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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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How can I make this feeling go away?
Q. Please help me I'm in a state. I'm really in love with someone who I had a serious conversation with tonight I now know there is no point whatsoever of trying with him anymore, he has told me he hasn't got feelings for me and never will. Hard to ...
A. 3 February 2008: Dear poster, my first suggestion is that you overcome this feeling of yours about not wanting to hear things like "you will get over him". I came to this site because of a similar situation. The good agony aunts who helped me didn't tell me what I ... (read in full...)
Do relationships with language barriers work?
Q. I am 20yrs old and went out of the country for my first time last week for a competition. I was there for 7 days and the first day I was there I met a wonderful guy, Nicholas. The problem is, he lives in Guatemala, I live in the US. We hit it off ...
A. 2 February 2008: Poster, this new internet service might help you:
http://www.speaklike.com
You would chat with your young man, and someone would translate it right away.... (read in full...)
Confusing me with mixes signals.
Q. Hi. Just wanting some advice on a work/ relationship problem. I have been working at my current job for over a year now and last week we had a work party, which was the first one I had been to at this company. My problem is that i ( along with ...
A. 2 February 2008: Leave her alone. She knows where to find you if she needs to.
In another line of thought, however, it's a very bad idea to date your boss. Maybe she knows this and that's why she isn't approaching you.
Take care.... (read in full...)
I'm all grandma has.
Q. I need help.I've known my g/f 2 years as friends.We've always told each other everything,even the bad stuff.I'd say we know each other well.We feel in love in November and spend tons of time on the phone.I know everyone will think it's stupid but we ...
A. 2 February 2008: I will divide my answer in two parts.
Part 1: You and your grandma
Your grandmother has no right to demand that you don't meet this woman. You're a grown man. I understand she helped you a lot, and you're all she has, but you have a right... (read in full...)
He's helped his ex 100 percent financially for 9 months now. Should I be worried?
Q. I have asked this question before and everyone said I had nothing to worry about. My boyfriend is from Romania and went to college in the the US. he is graduated and gainfully employed. he dated another Romanian girl for 4 years while in college...
A. 1 February 2008: Well, poster, I hope this comes out fine. I just have to say one thing: maybe her visa will expire if she doesn't find a job in Psychology. I really can't know. But I'm a foreigner myself where I live, and they authorize me to WORK. They don't ... (read in full...)
He's helped his ex 100 percent financially for 9 months now. Should I be worried?
Q. I have asked this question before and everyone said I had nothing to worry about. My boyfriend is from Romania and went to college in the the US. he is graduated and gainfully employed. he dated another Romanian girl for 4 years while in college...
A. 1 February 2008: In a book about strategical thinking, the authors talk about "the thin end of the wedge". That is, they highlight that people may start asking for little at first, but then things can snowball and next thing you know you're caught.
I think th... (read in full...)
Please give me advice as to what to do on top if you are scared
Q. I am 28 years old. I was married (now divorced) and in a relationship for 10 years. I have only been with 3 people sexually in my life. I have been with my boyfriend now for about 4 months. I care about him deeply. When it comes to sex.....it ...
A. 1 February 2008: I'm with Uncle Phil. There is no reason for him to leave you.
Some people have the wonderful skill of turning bad things into good things. I think you can do it here. If you really don't know what to do, why don't you two see it as a chance t... (read in full...)
What levels of detail would you want to know if your wife cheated on you?
Q. Hey all there. I' coming again with an additional question. My wife cheated on me and I want to thank all the persons who gave me quite helpful advice. You can see my earlier question on http:/...
A. 1 February 2008: Maybe I wouldn't want the very small details of when they slept, what they did, etcetera. But I would want to know all the details necessary for me to understand what went on, and what went wrong. Only in that way can you really react the way the ... (read in full...)
Do relationships with language barriers work?
Q. I am 20yrs old and went out of the country for my first time last week for a competition. I was there for 7 days and the first day I was there I met a wonderful guy, Nicholas. The problem is, he lives in Guatemala, I live in the US. We hit it off ...
A. 1 February 2008: I believe that this last question of yours has more to do with your personal independence than with this young man or Guatemala. The basic question here is whether you should give it a try even if your parents disapprove. My answer is a very ... (read in full...)
Do relationships with language barriers work?
Q. I am 20yrs old and went out of the country for my first time last week for a competition. I was there for 7 days and the first day I was there I met a wonderful guy, Nicholas. The problem is, he lives in Guatemala, I live in the US. We hit it off ...
A. 1 February 2008: I'm honestly happy that you want to give this love a try. I was afraid I would discourage you, when all I wanted was to present you the hard facts.
This guy you met is a lucky man. He should appreciate his luck. It's not everyday, I guess, t... (read in full...)
He's helped his ex 100 percent financially for 9 months now. Should I be worried?
Q. I have asked this question before and everyone said I had nothing to worry about. My boyfriend is from Romania and went to college in the the US. he is graduated and gainfully employed. he dated another Romanian girl for 4 years while in college...
A. 31 January 2008: It is very clear that he has taken this much, much beyond being helpful or friendly. I would also be very much suspicious about what reason he may have to support her to that extent. I would be very worried about they still being more than just ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want sex when he comes near me?
Q. I am 46 and just met this man 64. We gets on well and have been together for 6 months now. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week. I really enjoy it. We dont live together and just see each other 3 times a week. And recently he starts to complain I am ...
A. 31 January 2008: I'm with XxAngelDust89xX. And, to an extent, with Laura1318, too. Quote: He "should be flattered that you want him like that... I see nothing wrong with a healthy sexual appetite. I think it's perfectly normal".
He can't keep the pace, ma... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be TOO nice to women?
Q. How do I avoid being nice towards women? I've had relationships but they always end in me getting dumped. My best friend says its because im too nice. what does he mean?...
A. 31 January 2008: As is often the case, I agree with Frank. Yes, you can be so nice that you will let people walk over you. And that can happen whether you're a man or a woman.
I think you didn't ask the right question. Being nice is not the problem. Letting ... (read in full...)
He's a musician who doesn't work, we have 3 kids, but I think he is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years know. We have 3 kids together and he is a musician. Which means he doesn't work. I am the only working household member. He talks to many females on the phone and tells me it is business purposes but yet he ...
A. 30 January 2008: Excellent advice from Collaroy! I live in Nicaragua, poster. I know what you're talking about. I have seen it happen. If you don't stand your ground now, it will only be too late later.
You and I know you're keeping him. It's about time he ... (read in full...)
Do relationships with language barriers work?
Q. I am 20yrs old and went out of the country for my first time last week for a competition. I was there for 7 days and the first day I was there I met a wonderful guy, Nicholas. The problem is, he lives in Guatemala, I live in the US. We hit it off ...
A. 30 January 2008: Dear poster, your question does have many interesting sides to it. And I believe I'm in a good position to give comments. I live in Nicaragua and have been involved and been witness to relationships like yours, some successful ones, some failed ... (read in full...)
Is she stringing me along? Is her not contacting me even to ask how I am a bad sign?
Q. Hi all, Back here once again, in pretty much the same situation. I was going through a horrible break up with the same girl about a year and a half ago. But she came back saying she made a mistake, and i let her back into my life, and we were h...
A. 29 January 2008: Sorry. Maybe she is not stringing you along, in the sense that she isn't doing this with mean intentions, but she is giving you mixed signals indeed. When that happens, man, it's time for you to say goodbye to the girl.
You made a very sharp co... (read in full...)
He has a "long distance" girl on the side. Should I leave him?
Q. I have been with my current bf for 1 and a half years. He had a long distance relationship and told me he ended it. But, I found out they still keep in touch and he updates her on what is going on in his life. He denies that they still communicate. ...
A. 29 January 2008: Really, we cannot know what is going on in your boyfriend's head.
Maybe he feels sorry that his long distance relationship could not be, and finds it difficult to just cut off all contact with the girl. Or, he got tired of waiting and got invo... (read in full...)
My wife had a boob job, after I said no. I am leaving her!
Q. My wife went and had a boob job and I find it absolutely disgusting. Once she had small, pretty breasts and I loved them just the way they were. she kept asking me if she should get them "done" and I told her no, not only no but, H--L NO!!!!! I ...
A. 29 January 2008: I'm not sure if you want help or if you're just informing us about a decision.
If you want help, I can say this much. What she does to her body is her own business. You may like or dislike the end result, but it's up to her to do what she want... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, he's a Jehovahs Witness I'm not, will there be any problems?
Q. There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i ...
A. 29 January 2008: Ponungalungb is giving great advice. People of different religions marry or date each other all the time, but I'm afraid that doesn't happen so often with Witnesses. They are encouraged not to date or marry outside of their own religion.
I ten... (read in full...)
If a guy asks for a hug does this mean he is interested in me?
Q. There is a man at work (different departments, we don't see each other every day) that I have been friendly with the past few months and I believe there has been a spark going on (for sure it has for me, not completely sure about his side). ...
A. 29 January 2008: From here, it's hard to tell whether this hug means more than it seems to mean. Perhaps the body language or the circumstances of the hug would help me to have a better opinion.
If the hug was the natural result of your conversation, then I d... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 28 January 2008: Well, finally we see the real you, Your Highness. You are the Man of Tomorrow, the Special One Every Girl Dreams Of. Are you saying you didn't send those messages? Do you think I don't have those messages on my mailbox? I'm not saying that I ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about her.
Q. hi can anyone help me im sick of feeling alone and depressed most of the time i split up with my gf first week in december after she cheated on me shes had 2 bf since yet why carnt i stop thinking bout her plz help...
A. 28 January 2008: Poster, when a relationship ends, we tend to think about it as the end of the world. In all honesty, that's not the case. If you try to see the ending of this relationship as a new beginning, then your whole outlook changes.
You also need to ... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 28 January 2008: All right, Mr. Sensitive. You can go on and on if you want. I don't have any more time for you. Just for the sake of continuity of the thread of this post, here's what you wrote to me:
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - ... (read in full...)
Ok, what do guys really prefer in the way of hair, down there?
Q. hi i was just wondering do guys really care about how much hair we have down there? and if so what do u prefer? brazilian?trimmed?etc.....
A. 27 January 2008: As with colors, preferences vary. I think. however, that it's up to the girl to decide what she will do with her pubic hair.
I agree with Yos in a sense. I assume your interest in this matter has to do with a boyfriend. I had a girlfrie... (read in full...)
Am I being played?
Q. I've been dating the same guy for almost a year now and slowly over the last 6 months or so i've been discovering many hurtfull signs of him being missleading and even plain out lying to me. Such as having hundreds of pictures of his ex gf and ...
A. 27 January 2008: As is often the case, I fully agree with Baby Duck. He is a manipulator who is playing you, and there is nothing you can do to make him focus his love on you. He would if he wanted to, but he fails to appreciate your worth and resorts to this ... (read in full...)
I love her a lot but she won't have me back and is giving me mixed signals. What do I do?
Q. Hi everybody.hope you can help .now were do i start? ok i recently broke up with my ex gf because we kept on arguing.the arguing for me was bcoz i felt rejected all the time.she on the other hand due to pof was very irritable,had zero sexual desire, ...
A. 27 January 2008: Sorry, man: Jayjay027 is just right. Move on.... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 27 January 2008: I'm back in the site, where I am not 24/7 as Mr. Sensitive claimed I am in a private message. You see, he has a problem with logic: because I have answered a lot of questions, he immediately concludes that means I am here 24/7. His logic is "Many ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, homeless and confused....
Q. I was 5 months pregnant when my Husband asked me to leave our home because he said he was miserable due to our fighting and bickering. We used to fight about fidelity issues on my behalf. Prior to me getting pregnant, he said he was over those ...
A. 27 January 2008: I'm with all the girls. It's best for you to stay where you are, but defend your rights. It was really awful of him to kick the mother of his child, his wife, out of the home.... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 27 January 2008: Oh, and by the way. I'm 38. I don't need advice from a 17 year old.... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 27 January 2008: Available = jerk.
Married = not a jerk (many a wife would agree)
Gay = not a jerk (ditto for wives)
Engaged = not a jerk (yeah, at Dear Cupid there's never been a post about a woman complaining that his fiancé was seeing someone else)
... (read in full...)
He seemed sincere!
Q. A week ago, I met a guy; we were both proctoring exams at our university. We talked a little before the exam, and exchanged a few whispers during the exam. Our areas of research seemed to overlap a little and he said he had some sources I should ...
A. 27 January 2008: I agree with both Dearkelja and the anonymous poster. I would add that perhaps he doesn't want you to see how anxious he was about receiving this e-mail. His behavior does suggest interest. Just wait and see. If he writes again, well, you'll be ... (read in full...)
I'd like to gain knowledge from women and be able to help give advice to guys
Q. Hey everyone. I'm Jamie Williams.. (yes that's only a stage name on here so I can gain some credibility.. it is not my real name.) I'm a 17-yr-old male and I live in the states. My biggest pet-peeve is the typical alpha-male. They think t...
A. 27 January 2008: I hope you're not trying to prove that no male wants to get women laid. I have a feeling that most girls wouldn't believe you.
I don't think any one of us can claim moral superiority over any other of us. And I think it's a cheap tactic to go so... (read in full...)
For men: do you think of your partner during masturbation?
Q. For the guys: Do you think of your girlfriend/wives when you masturbate?...
A. 26 January 2008: I think a man will masturbate thinking of a girlfriend when he can't have her. I don't think that happens with a wife (though I've never been married), because you can usually have actual intercourse with her.
With all due respect to guillaum... (read in full...)
Can you Persuade an ex, that you should be together, and give it another go?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and just split up recently. I am in my late twenties; ten years younger than him. In the beginning, he pursued me strongly. I wanted to start slow. When we were together, we were great and got along ...
A. 26 January 2008: I feel I understand your feelings and your pain, and your desire to know right away whether you can be with him or not. Every day must be like a horrible weight to carry. Just take it one day at a time. If he comes your way, be happy; if he ... (read in full...)
Can I ever trust my bf again and forget about my summer romance??
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in the summer of last year due to a substance abuse problem on his part. While we were apart I started seeing another man only to go back to my boyfriend and try to work things out with him. I'm really skeptica...
A. 24 January 2008: My interpretation of your post is that you left your boyfriend for another man exclusively because your boyfriend was addicted to drugs. Your experience with the other man didn't work out, but he is no drug user, and then you wonder whether you're ... (read in full...)
Am I Being Too Picky? What sacrifices do other women make for their man?
Q. I am wondering if I expect too much from my romantic relationships? I realize there are no "perfect" men out there, but it seems like every one of them disappoints me in some very important areas and I'm starting to wonder if I just need to lower my ...
A. 24 January 2008: I'm a man, so I'm not the right person to answer this. In this case I'm sort of "the enemy". I have two comments: There is never someone who is always up to our expectations, but that fact doesn't mean you should automatically settle for somet... (read in full...)
Can you Persuade an ex, that you should be together, and give it another go?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and just split up recently. I am in my late twenties; ten years younger than him. In the beginning, he pursued me strongly. I wanted to start slow. When we were together, we were great and got along ...
A. 23 January 2008: Buddys, it's hard for us to really know what is going on inside this man's head. If I were you, in love as you are, I would be inclined to give this message the meaning that he is still in love with you and wants to come back. At least, he might ... (read in full...)
Can you Persuade an ex, that you should be together, and give it another go?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and just split up recently. I am in my late twenties; ten years younger than him. In the beginning, he pursued me strongly. I wanted to start slow. When we were together, we were great and got along ...
A. 23 January 2008: I was so sorry to hear your story. It is a dream that turned into a nightmare. I am sure you're going through a lot of pain, and you really want this relationship to work. So, though I find it hard to say it, I think you should move on. I think ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I still love her?
Q. MY girlfriend and i broke up in november 07, our break up was due to the distance and it was getting a bit difficult.I was still in college and she was starting to work. Our break up was a very calm one, we broke up over the phone. I havent seen her ...
A. 23 January 2008: I'm sorry, but it's very clear she doesn't want you back. You should move on.... (read in full...)
I think she wants Sex. How can I make sure we do it?
Q. Hi. Tonight, after drinks, my girlfriend of one week and a few days said she would be interested in coming home with me. In the end she didn't but said she would like to some time this week. I think she is expecting Sex since she is implying that...
A. 22 January 2008: Yes, I have a piece of advice for you, regarding this girl and regarding all others.
Make sure she makes it very clear that she wants sex. Don't trust your own instincts ONLY. Let her be the one to initiate. Your desire is high and you may be s... (read in full...)
He left because I wanted to keep our baby! Now I've had a missacriage, I'm scared and should I get back together with him? How?
Q. Well, here goes nothing, I was pregnant and when I told my boyfriend, he told me to get rid of it and I said no, that I wanted to keep it, then we had a massive argument and in the end, it resulted with us breaking up and him leaving (we used to ...
A. 12 January 2008: I'm glad that you feel I helped you. Take much care and don't hesitate to contact us again if you need more support.... (read in full...)
He left because I wanted to keep our baby! Now I've had a missacriage, I'm scared and should I get back together with him? How?
Q. Well, here goes nothing, I was pregnant and when I told my boyfriend, he told me to get rid of it and I said no, that I wanted to keep it, then we had a massive argument and in the end, it resulted with us breaking up and him leaving (we used to ...
A. 22 October 2007: I'm sorry about the baby.
Dear, I will be very direct and perhaps harsh. I don't think he would provide the kind of support you need. He ran away the minute he saw trouble. He didn't have any objections to having sex with you, but he did obje... (read in full...)
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