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Why is it that boys are obsessed with breasts?
Q. Hey guys, I am 15 years old and am blessed with generous cups. My bf regards my breasts very sexy. Why is that boys are obssessed with breasts? My all bfs used to suck breasts more than to have sex. Personally,I like that but I dont understand ...
A. 23 October 2008: Well personally, I'm a male who would not say that I've ever been "obsessed" with female breasts, but they are generally a soft, warm and fun part of all that is a woman. And nipples that become erect and firm are especially delightful.
But to answ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hates oral: I can't cum without it!
Q. my boyfriend hates giving me oral sex and thats the only way i'm able to orgasm, i have vibrators and other various things. has anyone got any suggestions ...
A. 23 October 2008: Generally I agree with the others - What is good for the goose is good for the gander.... (read in full...)
How common is it for a woman to be able to orgasm through penetration alone?
Q. Just a quick survey: I have heard that about 80% of women can’t orgasm through penetrative intercourse alone. I have been with one girl who could and one who couldn’t. So in my very limited experience it’s about 50/50. What do you thin...
A. 22 October 2008: The suggestion by "hlskitten" is probably about right, although it may be optimistic. According to a study by the University of Chicago in 1994 titled "Sex in America Survey," less than one-third of women can achieve orgasm via penetration alone. ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me? I can't orgasm....
Q. i have this problem, during sex and foreplay i dont have the ability to have an orgasm, however i can feel it before but then the feeling just goes even if it feels appsolutely amazing. even if its after half an hour to an hour still nothing ...
A. 22 October 2008: The key to a woman's orgasm is a man who knows how to make it happen, which indeed requires good foreplay along with a level of comfort. It is unlikely that anything is "wrong" with you, but something is missing. There is no way advisors would know ... (read in full...)
Meds for sex...
Q. Please suggest some medicine by which any lady gets horny and ready for sex?...
A. 22 October 2008: A couple of glasses of sweet wine mixed with a romantic evening, clever conversation, a good deal of charm and plenty of humor. But she still must be attracted to you from the start.... (read in full...)
My anus is bleeding from a foreign object. Too embarrassed to go to the doctor..will I be ok?
Q. I am a young woman. I have stuck a foreign object in my anus and it started bleeding last night. It is still bleeding when i try and make bowl movements. Its only been a day but i am worried that it will keep bleeding. I know i probably only ripped ...
A. 22 October 2008: Medical attention is highly advised.
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What is this white,thick discharge?
Q. i am a 19 year old girl and i have been with the same boy for about three years. i was his first and he was my first! i have alot of discharge but i dont itch down there sometimes it smells and somethimes it does not but it is always in my underwear ...
A. 21 October 2008: Yes, very possibly a yeast infection. Keep taking the meds after you complain to your doc and add a daily cup of yogurt as dietary intake. You should confirm the diagnosis in this situation. Possibly also consider a probiotic (from herbal supply) of ... (read in full...)
I would have sex with him, but why does this bother me so much?
Q. ive been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and we have been talking about sex often lately. we have no problem talking about it and its not hard to tell him what bothers me and when im not ready and such. but every time he asks me if i would (he ...
A. 20 October 2008: Ok - so if a couple of years go by and the two of you are still happening, then you will know what is allowable - providing it is good for you. You will know what is right. Best wishes to you. DoubleM... (read in full...)
He says sex hurts him! Is this normal?
Q. my bf is 22 he was still a virgin we've only done it twice but he says it hurts him alot is it normal? ...
A. 20 October 2008: No, that would not typically be considered at all normal.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to make love to me? I don't understand this!
Q. hey hmmm well ive got a bit of a situation.. here goes: well my boyfriend is 9 yrs older than me, Im 16 and hes 25... Initially, I was really unsure about him, becuase hes older, attractive, sucsessful and intelligent and a genuine caring guy, an...
A. 20 October 2008: Well, the laws in Australia may indeed prohibit sexual activity between an adult and a minor. I'm not familiar with Australian law, but in the United States of America, your 25-year-old boyfriend could face very serious consequences for engaging in ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for him, but don't know if he feels the same, please help
Q. i meet this guy about a month ago online but we only went out recently for a date. Date was ok ,wasnt fantastic, but we could carry convertsations well, which i found important, as chatting online with someone and in person is very different. Al...
A. 20 October 2008: No - I think that the obligation to show faith, faithfulness, caring and all that stuff is entirely his responsibility at this point. In my opinion, you are smitten with a guy who may or may not be just chalking up the score. In other words, ... (read in full...)
I feel slightly inexperienced compared to his ex.
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with a totally awesome guy, he treats me right, spoils me, and he loves me as much as I love him... He is also a really attentive lover, but that's not the point, he's the same age as me, but I found out his ex was an ...
A. 20 October 2008: If it matters little if any to him, why should you bother even thinking about this? If he indeed learned anything from his ex, then he may enjoy passing the knowledge to you, therefore enhancing your experience and enriching your relationship ... (read in full...)
I am put off by the thought of penetrative sex but enjoy oral. Does anyone else feel like this?
Q. Im just over 40 and still a virgin, in the sence of penetration sex, for some reason the thought, puts me off, im ok with oral sex both ways and mutual masturbation, but find it hard to go any further, i know this isnt normal, Has anyone else felt...
A. 20 October 2008: This does seem a bit unusual. In addition to the conditions suggested by "Fade878." you may be overly fearful of sexually transmitted disease, commitment, inadequate performance or penile measurement or other things that are primarily mental. YOU ... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for him, but don't know if he feels the same, please help
Q. i meet this guy about a month ago online but we only went out recently for a date. Date was ok ,wasnt fantastic, but we could carry convertsations well, which i found important, as chatting online with someone and in person is very different. Al...
A. 20 October 2008: Your intuition as a woman will guide you through all of this if you allow it. You will know, in your heart and mind, if it is going wrong. Act and behave accordingly.... (read in full...)
I would have sex with him, but why does this bother me so much?
Q. ive been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now and we have been talking about sex often lately. we have no problem talking about it and its not hard to tell him what bothers me and when im not ready and such. but every time he asks me if i would (he ...
A. 20 October 2008: In my opinion, it may bother you because 1) you are a good girl with good common sense, 2) you are underage and, 3) you darn well know that serious consequences leading to major problems which could affect the rest of your life on earth and how you ... (read in full...)
About Puberty and stuff..
Q. I'm a 14 year old male going through puberty and have some questions... I have attempted to masturbate but nothing comes out, I guess I would say... Is that ok? I have some hair under my armpits and other places I shall not name and I was ...
A. 19 October 2008: I'll concur with "DieRomantic" - you are doing just fine. It is more important for you to concern yourself with other matters, such as safety, education, honesty and decency to name a few, rather than bother much with your sexuality and puberty. By ... (read in full...)
Am I stressing over nothing? Should I give her space over the exam period?
Q. Hi i am long distance relationship for 4 years now, my Significant other is currantly doing her hsc, we spoke the night before her hsc started and i asked her what she will be doing during her exams etc and she said she will be studying etc, so 3 ...
A. 18 October 2008: You are having a problem being "cool". First of all, as a very young man, the probability that this particular relationship will endure is slim. What to do? Play it very emotionally reserved. Then it either ends or not. You will not win over all of ... (read in full...)
My masturbation addiction is affecting my life!!!
Q. I have just turned 18 and have had this habit since I was 3 years old, though it only got to be a problem around the age of 7. Usually when sitting at a desk, on a sofa or lying in bed reading, I have a habit of crossing my legs and squeezing my ...
A. 18 October 2008: It sounds like this has become a form of escape for you. We all have some way to apply salve to the stress and difficulties in life. Some turn to drugs or alcohol (also a drug), hobbies, reading, movies, food, gambling, exercise or indeed, sex. ... (read in full...)
Please tell me what to do? I'm a nervous wreck!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been talking to a man for several months now via phone and email. We went out on our first date and it was wonderful, we had so much in common and everything just seemed to fall into place. He asked me out on a 2nd date and eve...
A. 18 October 2008: Every man is different . . . like an island. Some of us are perfectly ok if a new relationship moves rather fast sexually and we can allow the "heart" portion to catch up with the enjoyment part over time. With me, for instance, it takes a good ... (read in full...)
Blowjobs or handjobs for uncircumcised or uncut men?
Q. Blowjobs or handjobs for uncircumcised or uncut men. Help? Should you do things differently than with a circumcised penis? How? Please, help me out. Tips/techniques/general things to know are all welcome, as are websites. Thank you....
A. 17 October 2008: Your question: "Blowjobs or handjobs for uncircumcised or uncut men." Answer: Either is just fine. There is ample information about techniques in this Web site's archives.
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I''m 38 and have an 18 year old admirer..what should I do?
Q. I work in a super market and two of the other staff have told me that I have an admirer. It is said that she is only 18 and I'm 38 and work with her mum who knows about it as she has told me hersself. I dont know what i shoud do. ...
A. 17 October 2008: While I totally disagree with female reader "tb" about age difference, your response to her continued interest, if any, should be somewhat reserved depending upon her family's opinions. Yet she is apparently of legal age, therefore she may do as she ... (read in full...)
What does a 'X' on its own in a text mean?!
Q. This is probably a very silly question. A man I know who I'm friendly with and who I share occasional 'latest news' texts with has started sending me texts with just a big X all on its own in the text. Is he trying to tell me something? He's done ...
A. 17 October 2008: A smooch.... (read in full...)
Is he just using me for pleasure?
Q. Lately I've been having sexual intercourse with someone all the time who happens to be my ex. Me and him were together for about a year, but then he broke up with me because he didn't want to be "tied down", and just wanted to remain friends with ...
A. 16 October 2008: Nobody here can or should make such a decision for you, but one suggestion might be to move on from this kind of relationship. You are, in my opinion, too young to require sex so badly that you would accept being essentially just a concubine. (My ... (read in full...)
What is sex?
Q. What is sex?...
A. 16 October 2008: Sex is, or should be considered, what two mature individuals who love each other do together to relieve each other's tensions and provide great pleasure and enjoyment. Young people arrive at a point in life when interest in others can become sexual, ... (read in full...)
After a one night stand things have gotten really confusing.
Q. I had a one night stand with a man 3 years ago,we kept in contact perhaps three times a year since, with him just coming back to my place to stay , but no sex , This year we met up and have been on holiday abroad 3 times we stay at each others h...
A. 16 October 2008: All I can suggest is that this does not sound like an enduring relationship, albeit apparently enjoyable. You likely must decide if this kind of arrangement is what you seek long term, because mature adults rarely change their ways. ... (read in full...)
What does it feel like when you're about to orgasm?
Q. Hi so yeah embarrassing in a way but i was wondering like i know some girls can cum, and my boyfriend recently starting eating me out i guess you can say and he said he wants me to finish[cum] but he said i end up not doing it. but i mean i dont ...
A. 16 October 2008: Yes, and that feeling occurs for many men as well as women during early sexual experiences. It does not, however, mean that urination is needed. This signals a pre-orgasmic state for both genders. It is simply one of the feelings we all experience, ... (read in full...)
How to handle a penis!!!??
Q. Hi, I could really do with some help. Any answers will be much appreciated. Well I've had quite a few sexual partners but not very confident in bed. Basically I don't have a clue what to do. For example before sex when me and my fella are just ...
A. 16 October 2008: No problem. If he is erect and still wearing britches or even underwear, just place your hand upon his bulge and begin to slowly rub up and down with medium pressure. That is about all you can do with pants on, but you may soon after reach inside to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks it's nasty if I "go down" on her.
Q. Well me and my girlfriend have been talking about oral sex lately and she says wants to give me a blowjob but thinks it's nasty if I go down on her therefore she won't let me. Is there anything wrong there or anything I should be worried about??...
A. 15 October 2008: As long as both parties in a relationship are free of sexually transmitted disease, and are otherwise healthy, there is nothing "wrong" or unhealthy about the genitals or secretions. In fact, there is some evidence that exchanging these bodily ... (read in full...)
I'm not a bad looking girl..what's a girl gotta do to get a date?
Q. Hey this is really bugging me.. im not an ugly girl but im defo not stunning but i have a gud figure..Anyway i dont understand why boys aint interested.. I get comments like your well sexy or your a sort n that rubbish but no1 actually asks me out ...
A. 15 October 2008: You are basically going through the mostly immature phase in your life during which everything seems so traumatic and immediate - when the reality is that you will someday realize immature part. You will forget about the immediate part and will ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up and accept the fact that him 'going down' on me just isn't going to happen?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now, but I have known him since we were in Junior High. We were high school sweethearts that just barely realized it. We started having sex about 1 week into the relationship but only because we ...
A. 15 October 2008: Both "aunty_rach" and "Cass 28" nailed this one. As I've been recommending for almost a year on DearCupid.ORG, orally-given pleasures should be mutually enjoyed. For some reason that I cannot understand, many if not most guys just don't get it. As ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that guys don't ask me out because they find me intimidating?
Q. This is merely a curiousity question. I'm not desparate for a boyfriend or anything. I've never thought much of it before, but people are always complimenting me on how pretty I am (nice hair, good figure, or whatever is what they say). I'm not ...
A. 15 October 2008: Yes, girls are totally intimidating to most guys! It takes many of us men years or a lifetime to be really comfortable hitting on a woman, especially if the girl is attractive (not too fat and all that stuff). If you take an interest in a guy, the ... (read in full...)
Do women have less sexual desire than men on an average???
Q. Do women have less sexual desire than men on an average. Women I feel are more romantically and emotionally oriented while men are into doing the thing. One prof of it is the women rarely initiate sex. Since man has such a high libido that ...
A. 15 October 2008: Well you are apparently in your early 20s in India, and I'm a 60-year-old man in Texas. Different cultures, but I have known many women who initiate the act of making love. Of course, each knew me quite well and knew that I was always ready - at ... (read in full...)
How do I get my BF to enjoy oral sex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years whom i hope to marry. For the first 6 months of our relationship he gave me oral sex. Since then it has been an uphill battle. How can i get him to enjoy giving me oral sex? Yes i am healthy down there, a...
A. 15 October 2008: Well, are you giving him oral pleasures? If yes, then you could begin to withhold the blow jobs. If you are not providing that service, you could offer. In any case, my opinion is that oral pleasure is and should be mutual.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to lose your virginity to someone you're not going out with?
Q. I wonder - im still a virgin and this one guy wants to have sex with me but we are not going out , do you think its wrong to lose your virginity to someone you don't go out with ? and yeah im jst 16 years old ...
A. 14 October 2008: I'll refrain from being judgmental, since I was active at your age as well, but how cheap is one of the your most intimate moments in your life? Might it at least be with someone you care about - and who really cares about you? ... (read in full...)
Am I screwed up for falling for my cousin?
Q. A few months ago i came into contact with my first cousin again at his moms house for a family party.. we drank carried on had a blast! but i have to admit i enjoyed myself too much.. I didnt know at the time i was falling in love with my cousin.. ...
A. 14 October 2008: No you are not screwed up at your age, but you know that it's not right to become sexually involved with close relatives - and should know that most of your feelings are due to raging hormones. That means that you are at the very right age to ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'm going to lose him over not letting him ejaculate in my mouth!
Q. Hi I have this problem with my man, i am 52, he is 63 and he wants to cum in my mouth, up till now i have never wanted to do this ever in my life, but my man is diff and now i do, - to begin with, I didn't want to with him either, but now ...
A. 14 October 2008: In my opinion, most of the identified and regular advisors provided excellent advice here, notably from "DiovanLestat" and "troubledtoomuch" - and I can add but one suggestion. It worked for myself and a recent girlfriend in her 60s who had never ... (read in full...)
He went to go down on me and then stopped.. now I feel like the most insecure person in the world.
Q. I have to put this bluntly, otherwise i'm going to go off into loads of upset drabble and i don't want to bore you with that... I've always had trouble with my 'private' area, as a female i'm so worried all the time about what it looks like and s...
A. 14 October 2008: There is NOTHING wrong with either of you. OK? Trust me, the first time that a guy even thinks about going down, he is just as nervous and uncertain about it as the woman. It was many years ago for me, and now I can only take a wild guess about the ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina too large for my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am worried that my vagina is too large for my boyfriend. I am 30 yrs old and have not had any children, and he has a large penis (it must be 7 or 8 inches and is quite wide - certainly the largest I have encountered). Al...
A. 13 October 2008: If your boyfriend is not complaining about it, and you know that he finishes, then why worry about it? ... (read in full...)
Does a girl have regular periods in pregnancy or not?
Q. Hey Guys, Me and my Girlfriend regularly have sex. Please note that "I DO NOT INSERT THE COMPLETE PENIS INSIDE" YOu can say that only the head of the penis goes inside and i withdraw before exploding. Now, my MAJOR CONCERN is I want to confirm ...
A. 13 October 2008: No, periods will not occur during pregnancy, although a certain amount of bleeding may occur. And I think that you are playing Russian roulette with your sex life unless you soon want to be known as Daddy.... (read in full...)
During an orgasm my abdominal muscles tense up causing my back to arch forward and then I get shivers down my spine for the next few minutes afterwards.
Q. During an orgasm my abdominal muscles tense up causing my back to arch forward and then I get shivers down my spine for the next few minutes afterwards. This has been happening for the last year or so and I can't avoid it. My question is does this ...
A. 13 October 2008: So, what's the problem with tense muscles and shivers? ... (read in full...)
I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it.
Q. Hey, I'm very young and I'm worried about a lot of things. This is going to sound weird but I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it because I don't like my attraction to female feet. Secondly I am worried about future relatioships and sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: Well I must agree with my Canadian pal "Danielpew" - a woman fetish and all parts thereof - you've got your toes fetish, foot fetish, then ankles, calves, thighs and hinnie. And I'll admit at least minor fetishes each for tummies, hips, the rest of ... (read in full...)
I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it.
Q. Hey, I'm very young and I'm worried about a lot of things. This is going to sound weird but I have a female foot fetish and want to lose it because I don't like my attraction to female feet. Secondly I am worried about future relatioships and sex ...
A. 13 October 2008: This is kind of funny to me, because I have developed at least a slight female foot fetish later in life (I'm 60), and I do not see any harm in it. It's just that I like to at least glance at attractive women's footsies and it kind of turns me on. ... (read in full...)
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