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reader, chgz  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 well, i two have gone down this path and i wuld say that it is a realy bad idea to ask a guy out because he will look down at you and like otheres say, he will take advantige of you. if you realy want a particular guy to go out withg you show him your talents, become good friends. one day then, it will be ok to ask him out, if he hasent allredy
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): No, i think its totally natural theres nothing wrong with asking a guy out, ive done it dozens of times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): well,, i dont think thats wrong..its very courages to me ! at the end of the day if you got rejected ,,you'll live anyway :o)
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): no way... i asked my 1st boyfriend out and he said yeh.. lads like you asking them out because it takes the pressure of them plus they love it when girls are forward like that x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Oh and p.s. There is no such thing as a guy who REALLY likes you but is afraid to ask you out. So PLEASE don't buy that line. A guy who doesn't have the drive or the balls to ask you out and fight for you is not worth your time anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Well female anonymous is right that it is the 21st century. And I am not quite sure what that has to do with anything. I do understand what you are trying to say that it is the 21 century so things are only going to get better for women, and perhaps the economy and basically life is progressing for the better. Alot of people have this misconception of the world. The truth is that changes in life/universe do not occur in a constant upward slope. Cause it doesn't. Everything occurs in cycles. So what goes up must come down. And history repeats itself. We are now entering a post feminist era which is basically the downward part of the cycle. Nowadays alot of women, including myself, want to embrace our role in society as we see it, because we no longer want to feel like victims.
The point is that feeling like it is ok to ask a guy out has nothing to do with progress or the century you live in. I guarantee you some women have been asking guys out since the beginning of time. It just has to do with your character. I personally don't like to ask a guy out not because I am old fashioned or anti feminist. For me it is a personal preference that I have developed from experience. Experience has taught me that I am better off being a certain way. So for now it is who I want to be and it is what I believe is right for me and only me.
So do whatever works for you. Cause the truth of the matter is that throughout life we are all destined to make mistakes and destined to learn from them. Why? I don't know. That's just how life is. So ask him out if that is what you want. If you are making a mistake then you will learn from it and not make it again.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): there's nothing wrong with asking a guy out. and him not asking you definitely doesnt mean he doesnt like you. sometimes the opposite is true- he really likes you and he is fraid u might decline. also, a guy who would take you for granted has everything to do with his character and nothing to do with you. its the 21st century, go for it.good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 There is nothing wrong in asking a guy out, and even less so if you want him to become your boyfriend.
The male anonymous poster said SOME men might take you for granted if you're the one to ask out. I'm afraid that can be true of some people. However, I don't think you should wait forever just to see if he gets the hint and asks you out. Go for him!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 in todays world world i see no problem with it. If you like him, ask him out. As a guy i would have no problems with it.
Good Luck!!
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reader, rk06  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 To straight-up answer your question... No. Its not wrong. Its really flattering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): If he likes you then he wouldn't mind at all probably, espcially if you keep it real casual. But do you know if he likes you?? The reality is that when a guy likes a girl she will never have to go through the trouble of asking him out because he will ask her out without hesitation. So if a guy hasn't asked you out yet there is a 99% chance that he does not like you. But there is also a 1% chance that he just hasn't noticed you and could actually end up liking you once he meets you. So you could ask him out just to see if there is that 1% chance that you will hit it off. As for asking him about boyfriend/girlfriend, I would absolutely not go there if I were you. Guys do not like pushy girls and if you ask him that you will just scare him away, unless he is completely desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): I don't think that there is anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out - I personally wouldn't have the guts to do it...so there you go.
Some guys might think that you're 'easy' if you ask one of them out, but there are many, many more guys out there who would be very flattered and most boys would probably prefer it if girls asked them out to save them the bother!!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Guys are just as anxious and afraid to ask girls out. They are usually quite pleased when a girl sticks her neck out first. These days it's perfectly fine, so whay not take advantage of it?
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (30 November 2007):
 No guy would ever get offended by gettng asked out. I've been asked out a few times and I take it as a compliment and had said yes to them. But you should know the rules: as a girl who is doing the asking, the date may have to be paid for 50/50... When a guy asks a girl he is ususlly obligated to pay for the whole date. Just a little heads up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay, what if i wanted this boy to be my bf? would it be weird for me to ask him or what?
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (30 November 2007):
 No, it's quite empowering to ask a guy out. It puts you i control. Even if he says no, you'll see you won't die, just like many many guys dont get devastated when they are refused. If anyting, you'll learn to look at the fun side of it and you can try it again ! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): In this day and age it doesn't really matter who does the asking. The end result is often the same, ie. two people getting together. Personally, I'd be flattered.
Ask away!
Phil
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reader, Kayleigh :) +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Hello :)
Nooo, theres nothing wrong with asking someone to go out with you, if you like someone you should just go for it, you only live once so yeah i think you should ask this guy :)
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): when you ask a guy out he'll start taking you for granted.
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