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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I'm a member of the clergy and I'm gay. How can I find a gay relationship and be cautious, at the same time?
Q. i am a mmember of the clergy..must be very discreet..not a pedophile but gay..want to have gay relationships with guys of legal age..but must be very very careful..i got burned once when a guy used me to get hush money..i only saw him once..it was ...
A. 6 December 2007: I'm with Uncle Phil.... (read in full...)
Could my husband be bisexual or gay?
Q. I'm questioning my husband as being gay/bisexual. We have three kids, have been married almost 10 years and have known each other for 20 yrs. Here are my thoughts: opened computer to find "(user name) is currently logged in" - this was a male ...
A. 6 December 2007: I'm with Collaroy. All the signs are there.... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair, but neither of us will leave our partners, now he's flirting with other girls in the office, what should I do?
Q. I have been married for almost 13 yers now and a year and a half ago I fell for this man who happens to be my boss- we have had sex a couple of times and he says he loves me. But he is also married and I don't know what his intentions are. Howver, ...
A. 6 December 2007: Just a comment on missmell 34. I know for a fact that not all women who cheat are in search of "the thrill of being desirable again, to be wanted". Some women who cheat are in search of "sex, pure and simple".
Of course, I don't mean that the... (read in full...)
Why do men look at she male porn?
Q. Why do men look at she male porn? Does it mean they are bi?...
A. 6 December 2007: I'm pretty sure that the overwhelming majority of STRAIGHT men don't look at she-male porn. Ever.... (read in full...)
Wife took me off-guard by regaling to our friends..how she made some guy's toes curl with a BJ before she met me! This pissed me off..how do I deal with this?
Q. My wife and I were out drinking with some friends, and (don't ask why, because I don't know), her one female friend asked if all guys curl their toes when they have an orgasm. I'm assuming that her husband either does or doesn't and she was curious ...
A. 6 December 2007: Collaroy is making quite a good point here.... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair, but neither of us will leave our partners, now he's flirting with other girls in the office, what should I do?
Q. I have been married for almost 13 yers now and a year and a half ago I fell for this man who happens to be my boss- we have had sex a couple of times and he says he loves me. But he is also married and I don't know what his intentions are. Howver, ...
A. 5 December 2007: I suggest that you let your relationship with your boss end "naturally", and to stick to your husband. Your boss doesn't love you, you don't love him, either, and he has already found himself other interests. Move on, dear.... (read in full...)
My ex is hot, I can't get him out of my head, but there's no way he will take me back, how can I get over this?
Q. Im drivin myself crazy thinkin about my ex NON STOP!!! He was absolutely gorgeous and so sexy i wish I was still with him but he couldnt put up with my worrying about other girls!! Ive tried to get him back but he doesnt want to know. But all I can ...
A. 5 December 2007: Accepting that we can't be with the person we love (or lust after, whatever) is a very hard lesson to learn, but one you should indeed learn if you are to be happy.
Your life isn't over because this guy won't be with you anymore. I assume y... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man, but I really want to have a normal relationship, but nobody matches up to this married man, should I pursue it or give him up for good?
Q. I am in love with a man who has a partner and 2 small children. I know he feels the same way and is very unhappy with his current partner and stays for the children, but I am not sure I can live with breaking up a family. However, I just cannot get ...
A. 5 December 2007: Getting involved with a married or committed person is wrong, because you harm to a third party, in this case the partner and the children, who have done no harm to you. Only because of this, you should end the relationship.
But I think I can fi... (read in full...)
I love to flirt on chat rooms, and send naughty pictures, but its all harmless, my husband doesn't agree, should I dump him?
Q. Could anyone tell me on whether chatrooms are addictive? Am i being fair to carry on in these if my husband has caught me sending photos of my bits to lads? Its simply nothing but harmless flirting and fun,so I enjoy sex talk. Not only that but when ...
A. 5 December 2007: This might not be what you want to hear, but this is my opinion.
It seems you prefer the "virtual" flirting and sending pictures to the real deal with your husband. I wonder if this is so because your marriage doesn't work anymore.
Your hu... (read in full...)
My wife says she has never masturbated, surely this cant be true or can it?
Q. i have asked my wife to masturbate when we are making love but she told me that she has never masturbated before and that it is not her thing i dont think she is telling me the truth do the question is do all women masturbate and lie about it...
A. 5 December 2007: Man, some women don't masturbate. Unbelievably so, some men (a few) don't, either.
If she won't do it herself...... (read in full...)
Is he going to break up with me??
Q. My boyfriend has been very depressed lately and he has been starting fights with me all of the time over small things......like making mountains out of mole hills. He recently told me that he needed some space and time to think about everythi...
A. 5 December 2007: I'm sorry, but he might be thinking about breaking up with you. Asking for "space" is always a bad sign.
His calling might simply mean that he's checking on you to see if you're OK. It doesn't necessarily mean he loves you.
If I'm wrong,... (read in full...)
Wife took me off-guard by regaling to our friends..how she made some guy's toes curl with a BJ before she met me! This pissed me off..how do I deal with this?
Q. My wife and I were out drinking with some friends, and (don't ask why, because I don't know), her one female friend asked if all guys curl their toes when they have an orgasm. I'm assuming that her husband either does or doesn't and she was curious ...
A. 5 December 2007: I think the real problem is not whether she lied about her habits in fellatio. The very, very bad thing is that she ashamed you in front of all these people. You're right in feeling that way about seeing them again.
The question is, why did she ... (read in full...)
We suddenly have problems with erectile dyfunction! I'm so frustrated sexually-I am thinking of leaving him! Advice?
Q. Over the past 9 or 10 months my boyfriend of 5 years and myself have encountered a new problem in our relationship. Prior to this, our sex life was very active and strong, we never had any problems with ED or anything like that. But for some reason, ...
A. 5 December 2007: In my opinion, the reason is psychological. Perhaps something is the matter with him. It would be difficult to know what. But, if he gets turned on, then he WANTS to satisfy you. He just can't. Maybe the reason is bad ol' performance anxiety.
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He can't perform and says it isn't me but it hasn't happened before...what's wrong??
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together a little over a month. A couple of weeks ago we tried having sex for the first time, we didnt succeed. He got hard but it went limp again. The next day we tried again, and the same thing happend. Finally ...
A. 5 December 2007: I'm pretty sure that your boyfriend is telling you the truth. It's not you, but him. Don't assume something is the matter with you.
I'm pretty sure this is performance anxiety. To me, he is so afraid he won't perform well for you that he doesn... (read in full...)
I want to see my one-night stand again...how do I go about it??
Q. I slept with this guy this weekend. We were talking at a party and I was definately the aggressor, but he was into it too. Anyway we ended up back at my place and had sex and a while later niether one of us was asleep so we made some sandwiches ...
A. 5 December 2007: Just a comment, as I'm the only male here. Like the anonymous female poster said, some men don't fall in love with girls they sleep with on the first night. On the other hand, a bold man, who wanted a new experience, he could fall in love with ... (read in full...)
What do you think about my husband's leaving because I was not able to bear a pregnancy?
Q. i am 36, i am not capable of bearing a child anymore for a uterus problem. my husband had left me for another woman for a reason that he wants to have a child. do you think he didn't love me anymore because he exchange me for a reason to have a ...
A. 4 December 2007: I am very, very sorry that you have to go through this. I have trouble finding the words that will express how awful I find this. You must be needing a lot of support. I see you very much loved this man, and he just dumped you as if you were an ... (read in full...)
Different libidos, normal?
Q. I'm a 20-year-old female with a 29-year-old male. I've always been in long term relationships with very frequent sex that I was normally initiating so i suppose I'm not even sure if this is abnormal. As a little background, we work about 35 a ...
A. 4 December 2007: I do see a difference in libido, but it seems you're handling this the right way. Instead of simply nagging, you ask around what people think.
I don't want to sound vulgar or blunt or whatever, but perhaps you wore him out :-). I don't think he... (read in full...)
Should I go on and hope she changes her mind or is she just playing me??
Q. Hey there, I'm pretty new to this type of thing, but I really need some feedback on a situation I am in from some people not involved. There is a girl that I work with, and we've been working together for about half a year now, that I've been get...
A. 4 December 2007: Maybe this girl was indeed interested in you up to a certain point, but, like the girls have said, you're more into her than she is into you. You want a relationship, she doesn't.
Maybe the girl thinks you gave her the job just to demand somethin... (read in full...)
Is her lying a problem, or am I creating a problem?
Q. I have a question that concerns "lies". I want to first explain a few things in our relationship. I have been dating a wonderful woman for 2.5 years. She's a great friend, and a better lover. However, I have a concern that seems to continue to ...
A. 4 December 2007: Like the anonymous male poster said, you're being played. Her lies are not about meaningless things. Her driving ninety miles to see a former lover of hers tells you how interested she was in that meeting. Why should she be meeting with him? Why ... (read in full...)
I want to see my one-night stand again...how do I go about it??
Q. I slept with this guy this weekend. We were talking at a party and I was definately the aggressor, but he was into it too. Anyway we ended up back at my place and had sex and a while later niether one of us was asleep so we made some sandwiches ...
A. 4 December 2007: Male perspective: If I had sex with someone, we parted our separate ways the morning after without exchanging numbers, and then I found that she is sending me her phone number, I would definitely be very flattered and willing to see how far I could ... (read in full...)
Are there tell-tale signs that a guy is falling for you??
Q. We met 14 months ago and we see each other once a week. My gut feeling is that he cares more than he wants to. But how can you tell? Do guys have tell tale signs when they are starting to fall for you? (we are committed to others at this time)...
A. 3 December 2007: Well, your post changes the situation a bit. You met 14 months ago but you've actually been meeting with each other only during the last three, once a week. You've met like 12 times, I suppose.
I believe he is very much into you but is wonderin... (read in full...)
Our marriage is amazing but I am ready to start a family and he isn't. Please help.
Q. Help Please, I was recently married to the most amazing man and we are very happy. We have been together for 7 years and have a very healthy relationship. The problem is that i am very much ready to start a family but he isn't. I obviously don'...
A. 3 December 2007: You have been together for seven years now. I suppose this should be more than enough time for him to be sure about you. And then, he just married you. I have the feeling that the problem here is that he doesn't want any children. This is not ... (read in full...)
Are there tell-tale signs that a guy is falling for you??
Q. We met 14 months ago and we see each other once a week. My gut feeling is that he cares more than he wants to. But how can you tell? Do guys have tell tale signs when they are starting to fall for you? (we are committed to others at this time)...
A. 2 December 2007: I think you should follow Sarah M's suggestion. Also, the Anonymous female poster has given you very good clues about when a guy is into you.
The anonymous poster made a mistake about the 14 months. True, nobody needs 14 months to know whether ... (read in full...)
We both have partners and decided to become "fling" mates.
Q. I have a boyfriend in other country and now am in university and I met someone else here. He has a girlfriend back in his home town too so we decided to just be fling mates.. its been going well until recently when I figured that I am falling for ...
A. 2 December 2007: The anonymous poster said it all. Three cheers for him!... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be concerned here?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He's bisexual and I have never had a problem with it. He's never cheated on me with a guy, although in the past he cheated on me twice with the same girl. Anyways, the other night while we were ...
A. 2 December 2007: I have a gut feeling that you do have reasons to be concerned.
He wants to have a sleepover precisely when you won't be there. I don't think that's mere chance. What he wants is to have his coworkers at home, with all the freedom that allows, ... (read in full...)
I worry my girlfriend is hiding something in her past. How can I address the issue?
Q. hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep ...
A. 1 December 2007: I think it's best if you let it go. Be aware of not becoming paranoid. What counts is what she is giving you right now, and she is good to you. Count your blessings.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to ask a guy out??
Q. Is it wrong to ask a guy to go out with you or should you just keep it old fashioned? ...
A. 1 December 2007: There is nothing wrong in asking a guy out, and even less so if you want him to become your boyfriend.
The male anonymous poster said SOME men might take you for granted if you're the one to ask out. I'm afraid that can be true of some people. ... (read in full...)
I am dating another man but do not feel anything when he ejaculates, only a leakage. Do I learn to control my high drive or leave?
Q. I've just divorced of my husband. The last year together we didnt have sex at all. He has got problem of erection and refuses to sort it out. Since then he doesnt even touches me. He makes me feel really bad. Now I've met this man 18 years ...
A. 1 December 2007: An opinion, just for the sake of clarity. I'm sure the poster knows the problem with his man is NOT maintaining an erection. The issue here is the refractory period, and Viagra doesn't help with that.
And then, I agree with Doctor Pete.... (read in full...)
Diabetes affecting the aspect of males' sexual organs?
Q. Does diabetes affect the way in which a guy's testicles hang (or don't hang) ... ?...
A. 1 December 2007: I didn't know diabetes could do that to you. That sounds awful. Argh.
I did know, poster, that the penis becomes LESS sensitive. Many a wife has complained about this.... (read in full...)
My gf periodically posts degrading pictures of herself in the net, semi-naked. Do I over react?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for a year and a half. She is amazing, but here is my problem. She will periodically post degrading pictures of herself on her Facebook as her profile picture. The first one was of her knealing (or standing, I couldnt...
A. 30 November 2007: I'm with happytochat, Eddie and Tom Wilkinson. It's right that you feel bad about this.
I don't think she will ever stop posting pictures of herself in Facebook. Happytochat noted that she knows you are upset but she keeps doing it. The firs... (read in full...)
She said no but I cant stop thinking about her.
Q. I am 13 and I asked out a girl i have known for 3 years and when I asked her she said no but that day i felt so bad i went to the office 3 times and i felt like i wanted to die but now I cant stop thinking abbout her what should i do?...
A. 30 November 2007: Man, this happens. My sincere advice is, move on. When reality won't match our wishes, all we can do is go with reality. If she won't go out with you, don't insist. If you make this a rule for your life, you'll spare yourself a lot of heartache. ... (read in full...)
I'm 21, she's 17... Is this too much of a difference?
Q. im 21 and thinking of asking a girl out thats 17. is that too young? opinions please....
A. 30 November 2007: No, the age gap is not significant. However, I would suggest your checking what British law says about her age. Where I live, you'd be of full age and she wouldn't, and your relationship would be legally inappropriate.... (read in full...)
Diabetes affecting the aspect of males' sexual organs?
Q. Does diabetes affect the way in which a guy's testicles hang (or don't hang) ... ?...
A. 30 November 2007: Not that I know of. Age does.
Just in case, diabetes does affect penile sensitivity.... (read in full...)
A neighbour changing in view of my wife and I!!!
Q. Hi Over the past few weeks our neighbour has been putting on a show in their bed room. What I mean by this is, she get undressed and gets changed without drawing the blinds. My wife and I can see all this from our lounge room if we have our blin...
A. 30 November 2007: In different manners, I'm with birdynumnums, jm81690 and SamuraiRick. If anyone is to talk to the neighbor, then ask your wife to do it: you could be call a pervert. And then, if she continues with the show, then do as SamuraiRick says: you have ... (read in full...)
Should I act less interested so she wakes up??
Q. Sorry to bother you all with such a petty situation but: i go to some social club and i recently found out that a girl likes me. She was really upset with the fact that she found it so hard to tell me, eventhough i liked her back (which i never to...
A. 29 November 2007: Amen, amen and amen, Irish49.... (read in full...)
He's catholic I'm not, will this create problems later on?
Q. Hi, I'm just wondering what people think about long term relationships between people of different religions? Can it ever work? I'm in a relationship (almost a year and a half) with a lovely guy and we are very much in love and spend all our ti...
A. 29 November 2007: Well, I'm Catholic, and where I live (Latin America) there's always people of different religions marrying each other. Most often, a Catholic and a non-Catholic (though usually a Christian). Of course, most marriages still occur within ... (read in full...)
Do you think she wants to take a break?
Q. Hello, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 or 5 years now. She is the sweetest girl and is family oriented and a genuinely good person. We went on trips across the country, hung out every day over summers -- basically did ev...
A. 29 November 2007: Jim, there's a chance you didn't give us the whole picture, and I honestly hope so. It would be best if you could come out of the hell you're going through. Honestly, I do hope the facts of life prove me wrong on this one. I know how happy you ... (read in full...)
My friend's stategy to attract women. What do you think?
Q. I recently spoke to one of my guy friends about how he gets girls/woman to like him ( because he always seems to have woman on the go) He said that he gives them attention and then cuts it off and this makes them want more? What do...
A. 29 November 2007: The anonymous poster is right. Women are all different. I think this would work with some women only. Other will detect the game and hate it.... (read in full...)
Is this guy flirting with me? And how do I approach this situation without anyone around noticing?
Q. Okay, maybe someone can help me on this. I work in a gourmet store and theres this guy that comes in every other day and we always make eye contact with each other and chit chat with each other. When ever he comes to my register and sees me, he ...
A. 29 November 2007: I think this is a very, very careful "maybe". Perhaps you just happen to be the one person who has given him service more often and he is just being friendly.
He might even fancy you, but that doesn't mean he wants something with you (hard le... (read in full...)
Moving in with my fiancee was the biggest mistake of my life...and now I only love her as a friend.
Q. Don't know what to do with the situation that i am in at the moment. Im with my fiancee 2 years, we're engaged about 12 months now, but 6 months ago we decided to buy a house and live together. I feel its the biggest mistake of my life. I dont rea...
A. 28 November 2007: Your relationship isn't working out anymore, and it doesn't seem like it will ever recover. Tell her what is going on, in an honest manner, and put an end to the relationship. It won't work. As Irish49 said, the sooner, the better, before any ... (read in full...)
?She needs space what do I do?
Q. Hi there, my girlfriend for 5 months now needs space but she says she loves me. It's been about a week now and she texts me I do miss you. Why is that she told me that she needed to be single for a while and be on here own and she can't be my ...
A. 28 November 2007: I'm with Frank B. Kermit in yet another one.... (read in full...)
Do you think she wants to take a break?
Q. Hello, I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 4 or 5 years now. She is the sweetest girl and is family oriented and a genuinely good person. We went on trips across the country, hung out every day over summers -- basically did ev...
A. 27 November 2007: Rcn noticed an important point: if the fighting is the problem, why won't she discuss the root of it? How can your staying away help to solve the problem? Doesn't she see that the problem would come back when the break is over? This is nonsense ... (read in full...)
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