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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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A married man has said he is interested in me, and I am interested in him...
Q. Hi All A married man wants me to have an affair with him. He told me he was married straight away and that the decison was mine to make. I really liked him instantly and thats never happend to me before. I know that it's wrong but i dont think i c...
A. 6 July 2008: He is being unfaithful to his wife, but very clear with you: don't expect this relationship to go beyond sex. You will eventually have to move on. Maybe the wife will find out about the relationship, too.
The decision is yours.... (read in full...)
Circumcised masturbation - any ideas?
Q. Hey guys, and gals =) I'm 14 (Turning 14 in 2 months wooohoo Learners license :D) Any who me and my gf have been going out for a month now and she's already given me a dry handjob of sorts :) Anyway I'm circumcised and I can still "Jerk off" But...
A. 6 July 2008: On the basis of the historical fact that Jews continue to be fruitful and multiply, and, also, that moslems and many other people around the world are circumcised but the population still grows, I can tell you this much: yeah, you will cum.... (read in full...)
I had a terrible, vivid dream about my boyfriend and his ex! Could it mean something?
Q. Hi there, Well last night i had this terrible dream, about my boyfriend going back to poland to see his ex-gf. And i followed him. And we met up and his ex-gf was pissed that i came, and so on. But we ended up staying at her house. I had my own room...
A. 5 July 2008: It means you're afraid something might happen between the two.... (read in full...)
Why does he say he has no time in his life for me yet tells me he wants to marry me? Does this make sense?
Q. hopefully someone can help me find the answers on this one. Why would a man persistently tell you he wants to settle down and marry you every time you speak to him, but then make no effort to contact you . When I have asked him is this what...
A. 5 July 2008: Dear poster, I can relate to your situation. I came to this site to understand what had gone wrong with a girl I met. This girl was not speaking the way I needed her to speak if I was to understand her correctly.
I don't know why this guy is d... (read in full...)
For Men: Questions about women!
Q. This is kind of a funny question but why do men like to smell women's hair? Is a womens scent attracting to a man? I know that everybody likes someone to smell good but is this like a sign of beauty? This is just a fun question for men what is it i...
A. 4 July 2008: As Finn McCool said, many people have their particular scents. Sometimes these scents smell "good" to you, and add to the attraction you might feel.... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 4 July 2008: As to really liking both girls, my opinion is that you should pick only one. You can't love them both.
Girls who grow up without a father figure do grow in a different situation and that affects their relationships in the future. Some have pro... (read in full...)
Are there different types of orgasm?
Q. Are there diffrent types of orgasims? I can only get one if a man rubs my upper vaginal area where you pee. I feel good when I have intercourse but don't orgasim. What's my prob? thanx for input...
A. 4 July 2008: Many women don't orgasm with penetration alone. Here's an excellent article on this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/advice-to-young-men-about-young-women.html
I know this will help you.... (read in full...)
Are we in a relationship, just without the label? Is he worth it?
Q. ok, i was wondering if anyone could help me ... Basically, around three months ago i met this guy, and we hit it off immediately. we dated for about 3 weeks, and then it all ended because he told me that he knew he didn't want anything more, a...
A. 4 July 2008: I agree with the girls.
I would be very interested in having the "label". His telling everyone that you're his girlfriend would give you grounds to demand preferential treatment, namely not dating anyone else and perhaps taking the relation... (read in full...)
I've wasted my life on a loser, now what am I going to do?
Q. Not sure where to start here really, but I feel I've got my 'just desserts'. I left a loving relationship (but not exciting one) for someone which was no more than a conman, in respect of who he really was. We've now been married 20yrs and all he h...
A. 4 July 2008: It seems you're between a rock and a hard place, but it seems the leaving is the lesser evil. I'm sorry for you. I don't know the particulars of your legal system, either, so I will just say that I don't see him changing his ways. If he's into ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. I am considering to lose my virginity seeing a prostitute. Now I would like to hear some people's advice who have been in a similar situation. I am male, 23 years old and suffer from a quite bad case of virginity - so to say. I have never even ...
A. 3 July 2008: Jester, if you don't want to run the risk of getting a STD, I can give you but one advice: don't have sex, ever. There's no other sure way.
There are not bad cases of virginity. That is a funny way to put it. You're a shy guy who doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of a boy without making him feel bad?
Q. there's this guy that really likes me but i don't like him. He always write me messages and asks me do i think he's unattractive but i said no because i didn't want to make him feel bad. He is really starting to get annoying because now it's the ...
A. 3 July 2008: Tell the guy that you appreciate his interest but don't feel the same way as him, and that you do find him unattractive. Tell him that you wish him the best, and that will be it. He will be awful, of course, but that will happen anyways, since ... (read in full...)
What do you do in a relationship that's not functioning anymore?
Q. What do u do when you are in a relationship that just isn't functioning anymore? When you've given all you've got but just can't anymore. My boyfriend and I have a daughter together. We've been together for six years now but its been crazy. ...
A. 3 July 2008: The best advice I have ever received came from Clint Eastwood (though he didn't say that to me, or in person): "Call your own shots".
The way you wrote your message lets me see that you're waiting for him to take the initiative and change t... (read in full...)
He misses the excitement, and wants that 'lifestyle' back. I don't know what to do.
Q. Dear Cupid, Where do I start? We have been together for almost 20 years, married for 6 years. We have been together 24/7 for most of those 20 years. We worked together, lived together. When we got together, we did not live together or work togethe...
A. 1 July 2008: We all do that when we're very much in love, to the point that we miss that we need to love ourselves as well.
Sometimes "our mind" says one thing and "our heart" another. Some other times, as in your case, one half of our heart tells us that som... (read in full...)
Do his actions show that he fancies me? What do you think?
Q. Does he fancy me? I have known this guy for 4 years and over the past couple of years we have become good friends, especially in the last 6 months. He has always had mostly female friends and so is comfortable around us all and the more he se...
A. 1 July 2008: If YOU love him, go for him.
Signed, someone who has loved and decided not to go for the person. And regretted it.
What do you stand to lose? If he doesn't like you, he's going away anyways...... (read in full...)
Could sharp pains in my head be linked to masturbation?
Q. Hi, i am a 15yr old male incase the above says otherwise. I masturbate frequently but recently have had a problem. I occasionaly get sharp pains in my head for a short while (for about 15-30mins). Also, I don't know if this is relevant but I think I ...
A. 1 July 2008: Masturbation doesn't produce headaches. Go see a doctor because the headaches you have had all of your life surely have a different cause, and THAT you need to have checked. You don't have to mention masturbation; the doctor knows the two are not ... (read in full...)
He misses the excitement, and wants that 'lifestyle' back. I don't know what to do.
Q. Dear Cupid, Where do I start? We have been together for almost 20 years, married for 6 years. We have been together 24/7 for most of those 20 years. We worked together, lived together. When we got together, we did not live together or work togethe...
A. 30 June 2008: No, dear poster: I'm afraid you're simply used to living with him, and having someone to love, even if he doesn't love you back as you should.
Sometimes life decides for us. You can't continue to sustain his "lifestyle". Tell him so. If he lo... (read in full...)
He misses the excitement, and wants that 'lifestyle' back. I don't know what to do.
Q. Dear Cupid, Where do I start? We have been together for almost 20 years, married for 6 years. We have been together 24/7 for most of those 20 years. We worked together, lived together. When we got together, we did not live together or work togethe...
A. 30 June 2008: Dear poster, it seems like he he always got what he wanted. Sounds like a spoiled child, not an adult who's retiring. I think it wouldn't do him some damage to FINALLY see life as it is. If he can't, then I think you'd be better off without him. ... (read in full...)
Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 30 June 2008: Dear poster, I think you're a little insecure about his love, too. The fact that he likes black women, and watches that kind of porn, makes you think that he wishes he could be with a black woman. I don't think so. This is understandable. The ... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 29 June 2008: All right, q1605 :-). Peace and love (you find your girl and I will find mine)... (read in full...)
Have I wasted the last 5 years?
Q. I've been with my guy for nearly 5 years and we have lived together now for over a year. I'm 23 and he's 27. I've known i want to marry him, have kids with him and spend the rest of my life with him probably for the last 4 and half years. But I ...
A. 29 June 2008: Sometimes we are sure we want to marry somebody, but the other person is not. There is no reason why two people would necessarily be at the same point in their relationship at the same time.
I think that perhaps he needs some time to be sure. H... (read in full...)
What would happen if the police caught a 30 year old kissing a 15 year old???
Q. what would happen if the police caught a 30year old kissing a 15year old?? ...
A. 29 June 2008: I assume you mean "kissing the fifteen year old as he would kiss a woman he had a relationship with", not "kissing her as he would kiss his daughter".
In many countries, he would be breaking the law. Thirty year olds are not supposed to have any... (read in full...)
Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 29 June 2008: Here's the easiest part of my opinion: yes, you're absolutely right to be upset about his lying to you about the porn. As is always the case, it's best to be honest, open, direct and clear. He shouldn't have lied to you about his watching porn.
... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 29 June 2008: Troubledtoomuch is so right: "I think that is is OK for both men and women to tell the other how they like to kiss, as long as it does not seem to critical". The poster's problem is that she doesn't find the way not to seem critical. I guess that ... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 28 June 2008: Flynn 24, you don't speak too often, but you do say good things. Still, let's hear the girls. Knowing we do something wrong helps us improve it. And perhaps this can help us have the moral authority to tell a girl that she's not a good kisser ... (read in full...)
I give him oral, so why doesn' t he ever return the favour?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a relationship question. I've been with my bf for a year but we've been having sex since the beginning(I knew him for a long time I knew I was ready). I have also been giving him oral sex. Befor me he went out with a girl that ...
A. 28 June 2008: I don't think the fact that he doesn't give you cunnilingus means he doesn't love you. Some people are not into this sexual practice.
However, I think there should have been an honest and open conversation about this.
By the way, you're priv... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin - I'm left wondering whether she is or not. My fiance`s past relationship is bothering me.
Q. This question stems from my fiances past relationship and my inexperience with relationships, but before I think crazy things I need your experienced advice. This is a long and boring read so bear with me if you really want to help me. ABOUT ME ...
A. 28 June 2008: It's a little difficult to relate to your situation for me. It does seem your upbringing is way more conservative than that of so many of us. It seems like you have what people call and "arranged marriage", that is, the traditional type in which ... (read in full...)
I have NO facial hair! Is that a turn off to the girls??
Q. Ok, I'm 16 years old, and basically my problem is that I currently have no facial hair!... I know i was a little behind my mates when it came to pubity, but now I'm pretty much the same as them; I have a reasonable amount of pubic hair,...
A. 28 June 2008: When I was sixteen, I didn't have as much facial hair as I do now. I didn't have a beard then, for example. Now I do.
I guess that facial hair, like many other body characteristics, is a turn-on or a turn-off depending on who your girl is. My ... (read in full...)
I'm working hard to ensure my teen daughter's educational future, but she doesn't appreciate it nor cares! What should I do??
Q. hello to everyone. i need some advice ASAP my daughter is only 15 she is now crazy about her bf who is only 18 years old and know nothing but only to smoke and drink. my daughter is now on he first stage of university but she is getting crazy now ...
A. 28 June 2008: It's a rare teen-ager who truly appreciates all the effort parents make or the chances s/he misses. Many teen-agers don't really have a clue of what the real world is like. They think they don't have to work hard to carry on. And then, even as an ... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 28 June 2008: I'm afraid you're wrong, q1605. The Sister is not only a Sister, but also a friend of mine, and I have actually seen a picture of hers.... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 28 June 2008: You know girls, I'm beginning to enjoy this. Sure it gets you a bit to think that you considered yourself a master and you were a huge turn-off. I can imagine what it would be like to be involved with someone whose kisses you just don't enjoy. ... (read in full...)
Does my mother have a right to be mad at me for losing my virginity? I'm 20!
Q. This will be long so i apologise in advance. I will start at the beginning. I have a boyfriend since february and am crazy about him. I am 20 and after a few weeks we slept together. It was my first time but it wasnt his. I was not pressuri...
A. 28 June 2008: I agree with Annalisa. All I can add is that mothers worry about pregnancies, too. That said, if you want to sleep with someone, nobody can tell you not to.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 27 June 2008: I just learned that it is called "corn hair" in English.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm sorry I couldn't find another song I had for you, Chica Blusera. "My girl with the hair of corn" In case you don't know, corn cobs have long, blonde "hairs". There's this song in which a rough peasant from the remote mountains sings like ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on all his girlfriends and now I find condoms! I'm pregnant with his child so will things just sort themselves out?
Q. I have been with the guy Im seeing for 7 months,I am also 5 months pregnant which caused tons of probs but seem to be sorting themselves out now. So after an awful few months of finding out we'd be parents we have recently started getting on. I've ...
A. 27 June 2008: The person you describe does not inspire any confidence. The biggest red flag I see here is that he won't acknowledge a relationship with you even though your common child means he does have one, that will last for a lifetime. He seems to want to ... (read in full...)
I think I might be gay - or psychologically disturbed
Q. Okay, so I think i may be gay. Gay porn really turns me on but I feel so gross. Its not because I'm gay, its because I fantasize about my highschool mates raping me. Is that wrong or are there others like me. And another question: how do I know if a ...
A. 27 June 2008: If your reason not to give the other guy fellatio was that you were "too drunk" to do it, then you're gay, pal. The idea of fellatio for another man does not shock you, as it does shock heterosexuals.
There does seem to be something wrong ab... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: Well, poster, I wish you the best. From your update, it seems like you're doing your best and your mutual problem doesn't change. I do hope you and your husband solve it.
As to being attracted to other men, it will happen again. I suppose ... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 27 June 2008: The only comment I can make is that perhaps this is yet another way to confirm that you need to keep yourself on check. We all want to think that we're great kissers and that we take our women all through the Milky Way and beyond. We should know ... (read in full...)
I have a problem staying hard after foreplay....help!!
Q. Hi there, i'm 16 years old, and i've been dating this girl for about a month... We started staying over each others house's, and we gradually got further (sexually) each time, untill the first night when we both decided we wanted sex... So, a...
A. 27 June 2008: It Is Common if You Are Nervous. Tell Your Girl About It. Try Again, and, If Peter Won't Help, Give Her Pleasure in Another Manner. Don't Just Let Her Go Away. I Suggest You Don't Let Her Down, but You Do Go Down.
Don't See a Doctor. We Have ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I disagree a bit with Lonewolf. Don't "hope" that your husband will notice the great wife he has. That is the same as "hoping" he won't cheat, though all the signs are there. After ten years of marriage, I bet he knows the good woman he has. ... (read in full...)
Group sex may be fun, but at the same time, I feel it's cheating.
Q. my boyfriend and i have a great sex life (when we find time lol) well we are planning a camping trip with another couple (who are married) for next weekend. my boyfriend mentioned to me that they may ask us to join them for group sex, because they...
A. 27 June 2008: What you should or shouldn't do is your business. However, you have already told us you don't WANT to have group sex. So, do as you want.
In my opinion, your boyfriend is asking you to to something that pleases him and you are afraid of saying a... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: Poster, you feel attracted to this man because he is giving you the undivided attention you don't seem to be getting at home. It's not just nature at work; it's also the dynamics of your situation. I won't cast a stone at you, and I don't think ... (read in full...)
I love my husband, but I'm attracted to another man, help!
Q. I've been married for over 10 years to my highschool sweetheart. We have two children. He's a good dad and husband. Neither of us have other sexual partners. I am attracted to another man. No lines have been crossed, and I doubt this guy even knows. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I agree with Annalisa. The fact that you're in a very happy and fine-tuned relationship doesn't mean you won't feel attraction for anyone else. So will your husband, by the way. But you just can't go with the winds. I think you would expect him ... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: You're welcome.... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: I know for a fact that the Sister is like the pretty blond girl in the Monster's Family :-). Maybe all the other guys are freaks, but she isn't.... (read in full...)
Dating him over 8 months and he refuses to let me to meet his family!!
Q. When should you expect to meet his family? We have been dating for over 8 months. I have met his son but no one else. He has met my whole family and alot of my friends. He works with his family in the family business just down the road from my wor...
A. 27 June 2008: Sorry, I disagree partially with the good Sis. Sometimes people don't want you to meet their families because they want to get rid of you without any questions. However, the Sis does have a point: maybe his family is the problem. He might not ... (read in full...)
Another porn problem, with a twist...
Q. OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm not sure where your problem lies. I am not clear whether it is his watching porn that bothers you, or the fact that he has a thing for black porn, or perhaps that you're afraid his watching black porn might mean he prefers his ex. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 25 June 2008: Chica Blusera, aquí te va:
http://es.youtube.com/watch?v=va1TYFeMdeI... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Muchas gracias por el elogio :-), Chica Blusera. No te desesperes que tu momento ha de llegar. ¡Cómo me habría gustado que las gringas que he conocido pensaran como tú!
¿Alguna vez has oído "Carito", de Carlos Vives? Te la recomien... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: No hay problema, Chica Blusera. Alguien te aparecerá, pero no te cierres las puertas tú sola.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Annalisa, you and I are Latin, and we know it, but Americans don't. The poster thinks in English and sees herself as American.... (read in full...)
How can I get a latin guy to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I'm so scared that I'm never going to be happy. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I know very few people like me, who are attracted to people of a different culture or background. I'm an American and Floridian of mixed British and European ...
A. 24 June 2008: Dear poster, I'm glad I found your question, because I can help you. I happen to be a Mexican man who prefers Americans or Canadians. I can very much relate to what you are saying here: it is not that I don't like women of my own culture, but I ... (read in full...)
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