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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My LDR has just told me he has met someone new and intends to marry her. Why am I so emotional over this change?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My long distance boy friend has confirmed to me today that he has a new woman in his life and he may marry her. Why am I so sad and crying? Please help me. I am an adult and should know better than getting emotional. he wants me to write to him to let him know my feelings... (83 words)

How can I change my boyfriend's mind about my dogs and convince him they aren't vicious? He wants me to get rid of them!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Help me please! My boyfriend wants me to get rid of my dogs! My dad is a police dog trainer, and ever since i was a kid i've been used to having big dogs. I live on my own and i have two grown rottweilers and just adopted a pitbull puppy. I have plenty of experience dea... (314 words)

Should we wait until we have sex for the first time to try anything or should we find out our likes/dislikes now?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Our school did a sex ed talk with our form yesterday and we answered loads of questions and talked about stuff as a class. I found it really interesting. I discovered lots of things about my boyfriend after that. I never ... (312 words)

What does it imply about the intentions of guy A, when guy A told guy B to stop flirting with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - What does it mean when a guy tells another guy to stop flirting with me the guy that said stop told me he started having feelings for me one week ago and the other guy we just talk a little at school... (42 words)

Does the way he act towards other women on Skype mean he isn't as interested in me? Men's opinions please.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been interested in this man who is currently casually dating. We just went out several times. Other than me, I know he has other women he's casually going out with too. I am online almost always and when I see him online at Skype, I wanted to say hi but I didn't want to ... (208 words)

My younger brother seems to be cyber stalking girls, what do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello i dont know what to do with this. i was on my phone yesterday and my brother had used it earlier and gone on his facebook when i got it back it was still logged in and i know that he can be very immature with his friends so i looked at his messages to see what things he ... (248 words)

My parents seemed cold towards meeting my black girlfriend, then later mom called and said she wanted bi-racial babies. What do I say?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a senior in college and over the summer I brought my gf home to meet my folks. We had been dating for a year and wanted to wait before meeting each other's families. So the first half of the holiday we went to her parents' in another state---it was great, they really liked ... (386 words)

Is he embarassed when he sees me because he knows that I really really like him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - the guy I like is my neighbour in the student hostel i am not sure if he knows for sure I like him (I liked his Facebook pic but he did the same, I visited in his room once him but he visited me often, I wrote him on Facebook he didn't) but this was before summer and now w... (96 words)

My boyfriend has started holding my head and staring at me during sex. It's weird and makes me uncomfortable, how do I get him to stop?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a bit embarrassing but... My boyfriend of four years has started doing something really strange when we have sex. He started doing that close to six months ago and I don't know why he started. When we are...in the act...he holds my head in his hands (and he has hu... (170 words)

She thinks we are platonic friends. I have had a huge crush on her for ages. Should I let her move in with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a rather huge problem. i'm in college, right. And a friend from high school, a female friend, that i've known for three years also goes to the same college as me. We hang out a lot and i do have a huge crush on her, but I never told her. The timing was always wrong. I... (218 words)

How does one get past being cheated on? I'm having anxiety attacks over it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How do you move past being cheated on? I've tried I get anxiety attacks and I don't feel good enough for anyone. I've even sat around and cried is it something I did what can I do to ensure this wont happen again.... (47 words)

I don't want to lose her, but we have some trust issues. But could it be that I don't satisfy her sexually?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm 45 shes 31 - dating a month. On every other level we have a blast - we click, but when it comes to sex lately I think there are some trust issues that arise. I'm use to doing the pleasing but I'm not seeing that in her, its more shes trying to please me and I her at the s... (213 words)

He's my ex and now he's married. So is he just looking for a booty call with me? Based on his actions?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My ex dumped me a few years back. We were together a long time. It got really bad at the end. He ended up getting a restraining order against me because i would follow him, (not proud of that). Anyway, we bumped into each other last year. It was nice to talk again. He said he ... (115 words)

Should I have just said nothing at all? Her erratic behaviour on the vacation was too much for me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - should i just not say anything at all I went on a vacation with one of my husbands former co worker. Its not like she was my friend or anything like that. I just knew her and because we saw each other very seldom, she seemed ok for me to travel with. i m a poor driver, she... (833 words)

Should I feel guilt or shame? I am having a relationship with a guy who used to be best friends with my ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (?) age 51-59 - I am having secret relationship with my ex-husband no longer former best friend's, is this trouble or what? Here is the background of how and why this developed. It started eight months after I left and filed for divorce. That is NOT why I left and filed for divorce. My ex ... (337 words)

Are these signs that my sex buddy is falling for me? I don't want her to get hurt.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So here is the deal: I met this really hot girl, she happened to like me back. She told me straight up she has no interest in relationship and so we started meeting to have some amazing (and I mean it) sex. Now, I should be happy with this arrangement, I know - but I am beco... (175 words)

He broke it off. But he still hangs around us a lot. I know he get depressed. But could he be having second thoughts about the break-up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi things came to a sudden end in august we were together for 6 years we have children and he sees them regular, we have slept with eachother a few times, he seems to be hanging round a lot one min and not as much the next he says hes not interested in getting with anyone just ... (98 words)

When he walked by me and smiled I was in shock and didn't do anything. Do I ruin my chances?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - A guy I like who i didnt think even knew i existed, walked past me and smiled really nicely i was so shocked i didnt really do anything except gawk...now he won't even look at me and when i try to smile at him now he looks away as if on purpose :( what does it mean? Have i ... (70 words)

I no longer know if I want to get married. So how do I bring up the subject to him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I found out my boyfriend has been looking up engagement rings lately. Im happy and flattered. We talked about marriage before and i used to be excited about it. I love him very much and i know he loves me. We have had our trials but we have gotten through them and its only brou... (210 words)

I'm starting a new job and I have no confidence, what do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I will soon be starting a new job that requires working with people all day. The only problem is I have zero self esteem and zero confidence. I don't like to join in conversations as I'm terrified i'll say something stupid and embarrass myself. I drive myself crazy with this ... (107 words)

I was ill and worried and acting kind of crazy with him. Did I ruin things?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating a guy from work for the past 2.5 months. Things had been great up until 3 weeks ago. He started to become distant and I started to chase him. It took me about a week to realize that was what was happening and so I tried to back off. In fact, I went an entire ... (899 words)

Is it wrong of me to be irritated when my ex wants to show me pics his ex took of him while they were on vacations together.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age - Is it wrong of me to be irritated when my ex wants to show me pics his ex took of him while they were on vacations together. He has them downloaded on his computer and will show them to me talking about the place they were at. He even uses one of them as his contact photo ... (95 words)

What would you do if you got home from work with a woman wanting to take control and knowing you will have a good night?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - okay Gentlemen this is for you? and I want an honest answer. I recently ordered handcuffs and a spanker for my lover and I to enjoy, I didn't realise it would come so soon. And I like the whole 50 shades of grey idea and my love does too! I sent him a picture of me holding th... (140 words)

The heart wants what it cannot have?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - This is quite the long and complicated story but I will try and keep it simple. I met a woman about six months ago who revealed to me that she was bisexual very early on. When we first met I noticed that we had a strong connection and the more I got to know her the more this ... (379 words)

Why does he act like he cares and then he acts like he doesn't?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4385 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am Asian and in my culture it is quite common to get married to your cousins. I understand that this is not something everyone agrees with but its very common where my family are from. My parents are first cousins too and I love there relationship and have always wanted a ... (1072 words)

Should I take a risk and move to Sweden??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm thinking about moving to Sweden for a couple of years to live or study...it's something that's been in my mind for about three years now. Even though i don't NEED to study further because i'm 26 and already have two degrees, i would just like to go there and live for a fe... (315 words)

Just started dating but very little sex

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city for a month to work and we s... (319 words)

We are supposed to be moving in together soon but I'm worried that I may be setting myself up for a big fall!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Hey All Ive been with my partner for 4 years now, its been a LDR and tough because neither of us were willing to give up good jobs in todays jobs market. I finally managed to get a contract change (different hours), allowing us both to move to an area that allows her an ea... (353 words)

How do I deal with this? My Bf is constantly implying how much better things would be when we go all the way

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hello everybody. i'm in a great relationship for about eight months now - thing is, i'm a virgin, and my boyfriend, who is older and more experienced is not exactly sensitive about it. i mean, he doesn't do anything i'm uncomfortable with, but he's constantly implying how much... (179 words)

My husband contributes and so does my Mom. Is my boyfriend contributing enough to live most of the time in my home?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been separated from my husband for over 2 years. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 2 years. I live in a house with my three sons and my Mother. My ex husband presently pays $3500 per month for the mortgage and taxes He also gives me between $800 and $900 per... (250 words)

I stripped down to my boxers on a webcam. Now I'm afraid I'm on a porn site!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello, Please help me, I can't get this out of my mind. I guess I did something very stupid. About a year ago I went to a chatbox and chatted with a girl. We continued on msn-messenger and then she asked me if I wanted to use the webcam. I agreed. So we started webcams and s... (239 words)

What is the best thing to do after you tell a guy you like them

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I ask this question because I'm kind of all over the plave right now, I don't really know what to do and am in need of guidance. You see, this guy knows I like him, right? Now the way he found out, I pretty much was upfront with him about it, saying I had a small crush on him. ... (977 words)

Is he using me? We never date, just have sex in the woods!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Iv been seeing this guy for 2 months now and we meet up once a week, he seems nice but he never takes me out on a proper date. We only meet up for sex or heavy petting. He doesn't book a room up, we do it in the woods, Im feeling a bit used. He does email me constantly everyday ... (120 words)

We broke up and I said things I didn't mean but why did he treat me the way that he did?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello, I have broken up with my boyfriend for just over 2 months now. He was 47 and lived with his mother and the relationship was on and off for about 8 months. All together we got back together 4 times, but on this occassion he does not want to talk to me. Firstly the silent ... (448 words)

Is a 6-7 year age gap really that big of a deal in dating?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've recently started dating this girl. She's really nice, I get along with her really well. But there's a slight age difference. I'm 22 (23 soon), she's recently turned 30. I've only told a few of my friends about her (we've only been on a handful of dates so far so I don... (254 words)

How do I tell this man that is bi-polar that I don't want a relationship with him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - The guy I am seeing has bi-polar stage 6 and has Schizophrenia. He claims he is in a mexican gang as well, but he is as white as can be. He calls me his wife and is trying to get me pg. how do I tell him that I don't want a relationship with him? AND NO I DID NOT KNOW ANYTHING ... (66 words)

Is his eye contact with other women a red flag?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my friend were talking about how her new boyfriebd would be some where with her and she would catch him exchanging eye contact with women. she told me thats a red flag. so recently I have watched my long term boyfriends eyes (been together for 5 years and planning... (128 words)

I always have to prompt b/f to wear a condom. Is this normal?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, Hope you can help. I have recently started a new relationship with a guy. Now I am not very sexually experienced but know we have to be careful, so am on the pill. Everytime we slept together I have had to prompt my boyfriend to wear a condom. Last week, we slept ... (159 words)

Is it because she has already done it all? She's been wild sexually in the past with others. Now she is happy with if fortnightly.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a question and I was hoping I could get some insight from the females on here. I will try to keep it short, but I feel I have to give a little background so you guys know the full story. Both my girlfriend and I are pretty close to getting married and starting a life ... (516 words)

Guys, if you're not interested in a girl, would you still talk to her every day online for long hours?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey,guys,if you're not interested in a girl on a romantic level,would you take the initiative to talk to her EVERY DAY for long hours(6-7 hours) on facebook chat or msn or even hang out with her one-on-one? If you're not interested in her,would you wait for her to go onli... (112 words)

What is right? My wife is saying she has no problem if one of our unmarried daughters chooses to have sex in our home with a Bf. The thought bothers me.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age - I have kids. In particular, I have daughters. And in particular I have a daughter who is 19. She took a year off after high school and travelled the world. Now she's back home and is trying her hand at university. OK, so she's "of age", so if she chooses to have sex, wel... (161 words)

My cousin has a Gf. And he and I flirt a lot. I am still a virgin. Should I agree to sex with him?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4425 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys! Hope you can help me. I am a shy type of girl but i do flirted with my first cousin. Its my 3rd time to meet him last january. He's from jersey,he lives there, he's d same guy i wrote here last 2010 http://www.dearcup... (377 words)

How long do I wait? He had an affair. Now he's returned to me, his wife of 40 years. But claims he no longer has any sex drive.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age - My husband has had an affair with a woman at his work for the last 8 months. I found out throught his text messages. He confessed everything(almost). He won't give me the details.)he thinks they will only hurt me more). He has ended it but he say's he feels go guilty about ... (194 words)

Any tips on how to restore some calm into this fractured family? A very dominating sister in law causes me the most pain.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey all. Just wanted an outlet I suppose. Bit of background... My husband and I have been together 10 years and have 2 children. We are having dramas with his sister. She's very domaninating - does whatever she pleases. We've had conflict with her before over ou... (952 words)

My Boss is a farewell next week. We don't click socially and I am not part of her clique. Should I attend or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F) age 51-59 - My boss is leaving for 1 year next week.I dont work with her much but see her at shift change at times. We are similiar in age, but are VERY differerent, shes outgoing AND popular, esp amongst the 20 somethings at work. Im a quieter person, we dont relate, apart from talki... (385 words)

This guy calls me a lesbian. He says he does it for a joke. What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have this friend who likes to joke around and call me a lesbian. I have asked a numbers of times not to call me a lesbian and he keeps saying, "oh lighten up i am only Joking". I have told him please stop it. he always says "I am Joking". Yet when I tried to turn the tabl... (276 words)

I am truly doubting my decision to break up. Despite his failings, did I make a mistake to break up with him? Help!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend last Friday and I'm starting to doubt my decision. Did I make a mistake? We had been together for a little over two years and we had been in a LDR for six months (I was the one who had to move due to my dad's job). I'm 17 going on 18 and he's 21. ... (566 words)

My younger girlfriend suddenly left me and I cant get over it. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - She is 27 and I am 44. We met at work and were together 5 years through good and tough times. Just as it seems everything is finally settling down, as we can finally move on together,she dumps me saying its not working, a week before she moves into her own home.! She lived with ... (336 words)

Is it over with this guy? He has lots of reasons he says he is busy. Is this his way of ending the relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age - Hello, i met this guy about 4 months ago. everything was going well. Until his mom died. After that he is in charge of all the affairs related, at the same time he is going to be retired soon and he is an executive and has a lot to do at work, and after that it is Christmas ti... (273 words)

My B/f and I decided to take a break but I'm having a hard time dealing with it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F) age 26-29 - Hi guys , so my boyfriend and I have a really good relationship. But the thing is lately we've been busy and weve had alot of our own problems to deal with. We decided to take a break cause it didn't seem the right time to be in a relationship, I guess.The problem is the ... (152 words)

I walked in on my 17 year old cousin masturbating. Do I need to set some boundaries, considering my freaked out reaction?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, sonething happened to me this morning and its been freaking me out all day and ive been really confused. i totally forgot about you guys and i would really appreciate some help. I'm 18 years old and my cousin,17, has been living with me the past couple of weeks. In these... (162 words)

I am so in love with her. But my friend's actions with her, prior to us being a couple, make me feel bad. How do I learn from this? Stay? Or breakup?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in my first relationship with a girl i am madly in love with and have been dating her for nearly a year. she was the first and only person i've kissed or done anything with physically and are relationship is really really good and we have been dating for almost a year now.... (294 words)

I ended things because he betrayed me but I cant stop thinking of him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4432 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I was dating someone for a while and I ended up finding out he betrayed and used me. I stopped talking to him but I cant seem to get the good memories out of my mind, it's killing me. I just wanna get over him but I can't. I feel like I want to call him again and be friends or ... (90 words)

I cheated on my workaholic wife -- now what?

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (M)

age - I have been married for 10 years and have two kids under the age of 10. My wife recently was made an executive at her fortune 200 firm and has not been home much since. She leaves for work around 7 AM and most evenings she gets home after 10 PM. By that time I have put the ... (1134 words)

I get very wound up. But he ends up making me feel guilty. Am I over-reacting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we're both in our early twenties. We've never had a proper argument, never had a shouting match, never stormed out on the other. What we do have is probably more of a problem on my part, but his reaction doesn't help. I'm ... (287 words)

He's really cute, BUT : 'does he like me?'

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4431 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I was at a party (we are in our twenties) for our students on the Dean's List. Anyway there was a really cute guy there and we talked on and off through the party and at one point I looked at him across the room and and we made eye contact (this happened more than once). Later ... (206 words)

How can this be resolved? I have a feeling that my Bf does not want to tell his family that he has a daughter almost 3 years old.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

3 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm 18, and I have a daughter who turns 3 in December Basically, I fell pregnant and I didn't find out until i was 14 weeks pregnant, I'm still with the childs father but here's the tricky part, 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant, my now fiance moved to the oth... (387 words)