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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

At school: what can I do to stop people teasing me about this boy I like?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I am in love with a guy at my school. He is so amazing and is so beautiful everyone knows I like him including him but I get teased a lot of the time from the people who sit near me in tutor. One morning I was upset and someone told me to just imagine him naked. What can I do ... (65 words)

Can a disapproving mother in law destroy our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - The first time I met my mother in-law as I was about to greet her by shaking, she refused to shake mine. I was so devastated as she was So cold to me. My huge problem is that I love my her son an we are planning a future together, as we speak we've just bought a house together. ... (158 words)

Just lost my virginity, what can I expect?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys, soo me and my boyfriend had sex like less then a week ago. It was my first time. I was just wondering if their are any post-sex like "symptoms" I should know about. I've been pretty sore and I don't know if that is normal I also heard things about getting a late ... (72 words)

What's the deal with Kim Kardashian?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Hi, everyone. My boyfriend has a thing for Kim Kardashian. I personally think she's an overrated, spoiled brat. He has pleasured himself to her before, while we were broken up, but just recently I had fallen asleep before him and I woke up to him in the bathroom. I didn't think ... (257 words)

He's left for good?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I had been with my boyfriend almost 4 years, we have a 2 year old son. We are both 22. We got into an argument earlier, he took our son out with his parents at 9.30 and I asked him to have him back for 11 so we could take him out somewhere we had planned. He only came back a... (267 words)

What should I do? Forgive him and love again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So here it goes: I ended up hurting this guy (by lying to him online about my identity, etc)....and in turn, I felt awful (just awful) and I wanted to make things right. However, what I did was virtual, it was just online. I finally confessed to him and we met, and started... (910 words)

He's turned on by the idea I'm a virgin?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and the guy i've been seeing for quite a while brought up the conversation of sex the other day. It was interesting because he's slept with 6 girls and he was surprised I hadn't slept with anyone. In fact, he said that he found it sexy and seemed really happy that I ... (116 words)

I'm not sure about his sexuality but I'd like to be more than friends in the time we have together

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hello, i am a boy, and i am in crush in another guy. i am a exchange student here in an foriegn country, and the guy i like is a local french. im not sure about his sexuality, but im sure he is not in to me, though, he treats me very good, in spite of only knowing me for j... (249 words)

We've been together four years, have a child, but I think he still loves his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi my boyfriend n I have been together for the pass 4 yrs and we have a 11 month old son together.but recently he started back talking to his ex and i think they started going out wen they were 14 and my boyfriend is 33 so yes they have known each other for a very long time.i ... (219 words)

Help!!!! Did I do something wrong...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm just a young boy right now, but going through a rough time. (grandparents dying) I was dumped by my first girlfriend and was in a lot of agony that time. When I was finally over her, I fell in love with another girl who is in my class. She turned me down for someone else... (389 words)

As the song goes - "I'm so hot for her and she's so cold..."

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (M) age 41-50 - Ok so ive been married for almost 9 years now. My wife and I were best friends before but we never had sex until after we tied the knot. I had only been with 2 other girls before her but she was practically a sputa. I don't hold this against her though. She just found it ... (486 words)

I'm feeling guilty about finally being happy...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I split up with my ex about a month ago now, two years of being treated badly and being unhappy finally came to an end, although we had our good times, the bad eventually weighed out the good which made it practically unbearable to be around anymore. I chose to end the ... (328 words)

Confused about what he feels about our long distance relationship stance...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi aunts, im in a long distance relationship now were 1 year as couple and we been friends for 3 years now! hes in australia and im in philippines, I met him through my friend when he visited here in the phil! so since then we talk every day, skype calls, phone calls! so we ... (274 words)

How can I find a girl who will love me for who I am?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello I am a very old reader and writer of this website and I love the people here doing this great work of helping each other and people like me. Here is my situation and I would be really grateful if someone can help me. I am originally a Pakistani and thankfully now a... (962 words)

Is she all that she seems?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age - Hi cupid, I really need your help I met a young lady on Hi5, she is my heart but something is wrong with this picture, we text most of the time but we agree to meet. But when I ask her about me driving there she tells me she wants to come here first but she is catholic. Dont ... (112 words)

When a girl sits on your lap, are you being dominated by her?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi. I have a general question involving this type of behavior. Imagine this: A girl (In your age group) choosing to sit on you instead of any of the empty seats around her. Also, she does this very frequently. I think any woman doing that is being dominant to the guy she... (85 words)

He said the condom I gave him was too small ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - The other day I lent a condom to my friend who was going to have intercourse for the first time and when he came back he said it was too small and had to buy a larger one. I know it shouldn't affect me but it seems to bother me. The condom fits ok in girth but is long in length ... (78 words)

I feel like I'm almost being stalked by older guys

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I'm 19 years old and although you may read this and thinking I'm being stuck up and selfish it's not like that at all. Throughout most of my childhood I had low self esteem it got worse when I started my first year in high school I was bullied and suffered with de... (399 words)

Saw my ex after almost 14 months of NC

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - 2 days ago, I saw my very first ex boyfriend at the gym. IT had been about 14 months since we had seen each other. When he broke up wiht me he said he wanted to be friends and I flat out told him that I couldn't turn off my feelings for him so said," yes, we can be friends W... (597 words)

I'm worried about making noise during sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Now that Ive got used to a condom since 1st time sex I'm finding intercourse with my boyfriend more and more enjoyable.I think I'm now ready to go a bit vocal with the pleasure but I'm young and a bit nervous about starting.It's so quiet in the flats at night and someone might ... (109 words)

Are long distance relationships/friendships really THAT bad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - For the record, I AM not in a LDR. I'm asking this because I constantly see people bashing long distance relations. Or when somebody says that they have a friend online, people immediately think the worst. I have been in LDRs when I was in 6th to 9th grade. But I will admit so... (126 words)

My studies are suffering from having a crush!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I am a student in middle-school(Korea) and I am school vice-president. I am the top in my school in grades and I have many friends(btw I am korean but I am fluent in English). Whenever I like someone, I felt good when something we did matched or she complimented me. But ... (360 words)

I've started taking the pill but the doctor gave no advice at all!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4439 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - so i went to my doctor and got the pill but she was no help at all with what to do. So i had to research and ask my friends, basically I started my period this monday, but i started taking the pill today. My friends said this is fine, because apparently you can start the pill ... (225 words)

Is it better to just walk away if someone is playing games?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I had a passionate love story with a girl for 3 months. Infact 2 months where great but the last I could feel things where slowing down. She started witholding sex which made me really angry so I asked her if she wanted to break up or continue seeing each other. But she said ... (360 words)

In Love with a boy I can't have help me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Here goes i was talking to this amazing lad for about a year on facebook yesterday we met uo for about 5 minutes and i felt something ive never felt with anyone else before and i know i love him its not lust etc, and i know he doesnt feel the same, and whenever he has a ... (121 words)

She has a Major Crush on my boyfriend. We are both fed up with her. How do we get her to leave us alone for good

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend works with a girl who loves my boyfriend. When her boyfriend broke up with her she was crying and my boyfriend listened to her and helped her. Everything was fine at that moment. But since then she has developed a major crush on my boyfriend which turned into ... (116 words)

He does not want to be exclusive. I do want to be exclusive. Shall I wait until he is ready?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks. I really like him and we have fun together. The thing is, we've done some sexual stuff and I sort of feel weird that I did that with someone who isn't my boyfriend. He just got out of a long-term relationship about two months ago s... (146 words)

My culture is uncompromising about virginity before marriage. BUT I am not a virgin. What can I do? I cannot tell him, as the shame is too much.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - hi..i had a relationship with an boy i was loved him deeply... Nearly 14 months back only once i had sex with him.. he was not loving with me just wanted to enjoy sex with me we broke up... i was really hurt at that time.. i met with a boy(i knew him from 2-3years)i t... (322 words)

Why can't he love me anymore like he did before? How do I accept his decision?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4439 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi there my friend my boyfried is ignoring me what to do , we have been in love ,a year, just only when i send him a text sms he write me or call me , he said that he want to stay just like a friend but for a while, why has this happened? we loved each other also he... (139 words)

I thought we were going to be just friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (?) age 41-50 - Modnote: your account name is new but I have read an almost identical question to this before. Have you posted this question before or read this before? Hello Everybody! I am going to try and be as honest and as front with everybody as I can. I come from a ve... (701 words)

Guilty? maybe? Is the reason I can't ask out this other girl because I'm worried about hurting her further?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - There are at least two girls at school who fancy me. Possibly a third. One of them I'm really good friends with but she hasn't mentioned it yet, but people think she does fancy me. One of them likes me and I like her back but I'm friends with her, and I don't want to ask he... (305 words)

His Russian friend is very interested in him. Am I wasting my time with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing a guy since March. He's 33 and I'm 20. He's a master student and is going to graduate this semester and go back to his country. Unless he gets a job here. Our relationship is private as we agreed since the beginning, and we started off as "friends wit... (535 words)

He is obsessed with the bodies of women. Other women. I am wrong to feel so insecure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive always been the type of girl who hasnt been really insecure. I knew i turned heads when i walked in the room until my current bf of 5 months and then it was like i became so insecure about my body. I guess i should start by saying I am his first gf. So it started a couple... (340 words)

How do I contain the jealousy I feel towards others?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4437 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I really envy some of my cousins. One is a spoilt brat who gets everything she wants. My other cousins had kids before they got engaged and their parents always baby sit them. But If I had kids out wedlock my parents would call me nasty names. My parents also think havin... (92 words)

Can I ask her again if she can still make it? I hate the disappointment if something planned for does not happen

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I hate making plans or looking forward to something which will never happen because i HATE the feeling of dissappointment. I been talking to this girl for like 2 months and we have now met twice, we kissed second time and she was telling me how glad she was we did and SHE s... (145 words)

My ex is still obsessive about me. Why can't he move on? Do I cut my ex off completely even though my son likes seeing his father?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4432 days ago

21 October 2012 (?) age 41-50 - Me and my ex were together for 11 years and we had one child together who has a learning disability. I ended the relationship 4 years ago, and will NEVER have him back. My ex is obsessed with me as he still believes that there is a chance that we would get back together, he... (271 words)

Is this too much to ask? I just want to meet, love, enjoy that one guy who'll change my life for the better

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4437 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - When will it be my turn to find love? Am I really that undesirable? I mean I know I'm only 17 but it's so sad and depressing being alone. It's already hard enough being gay, but having to hide who you really are with absolutely no one to confide in sucks. I feel so conf... (215 words)

Is what I do a fetish? Or am I am exhibitionist? My wife says people stare at me in public when I do this

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Am I wierd, I dont like to wear underware sometimes and when I go camando in shorts my package sometimes is noticeable. My wife says people keep staring but I dont see them I think she is just worried my junk will spill out at the wrong time. I am not huge in anyway but love... (133 words)

Do I listen to some of my friends who say don't date her? Or do I just go ahead and ask her out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4445 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - First off, this is NOT just a teen phase or something when you read it. Ok, so I really like this girl P, and she just got out of a short term relationship where she got cheated on. I am a trumpet player, and she is in our high school marching band. Ok, so some of her fri... (225 words)

Can I trust her? Does not seem so. What should I do about this unacceptable situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4445 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girl and I been together for 3 years. It was great until freshman yr of college wen i started having trust issues and then we became unstable. She cheated on me with a guy then told me a month later they had kissed; it took awhile to get over but somehow we got threw it... (261 words)

My married lover is putting up barriers to me seeing her. And she wants to hide me from her children when her divorce goes through. What should I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, I'm going to give the whole story of my situation. I know it's morally wrong but no one is perfect. So please don't respond if you want to talk about morals. I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for t... (798 words)

What are some fun nice acceptable activities to suggest when my friend visits? Skating is one, what else?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - This girl and I were complete strangers before this summer. Then, we both were involved as counsellors in a summer camp and saw each other everyday and interacted every time we saw each other. We constantly talk to each other on skype, facebook and text messaging now th... (165 words)

My Gf's extreme sex drive is out of control. She wants excitement. Does she need therapy? Or is there any way I can help her without breaking up - the latter would make her more vulnerable, I think

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hey guys, I've resorted to reading the site here cause I've had trouble "Google-ing" my situation with any real results. So before I post the question a disclaimer here is; I don't want anyone to comment on how I shouldn't be bothered by my G's history. That part of the back... (752 words)

Who should I reach out to to help my boyfriend? He will not talk to anyone. He is in a bad place and I am not sure who to turn to to get him help

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. I love him with all of my heart. We have a lot of fun together when times are good. But lately, he has become more and more suicidal. He threatens to kill himself every few days. I try to get him to talk about it or... (171 words)

I am a loner and enjoy solo activities. BUT, based on your thoughts, ... Do people date loners? Or do they retreat from dating loners and why?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Would you date a loner? I don't have that many friends, but it's not because of Social Anxiety Disorder or because I do strange things. I'm just highly independent, enjoy spending time self-reflecting and doing solo activities (reading, drawing, listening to music),... (148 words)

I adore him but there are problems in our LDR. Is this fixable? and how? Family and friends claim he is "Controlling."

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my current partner for almost four years in an LDR, I am very deeply in love with him and I have shared some good times with him. He makes me laugh, treats me like a princess and I have had a lot of notable 'first' experiences with him. Two nights ago, we h... (607 words)

Is this a date? Even if he also brings his brother and his cousins to go with us? My Mom says it is a date.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay, so is it considered a date if I got to the movies with my boyfriend. And his cousins and brother? My mom says it is, but idk? ... (29 words)

I feel so guilty about crushing on this girl at Uni who may or may not be gay. Especially considering that I have a LDR Gf who I adore. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to sound really messed up but ever since I started uni I have had a huge crush on a girl that works at the uni who has a really gay vibe about her. She dresses quite butch, but I have a feeling she's straight because I've seen her around guys but she always star... (196 words)

Break it off? Or should I continue to date this guy? He is Mr RightNow to me but that's all.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4445 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I met this man this past summer and have since gone on several dates with him. I am not attracted to him physically AT ALL but thought he was a nice guy so decided to get to know him more and see if there's something.............. He is crazy about me( wants to see me all th... (256 words)

Why does my wife of 18 years need to talk to men online? And meet them? and lie? Is this the beginning of the end of our marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age - My wife and I have been together for 18 years. We have 10 year old twins together. We used to share an email account (mine) but now she has 3 or 4 email accounts of her own. I only have one email account and she has the password to my account. She never gave me any of her ... (914 words)

He's never pushed for sex. So is he just not into me? Or is he not over his ex yet? How do I respond?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4444 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, So I know the answer really... He's just not that into you, move on, but as a lady in my mid 30's I still feel the need to ask Pathetic really So I meet this guy in a bar, he's funny, smart, sexy I like him a lot. We see each other it's fun, he texts me ... (284 words)

She was the ONE. Her family did not like me. Losing her has destroyed me. So now, why can't I get another girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Why can't I get another girl? In high school pretty girls liked me but let me stress that I was not very good at talking to them like I'm okay but not great. I relied on sports and my looks and once I knew a girl liked me I would go talk to her. I never really wanted to... (660 words)

I thought things were going well. Then he stopped replying. Has he moved on? I know he is still talking to others.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4445 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i've been talking to this guy i like for a while, we talk everyday and get on really well. however, recently i've been texting him and he's not been replying but he's been talking to other people ( i know this as my friend told me he had previously been texting him ) is he ig... (59 words)

I'm worried about bringing the mistakes from my last relationship into my next one

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4443 days ago

21 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I feel like my last relationship is ruining me. We were together for 15 months and he was my first love. I'd say 12 months into the relationship things started to change, he became controlling and i knew this but didn't stop it and i regret it. I knew that I shouldn't have done ... (153 words)