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writes:Hi Im 21 and iv got a dilema! Im thinking of loosing my virginity to a person i trust 100% although i trust him i cant help thinking about how turned off he will be when he see's the fat. Yes im a big girl and its not as if he doesnt know but he hasnt seen me with no clothes on and the thought makes me feel sick with worry! I guess i cant understand why he wants me when im this fat thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, CupidsSidekick +, writes (11 August 2008):
 as everyone else said i think he`ll see through your size and into your personality. also size doesnt make you ugly .. Many women are beautiful even if they are a size bigger than 6 :)
good luck x
Cupids Sidekick ;)
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reader, jadieb +, writes (9 August 2008):
jadieb is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys all your comments and points have helped alot. I guess i just want to make him happy and dont want an bad points to come of it. Your all right if he was so turned off by the fat he wouldnt be around and he wouldnt want to sleep with me. Thank you all will keep you updated
J xxx
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reader, Ashle08 +, writes (9 August 2008):
just because ure big it doesnt mean that people wont be atracted to u it is also things like your personality too !! be ure self
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reader, lexilou +, writes (9 August 2008):
 If he thought you were fat or disgusting in anyway he wouldnt want sex with you would he!! Just relax and be yourself and enjoy it. It took me a long time to understand that most men see past all that, its about more than just your body x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): That's a good picture, BabyGirl - Jordan looks like she's giving birth with that picture behind her!
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs. +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Hi there,
Tbh darlz, it don't matter if your the bigest girl in the world, he must love you for who u r, and what you are,
not the way you look,
and big girls can still be beutiful.
i use to think that about boys, but at the momment im thinking if they didnt like wot i looked like then they wouldnt be with me,
and i no some boys/men care about who they are rather than wot they look like,
don't be so ashamed
big girls are beautiful,
be strong about that x
hoopee it helpss x
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reader, doodles362 +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Big women are beautiful. He obviously loves you for who you are,, or he wouldnt have stuck around in the first place :]. Dont rush into things, take it slow, and talk to him about it, explain why your worried, i'm sure he'll undertand, afterall nobody is ever happy with they're physical appearance. But remember nobodys perfect And you are beautiful no matter what anybody says :]
take care, hope i helped ;]x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 I know a girl who's always been very big and has never had trouble getting someone. That's because of her personality, and, also, for another factor: she lets you see her being big is part of her self, lets you know that won't change, and makes it clear she's willing to go ahead with the relationship if you accept that fact. She's been married twice :-).
Also, like the other guys said, some guys do prefer big women. My late grandfather used to say "but... they are called sins of the flesh", meaning he preferred girls with real curves. Many men do, too.
Don't worry and just be yourself. Nobody is perfect, physically or otherwise. And, if anybody were indeed perfect, perhaps it would be at the expense of personality. Once I read about a Brazilian model who underwent surgery to remove... one and a half pounds of fat. She had some problems and went into coma. She was not what I would describe as "perfect", and then I wonder how prefers to undergo surgery for that little weight.
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reader, Theoneandonlybutterfly  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 First of all if he dont like big girls he would'nt have talk to you in the first place and if you are feeling him ask him why u and he should give you a great answers to your problem. Have more self-Confidence in yourself because if you dont you will never have sex or go on dates. I am big and i never had a problem finding a guy to accept me for who i am because if they dont they was not for me and it's plenty of fish in the ocean so HAVE FUN AND GET THAT CONFIDENCE UP BECAUSE WITH OUT IT YOU NEVER GOING TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS AND BE SAFE!!!
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Some guys prefer larger women. He can see your size with your clothes on and it hasn't put him off, so obviously he's a guy worth holding out for. If he was going to be turned off by your size, he wouldn't have shown interest in the first place.
He likes you for YOU, he'd take you whatever size you were. It sounds like love to me. Go for it. Be a bit more confident about yourself.
http://cosmetic-makeovers.com/files/posts/katie-price-lingerie.jpg
The girl on the end. She's a size 18, and she's proud. People were cheering for her as she walked past them in the supermarket. She is confident in her own body. If she can do that in front of thousands of people, despite worrying what people may think of her, I don't think you should be worried about it with your boyfriend.
Hope I helped x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Ok - so you're a bit on the big side. That's not a problem for a bloke who likes big women. He's probably drooling at the thought of wallowing in all that flesh, but my guess is you're not half as fat as you think you are.
Just think about how Fern britton was before she had her stomach stapled. Bloody big woman, but I for one wouldn't have minded fighting my way through her flab!
It's the personality that attracts you see, and it's not necessarily the size that puts men off. An unsmiling woman would hold no attraction whatsoever for me, but Fern is always smiling no matter what. She's got a sense of humour, which is all important.
Trust me, he won't be put off, and he'll be chomping at the bit to dive in there!
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (8 August 2008):
My other half is much slimmer than me and i am a big girl and to be honest it took me quite some time to get passed it so i know how your feeling.You need to gain some self confidence, although your big you are still beutifull and you will probably find your not even as big as you think you are.If this man loves you then you have nothing to worry about. Take things slow and when the time is right you will feel comfortable with him seeing you naked. If you are really that worried about it then explain that to him and i am sure he will listen.
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