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writes:Hello guys, just a quick question. For about three months i have been bumping into this man. They don't appear to be usual meetings either. First he nearly knocked me down, which obviously set me off noticing him. It was my fault of course, cos i wasnt watching where i was going lolAnyway it seemed to set off a series of meetings.Only the day after i saw him in the supermarket car park and he recognised me in my own car, and waved. Then for a week i didnt see him. But while i was walking in town i saw him coming down the escalator, and my first thought was, 'god there he is again' and then it was, 'how come i keep seeing him'He just smiled at me that time.But now for a few weeks i have been seeing him every day. He now speaks to me, but we are still meeting in extraordinary circumstances, such as i was walking with my friend and we were just having a laugh and the next moment i was so shocked i exclaimed 'Not again' and my friend wanted to know what the matter was. I'd seen him again coming towards us, but i didnt get time to tell her anything. He stopped, said hello, made a joke about meeting again and then he walked off.And just today i was hurrying to my car, my head down, trying to not get a face full of rain and i bumped into him. This time he said, 'This is getting daft. Meet me for a drink tomorrow.'He took it for granted that i would meet him, because off he went, without me agreeing to it, but what the heck, i'd probably only bump into him again lolThe thing is, do you believe in fate? I don't normally, but the fact we keep meeting, is strange in itself, because i don't meet him in my home area, i meet him where i work. And then once in town? And on a street with my friend?I am beginning to think i have a stalker. But he appears quite normal lol. He has lovely blue eyes and is very pleasant.What do you think? I don't see how i can meet him for a drink tomorrow because he never said where, but i suppose if i turn up where i was today, i will see him there? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (11 August 2008):
 The chances are it's neither fate nor a stalker. Rather, you probably past each other loads of times before, but you just didn't notice. After all, we all walk past 100s of people every day and when those people live or work in the same area as us we probably pass them quite often each week.
Now that you've met in rather unusual circumstances when ever you do pass each other you naturally notice each other.
His "meet for a drink" comment was probably a joke, but one that shows he is aware of how often you seem to be bumping into each other as you are.
If you like him and would like to meet him for a drink you have the perfect way to ask now. Next time you bump into him make a point of saying "Ok, where and when?"
And if you don't, then you have nothing to worry about - it's just one of lifes little oddities.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 i believe in fate. when i was in france i met a guy once and ran into him maybe 4 times during the next week completely by chance.
if you and this man have similar jobs, friends, tastes, chances are you frequent the same places. that could have a lot to do with why you keep running into each other. it could mean the two of you could turn into very compatible friends...
however, i would play it safe. if you do choose to meet up for a drink, bring a friend. even if people look nice, you never know their motives. and if he turns out normal you can just tell him honestly you were a bit scared he was a stalker just because fate played so strong a role in the two of you meeting. i'm sure he would get a kick out of it.
good luck!
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reader, Spiffeh.. +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Maybe he really liked the look of you and started hanging about places that everyone would go at some point such as the shops to meet you again.
but i do believe in fate and destiny so i would advise you to meet him and if he seems creepy or lets slip that he is some mad stalker make sure you make it clear to him you will contact the police if he doesnt stop pestering you.. =] x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I don't believe much in coincidences, though sometimes things do happen. Once, I was walking in Mexico City (not where I live) and happened to look at this bus. Someone waved his hand at me, and there he was, a friend from college. None of us knew the other one was there. You have to believe that our meeting there, in a city with over twenty million people, in any street and just because both of us happened to look in the same direction, has to be a big coincidence.
It seems this guy isn't meeting you by accident. I might be wrong, but I believe that perhaps his meeting you every day might be coincidence, but his asking you out is not. I'm not sure he's a stalker. He might have been bumping into you by chance, liked you, purposefully tried to keep on meeting you, and now wants something. However, he never said WHERE you would meet him. Maybe he was just playing a joke on you?
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reader, The Listener +, writes (11 August 2008):
 This seems quite strange. Although it may be 'fate', that is something you must believe in personally for it to play a factor. It is quite possible he has been stalking you, especially if he asked you for a drink. However, as he didn't say a time or place, he may have been joking when he said it and was referencing how you keep bumping into each other. It may just be that he lives in the area you work and that is why you have all of these meetings. Still, i would give it some time and wait before deciding to do anything. Hope everything works out well for you.
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