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writes:I slept with this guy this weekend. We were talking at a party and I was definately the aggressor, but he was into it too. Anyway we ended up back at my place and had sex and a while later niether one of us was asleep so we made some sandwiches and hung out for a while. I felt like we got along really well. The next morning we didn't exchange numbers, but I think it was because i ran into someone from work (I live really close to my job) who I had to talk to so we didn't really have a proper goodbye. I know he's not a player, and that one night stands are very unusual for him. Anyway, I want to see him again, I was gonna give my phone number to his roommate and just tell her to give it to him and he can call if he wants. Is this worthwhile, or would he have gotten my number if he wanted it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): If you have mutual friends, and are likely to see him again (sounds like it since you know his roommate), wait till you see him. You never know what context your number will be passed on in, or guarantee he'd get it. I'd wait to see him, it's more personal, and you can assess from his behaviour whether pursuing it is going to be fruitful.
Good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Just a comment, as I'm the only male here. Like the anonymous female poster said, some men don't fall in love with girls they sleep with on the first night. On the other hand, a bold man, who wanted a new experience, he could fall in love with you. Think of it this way: it could be a hell of an adventure (in the good sense). Perhaps this is the kind of man you would prefer.
Just another thing: the fact that he didn't ask for your phone number might indeed mean he isn't interested. Or, he was afraid he was going too far.
If you think you can manage if he won't respond, go for him.
If he doesn't respond, don't take it personally. Just keep going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): god yeah
give it to him
if he phones you he phones you
if he doesnt- not biggie
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): I personally think that he would have gotten your number if he had wanted to. But I like your optimism. If it were me, I would let it go. And let him contact me. But you are not me. So maybe it will work for you to contact him. And I hope it does. I will tell you one thing. Guys don't usually fall inlove with girls that they sleep with on the very first night of meeting them. He probably feels weird. Unless he is older and more mature. Older guys are more understanding of that kind of thing. But young guys, not so much. But I hope this works out for you.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (4 December 2007):
Male perspective: If I had sex with someone, we parted our separate ways the morning after without exchanging numbers, and then I found that she is sending me her phone number, I would definitely be very flattered and willing to see how far I could make it with you.
Just pay attention to the advice from the girls: perhaps he won't respond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): Pass your number on and if you dont hear anything then you have lost nothing, but if you do then brilliant, go for it.
take care
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 Definetly give your number to his roommate and see what happens, if there was a connection and he felt it to he will get in contact, good luck let us know what happens!
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reader, Midge +, writes (4 December 2007):
 I agree that if you are able to get someone to give him your number, you have made the first move. What happens next is up to him. He can either call or not, but the next move is in his ball court!
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (4 December 2007):
 If your interested in him then dont be afraid to try and keep in contact. Maybe he felt the same way as you. Maybe he thought if you wanted his number you wouldve asked. Dont let this oportunity pass you by. Give his roommate the number and keep in contact. If he's interested then he''' call. Good luck!
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