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Archived questions from: 4 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My girlfriend is not clear about what she wants and I don't know how to fix the mess that's been created

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - so me and my girlfriend broke up about a month ago, mostly her decision to leave. She said she felt unhappy and that the spark was gone but she still loved me and could see us having kids and getting married. She finished moving about about 3 weeks after we had broken u... (622 words)

Does he miss me but not want to get into things because of the distance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short - I went on vacation summer break 2011 to a friend's beach house, she wanted me to meet a friend of his and I did. We liked each other, got drunk one night and ended up making out, after that we started having a thing during the trip and agreed to keep seeing ... (336 words)

Why can't I squirt now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - OK so my previous partner is the first one who ever let me experience squirting.. ever since him I haven't been able to squirt weather its in my own or with someone else... my current partner pleases me but not by squirting... I'm just curious as to if its OK for me to either ... (128 words)

In love with my ex's friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear friends, I had a Ldr With a man for 3 months, let's call him eddy, we clashed so many times and broke up as well, somehow we made up and tried again, Im the serious type and he acted so serious to get me the first couple of months, then he started disappearing, acting so ... (471 words)

I'm too shy to hold his hand or kiss him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - i have been going out with my boyfriend for a week, and i really want to kiss him and hold hands like a normal couple do. all of my friends try and push me into it, and then he swears at them and i don't know if he knows how i feel. i am not very confident and can't just kiss ... (108 words)

Boyfriend wants a threesome and I don't think

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend wants a threesome!! Mature answers pls? My boyfriend is 27 I'm 23 we've been together over 3 years. He keeps bringing up threesomes for years ( as he has never had one)and today over the phone (I'm overseas for 7 wks) he was talking about having a threesome I sa... (237 words)

I think my gay classmate like me but I'm straight.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Due to an upcoming project, our professor decided to pair everyone in the class room up. I was paired up with a gay classmate that I've seen from time to time. I'm very open-minded so this wasn't really a problem to me. In fact our professor personally told me that he knew I ... (496 words)

I want to be dating my friend but don't think he feels the same

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey everyone, thanks in advance for reading, here's the issue... So a little while ago I got out of a relationship of one year. He's a wonderful person, but we just couldn't work any more. Pretty soon after the break up I started hanging out with this guy who I knew thr... (344 words)

My husband is constantly putting me down.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband who is in denial has been putting me down for years for one reason or another. I will point it out to him as he is doing but he sees NOTHING wrong with it. I have question his love for me, but im so sure that he is NOT nor has ever loved me. He will sit there an... (408 words)

Boyfriend does what he wants without considering my feelings

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4423 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age - My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship to say the least. The first year of our relationship he had an emotional affair with an old girlfriend. He even kissed her once and even though he told me about it, I have never fully trusted him since. I should also say that I ... (451 words)

My boyfriend's outgoing personality is causing some trust issues with me. How can I deal with this, or should I even deal with this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, I am in a big mess and I need some good advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for around 7 months now. He has a very friendly nature and is able to have conversations with almost anyone and everyone. He makes friends with females easily and soon after, they... (476 words)

Why is it so hard for him to make his decision if he knows his happiness is only with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been attached to this guy for a month plus now. And he used to be working in Singapore, whereas I'm a born-Singaporean. I had broke up with my ex-boyfriend a few months back at the start of 2012, and so I went online Facebook to search for some guy who is in Singapore, ... (1045 words)

Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3794 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club and he ended up getting a nak... (252 words)

What should I do? I want to talk to her on Facebook, but I'm afraid it's too late and I've lost my chance

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4424 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so, this summer I met this amazing girl, who, as it turned out, was a lesbian. She developed a crush on me - everyone knew about it even though nothing was ever said. She would stop and stare at me as I walked past, get incredibly nervous when I was near her, and would tr... (416 words)

Married to a Serial Cheater. Our baby will be born in January. And your advice about what to do about this situation would be?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am married to what I think is a serial cheater. We have been together 7 years married for 4 years. Once caught him on sex dating websites, with hidden email accounts and we put an end to it and communicated on what and why he did it and some of his needs he wanted that I di... (473 words)

How do I move forward? and where to? I'm in a confused state over my sexual identity. I think dressing up as a woman is exciting. ButI identify as heterosexual. This isn't out of denial or fear of being gay or bisexual

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm in a pretty confusing place in terms of my sexual identity, so I thought I'd ask for some advice. In everyday life I identify as heterosexual, and to pre-empt the confusing aspects of me, this isn't out of denial or fear of being gay or bisexual. I literally fawn over ... (816 words)

Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex crazed animal hell bent on ... (137 words)

I am SO in love with this girl who is my Ex Gf. But what do you guys think? She says she can't say how she feels.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello again, my name is E.and there is this amazing girl. She is my ex Gf. Her personality is amazing we got together the day after my birthday and we stayed together for 6 months and she was 100 percent with me. she didnt lie, she didnt cheat on me,she never kept anything awa... (379 words)

I love my sister but I don't know if I can live with her because of the way she is

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My sister and I aren't particularly close. I'm the oldest by one year, but we are so very different. She's sociable and i like my alone time. I have two very close friends, that i trust with my life, when she has a multitude of friends and acquaintances...we have two completely ... (952 words)

I am financially supporting my boyfriend and it's getting to be too much. What should I do or try to resolve this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been a relationship with this guy for almost a year and, he does not have a job. When we first met, he was working at his dad's company but, he quit because, he wanted to branch out on his own. Well, since then he has not been actively looking for a job and I do everyth... (142 words)

My friend is confusing me. I am openly gay. Could these things my friend is doing be signs of him gauging reactions from his family about possibly being gay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - So, I am in a bit of a confusing situation. I recently transferred to a university. At the orientation, a guy approached me and I immediately got the vibe that he was "gay." His body movement, his gestures, his way of expressing himself...I don't know, if it's so much as ... (462 words)

Any thoughts on how to overcome being overly emotional? I thought we had something happening. Maybe? But now he wants to 'go slow' and not rush thing????

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - For the past 2 months, I've been dating a co-worker. He's a custodian who specifically is responsible for cleaning/maintaining my office. It's been a bit tough because I work days and he works 3 - 11 pm. He would usually come in to take out my trash/recycling and end up hangi... (696 words)

My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What would be a good classy way to break it off ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone. My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What happened is that he suddenly changed his FB password after adding a girl he used to have a crush on... And lately we just been extremely distant so I went through my Facebook and deleted everything we had toge... (186 words)

Is it normal to not want sex at all one week? Yet another week Sex is all I can think of?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it normal to not want sex? Last week, it was all I could think about. And this week, I have no desire for it. I mean, sometimes people go through a dry spell, where they don't have sex for a long period of time. This is almost the same, I guess. ... (56 words)

HOT as fire to ICE cold. Might this work if we resolve things? I am making life changes with him, but now I'm scared.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4429 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a problem. I do not easily let people in, because I know if I ever truly give my heart completely to someone, and they break it, it will be the last time. I know myself. I ended up getting very close to someone I knew for six years, but who was my ex's best friend. ... (908 words)

We recently gave our virginity to each other but my boyfriend wants to wait before having sex again

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I (we are both 24) recently lost our virginity to each other. We talked about it together vaguely for about 2 months before, and seriously for about a month before we had sex. We have been seeing each other for about 6 months, and we l... (673 words)

How can you trust someone enough to share all your flaws and secrets?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks and we're really connecting. I really like him and I think this might turn into something. But here's the thing, I haven't been in a relationship in three years. He just got out of a long-term one (almost a year) a few months bac... (132 words)

How do I approach the trainer at my gym without looking desperate?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I approach him? Will I look desperate if I do? This guy (trainer) at my gym is so cute. He's friendly to everyone and talks to everyone but me:(!! He's always looking at me. He's always in a place where I can see him and he can see me. Always stealing glances... (270 words)

How realistic is it for me to want to date only uncircumcised men?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4369 days ago

4 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this may make me shallow, childish, immature, but it's how I feel: Three years ago I was engaged to a man from Europe. He was uncircumcised; it was not my first experience with an intact man. I loved it so much, and he was so gentle with me in bed. I always wondere... (310 words)

Making love versus masturbation: why can't I provide the same level of pleasure for her as she manages alone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4430 days ago

4 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay I have never used this before so here goes. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 years and our sex life is good. but I know my girlfriend does things on her own, and and she goes through multiply orgasms! Using her own techniques. Is this normal? Do oth... (113 words)