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writes:Here's the thing, all these people brag about anal sex, the porn industry claims that women love anal sex. We tried anal sex and all I can say about it is that it felt like i was taking a big crap. It was discusting and the thought of it made me sick. I have no desire for it. and medical professionals strongly recommend not doing it because the intestines do not have nearly as many layers of skin as the vagina, so they are just not built for it. Why do people do it? Is the porn industry sending false messages? Is there people who actually like it? Why? Is it false and women just pretend they like it just to make their guy happy? I just can't wrap my brain around it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): I've always loved anal sex with my husband. It's not something that we do every time we make love, I have to be in the mood for it, but it's deliciously naughty and every once in a while, it's something we enjoy. Just make sure to go slow and get past that "clamp down" muscle pain spasm (normal reaction of the sphincter) and relax. I orgasm with a bit of stimulation to my clitoris. It's a shame that regular partners don't include this in their repetoire, but it's understandable if the male doesn't know how to take it slow. If this isn't with your regular partner, and you aren't exclusive, use a condom, please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's illegal in the UK? How can they control what goes on in your bedroom? How would they know? Why would they care? When I was younger I heard that blow jobs were illegal in canada due to a choking hazard but I think it was just some kid's mom trying to scare them out of it! lol!
My understanding of all the wild & crazy stuff in porn, reflects the stuff people do for ingasms (extreme rush of adrenalyn) I have doubts they actually orgasm from a lot of that stuff but still enjoy doing those things. Anal- I really wondered if it was an ingasm thing or an orgasm thing. Sounds like an orgasm thing!
qcumbr1 you really have my brain rolling! something I swore I'd never do again is now back in question. I have a lot of fears and I think it takes a lot of trust to allow some one to do those things. You were right! you hit the nail right on the head! a few times! we never did it right, it happened so fast it was terrifying! not very gentle either, he tried to be but the thing is.... He can't feel the pain! I think he was too excited, maybe. and size is kind of against us on this (pain wise). I am going to think on it for a while! and depending on what I decide, I might get that website from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): LOL... ok here goes, and as I always am... honest... I like it !! When I get past the roughest part LMAO, and I've found it easier to do so, it's worth getting through that first part enough obviously to get the pleasure I experience, not to mention the hubby loves this occasional change up in sex. At first I had to help the orgasm along, not that he wasn't doing it correctly, but getting past the thought of what was actually going on. After the first few times of helping to make myself orgasm, with my fingers rubbing my clit from the front side, since I was on my knees, the orgasm was one that paled the "normal" vaginal orgasm. So I guess knowing this was what I was going to feel from this, it came with ease the next time with no help of my faithful fingers...lol. I also have to admit that playing a little on my own with a toy helped ready me for the second time I tried it. I love my husband and he excites the hell out of me and this was something I did for him in the beginning, now it's for both of us. Here's a tip, if some women feel they are not in control of this situation, with the man coming from behind, and are worried he will do it much to fast or hard, make him lay on the bed and YOU take control and yes, I think I read something someone wrote below about lube, have PLENTY of it!
Good luck...
Meesh
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 In my opinion, it may have been practiced time immemorial but the porn industry has further popularized it over the past twenty years or so. Most older folks may be considered fuddy-duddy by some, but it is not as popular among us. And it does threaten a number of health problems eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLOL! WizardOfWaz, I thought it was u who was mad! thought u thought I was "outraged" & "prudish", I was open enough to try it! LOL! I maybe read u wrong. I liked your second letter better!
I have faith in qcumbr1, I think he has known his wife long enough to know if she is faking or not. If she is faking she sure goes through drastic measures to hide it, for 10 whole years. I am 90% sure he knows her best! He sure seems to know what he is talking about!
But I am still wondering because here's what sparks my interest...... Out of ALL the answers I got, not one single woman on this entire site said "I like it" even though they can answer me anonymously. Why is that? Are there any? I am still wondering.......?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow don't get mad at my question, I was only comparing it to the 2/3 of women who fake. Thought maybe it was part of the faking!
I had absolutely NO IDEA there was a right way to perform this, this sure changed my view on it, not sure I'd be brave enough to try again but thanks for the insight! I love when people are honest with me, I always learn something from it! And thank you to the ladies who told me they wonder about that too, I thought I might be alone with this, nice to see others be honest on their views too! Thank you all so much!
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (28 September 2008):
 Well the easy answer is some women wont like it
some will
Thats how life works. Some will really enjoy this kind of sex others will hate it. Prehaps some will fake it to please others but thats them.
Theres no logic to wrap around its life
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): I don't understand it either. I let my boyfriend try it once...and it felt just as you described it - a big crap.
Never again as it was that unpleasant.
Supposedly the wall between the anus and vagina share a lot of nerve endings blah blah. I'd much rather take it where it was meant to go...
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (28 September 2008):
 I'm not sure about the porn industry, however; I do know that many men like anal sex and there are A LOT of women that don't.
I had a friend that absolutely loved it. I asked the same question you did and she said it's a total different feeling of pleasure and when you have and orgasm while doing it that way, it's UNREAL... meaning awesome. Here's the thing, it's so very painful that women can't get past that to enjoy it.
Some women do actually do this to please their man... not saying that's a bright thing to do, but that's their choice.
If you think about it in a sensual way instead of a gross way then maybe you could possibly enjoy it.
Hope this helps...
Michelle
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