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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why do I want the people I love to hate me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My first love was with a girl who hated me. She cheated on me, made me feel like shit about myself and generally crippled me emotionally, but I was so dependant on her that I didn't want to leave. The issue I'm running into now is I meet these perfect, amazing girls wh... (93 words)

I sympathize but he thinks I don't understand him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hell everyone, my boyfriend and i love each other. However,there is an issue that we have been facing since we started dating almost a year ago,and i think its getting worse.I need some help with that. I come from a wealthy family ( please dont comment on that),i never... (222 words)

I've been crushing on him for years and I find out he's gay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So for about 5 years I have liked this guy. I have really strong feelings for him. I thought he liked me to the way he used to look at me. We used to be really good friends until we started hanging out with other people. Now he's popular and hangs with all the girls. We still ... (227 words)

Do I stay and hope he can contain his love of gambling? Or do I go?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - me and boyfriend have been together a year, we now live together and i love him very much. i have a daughter from a previous relationship who he is great with. the problem is he likes to gamble, hes currently awaiting his date to join the army, so right now hes not going ou... (160 words)

I am concerned for my Bi-polar Bf. Our last meeting was acrimonious. Should I go to see him or wait for him to make contact?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4439 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm so upset. My boyfriend has bipolar disorder, and he gets really nasty sometimes when he has drunk alcohol. He had a few drinks today, even though he told me that he wasn't going to get drunk. He also told me that he wasn't going to see his friends, but he has gone ther... (610 words)

When I mention forplay he cringes. How do I encourage him to try to provide more foreplay?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I am puzzled how to ask my boyfriend for a foreplay and give him hints on what I want. I am trying to be delicate and not sure if my ways are working. We used to have had great sex, he would always listen to my suggestions and try to (successfuly) implement m... (286 words)

I'm losing hope in the existence of true love. Does true love still exist in this modern world?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, Well I am 23 years old now,but since I was 16 when I knew what 'love' was. I always believed that I would find true love and no I haven't till date.. I am a hopeless romantic,like literally 'hopeless'..I love reading nicholos sparks romantic novels because it ta... (230 words)

Back in contact with the ex... what to do for the best?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've recently come in contact with an ex boyfriend. We were together 6 years ago for a few months but things didn't work out as we were only 19, I went straight into a new relationship that lasted 6 years, we had 2 children together. Now I'm back in contact with b, we slept ... (82 words)

Struggling with my long distance relationship...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am struggling with a long distance relationship. I adore the guy I am in a relationship with but as a single mother, divorced I feel I miss the contact and emotional closeness when we are apart. We have been together a year and I do most of the calling by telephone, he does ... (104 words)

Help! I told her how I felt about her too soon... now she won't talk to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I told a girl I really liked too early about my feelings and now she is ignoring me. Before I asked her, I was pretty sure that she liked me too, but when I told her that I loved her she said she didn't know whether she liked me. I understand why she said that but should I ... (99 words)

Would a guy choose a physical attraction over an emotional attachment?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am interested in hearing male and female opinions on my question. If a guy liked two girls, which one would win out in the end, the one he has a physical connection to or the one he has an emotional connection to? Both women are attractive and he likes both. But the at... (99 words)

Should I wait around for him... or move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 23 years old and I have two children. A son 3 and a daughter 1. My son's biological father died when he was six months old and my daughter's father has raised him ever since he was little. So that's his Daddy. We had been together for almost four years and he breaks i... (310 words)

I've decided to finish it but how do I tell him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Update http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-is-renting-out-spare-room-to-another.html his flatmate moved in and they went out together to celebrate as it has solved both their money troubles , i didnt get invited and he never said about it ,my mate saw them in a ... (130 words)

How can I change my boyfriend's lifestyle?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi aunts and everyone! i just need some advice! im in a long distance with my boyfriend around 1 year now! we're really far from each other he lives in another country, here's the thing, i know my boyfriend, he's such a hard working person, he's so dedicated to his job and this ... (317 words)

Should I tell my wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Should I tell my Wife I've been doing penis enlargement exercises? I was doing them a few years ago and stopped at her request. I finally decided that this is something I want, even if she doesn't want me to. I am small down there and she has had larger so I don't see what the... (122 words)

I want to talk to my ex again but don't want her thinking I'm needy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4307 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay the thing is, i had a girlfriend not in the same school but in the same town like 6 or 7 months back who i really liked a lot, we broke up in April and we were determined never to speak to each other again, and we didnt, except a couple of 5 minutes convos on whatsapp ... (191 words)

I have a girlfriend but I just can't shake my feelings for another girl!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I could use some help! I have been seeing my girlfriend for eight months but I just can't shake the feelings I have for another girl. She has been my friend for two years and it started out as just a friendship because she was in another relationship. But over time I star... (100 words)

How to put the spark back into a relationship that is long distance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some direction back to the less travelled path of loyalty, honesty, and love. I'm lesbian... have been with my lesbian girlfriend for three years. I'm a very emotionally needy person. I need to be contacted every day: emailed, phoned, texted, or visited. Being in a long ... (348 words)

I shouldn’t feel like an outcast in a house I’m paying to stay in.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I live with this girl and her mum and two other students while I go to college as its closer to the college rather than commuting for 2 hours daily. Last year we got on great together, e.g. going out on nights out etc. this year since she has gotten a new boyfriend she has ... (451 words)

Girlfriend of 3 years has confused feeling between me and another...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4438 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I had been together for 3 years, it has been the best 3 years of my life, we have conquered every kind of task possible. we even had to do the long distance thing for about year because she went to school elsewhere. we had fought a decent amount like any ... (593 words)

I've fallen for my female ex-teacher, but I've never had a relationship with a woman before!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 21years old now when i was 14 at primary i had a crush on my female teacher it was deep and strong,then i went to high school eventualy i forgot all about her and enjoyed my high school life and had a boyfriend we dated for over 7 years. but lately things went wrong and we ... (168 words)

I really like this guy, but he has recently become involved with my friend. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I really like this guy, but he and my friend are slightly involved, they're nowhere near official but I know they both like each other, i've recently started speaking to him more, he's amazing, but he and my friend are the same religion and have more in common, I just like him ... (70 words)

Why doesn't he contact me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been seeing this guy for about 4months now, and we can go days not seeing each other with minimal boring texting to days spent together and really happy and intense. He will never tell me if he wants to see me, I always have to be the one to ask/text first, which makes me... (188 words)

We cant have a relationship but I cant stop thinking about kissing him! What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there, i am really good friends with a guy that i realise i am starting to feel things for. I feel jealous at the thought of him dating other people, i can't take my eyes off him and i can't help but be extremely attracted to him. I've tried to get over him but it's n... (138 words)

We are about to move into a new house but I'm worried he's cheating again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've got trust issues with my boyfriend as he has cheated on me before. I try to let go of my in securities but it seems hard to let go. Now it seems like he has met someone new. He now takes good care of himself which is something he never did before and always busy to spend ... (104 words)

I want to share my wife with my old friend....

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4439 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have had a fantasy about sharing my wife and the feelings have become stronger. My wife is aware of this fantasy. We have role played this for years approx 8yrs). Within the last 4 years I have been talking to her about bringing this to real life. Within the last few months ... (296 words)

Should I let my boyfriend carpool with a female co-worker?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3024 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together 4months ago, and things have been going pretty good so far. He started a new job about a week ago and while in the process of meeting the coworkers in his department he also met this girl who ... (381 words)

How can I improve my mom's quality of life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This is not a regular relationship question. However, I'd really appreciate it if you'd all try to help me out. I basically want tips on how to improve my mom's quality of life. She has progressive MS and is in an electrical wheelchair. She can only move her hands and head, and ... (508 words)

I broke up with her but realised I made a mistake, how do I get her back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age - Dear Cupid, I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 months and it's been a little difficult since we've only been seeing each other once a month, and recently started seeing each other 2X per month. We also have been chatting and skyping everyday. In... (329 words)

Why do guys want and like you more when you don't give them your attention?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - why is it when you like a guy and you're all affectionate and flirty with each other, you've even made it clear that you like him and that you want more than what you already are, they act oblivious to it or don't say much on the idea and lead you on wondering all these ... (194 words)

I'm twice her age. Why does she flirt? Should I flirt back with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4433 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Why does she flirt? Should I flirt back with her? A girl, 19, who I am friends with, and I am 40. We work together once a week and sometimes end up at the same events. She flirts with me about 1/2 the time. like sometimes she doesnt at all and other times she will constantl... (174 words)

She tells me she loves me but is she just using me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I hope you can help? I will try and give you as much history as I can to make the picture clear. I can count on one hand the serious relationships I have had in my life. But everyone of those relationships ended with them cheating on me. I admit I have s... (357 words)

How can I put him off texting me all the time without sounding nasty?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi there, I had a best friend and we were really close. But then after two years I decided to end the friendship because things had become very toxic. I could not trust him, he was nasty to me, he was always putting me down, etc. Anyway, a few months later this friend send... (426 words)

Should I tell him I'd like to go along to his meeting too?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. My boyfriend is interested in new age religion, and is thinking of attending a group meeting about one particular one this weekend, to see how he feels about it. (I won't go into details because the actual religion is unimportant and isn't the big issue, it isn't somethi... (332 words)

What are these sexual urges?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi friends, I always have sexual urged every time I am alone, so to this extent, I lost my virginity to a prostitute and since then I haven't had sex again, but I only masturbate myself. What could have been the problem?? I would not mind girls comment too! ... (51 words)

Could he like me too or is it just coincedence?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4442 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I have this classmate. I think I really like him. Last night we went out together, but as friends, I guess. We were sitting at the bar and were laughing all the time. He layed his arm right next to mine and touched my hand. He just kept it that way. Our arms were touching ... (167 words)

Am I too needy? I'm a man who likes to snuggle

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - hi I generally have a question for the guys but don't mind girls' opinion. if I'm in bed with a woman I tend to snuggle quite a lot. They don't do it to me as much as I do it to them. I hold their hand, carress her shoulders, play with her hair, hold their waist, literally... (110 words)

I dig too much into my guy's past

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24 October 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Okay, I'm just going to get straight to the point. I'm going crazy! I've been with my guy for four years and because of not only my past with him, but my past with others, I feel like I dig too much in his past. It's all I'm worried about most of the time. I swear, if I don't ... (250 words)

I can't imagine dating someone else, he's all I want

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've never had a relationship nor never been in love but god blessed me with the exact type of guy I wonted and saved myself for. We been together for 4 months. We both fell in love with each other. But things started to change with. He started a more stressful job and he ... (395 words)

Is this a normal reaction to stress?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - today, one of my parents and one of my siblings got into an extremely heated screaming match. you could almost feel the hate boiling between them. they were hoarse after, because it was so intense. then there was horrible crying and sobbing, it was so gut-wrenching i usual... (193 words)

Have we grown apart since we were young when we met?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 4 years, and I turn 21 next month, he is already 21. Sometimes when I spend time with him I feel really happy to be with him and when he is away I miss him a lot, we have developed a strong bond (especially since we lost ou... (1159 words)

I'm 22 dating a 16 year old and have very conflicting feelings about this

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'll start things off with honesty since that's the best method of any question. I am 22 with some time to come before I am 23. I haven't dated much, only having 2 girlfriends in my whole existence, yes I have had sex but nothing spectacular to say the least. Girls I like ... (375 words)

Is it wrong to feel this passion for my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok so I'm 18 years old. I've been with a wonderful girlfriend for going on 3 years. I love her with all my heart but I wanna take your opinion. You see we both are virgins and I think I have a slight problem. Everytime I am alone with my girlfriend I cannot fight the feeling ... (173 words)

How can I flirt and impress this girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Theres a girl who recently joined my college.she is also from my home town .and she even knows me because we are family friends..and i really like her.shes my junior in my college.. Problem is that i am 21 and she is 17, so she always hesistates while talking to me..mayb... (90 words)

For the last 2 years my husband doesn't touch me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been with my husbend for 12 years now but it's been in the last 2 or 3 years he dont want to touch me or have sex with me anymore I know he's not cheating so pleas help me under stand why or if thare is something Wong with me... (52 words)

I'm unhappy and feeling worn out in my marriage

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I've been married for 15+ years. I have two step-children, one of whom lives with us (20 years old). I hate to do it, but I have a laundry list of things that have been bothering me.... I am feeling very worn out of late. My wife has no interest in sex and hasn't been inte... (504 words)

Should I call to get this ex-player back in my life? I love him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Yes he talks to other girls while we were dating... Yes I know he was cutting them off one by one as he did not like his behavior but I broke it off before he could cut the last one off so he continues to talk to her. Now it's been eight months, I miss him and want him bac... (349 words)

I am seeking people's opinions of my actions in this failed relationship. What do you think?. I did some bad things, so did she.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - so i started seeing a girl as friends id heard a lot about her ( she's easy,been with this person,been with that person etc etc) but i didn't care because i make up my own mind about people and me and this girl got on great so after about a month of innocently seeing each oth... (705 words)

Is he worth my time? Can I believe him or is he stringing me along? he says he loves me, that he would like to marry me one day.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - first of all I’m just looking for advice not for people to judge me. Well I am 18 years old and there is one guy that is about 15 years older than me. He would always flirt with me and he would say stuff to my sister so she could tell me. About a year later I finally t... (291 words)

My older brother physically abuses me and my mom is fine with it. What rights do I have in this? What power do I have to stop him from doing this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. So, my older brother hits me. He doesn't do it very often but when he does, he hits me bad. He abuses me verbally constantly calling me names and insulting me in every possible way. He's always been like this to me since we were kids, he's never stopped doing it because... (778 words)

I thought marriage was all about cherishing the one you love. All he does is cheat? And ignore his children and me. Should I break up with him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in this relationship for 7 1/2 years and I have been married 2 1/2 years. Through the time of all these years. He has done nothing but cheated and he feels like its not a big deal at all when he gets caught in his lies or the females tell me. He constantly lies ... (168 words)

Should be honest with her and break-up or perhaps try to reignite things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4442 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - 1. Currently dating a girl for 14 months. 2. Dated in the past but had major bumps, those were worked out and then got back together. 3. Major bumps: her communication with her ex during our first trial and family/cultural/religious differences. 4. She is a great person wi... (221 words)

Should I stick with no contact, or should I be his friend? Is there any chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4437 days ago

24 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am a 24 year old female and had been dating a 26 year old guy for about 5 months. We go to graduate school together. He's a really sweet guy that has great morals and values. He usually initiates calls/text messages 80% of the time, he's really thoughtful, and he does swe... (861 words)

Should I try to start something with my sister's guy friend who she treats badly. And should I open up to him and tell him that I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

24 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Recently my sister has been dating this guy he is ropughly 21 years old, and I really like him I'm a guy and underaged. I think he likes me back. My sister doesn't really want him she just uses him to buy her stuff, and she talks to other guys. My question is should I sta... (78 words)