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I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it.
Q. Hey, I'm very young and I'm worried about a lot of things. This is going to sound weird but I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it because I don't like my attraction to female feet. Secondly I am worried about future relatioships and sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: Well I must agree with my Canadian pal "Danielpew" - a woman fetish and all parts thereof - you've got your toes fetish, foot fetish, then ankles, calves, thighs and hinnie. And I'll admit at least minor fetishes each for tummies, hips, the rest of ... (read in full...)
I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it.
Q. Hey, I'm very young and I'm worried about a lot of things. This is going to sound weird but I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it because I don't like my attraction to female feet. Secondly I am worried about future relatioships and sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: This is kind of funny to me, because I have developed at least a slight female foot fetish later in life (I'm 60), and I do not see any harm in it. It's just that I like to at least glance at attractive women's footsies and it kind of turns me on. ... (read in full...)
I am living in a sexless marriage, what should I do?
Q. My husband of 43yrs. all of a sudden decided he has no desire for sex or affection. I asked him what am I suppose to do and he said he didn`t know. He has affection for the children and grand children but not me. Now the kicker--we haven`t had sex ...
A. 12 October 2008: This kind of thing rips our hearts. It is so sad when love fades along with shared sexual attraction, but having experienced all of those situations to some degree, my reluctantly offered solution is meager. For 12 years I have somewhat regretted ... (read in full...)
Is my penis an average size?
Q. hey im 15 and i have a 7.5 inch dick ... is that an average size?...
A. 12 October 2008: According to many sources, that is a bit above average depending on how measured. The proper method is from the base on the upper side while erect, according to general opinion, but in any case you apparently have no reason to be concerned. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him subtly that Iwant to have sex with him?
Q. im a female, and i want to send out signals to this guy ive been seeein that i wanna have sex with him without actually saying 'hey lets have sex!' maybe i could touch him a certain way or say something in a text message, i dont know! this question ...
A. 12 October 2008: You say that you have "been seeing" him, which I suppose means that the two of you are dating. So what's the problem? Has he not kissed you? At some point he should be making a move, but if you wish to hasten the matter, respond very passionately to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not have climaxed yet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I know I love him, but I'm not crazy about our sex. Sometimes I'm just really not interested in having sex and nothing he does will get me in the mood. And I haven't climaxed yet. Is this a ...
A. 11 October 2008: Most all of the thoughts expressed below and by others are useful in a general way, especially about "knowing" what turns you on. But do you still feel like something is missing? There is no "magic" solution, or IS there?
First, an answer to your... (read in full...)
Whenever he goes "in", I feel this burning sensation like I have to pee.
Q. I have been dating this guy I have been hot and bothered about for a while! The sex is astronomical because my feelings for him are rock hard. But there is something that is bothering me. Whenever he goes in, I feel this burning sensation like I ...
A. 10 October 2008: Ok, if no infections - great. The deep part may mean he is reaching the cervix. It typically retracts during sexual activity. Not being a woman, I cannot say whether penile contact to the cervix produces a "burning" sensation, but some women claim ... (read in full...)
Whenever he goes "in", I feel this burning sensation like I have to pee.
Q. I have been dating this guy I have been hot and bothered about for a while! The sex is astronomical because my feelings for him are rock hard. But there is something that is bothering me. Whenever he goes in, I feel this burning sensation like I ...
A. 10 October 2008: There are conditions other than those caused by sexual transmission that can cause the burning sensation you described, such as yeast or bacterial infections. Although you describe the burning sensation along with feeling a need to urinate, they ... (read in full...)
I maturbate frequently and am worried because recently no sperm comes out when I orgasm. Has anyone else had this problem?
Q. Hey. I masturbate around 2 times a day. I used to be able to ejaculate, but recently my orgasms have been with no sperm. I think I have retrograde ejaculation since after I usualy have to pee when I didn't before and it's cloudy after masturbati...
A. 8 October 2008: Well in my opinion, you are indeed being a bit robust in your frequency there. According to physiological information I have read, it takes several days for even a young man to produce sperm and semen - although it is apparently an ongoing process ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is only able to cum through oral sex and not intercourse.
Q. I am 49 and my boyfriend of 7 years is 38. We have sex 4-5 times a week. Lately, he is only able to orgasm through oral sex. Although I don't mind pleasuring him that way, I wonder why he is having trouble having orgasms through "regular" sex ...
A. 8 October 2008: Over the many years (I'm 60), my experience has been much the same. While I much enjoy vaginal intercourse and can go on and on, both my wife of two decades and a number of girlfriends since have been more likely to get me off orally. The sensations ... (read in full...)
How much do guys fantasize about other women when they're having sex with their girlfriends?
Q. How much do guys fantasize about other women when they're having sex with their girlfriends? I know I never think about other guys when I'm having sex with my boyfriend, but I'm curious about how it is for guys. I once asked my boyfriend, but he ...
A. 7 October 2008: While I can not speak for all guys, I have rarely if ever thought about others while making love to the woman involved at the moment. ... (read in full...)
Told him I miss him and he said I shouldn't miss him because he doesn't deserve it and asked me to not fall in love with him because that truly scares him and he doesn't want to hurt me.
Q. I am completely perplexed. I have been dating my boyfriend for going on five months now and I was just starting to fall for him hard though I have not told him I love him. We weren't able to get together this weekend because he spends every other ...
A. 7 October 2008: Although I am much older, I know that I can add some male perspective. He either treasures single life without commitment, as I now do, or he has involvement with another or others. In either case, he is actually being good to you by telling you ... (read in full...)
Planning a romantic weekend soon. Is there a way to induce my period to get it now, before I leave?
Q. I'm seeing this guy on the weekend. We're long distance and only see each other once every month or 2. We haven't had sex yet and I'm pretty sure we were going to this weekend. Normally my period is on time every month, the 5th or the 6th, but I ...
A. 7 October 2008: No, you cannot control your cycle. I'm a man (albeit much older and previously married) and I know that. Maybe it will end in time, but if either of you are so adverse to intercourse during menstruation, then at least you could please your guy ... (read in full...)
32 year old christian virgin - should I lose it in Amsterdam?
Q. I'm a 32 Christian male, single (and have always been) and still a virgin. All my friends are getting married and I feel left behind. I've never been very out-going and this "no-sex-before-marriage" thing is engrained in me but recently getting ...
A. 7 October 2008: Sir. You are not an alien on the wrong planet. There is someone for you out of many possibilities even if you are not "very out-going" or the best looking or whatever. You are still young and I agree with others that a good Christian young man can ... (read in full...)
Does it hurt if a man gets an erection and is not relieved by ejaculation?
Q. Hi. If a man gets an erection and it is not realieved by ejaculation. Does it hurt?...
A. 6 October 2008: If aroused sufficiently, indeed it can be quite painful!... (read in full...)
Any helpful sites on giving blow jobs?
Q. Okay, so I have a pretty awkward question here. I gave my first blowjob ever a few days ago. TBH, I had previously read up on them online and such, and though I'd be pretty good. The problem was, my mouth was a lot smaller than I expected, or his ...
A. 6 October 2008: Well as a heterosexual male, I can only offer some advice from a recipient's point of view. As one of the older volunteer advisors with some 45 years of sexual experience, my first suggestion is that guys often need a fair amount of foreplay ... (read in full...)
I started giving her oral then realized I really had no idea what I was doing....please help.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now. I've been touching her for well over a month and just a week ago she began touching me. I really have two problems here. For one, when she touches me it feels really good but I just can'...
A. 6 October 2008: You are visiting one of the best Web sites for casual education, advice, suggestions and bold freedom of expression on the Internet. It may not be perfect and the input not always "the truth" for everyone, but it is open and real. You are free to ... (read in full...)
I'm now doubting everything I thought I did know about sex. Any advice?
Q. Hello, I'm 16. I'm a girl. I've been in a long term sexual relationship before with a boy equally as inexperienced as me, but I don't feel I've actually gained any sexual experience, as he was equally as clueless as me. I'm now with someone I r...
A. 6 October 2008: Do you really think that you should be or feel knowledgeable about the art of making love at the age of 16 or 17? Do you believe that this should even be important, or anything like a priority, at your age?... (read in full...)
I give him oral, but he doesn't orgasm. Why not?
Q. right i have just started giving my boyfriend (of 6 months) blow jobs, i have gave him two so far but he hasnt ever cum. he seems like he enjoys it because recently when i did it he was gripping hold of the metal bars on his bed and holding my h...
A. 6 October 2008: This may largely be as "chandra Mcmillan" suggests. Some young men may feel that cumming in your mouth is too nasty or whatever. I'm in agreement that you could tell him it is ok, or even that you would like him to release. If he says that he really ... (read in full...)
Is this the build up to an orgasm that I'm preventing?
Q. When me and my partner have sex, it's amazing. Only, I haven't yet reached an orgasm. When we're mid-action, I sometimes have to tell him to stop, just because it's TOO intense, and feels TOO good - it's weird. Is this the build up to an orgasm that ...
A. 6 October 2008: Remember that an orgasm (both men and women) is an intense sexual release of tension. For both, there is a build-up followed by a feeling of "letting go" - much like submission. And yes, even the approach to orgasm typically feels good, hopefully ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a friendship with a married guy like this?
Q. Two years ago, I made a business deal with a military base near Nebraska. One of the guys was pretty friendly with me, he was rather flirty to the extent of making me feel he liked me. I felt like chemistry like I had with no one in my life ...
A. 5 October 2008: Yes. You are likely being duped by a married guy who would enjoy access to your privates or whatever for sexual gratitude. Yet you indicate some friendship. In my opinion, based on your posting, the problem is that you are apparently considering an ... (read in full...)
Attention to all the Dear Cupid Uncles and Aunts
Q. Dear Uncles and Aunts I have noticed sometimes some of you are replying to questions that are so outdated. I cannot help but ask, don't you look at the dates of the questions? It is annoying to see some of you answering these outdated questions...
A. 5 October 2008: Did not know that there was a time limit to volunteering advice or opinion on any question, because no time limit exists. Perhaps you are a newbie. Welcome! Check it out thoroughly and then, try taking at shot at some of the questions yourself . . . ... (read in full...)
Shall I pleasure her downwards or upwards?
Q. Hello. Quick question if I may about oral sex and pleasuring women. Do most women prefer their clitoral hood being licked downwards - or upwards? Problem with the former is that the man cannot see his lover's face when he's pleasuring her - though ...
A. 5 October 2008: Presuming you know that there is much more about a good session of cunnilingus than licking the clitoral hood . . . well, I think that we should delineate the parts here. The clitoral hood is the fleshy covering that protects the clitoral glans and ... (read in full...)
Question about sperm longevity---can someone clarify?
Q. Hi, I've been reading other entries and many people have been saying different things in regards to how long sperm can stay alive outside the body. I have read seconds, 2 minutes and even 72 hours....can someone please clarrify?? ...
A. 4 October 2008: One final concept. Sperm cells are not exactly "alive" - not as if any kind of "being" or person or anything. It is incomplete. It contains some components - called gametes and zygotes, plus vital nutrition and other things, that might both initiate ... (read in full...)
Question about sperm longevity---can someone clarify?
Q. Hi, I've been reading other entries and many people have been saying different things in regards to how long sperm can stay alive outside the body. I have read seconds, 2 minutes and even 72 hours....can someone please clarrify?? ...
A. 4 October 2008: Just a little more info here. As suggested, the survival of sperm either within a man's scrotum or after ejaculation into a vagina is about that same three days - either before being absorbed within the man's body or reaching it's target - an ovum.... (read in full...)
Question about sperm longevity---can someone clarify?
Q. Hi, I've been reading other entries and many people have been saying different things in regards to how long sperm can stay alive outside the body. I have read seconds, 2 minutes and even 72 hours....can someone please clarrify?? ...
A. 4 October 2008: That's about right. Sperm likely survives a maximum of a couples of minutes if released into the cold, cruel world of a condom, toilet or floor. But according to all I have read over the past 20 years or so - inside the ultimate comfort of a healthy ... (read in full...)
We had sex. Will he think I'm too fast?
Q. I met this guy over the internet and we started emailing on a Wednesday. We had a lunch date that Friday and liked each other, so we decided to have a happy hour that same day. We kissed after the happy hour. Then I saw the guy Saturday, Sunday and ...
A. 2 October 2008: Well from a man's point of view, I have had many similar experiences - many of which also led to relationships that latest months or years. One date that resulted in sex the very first evening led to a 23 year marriage. But I may be a bit unusual in ... (read in full...)
Am I too small and how can I last longer?
Q. Ok,hey well im 16 and my penis is a quite bit bigger than 7inches am I too small? Also im worried because I only last like 10 minutes is there anything I can do so I can last more? Please help...
A. 2 October 2008: You are not too small dude.... (read in full...)
Is 'queefing' a turn off for guys?
Q. What are guys opinions on queefing? I think its pretty normal for a girl to do it but do guy like it or are they turned off by it? Or do they not even notice?...
A. 2 October 2008: Are we still talking about this? It seems to me that "queefing" is most likely the British version of this funny (if anything) occurrence. Yet . . . "DiovanLestat" of the British Isles claims no familiarity. Anyway, the fact that some funny things ... (read in full...)
I;m self conscious because of my sexual history - is there any way to get things back to normal 'down there'?
Q. Okay so I used to party all the time and now i have a bad reputation for being a slut. Im actually a very loving, smart, good person. I regret everything I did and I wish i could take it all back. I think about it everyday and I feel bad about ...
A. 1 October 2008: Well it sounds to me like you are possibly continuing the same kind of behavior, with yet another guy. I'm glad to hear that you have "quit drinking and all that" but the continuing sexual activity at your age is very unwise. You do not want to hear ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to tell when a girl is cumming?
Q. Hey Cupid. I was just wondering if there is a way for a guy to tell whether a girl is cumming during sex? Because my girlfriend groans and gets wet but I want to know if she is just one of those girls who don't ever cum or whether I just can't te...
A. 1 October 2008: When you are young, I think that it is harder to tell when a woman is truly having an orgasm. With age and experience, it usually becomes apparent. Although I try to resist typecasting, women as well as men indeed fall into several different ... (read in full...)
Is 'queefing' a turn off for guys?
Q. What are guys opinions on queefing? I think its pretty normal for a girl to do it but do guy like it or are they turned off by it? Or do they not even notice?...
A. 30 September 2008: Experienced guys have heard it before - no big deal, and if we stay the night, most guys will expend plenty of more potent gas during the night. Neither particularly arousing, in my opinion, but not a turn-off. Each instance is just being human.... (read in full...)
How do I improve the taste of my cum?
Q. How do I improve the taste of my cum? My gf says that sometimes its very sweet and other times it's bitter....
A. 30 September 2008: As a heterosexual male, I have no personal tasting experience but have enjoyed providing for more than 40 years.
A guy who is often enjoying "The Big Relief" (as I like to call it) on a regular basis should probably maintain a healthy diet incl... (read in full...)
Husband want anal sex but it's too painful for me! What should I do?
Q. My husband seems to like painful anal sex. I do it and he knows it hurts me. He likes to watch porn about it too. Any ideas? ...
A. 30 September 2008: Tell him, "No more of that. It hurts me." Any good and real man and husband would understand that. Period.... (read in full...)
Why exactly do people have anal sex when it's so disgusting?!
Q. Here's the thing, all these people brag about anal sex, the porn industry claims that women love anal sex. We tried anal sex and all I can say about it is that it felt like i was taking a big crap. It was discusting and the thought of it made me ...
A. 29 September 2008: In my opinion, it may have been practiced time immemorial but the porn industry has further popularized it over the past twenty years or so. Most older folks may be considered fuddy-duddy by some, but it is not as popular among us. And it does ... (read in full...)
We're 20 year old virgins, who want to keep trying to have sex. Any tips on how we can relax?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years and we have talked about having sex for a while, last time we tried it hurt me a lot and we haven't tried since. We're both virgins BTW. we are planning to have a weekend alone no room mates, no ...
A. 29 September 2008: Well I think that you are on the right track - start the evening with perhaps a nice but easy dinner, or whatever you both enjoy. Avoid any kind of excess pressure or anxiety. Relax together with plenty of kissing and foreplay with no hurry. It may ... (read in full...)
How do I give my boyfriend a blow job?
Q. Well i tryed giving my boyfriend a bj and hj but its like im hurting him but yet its not my first time doing this and i have no clue what to do! i want to give him the best cause thats what he does for me but it seems im just hurting him ...
A. 29 September 2008: About the only way that you could be "hurting him" is that your teeth are scraping the shaft, although another possibility is that your grip on the penis is too tight and pulling down too forcefully as you bob up and down. Of course, you might first ... (read in full...)
Does size and shape have an influence on sexual compatibility?
Q. Sexual compatibility is important. We all have certain preferences; we all have certain things that do turn us “on” or “off”. Why is everybody so easily claiming: “It is not the size but the technique that is important”? It might be the scenario ...
A. 29 September 2008: The anonymous reader below offers excellent analysis. I'll add the following: Most men supposedly are fascinated or attracted to large breasts on a woman - the larger the better. As a man who has experiences with the gamut, I much prefer less in ... (read in full...)
He's totally ready to take the relationship to the next level, but doesn't understand why I'm not.
Q. Im a 19 year old girl in the usa. I have recently become involved with a 39 y.o man who is from the U.K . I greatly enjoy his company and conversation but am afraid to commit. I feel we don't have a good chance because of the age difference. I have...
A. 29 September 2008: Well, you did not ask a question, but I'll offer an opinion. It is indeed quite an age difference but, most importantly, YOU think that the age difference threatens the relationship. What matters is what is important to you.
However, what othe... (read in full...)
Am I too young for sex?
Q. hi im 13 and want to lose my virginty.im i too young? what will i feel like after the sex? and worst of all i want to do it with my cousin whos the same age as me. i've like him sence i was 2 and i think he likes me back.what do i do.how do i get my ...
A. 28 September 2008: Yes.... (read in full...)
What do I do if he does not stop this nonsense? We serve on the same committee.
Q. Thank you in advance to all the great agony aunts who take the time to answer this. I did write in last week about a difficult situation where I am working on a committee with an ex who is being alternately rude and disrespectful. The work I am ...
A. 28 September 2008: Stay the course woman ! Show strength. Excel at the work. For one, I am cheering you.... (read in full...)
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