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writes:Like a lot of women, my girlfriend really likes a tight butt on a guy. Whenever I'm naked around her, she always either pats me on my butt or softly slaps my butt. This usually happens when she's behind me.Well, recently she told me that when she was at her brother's house for Christmas, and she and her brother's wife were passing behind her brother, and she noticed her brother's butt, that she gave him a soft playful pat on the butt. His wife quickly said "that wasn't me." My GF admitted it was her and asked her brother how he got such a tight butt. He lifts weights and said it was from doing squats.I complained to her that I thought it was inappropriate for her to pat her brother on the butt, and she asked why. I said because it's kind of a sexual thing, especially since she only does that to me when I'm naked. I asked her how she would feel if he had done the same thing to her, and she said that would have been different, that it would have been a sexual thing because when a guy does that to a woman, it's sexual. I said it's the same regardless of who's doing it to you. Does anyone else here agree with me that it was inappropriate for her to slap her brother on the butt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Thanks for all of you who answered. I still think that slapping her brother on the butt has some sexual overtones, as the only reason she slapped it is because he has a tight butt, and she has a thing for a tight butt on a guy. That's why she slaps and pats by butt. I won't make a big deal of it, but if she tells me that she did it again, I think I'll suggest that she should quit doing that to him, cuz he's her brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): I think that it was inappropriate. I have a brother and would never touch his butt. Plus your girl is turned on by butts. I dont think it's incest or anything some people just have that dirty sence of humor.I do think it's unfair however that your girlfriend thinks it's ok for a women to do such things just not a man. It's sexual for a woman to touch another mans butt.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 It depends on which side of the divide you stand..
I don't think it is inappropriate.
It is normal in some families.
They are just being playful and nothing more.
It may offend some but then , they have their own rights.
It is their culture.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Doesn't sound too inappropriate to me. I mean, his wife was right there, it's not like she's seducing her brother and feelin' up on his booty behind closed doors... I think that she's just behaving like a sister with her brother.
I don't think you have much to worry about, sweetness. Lighten up! Believe me, if she saw her brother's naked butt, she CERTAINLY wouldn't be tapping it - in fact, she'd probably scream and run for the hills (at least that's what I would do if I saw my siblings naked butt. Ewww...).
It's okay, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): It sounds like you are jealous of her relationship with her brother, don't be because you are going to loose.Her brother will be 1 of 2 men in her life (in a normal family) who is NOT just after her for sex. Girls can be very close to their brothers without ever having to wonder if he just wants to get in their panties. Your sister is the one girl you don't have to be impress.Siblings often use each other to learn about the opposite sex. Not in way remotely connected to incest, but roughly the same way we learn from out fathers how men should behave and from out others how women should behave.This is why childeren who grow up in abusive households often become abusers themselves.Your GF and her brother sound like normal siblings, do you have a sister you are close to yourselve? Yes she is right when she says it is different when you do it to her and she does it to her brother. First off, you are her lover and second, she is a girl, not a guy. Don't be jealous off her brother, you cannot compete with him and shouldn't want to.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Must agree with most others here that this innocent sibling banter of sorts.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 It wouldn't be a sexual thing between siblings, just a fraternal thing, like Football Players slapping each others on the behind as a Congratulations. Not every playful touch is sexual - we cuddle our kids, friends and families, but in a very different way than when we cuddle with our spouses. Families all have their own way of relating to each other, some have ways that are quite different than our own family and the way that we were raised. It sounded like a couple of siblings being competitive about one being in better shape than the other one as well - I can imagine my family giving each other the gears like this in the way that you have described this happening.
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reader, Blitz35 +, writes (9 March 2008):
 well its nothing big but if u dont like it u tell her that... not to do shit like that around u or at all... if she respects u and dont want u too get mad she wont do it any more
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I don't think so, but then that is just my opinion. I do not look at my female relatives in a sexual way, but have seen several of them in the nude because of my work as a emergency medical technician.
My sister was at a family gathering and she went into labor, myself and another brother took her into a bedroom and delivered her baby(a niece)
My young aunt called for an ambulance late one night and I had to do an emergency examination of her.
My mother collapsed at work one morning and was stripped at the hospital when I arrived. These are not sexual incidents.
Also, it is common for sports players to pat each other on the buttocks during games of football, basketball and baseball....this is neither sexual at all.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Umm...It's sibling affection and familiarity. I mean, my and my sister and aunt punch each other in the boobs sometimes. Its nothing big.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I don't have a sister, but all I can say in response to this is that every time I see a tight butt on a woman, particularly if the jeans are also tight, I have a barely controllable urge to either slap it or preferably squeeze it. Fortunately my willpower is strong enough to avoid slaps to the head and knees to the groin.
She appreciates a tight butt - from his point of view that's a compliment, and if I were him I'd take it as such and not read any more into it. Ease up - it's innocent enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Yep, totally inappropriate! This girl needs a telling honey x
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