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writes:Hi Aunts and UnclesMy questiom is simple Should there be a spark at the start of a relationship? Five months in now and im just not feeling it... She tells me she loves me a lot which makes me think lots there for her.... Should i end this relationship? Am I being childish and immature or should i give it a chance? thanks
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reader, demeplev  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Was there a spark and now none?
My bf of 1.5 yrs broke up with me after 6 mo cause he wasnt "feeling it".
Then after 2 wks called me crying that he made a mistake that he was worried that I felt more than he did, us girls feel emotionally faster than you guys...well turns out he was just nervous and unsure didn't want to string me along.
Just make sure you never had a spark before you break her heart and dump her.
My bf is VERY lucky I took him back.
I will be honest there will always be that sting and it did change our relationship and the stregnth of my feelings for him for a long time.
Sometimes if you break something it cannot be fixed.
Good luck.
peace and love.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 October 2012):
 She will be more hurt if you stay because you are waiting for the fireworks to start - which basically mean.. you WISH she made you feel something that she is reality doesn't make you feel.
Let her down gently.
And yes, there is not a way to dump a person without someone feeling being hurt.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 October 2012):
 I agree, there really needs to be a spark and some chemistry. If there's nothing by now, there probably never will be.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 October 2012):
 Do you know how an automobile engine works?
There are THREE necessary components which must come together at the correct times in the correct quantities:
1. Fuel (gasoline or diesel), 2. Air (oxygen), and 3. A spark or other source of ignition....
A relationship has uncanny similarity to an automobile engine... ERGO.... No spark = no start!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all... Tricky situation.. It seems no matter what i do she is going to get hurt...
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reader, kenny  +, writes (31 October 2012):
 i personally think that there should be a spark at the beginning of a relationship, that feeling of great chemistry and butterflies and excitement. If your not feeling that after five months chances are your not going to anytime soon, maybe she's just not the one for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2012):
 If after 5 months there is no spark.. then it's time to let go...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 October 2012):
For me personally, there HAS to be a spark from the get go. A physical and mental attraction and just killer chemistry.
What initially attracted you to her?
Why did you start dating her?
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