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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend just broke up with me two days ago and now he wants to meet to "answer any questions we have about us or any clarification." why? What does this mean??
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Why did he break up with you in the first place???
That email sounds a bit neurotic if he was the one who broke up with you in the first place!
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reader, rivi +, writes (23 December 2010):
I would reply ( and mean) :
" Dear X,
Thank you for your message.
I did not seek the breakup of our relationship, you did.
It having ended - it has ended, and I see zero point in raking over the embers.
I am glad for the good times we had while it lasted, but am not in favour of long good-byes. I wish you well, as we both move on with our lives.
Please do not trouble to reply to this message. Should you do so, please do not expect a reply or any further communication from me.
Good bye."
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): he wants a final shag
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reader, RmyJ111 +, writes (23 December 2010):
I know it's sad, but I still want to be with him. If I don't reply isn't that also going to make him miss me more?
This is what his email said:
I want to speak with you, answer any questions we both have about us.
I have spent a lot of time thinking about you over the past 48 hours
and how this entire situation was handled. I would love to clarify
everything with you as soon as possible. I think this entire thing
has been a horrible experience for both of us, and made both of us see
each other in a worse light than before.
If you don’t want to speak to me, (like you have mentioned doing with
other guys) I will respect that, despite not wanting that myself. My
feelings for you are the furthest thing from hate. Let me know your
thoughts about meeting up over the next couple days, I would like the
chance to see your face.
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reader, Artfuldodger08  +, writes (23 December 2010):
My friend has been in the same situation as this. Her boyfriend broke up with her and then asked to meet her to clarify anything that needs be. She did in fact end up meeting him, if this guy is the same as what my friend dealt with then the reason he is asking to do this is to meet to justify his breaking up with you. Now you may ask why does he care if he broke up with you in the first place, but this can be just as much for him as you. He may want to feel less guilty about the whole ordeal. This is just my two cents, hopefully this has helped, I have no personal experience on this matter though.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 December 2010):
I'm with shawncaff. Sounds like adding insult to injurt if he broke up with you in the first place. Seems like he should have told you why he broke up with you in the initial "breaking up" period.
I'd tell him "thanks but no thanks" and consider yourself lucky that this guy who's full of himself is out of your hair.
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reader, cry +, writes (22 December 2010):
 dont meet its pointles get on with your life its going to be great and it dosent include him
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reader, shawncaff +, writes (22 December 2010):
 I think it sounds a little weird and haughty for him to break up with you and then ask YOU if you have any questions. I mean, if you had questions, you should ask him, and if he broke up with you, it is up to him to supply the reasons if you want to. He sounds patronizing if you ask me.
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reader, HIE9da  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 I think he made a stupid decision leaving you,and now he actually realized that,hes trying to find a way back into your life-he doesnt wanna admit it,and so he looks for another way-2 tell you-thts only my opinion (0_o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Because he wants you to be able to get over him as quickly as possible. He will feel bad about hurting you so it's partly altruism, but still, this is an important step.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 December 2010):
 Because if those questions are left unanswered they fester and pop up later in your life. Closure is very important for relationships when they end. Usually we don't realize just how important until later.
I suggest you meet up with him and have an honest discussion about this. It will be worth it in the long run even if it's uncomfortable now.
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