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Archived questions from: 18 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I pretended to be someone else online and it all went down hill.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - First off I want to say please don't judge me I know I made a huge mistake and I am trying to fix myself and what I have done. Around 2 months ago I made a fake account on a dating website. I got pictures from someone else and made up the "about me" section. I made a fake pr... (483 words)

Zero success with dating and I need advice!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4445 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I thought I’d reach out on the net and ask for some advice or insight on this. I’m soon to be 27 and I've never really had a romantic relationship with a woman. I just don’t understand the why of it. The more I consider the question the more I question whether there really ... (448 words)

We have been secretly dating for 6 months and our anniversary is coming up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - He and I have been a couple for 6 months now, none of our friends, family members, acquaintances, teachers or anybody knowing. We have kept it a secret between the two of us because his friends would NEVER approve of me and our relationship. If you must know why, i'm black and ... (172 words)

How to appologise to best friend and his girl friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - my ex husband and i were in a relationship for 11 years before we split but we grew up together and have been through a lot together. i was extremely attached to him and had no one else in my life. he is truly a great guy and he did a lot for me and has been there for me. we ... (300 words)

How can I treat my fiance on my low budget?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my fiance have been together for 6 years now. We are both 23. We love each other so much and the relationship is great.he is a traditional kind of man and has always been about the man pays for the dates and he says he wants to pay and loves to treat me, but he does let ... (180 words)

Do I drop it into a conversation that I want to know if he likes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So there is this guy. He's a year older than me (18), dark hair, brown eyes and he's around 5"11. We've been talking for a few months, he's sweet but not too cringe, he knows how to cheer me up and is always making me laugh through texts. Since we've been talking I've really s... (109 words)

Should I leave my b/f because he wants his hot ex on facebook?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf of a year and I were merging facebooks, and we were thinking of who to add from both our accounts. So he picks this woman from his, and says he wants to add her. I ask who it is, and its an ex. Now im cool with that...only... shes way hotter. Shes blonde, blue eye... (85 words)

He's a good guy but soooo boring!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I ve met this really nice guy, who I date now for 6 months. He is everything any woman can wish for: handsome, has a good job, good natured, we managed not to have a single fight, gentleman. But, I can't believe I m actually saying it, he is very boring It's like he has... (298 words)

Should I talk to him about it and hint around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4417 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So i've been talkign to this guy for months now, and this is our story. i met him in college when i started this year, and we've been friends for awhile. but i'm not sure that i can call ourselves friendly at this point. we've grown pretty close, but here's the problem. ... (451 words)

My boyfriend wants us to marry but I'm scared and I miss my single life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3998 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I need a little help. I met my boyfriend a little over a year ago and within a month we were officially together. He was 25 and I was 21. He finished engineering school a few months later and we moved to his new job. It is close enough to my university, we have a j... (255 words)

My partner is in contact with his ex but lies about it. Am I right to be concerned or am I making it more than it is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Bit of back ground. Me and my bf started a long distance relationship we met through a long time mutual friend. I was happy being single and he was in limbo with his fiancée. However he was just waiting for the appropriate time to end it. During this time we chatted ... (774 words)

How do I get over this first, intense love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Some of my background: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-was-my-ex-thinking-when-he-wrote.html On my birthday, I accidentally sent a message meant for my parents to my ex: "Sorry cannot accompany you in the afternoon...let's go for supper after my work :)" (PS: it was ... (303 words)

I've been branded as a "person of suspicion" and have been banned from seeing my husband at his work. Is his boss crazy?!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4304 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age - As if my life was not weird enough my boyfriends boss is singling me out for harassment. He is a teacher at a local school. She is the principal. I am not at all sure how to deal with this. I noticed about 2 years ago when she started working there that she seemed attracted... (656 words)

Is she protecting my feelings or is she using me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So I've known a girl for a few years now and when I tried to let her know I had a crush on her she told me she thought I was just a friend. We have hung out, just the two of us since then. I also picked her up from work early when she was sick. Then she had stopped taking my ... (317 words)

Who should be the one asking for a second date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, a guy I'd known through acquaintances messaged me on facebook just over a week ago. We hit it off, and he asked me out for a drink. It went really well, he's lovely and conversation was easy and interesting. He kissed me at the end, and I felt loads of chemistry! We've ... (112 words)

My fiance went in for a closer look at a woman. Has your guy ever done this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I saw her first. This woman was talking to the mail lady in the alley from my fiance's 2nd floor apartment. I saw them talking from the window I was at. The woman was raking leaves and putting them in the wheel barrow. It looks like she was hired to clean up the neighbors lawn. ... (243 words)

How can I be confident when all eyes will be on me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Help!! I am attending an awards ceremony this evening and I have to wear a dress. I never think i look good in a dress and everyone knows i will be wearing one thanks to my gossiping friends lol and now everyone will be on the look out for me. How can i act as though i... (126 words)

I have self esteem issues over this. How do I learn to cope with my fiance staring at women?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - We attended a job luncheon together and the field is dominated by women. Of course there was a blonde woman sitting not too far from us in a beautiful gray suit dress with her legs crossed and her chair was angled out from the table to hear the speakers. I saw her first. ... (395 words)

I can't stop thinking about him. Is this normal or am I being too obsessive?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear cupid. So, I deleted my friend's number off of my phome. He is a boy that I like A lot. I deleted his number off of my phone because...I like him so much, I (well I used to) text him everyday, and he'd never push me away or say I'm being annoying or anything and we have... (916 words)

Is it Good if she refers to me as her "younger brother" ? Does that mean that I'm not likely to be more to her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello there everyone :D it has been 2 years since i posted here, and i must say i got some realy good advice back then. so im in need of help once more it seems.... ok so long story short, 4 year ago i met a girl, had a crush, we were besties, told her i had a crush ... (217 words)

Married six weeks and now he has left me to live in another country? What can I do? No warning. No idea why.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've just got married, and been married for 6 weeks now. We haven't even had our honeymoon yet, it's been busy with work etc. Our wedding was lovely - cost about $25,000 - at HIS request, not mine, so I can't really be called a bridezilla for this! However, a few days ... (355 words)

Seems he might like to still see me for sex. But how should I handle his offer?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age - I met a man on an on-line dating site. He kept asking me out finally I met him at a coffee shop well we hit it off I don't recall all that he was saying I just knew I enjoyed his company for hours of sitting and talking. It was strange how he would call on every transit... (392 words)

Why is he now shrinking from holding my hand in public? Is this a sign that he's less interested?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years and September 20th is our third year anniversary. We've haven't had sex yet because I'm still a virgin but that hasn't harmed our relationship one bit. The only thing that's been bothering me is why he won't hold my hand in ... (204 words)

The Ex factor. How do I stop becoming obsessed with my partner's ex girlfriends and ex-wife?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am doing my usual self-destructive stuff that is driving my new boyfriend away. Right now I feel sick to the stomach that I am at this again. Nearly every relationship I have become obsessed with their ex girlfriend/wife. Currently I am with a very lovely 43 year old. ... (534 words)

How can I get over this other man completely, and feel united with my husband?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - A lot of things happened since I was here last. I tried to be away from the man i used to date in the past years and i met a new guy with whom i get married. Although i feel happy, i think a lot of time about my ex boyfriend. He calls me sometimes or i call him and we talk ... (408 words)

Seems she likes me. I like her too, but I don't want a Gf, not yet. Plus I suck at talking to girls. Any tips on what to do please?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 22-25 - Okay, so the girl I like has heard that I like her from someone else, though I have pretty much confirmed it since, and everyone is telling me to ask her out, however, though I do like her, I do not want a girlfriend - yet. She doesn't talk to me, for example, if she wants to... (146 words)

So why does he act inconsistently if he likes me? He says he likes me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - He likes me, it's pretty obvious. He asked me for my number, invited me out for coffee and generally keeps texting me and flirts when he sees me. And his friends keep nudging him when I am around. Then he invited me out for a party last weekend but I was ill and didn't go. An... (142 words)

I'm pregnant, I look after his son. But he's gone cold on me. And he's talking to his ex. Can we make this work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid. I been dating my boyfriend for nine months now. At first he was the best. Now he acts different towards me and my family. He seems so cold like he doesn't care about nothing. He says he is hard on me to make me stronger, but its only breaking me more and more. I'm ... (164 words)

Does 'taking a break' mean she's broken up with me? Devastated. She is the girl for me. Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in a crisis state with my girlfriend (hopefully not soon-to-be-ex) our relationship was largely great. we had our issues, but whenever we fought we always worked through them in the end and would kiss and make up. last week we got into a huge, huge fight, over somethi... (587 words)

My wife actively discourages me forming any friendships of my own. How do I find the courage to stand up to her?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My wife won't let me have any friends of my own. We've been married for about two years now, and I've always accepted that. I messed up and cheated on her early in our relationship, but she decided to keep me around, and we got married and moved on. Now, as far as my leis... (197 words)

Is he just being nice? Or does he have a crush on me? he talks about sex a bit. My friend says he tricked me into a date.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4314 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy at school is being really nice to me, and I've started feeling things for him. He just naturally makes me brighter and I can't stop smiling around him. But, I'm not sure if he's just being nice or he's being flirty. A week ago, he went to our College to do work, from... (498 words)

We're hopelessly incompatible. So how do I prepare myself for the break-up?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I deeply and truly love this guy and we've been in a committed relationship for the past two years. However, I have realised (he realises it too, but won't admit it) that we're hopelessly incompatible. We make each other miserable but we still stick to one another, sharing ... (185 words)

I's been a month now and I want her back. How can I put things right with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I want to know if any of you consider I’m worth another chance. I was with my ex for 4 and half years we have done a lot of travel together and been thru a lot and the best thing was the trust well I was the most trusting guy u could get no matter who she was with what she... (452 words)

Should ask him outright if he regrets what happened between us? He's a work colleague.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey cupids! Ill just jump into it, I have been good friends with my colleague *rob at work since he started 2 years ago. We have always been quite close, always having a laugh and can talk about things we can't with many other people. In the last few months we have been ver... (434 words)

Why is it that I seem to be the only one wanting this to work??. What should I do? My guy friend is disinterested

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4446 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So... Today... Has been a pretty bad day. To start off the day...i almost lost my guy friend. He decided it was ok to talk to his ex gf. I done told him I don't care who he talks to but he insists tht he didn't want me to have any guy friends...lesbia... (167 words)

What should I do? Because I'm Falling for my boyfriend's best friend! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4448 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys , so I have a boyfriend well ... We have the most complicated relationship. We used to have a great relationship but now he seems to act differently, I've asked if he's okay or if I did something wrong to see if I can fix things but he always responds with, "I'm fin... (209 words)

We met recently: Does he like playing me? Or is he just taking his time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4448 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello! So my main issue here is that I have always had a hard time reading people and their intentions. I'm also a very gullible person, unfortunately. Which makes trying to read peoples feelings that much more difficult. Now with that being said I'm hoping I can get some... (742 words)

Friend's obsession with her b/f and their problems is really getting to me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4447 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - i have a friend who is dating an raf man. all she ever talks about is him. if he dosent text, she analyses evrything and her moods go from up to down. one minute shes crying, then if he texts shes back to normal. as i live with her, i get it all the time as does another of our ... (197 words)

How can you stop from gagging during oral sex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4375 days ago

18 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - how do you avoid gagging whilst giving blowjobs? i dont know how to "relax" my throat and i always feel lik im going to throw up.... (26 words)