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writes: Sexual compatibility is important. We all have certain preferences; we all have certain things that do turn us “on” or “off”.Why is everybody so easily claiming: “It is not the size but the technique that is important”? It might be the scenario for some women but definitely not for all.(A lot of women when totally honest about it and when knowing that they will not be hurting the male ego, will admit to this). Size and technique are both important, but SIZE does MATTER.The average size penis is probably by for the most popular; though some women do have the ability to accommodate the larger ones with comfort, it is not possible for most women without a certain amount of discomfort and pain. It can also mean a certain amount of restriction on the sexual activity of the couple if the women cannot accommodate the large penis completely.A small penis is definitely on the bottom of the list with most women. (Many women enjoy deep penetration, which is not possible with a small penis). It is known that men are visually aroused easier then women but that does not mean that women do not get turned on visually. Women do have preferences, but they are not always prepared to be honest about there preferences. To some women it will make no difference if a man is circumcised or not, however some women do have very specific preferences to this. Is this important, even if the guy is an excellent lover? Yes, to a lot of women it is. If she does not like an uncircumcised penis, it might be a turn “off” to her; she will have difficulty looking at the penis, playing with it, doing fellatio etc.If she enjoys penetration an the guy only has a small penis, no matter how many times he makes her climax manually or orally, she will crave the deeper penetration.Can loving the guy enough overcome these preferences?Can these hidden female preferences, (so seldom honestly acknowledged) have an influence on the amount of relationships and marriages experiencing sexual problems?Will it make a difference if women start realizing there preferences and be more honest about it?The general appearance of a partner is important, then why are women so easily denying the importance of the “appearance” of his genitals?I am busy with a survey on this and your HONEST opinions will be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr Experienced  +, writes (16 October 2014):
Size Compatibility is important. My wife and I have all the same sexual interests, fantasties, likes and dislikes however despite how much we love each other the size is a major problem.I am in length and width nicely above the averages we see mentioned all over the internet. I have never been referred to as small with any of my previous partners. Because of my size and shape, I am able to make most woman orgasm through vaginal penetration providing they already can. This included my wife who prior to me, always thought she could not. She had always relied on masturbation or oral stimulation to achieve orgasm.The problem is however, that due to her sexual history I am among the much smaller of the sizes she had previously accommodated. So during sex with me, she is a tight fit for a few minutes before she becomes completely wet and turned on. When this happens her passage expands drastically past my size to the point where I feel nothing at all. I am able to switch position to hit one wall at a time but cannot touch all sides. Therefore even though she can orgasm easily with me, I cannot with her without a ridiculous amount of effort on my part.So size is important both ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Thanks to those who have responded.
However, I am very dissapointed in the general response.
But thanks anyway.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 The anonymous reader below offers excellent analysis. I'll add the following: Most men supposedly are fascinated or attracted to large breasts on a woman - the larger the better. As a man who has experiences with the gamut, I much prefer less in overall size. I'm not certain what constitutes "average" breast size, but I have always said that "much more than I can comfortably get in my mouth is pretty much excess." I realize that breast size was not directly related to your topic, but agree that preferences vary. This was one example.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): The average penis length is 5.5 inches and width is 4.5 inches. I think that's fine for me! I'm sure that there are some women love huge penises, but most men love the models from Victoria's Secret too. "If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.". I'm not sure that telling the male population at large that they need bigger penises would even carry any weight (even with a survey behind it), considering the fact that compared to other primates (like the smaller gorilla) the human male has a remarkably large penis per body weight. Most men would be totally turned off by a survey that told them that women aren't happy and prefer a larger penis, and anyone who has ever discussed penis size with a male knows exactly how sensitive they are about this subject, so wouldn't this be counter-productive? It would seem that the facts that you are wanting to glean because "we all secretly desire more", would lead to less sex, not more! Anyways, I wouldn't want to attempt fellatio with a larger penis either, so average is good for me... ;-) Most of my preferences have more to do with a man's integrity and not the length of his penis, and most women don't choose partners by their body parts, but by their personalities and whether or not they would make loving and stable husbands and good fathers. I'm not sure that women are pulling the wool over their own eyes by doing this, I think most women are making decisions based on what matters to them most. I seriously doubt that there is any deep, dark secret out there to be discovered about women being disappointed in men's penis size, there are only preferences.
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