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Archived questions from: 9 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I felt sad by her choice,Am I being silly leaving her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I asked my girlfriend does she prefer sex with me or masturbation and she said different. I tried to ask in what way but she couldn't say. That's made me feel quite bad and I've tried to past it tried to get past it but now don't think I want to keep dating her (up to recen... (155 words)

Should I consider taking him back? He's been a player and he wants me back, but he's not doing it the right way to interest me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I really do need your help everyone. I broke up with my first Love 7 months ago. We were going on 2 years. We had a very serious LDR and marriage was always talked about. He introduced me to his family and friends as his wife not even his girlfriend. The break up really ... (633 words)

Things have got out of control, One minute it's good and then Boom he deleted me. What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hello! I’m in a very difficult situation. Let me start from the bringing. My cousin's friend told my cousin he liked me, but I currently had a boyfriend so he didn’t pursue it, after me and my bf broke up, I got his number and we started texting, and honestly it was like a m... (479 words)

Should be try to work it out? He is hopeless with money

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I need help as I don’t know what to do. I have been with my partner for 10 years we have four kids together but I can’t trust him. When we first got together he used to stay out all night. This stopped and a couple of years later I found text messages on his phone from his ... (187 words)

Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use such phrase as a term of endearm... (80 words)

Do you think our date went well?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - We met and drank tea for an hour. I offered to pay but he didn't let me. He was very tried; we both have had a very long day. We talked continuously and had a nice time (I would say) but then he had to go back to his work to his cubicle in the library (needs to hand in an essay ... (186 words)

I'd like to hang out with my former teacher and be friends. Do you think this is a good idea or would it be wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - In high school, we got a new teacher who I completely fell for. I never ended up having his class, as the year before I had taken that class with the old teacher. I knew him a bit from my favorite teacher who was best friends with this teacher I liked. I talked to him a few... (309 words)

Can relationships last and be enjoyable in the platonic stage for an extended period? I just dislike all the emphasis on sex everywhere.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - (I'd be most appreciative if somebody could reply ASAP) I've never been the best person to talk about sex, as it upsets me to talk about it. I've been in a relationship for just over 3 months now (not thinking about sex, don't worry) but I'm just so sad and whenever I think ab... (180 words)

I'm cheating on my girlfriend with a girl I'm infatuated with. I want them both!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been with my gf for 3 years. We started dating shortly after I ended my only other relationship, which had lasted 9 years, partly so that I could experience being single for the first time in my life. I wasn't looking for a relationship at that time but I got along so ... (769 words)

Have you ever caught your spouse, fiance or boyfriend perving on high school girls and I found his porn stash

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - When we go out to eat at a local restaurant (it's a small rural town) I noticed that my boyfriend will stare over quite a lot at the local waitresses teenage daughter who is 17 when the daughter decides to come into the restaurant to see her mother working there. One time it ... (460 words)

Is it ok to send him one last text asking what happenend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I started dating a guy about a month ago. It seemed like he was very into me. He told me he was excited to have me in his life. He would text me good morning every day and send me texts throughout the day and at night he would text me good night. Things were progressing nicely. ... (126 words)

I do love my boyfriend but how do I know if he really is the one?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. I have cheated on him once, I kissed another guy at a party when I was 17 which was 4 years ago. Recently I have been talking to another man who is a friend of a friend. Just talking as friends, mainly about our mutual ... (257 words)

I asked out a 45 year old woman, I am 28 years old. Where to take her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone. I have met a 45 year old lady and we have been talking for the past 2 months. I didn't meet her online or at a bar. I met her because she lives very close to me. I am 28 years old, single and we seem to have and feel a tension when we run into each other. One of ... (181 words)

Is it possible for an indian citizen to visit pakistan without passport

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey dear cupid..i just wanna ask u it is possible for an indian citizen to visit pakistan without passport..i heard about the express train which runs between the two countries..or if she gets the pakistani citizenship by getting married witha pakistani guy then it is possible ... (54 words)

How do I give him space when he's the only one I want to be talking to?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now. Everything was going great on Friday but a few days later he started acting funny. Like not texting good morning like he used to every single day or not calling at night like e usually does. So by the second day of ... (376 words)

Have the wife and kids, but still dreaming about the chance I never took with my soul mate.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been dealing with confusion and pain for about a year and a half now. I am at a point that I need to make a decision to leave my wife or continue to try to be in love with her. I am 35 and have been married for the last 10 years with two kids. The marriage proposa... (879 words)

Is he being mean because he's hurt and wants attention? How do I get him back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, Really in need of some advice on this one. I've been seeing this guy, for a while now, and how we started seeing eachother wasn't very good, i cheated on my boyfriend of the time with him, i know thats terrible, and trust me i felt so awful. But i really felt som... (264 words)

How do I get over my affair with a married man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello, I really need some help and dont know where else to go. My ex was sent to prison for a while over 5 years ago, we split a few months of him being inside. I found help online to help me understand what he was going through in there, there was a prison guard who helped me. ... (350 words)

If he can get amazing looking girls, then what is he doing with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months We were having a conversation about exs - when he was describing one he said some features and I go so she was a full hot girl? Then he goes I would t describe her as hot, she was cute. Then I go well what am I? And he goes ... (181 words)

Did he allow me to be intimate with him due to pressure from me or could he be bi?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi Aunties, Have a question here. I am a 29yr old male bisexual guy. I have sought out this guy 7yrs younger than me for the past 5yrs. He has always been adamant that he is saved and cannot have a romantic relationship with me. I however never gave up, and indeed he never le... (240 words)

Has he lost the hots for me? How can I bring back that spark?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My fiance and I have been together for a couple years. We used to have sex once or twice a day, but over the last month, he's wanted to have sex a couple times a week, tops. He's not nearly as affectionate with me either. Otherwise, our relationship is good. When I ask him ... (228 words)

He likes big butts and he can not lie... why does he look if he's got me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - my bf is 10 yrs older and we have a good relationship. BUT he has a habit of looking at big butts of colored/teen women on the internet. So if hes happy why is he doing this? is it because im old and white? i feel as if im not good enough. ... (52 words)

Older guys want me, but with guys my age I strike out! Why am I unlucky in love?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4453 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - This is not a specific question but just something I have been mulling over lately. I am 42 years old and have always been unlucky in love. I have a good job, I'm a nice person, not bad looking and without blowing my trumpet I think I have alot going for me. The problem is... (297 words)

I'm worried about socializing before the booze kicks in. I need a pep talk!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I’ve been invited out tonight by a group of people I went on a field trip with earlier this year. I’d like to go and feel that I should, but I’m missing the confidence to go out and do it. I know everyone but I’m not particularly good friends with anyone. This was a bit of... (214 words)

My boyfriend impregnanted another girl, but I still love him!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4454 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a young lady aged 20 and have been dating my first boyfriend since July 2011. We were so happy but just like any other couple we also had our share of ups and downs of which mostly were about his unfaithfulness, i would see texts messages from girls and if i raised the ... (414 words)

How can I keep my low self esteem from ruining my relationships?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4453 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I always have low self esteem. When I look around, most of the guys that I like or admire have girlfriends that I can never live up to. Some of the girls are air stewardess, some are even models. I am recently single and after a long struggle finally met someone I l... (250 words)

Am I being selfish or am I right about breaking up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I met this woman with four children when she was still married and we emailed each other for a month before we finally met. On our first date she took me back home and after a short conversation she basically offered her body. Somehow I turned down the offer as sex was not the ... (347 words)

Where do the single women in their 30s hang out? I've not dated for 2years. How do I maximise my chances of success with women?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - So, been single for 3 years after a 9-yr LTR. Am now 38. And I have not been on a date in 2 years. I tried online dating for 18 months and got 2 dates out of it. Am a member of many clubs and have many hobbies. Meeting people is not an issue. Meeting SINGLE ones is. ... (275 words)

He's reluctant to try any solutions. But he has trouble getting it up. What can I do about this? What might help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, My bf and i have been dating for about a year. I think he has performance anxiety. He can get a erection fine, when we make out or when i give him oral, but as soon as we move on to penetration, he loses it. As a result, we have yet to have sex. I love him dearly and u... (192 words)

Confused and can't decide what to do. I'm scared to get into a relationship. Could this guy be the answer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been friends with this guy since the beginning of this year. We met through common friends. At first we used to hang out just as friends, and our friendship grew stronger. He's a very nice guy. He's polite, respects people, is fun to be with and is very friendly... (542 words)

I have never wishes to be unfaithful to her. But I think I have to leave as she's breaking my heart. I need your advice please, on what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I love my wife but I think I need to make a break as I'm worried that the way I feel could be damaging for both of us. For the past few years she has rejected me so often for sex that I stop making any moves towards her. I like to think I'm romantic, caring and not demandin... (240 words)

I like this man but am unsure about how to approach him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I would like to direct this question to the guys even though ladies opinions are welcome too. I have become very attracted to a japanese man who works at the embassy in my country. I met him when I started applying for graduate school in Japan and he has helped me out a lot as ... (276 words)

My Gf claims she had relations with a woman and guy just watched. How can I tell if she is telling the truth about this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - My GF told me she was intimate with another woman when we were first dating casually. She said it was set up by a guy friend she met online and casually dated, but was never interested in. The other woman was also a friend of this guy and met him online too. She said it was ... (358 words)

I think he might think I'm cute. But the really important question is "does he like me?" What do you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4457 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello :) I'm a 16 year old girl. I really like this boy. I think he likes me back, but I'm not sure. We have two classes with him and he always stares at me. I've liked him since freshman year, but not a lot so I didn't even notice he was in my class! I figured out he ... (207 words)

I pushed him away and now I want him back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm very confused and maybe someone can help me. Okay, so let me kind of summarize my relationship with my ex. We'll call him Nick. So, Nick and I were together for about 5 months. I love this guy, and I've never been more confused in my life. So, at the beginning of Jun... (547 words)

My ex cheated on her new boyfriend with me, now what?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4457 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My problem is a tough one... I recently slept with my ex-girlfriend who has been in a new relationship for almost 3 months. She and I have been on and off for 10 years. The thing is this year i really tried to move on by giving her space and going no contact. That worked for ... (307 words)

Should I have sex now at 15?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay. So here is the deal. I am 15 yrs old my boyfriend is 17. We have been together for 9 months. I'm not dumb, and Im not gullible. I love him so much but I'm not the type of girl to express my feelings,so he doesn't know how much I care. Yet he still tells me he loves me ... (200 words)

Can you date one person and not be boyfriend/girlfriend?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been a serial monogamist. 3 years, 2 year, 1 and 1/2 year relationship. I've never really "dated" multiple people at once. Call me Old fashioned - but it seems disloyal. Am I wrong? Within the last 3 months, I started dating for the first time in years. Past 3 dates ... (122 words)

Is he really interested in a relationship with me? Don't want to be hurt. He makes me feel special. Or is he a player?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4455 days ago

9 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I hooked up with a western guy once. I am an Asian guy. This Western guy told me about his life, his girlfriend and being with me was his first time and I told him the last time I was touched was when I was 17. He said he was lucky meeting me as I’m a good person. We didn’t... (906 words)

Advice please? First time sex for a 24 year old virgin. Is it as painful as some say it is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so I think ive found my 'one' we've been going out for a while now and are coming upto a point n our relationship where we both want sex. However I'm scared this would be my first time. I really like this guy and want to take our relationship to the next level. He ha... (90 words)

What can or should I do? Don't want to leave my partner but cant stop thinking about the "kiss"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4456 days ago

9 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a relationship and we have children. It's not been the best of relationships but we are working through it. But only the other night one of my friends (who is also friends with my partner) was on leave from the army and was out with us. I ended up kissing him (a lot) and... (104 words)

So was this just a line ? Or does it seem like he actually likes me?

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9 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - For three months in the summer I was texting and seeing this guy although we were not "official". He got weird around the time I was going back to college and didn't text me as much and then abruptly stopped texting me first. (which we had both been doing before) If I text... (177 words)