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30-35,
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writes:Im a 19 year old girl in the usa. I have recently become involved with a 39 y.o man who is from the U.K . I greatly enjoy his company and conversation but am afraid to commit. I feel we don't have a good chance because of the age difference. I have told no one of my dating him for fear of what people think and say. We've been goin together about 4 months. Hes unmarried with no kids, so I don't have to worry about that side of things. I truly love the man to bits, but am having trouble getting over my fear of commitment and being tied down to just one man. He's totally ready to take the relationship to the next level but does not understand why I am not. Reply to this Question
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reader, MELILI  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 hi dear.......... am also teenge so i think i can understand u better as i think a girl failing in love with some one older than her is very normal i think thats bc we womens like admiring others any how u better try to get to know him better
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Well, you did not ask a question, but I'll offer an opinion. It is indeed quite an age difference but, most importantly, YOU think that the age difference threatens the relationship. What matters is what is important to you.
However, what others "think and say" is also important only if it matters to you. Many people would not care about that these days. For instance, I have dated women more than 20 years my junior and we did not care that we occasionally inspired double-takes. We laughed about it. You have a choice to enjoy the relationship as long as it lasts if you wish, or end it to seek a companionship and love more compatible with your ideals. It is up to you, and there are no wrong choices.
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