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I am fourteen, and I masturbate every day, is this normal?
Q. Hi im 14 years old and i masturbate everyday. I was wondering if its normal. For some reason im always dreaming and thinking on watching my classmates naked. Is this normal?...
A. 5 November 2008: Wait a minute "Uncle Phil!" Exploding balls? ... (read in full...)
2 questions - why can't I cum and why do my nipples always get hard?
Q. i have 2 questions: okay heres the first. i can't cum no matter what. i've tried masturbating different ways, but nothing works, and i have been mastubating since i was young and i can have an orgasm but i don't cum.. and the only way i have an or...
A. 5 November 2008: You seem to expect "squirting," which is something that is more unusual than common. If you think that a lot of fluid will squirt during your orgasms, you are misinformed. However, most females do emit a small amount of a seminal fluid through the ... (read in full...)
Online Dating Makes Me Feel Sleazy
Q. I recently joined a site called fling.com. I am a very busy person with tons of responsibilities and of course like most women I have complex about my looks. Sometimes I feel unattractive and other times I feel good. Anyways, my sex life hasn...
A. 5 November 2008: In my opinion, the Internet is a reasonable way to connect overall - for relationships, jobs, products, games, communication and more. Over the past 10 years, I have met with numerous women online for both sex and friendships which endure, although ... (read in full...)
I am fourteen, and I masturbate every day, is this normal?
Q. Hi im 14 years old and i masturbate everyday. I was wondering if its normal. For some reason im always dreaming and thinking on watching my classmates naked. Is this normal?...
A. 5 November 2008: Yes, entirely normal - especially if your fantasizing about the opposite sex in those dreams of yours.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to masturbate in his 1st month of wedding?
Q. is it normal that the man masturbate at his 1st month of weeding? i have just get married lately and i found out that my husband musturbate alone he gets on line and watch nacked women,i dont know why he does that especially that i have never sa...
A. 4 November 2008: Masturbating becomes a habit - especially when or if single up to the point of marriage. Pornography, which was not at all so readily available 15 or more years ago, has increased such activity, in my opinion. So I would not now think that anyone ... (read in full...)
My bf went back to his ex wife without saying a word to me! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months, has in the last month has gone back to his ex wife without even telling me,i dont know what to do or think, we did not live together but i thought that he could have wrote a letter or something to tell me but i have not ...
A. 3 November 2008: In my opinion, you simply move on. There is probably no useful purpose in contacting him because he has made an obvious decision. Any contact will only prolong your angst. Try to keep in mind that any recently married man who is separated - or even ... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin, even if it didn't mean anything to me?
Q. i was a virgin recently and my so called boy friend came over..we were casual flirting and then he started to get a little too flirty. he layed me on my bed and i told him i didn't want to have sex and i tried to move my hand to block his penis. i ...
A. 3 November 2008: You were forced, according to your description of the event, which is rape. It's simple, except that you wrote that you "dnt think it really was." My suggestion is for you to report it, but the matter is very confused by your own words. The truth ... (read in full...)
Why didnt he just do it? I really wanted him to !!!
Q. ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half now. and the other night while fooling around we started talking about our first night together.. i told him i was ready but i just wasnt sure. so the next day we both we knew we were gonna be ...
A. 2 November 2008: The female advisors below all provided excellent thoughts - now from a man's viewpoint, yes we can be very nervous at first for several reasons, such as fear of getting you pregnant. But if you are ready, I think that the most effective thing you ... (read in full...)
In need of some big advice about why life sucks.
Q. how will i know if i found the right one for me?just because somebody is treating me and we both feel comfortable doesn't mean that we are right for each other......it might not last...but what are the for sure signs?n why do people pop in and out ...
A. 2 November 2008: Try to remember that everyone is fundamentally picky and rather selfish. Yet, there are many who are also very giving and caring. Your goal is to find the man who gives to you and treasures what you can give to him - a two-way trade of care, ... (read in full...)
What's the best way of coping with a break up?
Q. My boyfriend of a month just broke up for me today, and I'm reacting really badly to it. I had a foreboding it would happen, and now that it has I'm really upset, even though I tried to prepare myself the best I could for what I knew was coming. I ...
A. 2 November 2008: To begin with, please be aware that you are still very young and that you have years and years of good emotions ahead. But there will occasionally be disappointments. From an older man's point of view (and some of us are sensitive too), you will ... (read in full...)
What's up with my boyfriend's obvious double-standard?
Q. What's up with my boyfriend's obvious double-standard? It seriously makes me angry! Yesterday I went over to my boyfriend's. I had to take a cab. I arrived late, and he was upset... but he got downright angry when he looked at my chest. I was wea...
A. 1 November 2008: Based on your description, your boyfriend is a "control freak," and you may as well get used to it. This is likely just the tip of the iceberg, so to speak, meaning that it will probably get worse. He may eventually use violence to get his way and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, porn habit, no sex, being told I'm manipulative
Q. Okay..my boyfriend of about a year has always used porn as an outlet. He's upfront and honest about it, how he spends hours browsing and downloading it. He's even shared some of it with me, etc. I DO enjoy some of it. Although deep down I feel ...
A. 1 November 2008: In my opinion, you do not need a "couples counsellor" with due respect for the suggestions by "Fade878" - you simply need to begin letting go and seeking other living arrangements. This situation will not likely change, and it makes you unhappy and ... (read in full...)
Does having sex soon after your fertile time, cause pregnancy, any ideas on what a guy can do to have a better erection?
Q. ok i had sex a few days after my fertile time i wanted to know can i still get pregnant after my fertile time, and also his penis was not all the way hard can i still get pregnant and one more question he penis is not getting hard nomore i don't ...
A. 1 November 2008: If, by the term "fertile time," you mean ovulation, then you are indeed risking pregnancy near this part of your cycle. That is when you are most fertile and likely to conceive. ... (read in full...)
What could I do to him?
Q. I just want to know what I can do to make my guy go crazy sexually. I don't feel like Im satisfying him well enough and would like to get more of a reaction out of him. All the things I do to him: I give him oral sex which I love doing, but the l...
A. 31 October 2008: OK, well I like all the ideas that others have proposed. And I recall girlfriends and one wife who frequently entertained me with what I'll call "surprise blow jobs." which included pouncing on me in the middle of the night, or while traveling or as ... (read in full...)
What could I do to him?
Q. I just want to know what I can do to make my guy go crazy sexually. I don't feel like Im satisfying him well enough and would like to get more of a reaction out of him. All the things I do to him: I give him oral sex which I love doing, but the l...
A. 30 October 2008: You seem to be doing all that a guy could possibly want, especially if you do oral all the way. A bit of teething occurs occasionally and is no problem if it doesn't draw too much blood. But based on what you say, I think that either your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Is this married guy looking for trouble with me?
Q. OK, this guy is a friend of mine. A long distance one. I met him in a deal from my office. Turned out we became keeping in touch as friends he told me he's married so we became friends since day one. He's military so we never lost touch out of what ...
A. 30 October 2008: In my opinion, based on your posting, you are setting yourself up for great disappointment if you continue to entertain this relationship beyond a casual friendship and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Was I too desperate?
Q. I met a really good man that had been broken up from his fiance of 3 years. I met him 2 weeks after their break-up. He and I had so much fun together. We are both 45 and his fiance is 37. We had more in common than she and he did. We did have ...
A. 30 October 2008: He is obviously not entirely honest and I think that "daniellexxxx" probably has it right. You were used, and you should probably just chalk it up as experience and move on. ... (read in full...)
Are our lives predestined?
Q. We all know that things happen whether they are good or bad.... but do you think that whatever happens to you in your life was supposed to happen to you? I mean is it to teach you a lesson or is it just that things happen? What if it was bad, am I ...
A. 30 October 2008: Deep question. My friend "birdynumnums' offers great insight. My input is that nothing is "predestined" - but sometimes, it seems that way, good or bad. I've been incredibly lucky at times, then raked-over by situations or others at times. The very ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm, what's wrong with me?!
Q. Hello,ok so my and my hubby to be have a good sex life but one problem,I have never had a orgasm :( all my friends have,I dont know what is wrong with me. All the time we have sex it normally lasts for about 20-30 minutes, and by then he you know...
A. 30 October 2008: You do not mention whether your activities include such things as: foreplay (and plenty of it), cunnilingus (oral stimulation to vulva and clitoris) or romance. Each are at least helpful if not necessary. Sexual experience and exploration is also ... (read in full...)
Could difficulty swallowing be due to oral herpes?
Q. Could difficulty swallowing be due to oral herpes? What about a small white painful bump on the tip of the tongue that lasts more than a week or what about small bumps at the back of the throat and dehydration?This has been lasting a while now and ...
A. 30 October 2008: Something else that could cause these symptoms is "Thrush," which is essentially a yeast infection. It is quite a bit less serious than oral herpes, but deserves attention. Perhaps thrush is not the cause however, because you do not mention a white ... (read in full...)
We had sex and haven't talked since!! I don't understand her.
Q. So I met this woman, we went out a couple of times, spent the night the first night (only to third base, my decision. yes, I'm a guy!) In the morning she asked me to come back over that night (watch tv). I did. For the next week I get 3-8 texts/day ...
A. 29 October 2008: Beats me. You are hopefully not trying to really "understand" women are you? One of my favorite sayings comes from the script of "Titanic" when the elder lady states, "A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets."
Anyway, my experience includes quit... (read in full...)
Please explain exactly what 'spooning' means.
Q. I am a little confused about spooning. i know it's a form of cuddling and i know its a very intimate position, and that the female faces away from the male, but is it a rear entry position? or can you get to the other part?? ...
A. 29 October 2008: Yes, you can have marginal vaginal sex this way but not with much penetration. I fully agree with "zelgamer" that spooning is a wonderful way to sleep with a partner. It is loving, protective and very comfortable - at least for periods of time ... (read in full...)
Riding a penis facing backwards - any tips?
Q. How do you ride a penis while facing away from the man. a couple steps would be helpful. Thanks....
A. 28 October 2008: It would be a good idea to practice the woman-on-top (or Cowgirl) position well before attempting the turnaround. But this is not really difficult. You simply straddle the man when he is prone and erect. When you are facing away, he can easily guide ... (read in full...)
Squirting... I need some information please!
Q. Hello, I am 20 years old and I was wondering if anyone could tell me anything about squriting?Every time I have sex I say stop, I have to pee and he says no that's what we're looking for, that's good your not going to pee your gonna cum. I don't kn...
A. 28 October 2008: That is the feeling that many women have the first time or so that they are approaching orgasm, but it is not necessarily a need to actually urinate. Your boyfriend is probably correct. Go ahead and let the sensation proceed, and the result will ... (read in full...)
Was he spinning me a yarn saying that he loved me?
Q. I had an affair with a married man on and off for almost a year. He told me that he wasn't leaving his wife for nothing. He told me that he loved me once and never told me again. I fell in love with this man and then with no notice, he told me it ...
A. 28 October 2008: Of course he did NOT mean it. You were simply had, it would seem, and it will likely happen again if you continue messing around with married men who are simply looking for some "strange" as we called it in the old days.... (read in full...)
Why do some girls go out with losers?
Q. I found out yesterday that this girl I'm in love with likes this total loser, no one really likes him. This happened before too when my ex had history with a loser and got back together with him. I'm a cool guy, I have lots of friends, and I h...
A. 28 October 2008: Who knows? In some cases it's the bad boy syndrome, or sometimes the "danger" element. But if he is simply a slob or a creep - who knows? Some girls believe that they can change or repair a man, but it is usually quite futile.... (read in full...)
He wants me to ride him but I don't know how!
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend and i been having sex and he is complaining that we dont do a new position and that he wants me to ride him only one problem i dont know how to ride lol what should i do ???...
A. 27 October 2008: First, I hope you are least 17-years-old, but since you are active I'll offer basics. Boy laying on his back - girl straddles his pelvic area so that erection enters vagina from underneath. The position allows the female to control almost every ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever felt 'cursed' in life? Any insights?
Q. I know, its a hard question, but I wonder ,if anybody has anything to say about this question. Maybe, also if you can recommend me an other site , what is more suitable,for spiritual dilemmas like that. So I wonder if anybody ever been felt ...
A. 27 October 2008: Yes, most of us probably do feel that way at times. Stick it out and watch for doors of opportunity.... (read in full...)
Cervical orgasms, are they possible?
Q. I'm in an explorative state of a love affair, and I'm learning and improving my love making skills. The question I have is about cervical stimulation, or deep pelvic orgasm. How is this achieved? I'm already interested and practicing Karezza and ...
A. 27 October 2008: Well I do not know anything about "cervical orgasms" and I doubt that any such thing exists. First of all, the deeper you penetrate the vagina, the fewer the sensitive nerve endings. Women feel a fullness when deeply penetrated, but most of the ... (read in full...)
I've never cum when I'm having sex!
Q. I've never cum when I'm having sex... the only time I have cum is when I do it myself with him helping out... any suggestions? ...
A. 26 October 2008: The anonymous reader below offers good insight, in my opinion.... (read in full...)
We are in our early 60's, he always stood by me with good advice for the past years, how do I let him know my new feelings?
Q. My story may sound strange coming from some one my age. After three years of having the greatest friendship one could ask for, I suddenly find I have fallen in love with my best friend. He has stood by me during a couple toxic relationships, he ...
A. 25 October 2008: Well this is possibly one of the better questions regarding relationship that I encountered the past year or so because I'm in the same age bracket. But my response may seem tough on you. That is not the intent. Let me begin by asking, "Why question ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man, I love a married man. How do I know if he is serious about leaving his wife ?
Q. I'm seeing a married man, I love a married man. He says he's going to leave his wife not because of me but because he's no longe happy in his marriage but some of the things he says about her I just don't know that I beleive him, How do i know if he ...
A. 25 October 2008: Based on the experiences of many women like you, he is anything but serious about leaving his wife. You are just a mistress providing free (or at least affordable) additional sex to a liar and a cheat. To him, you are folly.... (read in full...)
Is it harmful for me that he sucks my nipples during sex?
Q. I Just married women my husband is very understandable he makes me happy during sex but i m confused about one point, that he is suking my nipples {not bite} he want to make me happy but is this right?I Like it too but little bit confused that it i...
A. 25 October 2008: I'm still here and pretty darn happy and healthy after 45 years of suckling. LOL... (read in full...)
I never cum with why boyfriend... why?
Q. I never cum with why boyfriend why?...
A. 24 October 2008: You are very young (underage most places), and he as well, so neither of you likely really know much about sexual matters. That is at least part of the reason that you have trouble reaching orgasm at the age of 16 or so with an inexperienced ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my pot-smoking boyfriend of 9 months, or go for my long distance aquaintance ?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, off and on, and I love him.. but he hasnt told me i am cute, pretty or gorgeous..(I always tell him he is gorgeous and cute) it bugs me, because I dress cute for him and want him to notice me.. However, ...
A. 24 October 2008: You say that you are about to meet Lee 'for the first time next month" - yet you are already considering to commit to this stranger? You claim that you have "known" Lee for two years but have apparently never met face-to-face. Based on letters and ... (read in full...)
How important is sex in a relationship?
Q. Opinions sought -- how important is the sexual portion of a relationship?...
A. 24 October 2008: It is only essential if you want a relationship, but other things are required as well.... (read in full...)
He doesn't satisfy me sexually.
Q. I have been in a loving committed relationship with my boyfriend for over four years but the intimacy and sex has been insufficient (for me) for the past two plus years. We have talked about it a number of times but eventually after all is said and ...
A. 24 October 2008: Most fortunately, you are still very young - and you will learn that it is sometimes necessary to move on. A perfect partner does not exist, but a good partner is possible to find. You likely need to continue looking for the one who will make you ... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 24 October 2008: Well I like everything about a woman, hair and all if it's all in the right places. ... (read in full...)
Do men shave their pubes? Do women like it if they do?
Q. Hey, just a quikie...do men shave thier pubes? like i always thought armpit shaving was a girl thing but i have seen men do it, and i tried to shave my crotch pubes once because i see loads of men with no pubes thier, so i thought it was normal to. ...
A. 24 October 2008: I'll gladly shave if "deejuliet" will paint the eyeballs. LOL... (read in full...)
During sex, should I put up with the pain to please him?
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and i recently lost my virginity to my 17 year old bf of 3 years. My problem is that i enjoyed my 1st time (and the other time after that) but i'm very tight so i experience a lot of pain during and after it. My bf luvs that ...
A. 23 October 2008: You are being abused by an inexperienced lout who knows nothing about being a man or a compassionate person. He certainly knows nothing about making love. He probably never will. ... (read in full...)
Will he leave me, to go home to his wife and 5 kids!
Q. I've known him for 5 years. I got along with his wife and him but I never knew we would end up having an affair together. The first time we got together it was just kissing and it felt so right. The next time I saw him I just wanted to be with him ...
A. 23 October 2008: You may have been used as a mistress here, and much of what you related sounds more like "his version" which is not necessarily the truth. You may feel hurt if such is the case, but you are very young and will get over it. Learn from this - namely, ... (read in full...)
Why is it that boys are obsessed with breasts?
Q. Hey guys, I am 15 years old and am blessed with generous cups. My bf regards my breasts very sexy. Why is that boys are obssessed with breasts? My all bfs used to suck breasts more than to have sex. Personally,I like that but I dont understand ...
A. 23 October 2008: Well personally, I'm a male who would not say that I've ever been "obsessed" with female breasts, but they are generally a soft, warm and fun part of all that is a woman. And nipples that become erect and firm are especially delightful.
But to answ... (read in full...)
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