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male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My girl friend has had only one partner in the past and that is who she lost her virginity to. We both are sexually active and she says she is happy. The problem is that most of the time when we have sexuall intercourse she doesn't orgasm. She told me everytime she had sex with her ex she always had an orgasm. She told me that sometimes I go for the exact time that her ex so I know it can't be the time. So now I wonder if its the size. I'm only about 4 inches and idk about girth. I try not to think about it that way but it really bothers me. So is it really the size?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2012):
 at her age she has no clue what sex is about and she won't for nearly 20 more years... I thought that sex was about size at that age too.
it's about the tongue and the fingers and the man attached to all those things...
and it's not size... too big hurts.
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female
reader, dee76  +, writes (31 October 2012):
Hi hun i agree with shrondingerscat, its quite rare a woman will orgasm from penetration. As for a couple of the anonymous answers, well they are to be desired. Its natural for lovers to discuss past love lives, so dont feel that she is just bragging. We all do things differently and maybe her ex found her spot and u havent yet.Size is most definatley not an issue hun its what u do that counts. There are many ways to satisfy a woman and most of them will be more fulfilling the penetration. Experiment, while your making love stimulate her cliteros at the same time, you can do it by hand or buy a cock ring. Oral sex is for the main part is very satisfying for a woman if u get the right technique, but be aware some women dont like it. Find what works for both of u. Dont think of the ex as standard to meet think of him as someone to conquer and give your girl the most sensual mind blowing orgasm she has ever had so the ex is a distant memory, good luckx
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (31 October 2012):
 Most women can only reach orgasm through direct stimulation of the clitoris.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris
The reason why she's not orgasming during intercourse is because neither of you are fully communicating about what she needs, in terms of stimulation, in order to reach orgasm.
I suggest you learn as much as you can about the clitoris and -talk to her-. Many women feel too shy about admitting that intercourse doesn't feel as good as clitoral stimulation, due to various social/cultural reasons.
Honesty is critical.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): for a girl at her age, 4 inches is enough (unless she is a huge girl, or her ex has made her loose!)
and remember: for females, orgasm is not all about what she feels inside. it's more about fulfilling her desires.
When it's about sexual desires, your girl wants you to be either:
- a romantic lover, like the movies. one who can whisper in her ear all night, put candles around her, kiss her passionately, and make love to her slowly
- a bold man who can act like he dominates her and make sex to her like she has no choice.
so, being a cute nice boy doesn't help her in bed. try to understand what she wants (without asking her about it)
also, try positions which stimulate her clitoris more effectively. if she is clean, use your mouth to stimulate her clit.
One last advice: girls know that they can hurt boys easily by telling them they are not man enough. don't believe it. if she says you're not big enough, buy a large dildo and ask her to show you that she can handle it . you'll see.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): Its not the size, its the motion of the ocean!
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male
reader, TommyTwice  +, writes (31 October 2012):
Just please her with your fingers and tounge... Its not rocket science.... Your not big enought to make her come simple as... You would be amazed what ya can do for a girl with your hands
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