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writes:Sorry to bother you all with such a petty situation but: i go to some social club and i recently found out that a girl likes me. She was really upset with the fact that she found it so hard to tell me, eventhough i liked her back (which i never told her). One thing led to another and she told me she liked me and vice-versa.. but since i told her i liked her, she acts though as if shes less interested..she seems to play it hard, or shes taken advantage of the situation becuase of the fact that i like her i.e. no matter what she does mean or bad she knows i would forgive her....im no philosopher but isnt the man meant to be in control? should i act "less" interested in her from now on so she wakes up?? sorry if i've offended any of you females, but i would like to know your opinions too. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Amen, amen and amen, Irish49.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Nowadays, as far as gender 'control'...anything goes. Females are a lot more bolder. As for an answer to your question-yes, back off for a bit. In fact I would go as far and ask..do you need this BS? If you want to keep her interest, I think it's time to set a few rules here and it all has to do with respect and being kind. PLease tell her you don't play this game-do it nicely and calmly. Either she likes you and wants to be with you...or she doesn't. Plain and simple. Get an answer. If she won't give you that, then move on to someone who will build something more solid with you. I think she's trying to appear more selective and attractive but usually when a female does this, she's still flirty and nice with the guy, but keeps him interested and at arm's length. This girl is not doing that. She 's being mean to you which is disrespectful. She sounds emotionally immature and very, very unsure of herself and you. Do you really need this. "Playing hard to get" is not the same thing as 'being' hard to get and this is just that.I think it's time for you and her to have a chat about expectations. Just ask her "do you want to date me or not'. And prepare yourself to accept whatever she throws at you. Be strong and good luck.
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reader, clh91  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 since when is a man meant to be in control?
in a relationship you should be equal.
if anything the emae should be in control coz its gotta be at her own speed in which the relationship develops.
i'd talk to her and ask why she is playing hard to get.
some girls just play hard to get for fun so if she is n won't stop after you talk to her then i'd leave her.
it depends to what extreme she's doing this too.
hope i helped :)
feel free to mail message ,e if you wanna chat about anything
xxx
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 As a man, I would rather sparingly use, the 'like' word, the 'love' word, even though woman would love to insist on making you say it often. Then again, they dont like the men expressing emotions this much open.
Id rather show how I care about her by my actions, reactions, and more subtly.
Leave her a bit alone, keep a mild distance and let her express herself and you do the action.
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