meeting on sites aswell.
just go for it..if it makes u feel happy! :)
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Well why not look at all the options that there are?
There's nothing wrong with meeting people online, it may just take a little longer to get to know someone if nothing else.
If you want to do it then go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Whatever makes you happy is the most important thing in your life as then the people around you will be happy to, So you go with what you want in life and be happy TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, superbunny +, writes (7 March 2008):
 Personally, I see no problem at all of meeting someone through a website as long as you exercise caution if you do meet up with someone or whatever. However, I do think that as an 18 - 21 you should enjoy yourself a bit without putting pressure on yourself to get a partner! If you sign up to the dating site, it's going to make you feel pressured to find someone which means you may settle for somoene you're not truly truly happy with.. Best Wishes. :] x
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