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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Girlfriend of 3 years broke things off, should I let her cool off?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, My girlfriend and I of about 3 years just broke up last week on Thursday. She has been separated from her husband for three years(he wasn't happy no more)They are going through a messy divorce. So she is being stressed out with that situation. We broke up because... (207 words)

After a month of pursuing me he suddenly just disappears?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey if anyone could just give a bit of insight that would be great. Sorry this is probably gonna be long but bare with :) I met this guy very casual he saw me where i worked, never talked just looks this went on for about three month he eventually said hey and gave me ... (503 words)

I don't want to hurt this guy but I don't want to date him. How do I let him down gently?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - HI :) Well basically I just wanted to know how to let a guy down gently and tell him that you're not interested in him. So I am in a band and one of the members 'really likes me' and wants to ask me out, I mean don't get me wrong he's a lovely guy but I don't like him that way... (135 words)

Has my Boyfriend cheated on me with his ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all, I am so hurt and miss my boyfriend after breaking up with him. I will try to keep this short, i meet him last Feb. we hit it off. Initially we started off fine, met him saturday nights with my friend and his, it was difficult to get one to one with him as he was a... (193 words)

It's annoying me that I've never had a Bf. What should I do to remedy the situation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have just turned 24 and its annoying me that i have never had a boyfriend i get told nice things about my looks and people are shocked i dont have a boyfriend, i just dont get it. I am shy but i thought if a guy liked you he would make a point of coming over and talk to ... (94 words)

What do you guys think about a male engagement ring to show that the man is betrothed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - what do guys think about wearing an engagement ring? my bf of 2 years proposed to me out of the blue 6 weeks ago. i was shocked, happy and said yes! when we talked about marriage months ago, i recall he said he thought a man should do the proposing, buy his fianc... (123 words)

I love him, but I need to understand if his sexual fetishes are OK or not? One example: He likes me to dress as a school girl when we have sex.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - To give you a bit of background I'm not very sexually experienced. I've slept with two people in long-term relationships before my current partner and he is my third sexual partner (he is 23). In both my previous relationships, I had passionate, ordinary sex with. However,... (216 words)

I know I get jealous but is it normal for a man to keep so many online pictures of women he has known or knows?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So my fiance of 10 months now is wonderful. My only concern is that he has a thing for having girl friends on his xbox and facebook. I know I should trust him and I do its just I dont know if this is normal. He doesn't flirt with them really but thats just what he tells me... (219 words)

Going on a holiday in 2 days but I suffer panic attacks. Can anyone give me advice on how to lessen any rise in panic within me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - After being cheated on I can't eat or drink much I suffer with panic attacks and I know that has something to do with it. I can't think about sex or a relationship at all to my advantage I'm going on holiday in two days. I just hope ill be able to eat, is this normal? ... (56 words)

His selfish and hurtful behaviour was completely out of character -- what's going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Worried that something is going on with my husband. We have been together 18 years. We have had anal sex 3-4 times in the past ( i was only 19-21 years old and extremely loaded when we did it) since then we have had 3 children, i am in a twelve step program so im sober. We ... (343 words)

Relationship falling apart but I can`t let him go

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Agonies. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 3 years and 8 months. I can admit to me not knowing who i wanted at the beginning of our relationship but i've learned from that and haven't made that mistake again. During our relationship my boyfriend has ... (309 words)

Applying for a job with rotating night shifts and would like advice from someone with experience.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some advice. I currently work at a part time job where I get 25 hours a week maximum. I've been here for almost 4 years. The latest I work is 7pm and the earliest is 9am. I am giving this background because I have applied and am going through the process for a new job ... (441 words)

Online dating: how can we forgive each other and move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So here it goes: I ended up hurting this guy (by lying to him online about my identity, etc)....and in turn, I felt awful (just awful) and I wanted to make things right. However, what I did was virtual, it was just online. I finally confessed to him and we met, and started... (935 words)

How do I talk to her and not run away? I've already hurt her

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age - This if very hard. Admitting I have relationship issues. I just recently ended a relationship that has left me feeling empty and hurt. All because of a few things that may or may not be an issue. I've had security issues in the past and really try hard to not let them aff... (263 words)

Should I worry that b/f contacted girls while we broke up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F) age 41-50 - I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off for almost a year. I an not proud but I recently did a search through his phone. I found that he had searched a few girls. I confronted him about this and he admitted they were coworkers he is attracted to. He says that it was when we ... (114 words)

Our daughter has admitted she's marrying for money and we are very upset!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age - I have issues with my daughter marrying. Not her partner, but her motivations for marrying him. Our daughter's 19, and her boyfriend's 22, she told us she's fairly wealthy - we had no idea when we met him, in fact he lives in a fairly normal apartment with a group o... (288 words)

She doesn't like vibrators what else can she do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - My girlfriend likes to masturbate by rubbing her clit through her panties. I was wondering if any women who also like to orgasm like that have any suggestions on other things she might like? BTW she doesn't really like vibrators. Oh yeah, and she also can orgasm from int... (62 words)

Is my b/f getting too friendly with this girl?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4386 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - this is gonna sound mega stupid! but it seems abit weird.. my boyfriend and me are in the same science class and recently we had some other people join our science group including this girl, she is quite pretty but is'nt a very nice person...but recently my bf has been talk... (220 words)

Should I just stop being in contact with my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - This guy i used to date sent me a text message today saying " Say hello by all means, but i won't be out with you on Thursday ". I bumped into him yesterday when we were in town, and we had a chat. I told him that i would be out again on Thursday, and that we could meet up, if ... (286 words)

He 'likes' so many sexy girls on FB. What should be my plan of action tl deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there. I have a bit of an issue and was wondering what you guys and girls think. My boyfriend of less than a year has started "liking" pages on fb that feature bikini-clad/naked girls that post daily pictures. He liked one today and it really hurt my feelings. I mentione... (207 words)

How do you people handle loved ones with OCD?? It's driving me nuts!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been in a live in relationship for the past 2 years. He is a kind,loving man but I have major issues with his OCD and its driving me nuts. 1)We are not allowed to have house parties because he doesn't want the place to get messy,so I suggested by... (228 words)

I cry every day. It's getting me down. What can I do to deal with my problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I have quite a few things troubling me however i'm the sort of person who keeps things to myself, and bottles it up. I don't like telling people as i feel like they will think i am seeking attention, or they won't be interested. It's got to the point now though where it is ... (74 words)

Can I stay close to my BF's family if we finish our affair? Life with my husband is not good. And My BF now has a new GF.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am married without children and i have a lover. we have been seeing each other for 4 years now and for the the first year we were only friends. I am not happy with my husband but i dont want to leave him as he is a handsome guy and it ends there Sex with my husband is... (227 words)

Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday like collegues or the shop... (67 words)

After I asked him to used a condom he lost interest. He's drifting away from me. What can I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - things has changed he used to text me every hour, checking up on how im doing and made time to see me everynight after work... ever since i told him that we should use a condom we never had sex at all i will tell him that i want him but he doesnt show up what he does is just ... (106 words)

LDR: how do I determine if I'm being played?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a question about a 'relationship' I'm in. I am sort of seeing a guy, I say sort of for reasons I'll explain in this question. I met him while I was visiting a friend abroad. I ended up having what I thought to be a one night stand, he took my name and number, but ... (835 words)

I'm so good looking, its annoying! How can I approach a guy for sex without getting into anything serious?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am good looking to the limit of annoyance, it caused me a great deal of trouble looking the way I do. I had major psychological issues because of my looks, I isolated my self thinking everyone interested in me because I am pretty I felt like If I was ugly no one will love... (397 words)

I try my hardest to be both mum and dad for my son but I'm finding it so hard, and I feel so guilty that his dad isn't there for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I need some advice regarding my son. He is 6 and he's very bright. His dad has never been present in his life, he's never met him. He decided when I was pregnant that he had no interest and has remained the same, despite all my efforts. The thing is, my son... (363 words)

I haven't felt this sad or hurt in ages and I just don't know what to do. He was so nice and now he just seems to have run away!

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4394 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age - I'm 49 and I can't believe I've allowed myself to be put in this position. I've been seeing a guy and it's been like fireworks. Thrilling every time. Now, after telling me he loves getting my messages and texts (some quite racy)...he hasn't replied at all. I've even said... (152 words)

What was this guy's intention? Does he think he is entitled in some way to treat me so poorly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i met this guy at the club he invited me to come over his friends' birthday party. I thought I was his date but he ditched me as soon as I got there. there were all complete strangers and I didn't know what to do. so I said I have to go home but he said I should sta... (141 words)

I'm 19 and I don't understand why I can't find someone to to be my partner. Can you give me some tips on how to find the ONE?.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hi i am a 19 old guy who has a lot of love to give but hard to find someone. looking back on my life i had many crushes but they all had someone. i have tried everything from putting myself out there to lowering my standards and i don't like that. All my friends have so... (93 words)

Why can't my ex leave the past behind? I did, why can't he?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been in a relationship with this guy for many years after 04 we split for good I was dating him since 1983. Common-Law marriage I would say I finally built up enough courage to finally leave him. i made it out with his two children. Now I have a new life ,he has a new w... (158 words)

Really confused right now. I could really use some advice on dating, please?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this girl for about three weeks now. We initially met online and have been chatting and SMS-ing since about June. However due to illness and busy work schedules, we weren't able to meet up until earlier this month. She was the one who suggested our fi... (714 words)

Halloween anniversary. But will we still be together by then? Help

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4396 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have been with my boyfriend for three years this halloween. When we first hung out, it was absolutely fun, it came to the point he was calling his mother to see what to do about falling in love with me. We both have been through some horrible relationships before that... (523 words)

We've already broken up twice. So is there any hope we can have a future together??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My ex and I had been together 6 months and things seemed to be going just fine. But once school started he began to pull away. After 8 days he told me that i was beginning to annoy him and that wed have to break up if it didn't stop. I started hearing from his friends that... (368 words)

But which one? The guy who drinks a lot and is cheating on me versus the nice good looking guy? And why do I still feel so much for the first guy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am confused, i am in a good relationship with a great guy, who loves me and the sex is great. however he's in a relationship with the mother of his daughter.(they stay in the same house, she doesn't have anywhere else to go, plus he loves the daughter,) Though he want... (207 words)

How to stop Boyfriend taking advantage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Lately, i've been feeling like my boyfriend is taking advantage. He never seems to give me any notice for anything - always assumes i am free and just demands it instead of asking. If he wants to stay over mine on a friday night (he doesn't always so its not always known... (435 words)

How do I get my boyfriend to clean up after himself?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I live by myself and he still lives with his mom. He comes and stays from Fri-Sun/Mon. Before he comes over, i usually give the house a bit of a clean if it is messy. WHen he leaves, it is like a bomb that has gone off. I can't seem t... (304 words)

We've been fighting every day for months. Is it any wonder I have trust issues over her sexting etc

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and we've been fighting nearly everyday for the past few months. We have sat down and talked about this and the arguments stopped for about a week. Now it's the same old arguments. Heres the tricky part, she cheated on me the f... (171 words)

Is my ex putting me on the back-burner in case her new Bf does not work out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My ex and I had a good 4yr relationship and was going to marry in the future but broke up because she said I didn't give her enough attention which really wasn't true. She found someone else a few months after the break but we're still friends and still talk. We used to go ... (168 words)

She is 'too busy for me' so I'm going to break up with her. Is there a RIGHT way to break-up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have recently decided to break up with my girlfriend. We have been going out for about 1 year and a few months. I am breaking up with her because she is too busy for me or just doesn't feel the same about me anymore. I don't want to hurt her or do anything to discourage her.... (100 words)

I'm falling for this guy, but I'm confused as I don't want to hurt him. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so i am pretty young, 18. i have a child he is 1 1/2 years old. my sons dad has been out of the picture for 1 year. i got a job at a local store and i met this guy we'll call him X. he is 26 has 2 children and works at the same store. we have been dating for 2 months now and... (157 words)

Why does someone dump you and then come back acting like he wants my attention?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4374 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I dated a guy for six months. We were really close--I thought. He told me he loved me AND cared about me-- AND showed it as well. Two months ago he told me I was beautiful, intelligent, AND perfect for him but something was "missing" AND we split. He says he is ... (198 words)

B/f accuses me of cheating on him but I didnt do anything wrong!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4412 days ago

22 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. We live together and have never been apart more than a day. He is constantly accusing me of cheating on him and doesn't trust me at all. (He is 40 and I'm 27 by the way) Every single girl he has ever been with has cheated on him ... (420 words)