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writes:Okay, this is going to sound silly to some. I have been with my boyfriend about 6 months. Due to issues in my past, it is taking me a long time to be able to be myself during sex. He is being patient with me. Anyway, we didn't have sex for about a week due to busy life. We had sex this weekend though, and it was awkward. I felt like I was all stiff and stuff. Now, I am feeling all in my head about it. I feel like he is going to go off of me now. Am I being crazy? If you really cared about a girl, would you understand if the sex is not alway mind blowing? Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Hi
It depends how much emphasis he pins on sex basically. Generally loving someone would mean you work on your sex life and have some give and take. 6 months isn't an amazingly long time to be with someone anyway, and it will take a lot longer than that to really get to know eachother sexually and feel completely comfortable with them.
I wouldn't of thought your guy is bothered at all. If he loves you and he's getting sex, he is probably fine! If he didnt get any, i expect he would be wondering whats going on though hehe.
Communication about what each other likes is most important here. You possibly have different sex drives too, but thats not a terrible thing you cant work round anyway.
Thats my opinion anyway.
C xxxxx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 March 2008):
 As a man, yes, I would not expect every session to be all that mind-blowing. And if I cared about the woman a lot, I would not dump her even if several sessions in a row were less than the best. Besides, It's kind of up to the man to make you feel comfortable and lead the way, in my opinion. The man often "teaches" the woman the arts of making love if he is more experienced. Of course, not every man thinks and acts the same. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Honey, you're not being crazy. But you know, if he's going off you because your sex is not mind blowing, then you're better off with out him, believe me. He should understand you've had issues in the past, and sex is never like it is in the movies anyway! Just try and relax around him, don't feel pressured to perform or anything like that. Just do what he likes, maybe get some sex tips off the internet, and have a good time!
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