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anonymous
writes:Okay so I used to party all the time and now i have a bad reputation for being a slut. Im actually a very loving, smart, good person. I regret everything I did and I wish i could take it all back. I think about it everyday and I feel bad about myself all the time. Im trying to clean myself up now and be a better person and I quit drinking and all that. Now i have a very nice boyfriend that treats me nice and he wants to have sex. I am very!! self conscious about my vagina because of my past sexual history. Im worried that its stretched out and i feel embarassed that he will think im gross or used up or something. Is there something i can do to make it go back to normal "down there"?SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE :(
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reader, DKW  +, writes (1 October 2008):
Unless you've had children, I very much doubt you're any different "down there".
Get yourself checked for STI's, then put all your past behind you. You can't change the past, but you can change the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Some people all too often make the common mistake of confusing sex with love, women in particular, and maybe you are - or were - one of them?
Once you've gained a bad reputation it's difficult to shake it off, word gets around like a bushfire, and you have to be careful that any future relationships are based on mutual respect and admiration and not some chancer's desire to get into your knickers just because you have a reputation for dropping them. It's good that you've stopped drinking 'and all that' but I'm left wondering what 'all that' actually entails!
Your vagina won't have stretched, so you needn't worry about that. No man will be able to tell whether you've had ten previous partners or a thousand. It's a very elastic thing, the vagina, but you could perhaps tone it up a bit by regular pelvic floor muscle exercises.
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reader, Morp  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 You are young we all do and have done stupid things in life we regret , call them growing up phases. Sex isnt everything a relationship , its more then that . Example you say your boyfriend loves you etc how long have you known him ? Are you willing to give him what he wants and later he will just go find another and write in a book of the numbers he has dated and slash each one of them with a pencil. If i am in your shoes the first thing ill be more concerned about is get yourself straight, love yourself , be more concerned about your education . Its good to have many dates but must you have sex in every date . If you want to vent you ever consider walking at a park , the beach . You still have a long road so dont destroy yourself and say you are a slut , If you say that word you consider that yourself not what others say its your actions . Think wisely .
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Well it sounds to me like you are possibly continuing the same kind of behavior, with yet another guy. I'm glad to hear that you have "quit drinking and all that" but the continuing sexual activity at your age is very unwise. You do not want to hear that, but truth is truth.
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reader, -S  +, writes (1 October 2008):
I don't think it would have stretched unless you've had some EXTREMELY big guys in there. Besides there is no normal.. All women are different. Also if he's a virgin (or near enough ie 1 or 2 times) he won't know IF there is something different (which there most likely isn't.) =]
Hope this helps.
-S
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