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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard to find out why she is doing ... (167 words)

I'm ready to move on and be happy. Maybe my ex just isn't the one?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4395 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - so me and my ex have broken up for about 2 1/2 months now, we still talk and are friends, we were going to start dating in about a month and give us another try (we were together for about 3 years), but today she came to my house to tell me that she is pregnant with someone ... (393 words)

Why is it so hard to find someone who will give you unconditional love?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why is it so hard to find someone who will give you unconditional love? How come some people have it and most dont? Id like to have it but my husbands love is conditional. Why is it so hard to love someone no matter what happens? Why cant love be stronger than anything anyone ... (56 words)

Boyfriend reflecting his guilt on me, can this all change?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've already posted on here a few times due to relationship problems but I'm really miserable with it now, I'm constantly thinking and worrying, and as a result I'm on edge. I can't enjoy work, university or time with friends, because I'm so bogged down with concern. I've... (460 words)

She broke up with me because we are so different - Now she wants to try again, I need some advice.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - i have no idea what to do right now. my ex gf broke up with me and said we are just too different and doesn't see how we can work. which we are very different, i can't dispute that with her. we've had a lot of disagreements and fights that have come from our differences. i love ... (230 words)

I want a girlfriend, how can I approach the girls I go to college with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - i goto college and when i walk around college there are some really attractive girls. what I want to know is what should I say to them. I have never seen them before in my life and I want a girlfriend so what can I say to them when I go up to them. what should I do I u... (120 words)

My bf of 2 years never has time for me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I don't know whether I'm making big deal out of it or not. My bf of 2 years never has time for me. Whenever I call or send message he never responds. If he is busy can't he just send me a simple text so I wont call or wait for his call. I know I kind of sound cl... (193 words)

This situation is a mess, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's a triangle love story that soon enough is going to turn into a disaster.. There this guy let's call him(mark)and a girl(cindy) and me..so mark really liked me,and I wasn't aware of it but I very well knew that cindy liked mark cuz she confided in me,me and mark are real... (266 words)

Is this how disagreements should pan out? When I argue with her I feel completely emasculated

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi there So me and my girlfriend were supposed to go away this weekend leaving on Friday. Now I had a sports game on the Friday afternoon and I needed to sort out the times of the game before I could confirm with her if I would play or if I would miss the game to get an ... (236 words)

Break up or stay with her? She's warned me that she may want to sleep with another guy, just randomly, in the future.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend has told me that she thinks there will come a time when she wants to sleep with another guy just randomly. She said she doesn't know when. She said that she now considered us to be only slightly more than friends but wants to still be 'with me' im not sure h... (165 words)

How can I get out of this confused mess that's happened since I split up with my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - im in a right mess split up with my ex. A few months back we occasionally slept together i recently found out he was dating this girl. I felt really hurt as he had slept with me two days before i found out. I went mad and messaged her to tell her what had happened. We did... (180 words)

I don't think my ex will ever let me move on

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - its been 20 days i broke up with my verbally abusive ex, but he still keeps on messaging me goodnight and good morning text, he is saying that he has realised his mistake , now he can understand my importance. he keeps on calling me all of the time.he keeps on messaging me ... (103 words)

B/f broke up because of my good looks and what his friend said??

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, It took me two days to even talk about this,cause I'm unable to wrap around what happened to me.. My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me yesterday for a reason sooo silly and immatur'ish' if I can say.. When he first met me,he was very shy spoke less,and I found o... (290 words)

His family are polygamist. That's why my parents are against me seeing my Bf. How can I get my parents to accept my Bf?,

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 18 yrs old and in my first year of college. I have been seeing this amazing guy (Matt) since early september. He is sweet,funny, fun and just an all around nice guy. He is very focused on school and works a part time job. My parents met him several times and they t... (232 words)

2 children, a 3rd on the way. I fee blessed but overwhelmed. How do I cope?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I could really use some advice and someone to talk to in general. Some backround, Im 23, my fiance is 26 in nov. We have two young children (ages1 and 2) we both work and alternate our schedules around e/o, except sunday, the day my mom babysits, which is very helpful. We ... (257 words)

Once I ejaculate, I tend to never want to see them again. Is this normal???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 17 and I'm always making new friends on Omegle. I'm gay and tend to masturbate with the strangers on there. Once I ejaculate, I tend to never want to see them again. Is this normal? Or is it a psychological reaction? Also, do you think it's okay to go out with men 2 y... (80 words)

They actually filmed her having a heart attack and I don't know how to deal with it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My fiance recently had a heart attack, she's fit and healthy so it was surprising for her to have this - it's due to stress, the doctors say but we can't be sure. It's certainly not her diet, she eats well, a mainly Mediterranean diet, due to being a mixture of Portuguese, ... (284 words)

When do you know it's the right time to break up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - When do you know when to break up? Me and my boyfriend have been together about 6 months, which might not sound very long, but its by far my most serious and long term relationship. Most of the time I'm so happy with him, but sometimes I feel like he takes me for granted and ... (105 words)

Could my boyfriend be watching porn because he's depressed?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner watches porn and says he does it because he feels depressed. So, to the men... Is this just an excuse or could he be telling the truth? Also, how could looking at pictures of naked women help him to feel better without masturbating over them? Thank... (57 words)

What do you appreciate most about DearCupid.org? This is also a big thank you to all the aunts and uncles on here!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So, as you have probably gathered, this isn't a question. More of a massive thank you to all the fabulous people on here who give great advice day after day on this site!! I have been on this site for a few years now, and have been posting about a guy in particular who c... (227 words)

Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Or does it grow with time?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Aunts and Uncles My questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this relationship? Am I being childish ... (73 words)

How can I get my boyfriend back? My lies caused the break up. I lied because I knew he would not like the truth.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for over 3 years now, on and off. He has always complained about my lying but the thing is then I did it to protect him since I knew he wouldn't like the truth. I know now it was stupid of me. Everytime he'd accuse me of lying, ... (135 words)

Should I let her remarks undermine my trust in him? She claims I was second best, that he chose me because her friend didn't want him.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I found out my boyfriend cheated on me a few years ago Anyways we got back on track solved all the problems in our relationship, and everything was going great. We have a child our own home and I am madly in love with him. My problem is a few weeks ago I was reminded... (154 words)

Could my hunch be right? Could he turn into a stuffy old man who doesn't know how to love life and enjoy life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a new boyfriend and I feel really comfortable with him. But something bothers me. He does not seem to have many friends. Perhaps no close friends at all. He talk about work colleagues. It's as if he arrived in this world and never made friends much. He invited me to ... (435 words)

He acts like every little problem is doomsday. Is this relationship viable? For a long term future together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I am losing feelings for my boyfriend. I am 44, he is 47. We have been dating for almost 2 years. He works too much and we hardly ever see each other. I keep telling myself that I'm getting used to it...but I'm not. I feel sorry for myself and feel myself starting ... (796 words)

What is your feelings on someone getting drunk and making out with another person?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey guys and girls, about three weeks ago I started dating this girl named lets say Cindy. We spent a lot of time together just watching movies, having sex, talking, and really liking each other. Cindy even bought me a Star Wars t-shirt when she was out shopping, becaus... (317 words)

I loaned boyfriend money and he hasn't paid it all back but I may need it! How do I go about this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. My problem is I grew up poor and I worry about money. I earn enough to pay my bills and save a bit. From time to time I have given my bf money when he needed help, and recently this has happened 2 months in a row. Plus a couple of times before. I have not made a ... (192 words)

I think I like a guy my friend used to date and had a recent break up with. Where do I go with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I have this friend who i've only ever seen as a friend but recently i've started to think differently about him. I think he's pretty attractive but he makes me laugh all the time and ive started to think that maybe i do fancy him and am interested in just seeing where th... (175 words)

Dating for 2.5 years turning into a FWB relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4377 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Agony Aunts, I've posted a few questions here as of late (some anonymous), My (now ex) girlfriend broke up with me just under 2 weeks ago saying that we are now on different levels in our lives but that she still loves me - but not sure if she's still in-love with me.... (742 words)

How can I rebuild relationships with friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i'm really disappointed in my self. i made a group of friends a year ago and over time i have dissapointed them because they told me they always have to take care of me and my things because i get drunk and loose my stuff and never come on time. everyone has told i need to ... (182 words)

Disturbed by his actions in bed

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - When a guy is giving you oral sex and he holds his breath, does it mean you smell down there? And in the middle of sex, he gives a disgusted look, does it mean he IS disgusted with you? ... (39 words)

Does he love and respect me or just want sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Im a 15 yr old and im a virgin. My bf is 17 and he is not a virgin. We have been dating for 2yrs now, we have a problem now everytime when we are alon he always try to have sex with me,i don't allow him. He will say "i knew it you don't want to make love with because you know ... (117 words)

Is this the sort of person I should date? He lied and now says I'm making a bid deal out of things

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been going out with my bf for a year. I won't call myself psychic but let us just say I have a very strong 6th sense that is never wrong: normally they come in the form of dreams which will be recurring. (Keep an open mind here please, don't judge!) When I met my ... (668 words)

Do I help a friend? Or choose my ex and hope that she chooses me also?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - my ex girlfriend and i broke up about two weeks ago. we broke up for a lot of different reasons. we love each other but we are very different people with very different personalities and viewpoints. we have had talk of getting back together but she's got a lot going on rig... (298 words)

What do you do when a guys mum doesn't want you to date him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - my question is simple.....What do you do when a guys mum doesn't want you to date him?.... Okay, so I like this guy...But there is one problem, His mum simply will not let me date him, according to her I am too young for him... Is 2 years that big of an age gap ? I really l... (143 words)

Would it be ok to ask her out when she turns 16?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4390 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - ok this is going to sound so wrong to moit of you but its been palying on my mind for do long now i need help badly i am 21 yet i have felaing for a 15 year old i know this is so wrong as of the age gap but i genuinly have fealings for her ITS NOT ABOUT SEX AT ALL as im chris... (217 words)

Am I too old school or he has boundary issues?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am having some issues in my relationship, and I don’t know if its due to boundaries issues or me being old school. I grew up with a lot of guys, I get along with guys better than girls, but I have female friends as well, which means I have not... (468 words)

I'm jealous that he could be talking to prettier girls

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4404 days ago

31 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been talking to this guy for like 2 month now and the more we've been talking I've really started to like him. However after my previous relationshipi get jealous really easily which I really hate about myself! The other day we were texting and I asked what he was upto... (139 words)

Is it really about the size?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

31 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - My girl friend has had only one partner in the past and that is who she lost her virginity to. We both are sexually active and she says she is happy. The problem is that most of the time when we have sexuall intercourse she doesn't orgasm. She told me everytime she had sex with ... (123 words)

I can't date him but don't want my friend to date him either!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I've recently joined a band and have feelings for member in it. He asked me if I liked him but I didn't want to make things awkward in our band so said know even though I really like him. Over the last few days a friend of mine has been talking to him and I think they both ... (118 words)

My boyfriend cheated on me. Has anyone taken their cheating boyfriend back?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4397 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - FIrst my question is, is there anyone out there who took their boyfriend back after cheating and is still happy today? With trust and no more cheating? My story: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. He is my first and only boyfriend. At th... (351 words)

My fiance said her ex was a better lover.

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 2857 days ago

30 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I asked my FI to marry me. I h... (1202 words)

What are your best survival tips to help you and your loved ones in a Super Storm like Sandy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - to all the wonderful people in Dear Cupid affected by Super Storm Sandy my Good Wishes to you. Such natural events can have repercussions on family life, relationships, friendships and cause personal pain. Wherever you are, if you've missed flights to meet up with family, att... (168 words)

After sex I feel like I have used my girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

30 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - everytime i make love to my girlfriend after i climax i feel really bad like i have used her a sense of failure and disgust, does every guy feel that ??... (31 words)

After 3 dates she broke up with me because she said I acted like I didin't like her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, this girl i have been seeing has just 'dumped' me, so i was wondering if you help me pleease cos im gutted! basicly i had 3 dates with her, they were all good, i enjoyed them, and she ses she enjoyed them too, and yesterday morning she just randomly dumped me saying... (358 words)

Timing seems to be my biggest enemy here so will waiting fix that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

30 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey everyone, I had a general question to ask. A little backstory: I'm dating someone, but we're not bf/gf. Both 17 and seniors in high school. I asked her out and she said she needed to hang out with me a little more. Two months later as I yesterday she tells me she can... (324 words)

So much porn on boyfriend's computer has really grossed me out

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4398 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so I've had issues with my boyfriend and porn from the gate im insecure and hes bot very understanding of that but whatever just some history for ya .... Anyway I went to his pad to do some work for my college courses i'm in and ( we have been together her 7 years hes 41 i... (216 words)

Is my boyfriend stealing from me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4400 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I dont mean to accuse my boyfriend, but when I was out with him the other week when i did NOT spend a penny, and I went out with 10 pound, I came back with no money at all, not even for the bus. I thought nothing of it until the other day where I lost 15 pound, I only lose the ... (78 words)

Does he still love me? Or there is another girl

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Im a 15 year old girl and i've dating my bf for 2yrs. We met at school last yr that where we started dating,my problem is that this yr since we in different schools he doen't call or send me sms,when i try to call him he always says "i can't talk right now" then he will drop ... (94 words)

Did my alcoholic husband cheat on me, and was it to get back at me for cheating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4403 days ago

30 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband has a drinking problem and likes to stay out later than I think is right especially on weekday nights. Things haven't been going well for us and on Monday we decided that he should stay in the camper for a little while. On Thursday morning I had an emergenc... (318 words)