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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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Q. Ok i am curious..i myself when i am having Sex with my fiance he is all i think about, not any other men or nothing like that, i have been like that with all guys i have had Sex with..i only get off on what is in front of me and what i am feeling, ...
A. 8 December 2010: I love all the women with insight into the minds of men. You ladies make my day.
I'm not pleading the fifth on this one. Do I ever fantasize about someone else while having sex with my partner? Nope. I've honestly never done it. Do I think ab... (read in full...)
How can I lengthen my penis?
Q. My penis is 5 inches long when erect,how can i lengthen it?...
A. 8 December 2010: The only sure fire way is with a surgery that only can add an inch or so and may cause permanent erectile disfunction.
Be happy with what you have, it will be plenty for most women.... (read in full...)
Her high sex drive is driving me bonkers!
Q. My girlfriend just can't leave me alone for a second. Whenever we are together, she just can't keep her hands off me and wants to have sex ALL the time. I mean I love her dearly, but i'm not really an affectionate person where as she is. I'm not ...
A. 7 December 2010: Lol, I missed that one. Oops. Sorry OP. Still, everything but the BJ comment still applies. Think you could get work done still if she was giving you oral?
Really, you need to communicate this to your GF. She'll never know there's a proble... (read in full...)
Yasmin contraceptive pill instructions?
Q. Hey, really confused here! I'm on Yasmin contraceptive pill and earlier on I vomited about twenty minutes after I took it, so I took a another pill directly after and have kept it down. I'm just wondering if I'm on it for twenty days instead ...
A. 7 December 2010: With hormonal contraceptives, such as this, it's best efficacy is when it is consistant. You may or may not have a problem if you just go 20 days. Your best bet is to contact your doctor.... (read in full...)
Her high sex drive is driving me bonkers!
Q. My girlfriend just can't leave me alone for a second. Whenever we are together, she just can't keep her hands off me and wants to have sex ALL the time. I mean I love her dearly, but i'm not really an affectionate person where as she is. I'm not ...
A. 7 December 2010: You've got to talk to her about this. Nothing beats a good BJ while you're getting your work done though. That would keep her busy if you could manage to focus.
I say let her masturbate, or maybe buy her a toy so she can satisfy herself sometime... (read in full...)
Should my best friend tell her parents that she is going to stay at her boyfriend's house?
Q. sick of them going on about it . all my friends keep going on about my best friends boyfriend .and how she needs to tell her parents the truth but to be quiet honest why should she tell them she is going her bf's when they don't agree on her seei...
A. 7 December 2010: Suuuuuuuurrrre they haven't. I've got a great deal for you too. I know this Nigerian millionaire who is fleeing his country and he need people to stash his money for him. I can hook you two up. He'll even give you a cut for helping!... (read in full...)
My friend gave me oral sex but I'm not sure if it was cheating
Q. Hey agony aunts. I've been feeling really guilty lately because i don't know if i've cheated on my girlfriend or not. last week i was staying over at a friend's house. This is the first time i've ever dated a girl so i was worried about how to give ...
A. 7 December 2010: Yup, that's called cheating alright.
Time for a life lesson. The only person who can tell you how to please your partner is your partner. What works on you might not work on her. Only she can guide you in how to give proper oral to her.
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Should my best friend tell her parents that she is going to stay at her boyfriend's house?
Q. sick of them going on about it . all my friends keep going on about my best friends boyfriend .and how she needs to tell her parents the truth but to be quiet honest why should she tell them she is going her bf's when they don't agree on her seei...
A. 7 December 2010: All you meanies... Let love reign I say! She won't need the GCSE's when she gets pregnant in a couple months at the rate she's going. Then she can live with him when her parents kick her out. Then they can raise their love baby together. Until ... (read in full...)
Crushes on teachers
Q. Have a crush on your teacher? Can't help but think about them all the way through class? Does s/he seem to give you more attention than the other students? Seem like s/he might like you too? Well this article is for you. Firstly there is nothi...
A. 6 December 2010: Judging love has absolutely nothing to do with this. I know I'm preaching to someone who won't listen, but this all boils down to legality and morality. It's the same reason why there was an investigation into Pres. Clinton when Monica gave him a ... (read in full...)
Crushes on teachers
Q. Have a crush on your teacher? Can't help but think about them all the way through class? Does s/he seem to give you more attention than the other students? Seem like s/he might like you too? Well this article is for you. Firstly there is nothi...
A. 6 December 2010: If you have a teacher in High School, make a vow to not tell them until after you finish COLLEGE! If you still have your crush by then, go for it. Nobody can rightfully call you a kid under their influence anymore.
I don't get what's so hard to ... (read in full...)
He hasn't made another move.
Q. I bumped into this old classmate of mine about two months ago. He started calling me and we started going out on a regular basis. After a while, we started calling each other every day and going out almost always together. After about a month of ...
A. 22 November 2010: After rushing to sex like you did, he may be trying to prove he's into you for more than just sex. A lot of guys fear that girls will think we're just after them for sex because there are a lot of players out there. To a genuine guy, this would be ... (read in full...)
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