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Archived questions from: 23 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

No one knows I like guys. So how can I get rid of this crush I have on a guy at school?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - So, recently I have started to like this guy at my school, but I'm a guy as well, I'm always thinking and looking at him during school but I know he wouldn't want to be with me. I just really want to know how I can probably forget about him, or make him like me more? N... (96 words)

Ex and I are both lonely but he won't give in and give us a chance

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age - My ex and I were married for 38 years and I found out he was cheating for the last five of those years. He divorced me over my objections, and was willing to pay dearly for it. Now he doesn't see the girl as much (she is married) but I think they still talk on the phone. This ... (205 words)

If I become a Chartered Accountant will it turn off girls? Will they see me as boring?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm already a bit shy and not good with girls. I'm trying to figure out what do to as a career, and I'm considering becoming a Chartered Accountant as I'm good at it and it does pay exceedingly well. But I'm worried if it will turn girls off. Accounting has such an... (89 words)

Being on top does not work for me. Am I doing it wrong? Why do I not like it that well, but he loves it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I really need some help. I have the most amazing lover ever in bed. I consider myself to be one of the luckiest ladies ever. This man's not only great to me in bed but emotionally as well. He is my soulmate for sure. However, I have a serious problem and I would ... (374 words)

Best places and best strategies to meet women? What do you suggest? And are my co-workers right about random approaches to meet women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello all. I am 23 years old and i just moved into a new city where i barely know anyone. So far it has been 4 months and I feel like my love life has been a bit slower. To be honest I know I am very shy when it comes to approaching women, but it seems like I don't know wh... (214 words)

Psycho girlfriend treats me so badly ever since she thought I was cheating

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - What can I do to cover my own butt? My girlfriend of 2 years has anger issues. It all started a year ago at a friend's wedding in New York. my phone died and when I got back into our hometown she refused to pick me up from the airport. she was convinced that I was cheating on ... (203 words)

I could have had her, didn't want her. Now I can't have her and I want her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I saw this girl out who i used to always meet up with on nights out and we'd always chat and get with each other most of the night. We never slept together or pursued it to anything more, i knew she wanted more as in a relationship, but i suppose i didn't want a relationship ... (543 words)

Should I ask my friend if shes involved with a female?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm starting to think my best female friend might be in a relationship with another girl, and I don't know if I should ask her about it or not? Ever since I have known her (nursery school), she has been desperate for a boyfriend. She has no problem attracting men, and she has ... (469 words)

With our different bodies, what positions would work the best?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a question about my boyfriend and I with sex. He is 5'5 with a long torso and short legs while I am 5'4 with a short torso and long legs. The sex is amazing, but I want to know what positions can we do for me to get more penetration and to climax during intercourse?... (57 words)

Boyfriend's habits have changed. Is he cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I just need a clarity on this matter. My boyfriend is those kind of guys that wear uniform to work and changes their shirts maybe 3 times in a week. My concern is that this past 2 months he has been acting strangely, he now changes the shirts everyday. Doesn't want to be with ... (231 words)

Do I tell my brother that his wife wants to have sex with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3214 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 18 years old boy and I've a really stupid problem, I guess. I have an older brother, who's married and his wife doesn't leave me alone. It all started few months ago, when she came to me and wanted to talk. Then she told me she likes me and started to pay her attention to ... (296 words)

Ladies: Is it a deal breaker if a guy is bald?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2871 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a crush on this kinda shy younger girl I work with. She's very cool, shy, friendly and I happen to think she's beautiful. The problem is I'm 10 years older than her and I'm bald. We wear hats where we work so she probably doesn't know this, but can maybe tell as I ... (174 words)

Should I trust my LDR girlfriend? She grinds with other guys

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I recently started dating a girl at the school I just graduated from. It's a semi-long distance relationship; thus far we've been able to see each other at least once a month, if not more. However, there are times when we are apart. I trust her completely and she's never given ... (153 words)

My boyfriend is going to marry someone else to please his parents!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Two years ago I met my current boyfriend(?) He wanted us to get married and for me to live with him and his parents. I agreed but when I met his parents they were horrible to me and my family. Basically they wanted a daughter-in-law ... (263 words)

Why suddenly can my husband not keep an erection?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age - My husband has recently done the unthinkable in the bedroom, and I don't know why. The reason I say "Unthinkable" casue to me, its out of character for him. We are two very sexual people and enjoy eachother. I seem to think that its myself, however, I do and say all the things ... (243 words)

Shuold I stick it out with my marriage hoping things will get better?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband is moody and we bicker all the time about things like who turn is it to do the washing up. He says he's moody because hes stressed at work, but he has been like this for the last 18 months. It is really getting me down. We never have sex or even have a cuddle an... (165 words)

Lingerie decisions...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - hiya ive just turned 16 ive got a boyfrend im thinking of buying my first thong any advice on what lingerie styles and types thanks,... (25 words)

I have to have surgery and I'm afraid

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 22-25 - im really really really scared about my scoliosis surgery i have the feeling im going to die or something will go wrong, or i will be paralysed forever. what is the chance something will go wrong? is it as bad as i think it is? i don't like the idea of being put to sleep bec... (79 words)

Why can't I cum during regular sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend are in a loving relationship and have been together for 3 years. We had sex after 2 years as he said he would wait till I felt ready. Before then we had done oral and I had given him hand jobs. We have amazing sex but the problem is I can't 'cum'. When I ... (226 words)

I tell him what I want when we make love, but he always reverts to his basic style. How do I convince him to be more adventurous in bed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is my best friend and I love him dearly. That's why it seems soo ridiculous that I fantasize about breaking up with him so I can have sex with other men. When we first got together, things were hot and heavy. The sex was pretty basic, but I was always ready to ... (330 words)

40 emails between us, and then she stopped responding? What am I supposed to make of this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - Sooo basically I'm having a crush on a girl who I don't know THAT well. We attend the same college, although she's quite a bit older than me (9 years), but aren't taking any classes together. We met at the beginning of the year at this opening drink that was organized and we... (372 words)

Is it injurious to my health that daily I only talk to my Bf? I'm tired, sad, and ready to walk out.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and I moved to the city 6 months ago when he got a new job. I still love him dearly but the problem is I'm lonely have no friends and feel severely depressed. I work from home and have little energy to even wake up in the mornin... (133 words)

Is my Bf implying that he's a virgin? He changed the subject when I asked.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, My boyfriend and I were speaking about sex when he said "I can't compare my performance to anything? When I asked what he meant he changed the subject? So peeps my question is what are your thoughts on this? I automatically thought he meant he was a virgin befor... (84 words)

She blows me off when I try to talk to her. Should I keep trying to talk to her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so about 3 years ago (10th grade) i met a girl that became my best friend, we would do everything together and supported each other with everything. When my birthday came this year in march i planned for me and her and my good friends to go to a club. We had everythi... (214 words)

A friend of my Bf keeps offering him smokes. My Bf knows I don't like this. Do I have the right to ask him to refuse to smoke?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 6 months very occasionally smokes ~ I've only seen him do it a couple of times, and every time this has been when he has been with his one friend who I'll call 'C'. I'm not completely sure what it is that C smokes, but I think it's either weed or some kind of ... (382 words)

Why do I keep on wanting what I can't have, namely: married men? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do I go for married men? Even though I know it never works! I really like this guy, who is quite a lot older than I am; and married! He confessed he had fallen for me, I tried to convince him he hadn't because he was married, but I knew that I had fallen for him too. B... (270 words)

Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relationship with a girl that lasted ... (712 words)

IPhone addict? Sending a picture of himself in some of my clothing? What can I do about his addiction to his phone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband has recently become obsessed, and I mean obsessed with his iPhone. The iPhone isn't new, he's had it since January, so it's not like a kid with a new toy at Christmas, but he spends hours on social networking sites with it, and spends money buying other new ones, an... (382 words)

Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4440 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is something not there, or wrong in... (68 words)

What's his game? Is he trying to use me as a booty call?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy at a club. He had dinner and we went his place but I refused to have sex. Two days later he invited me to come to his brother's birthday party. I went there but we didn't had sex. then he invited me to come over his place to watch movie together. so I... (208 words)

I've just broken up with my Gf. Can I have some advice please? Her mixed messages and all the pain I've been going through is a heavy load.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend of 2 and a half years just broke up with me on Saturday saying we need some space. She says I need to become more independent and self sufficient. I can see where she is coming from but I can't tell if it is tough love or forever. This year has been absolutely... (510 words)

Am I allowed to play the field in this situation? I don't want to break hearts.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - ok so I haven't had a full-on relationship for about almost 3 years now, all I have been doing is going out weekends having one night stands and having fwb. Now however I have 3 girls that I can really have a proper strong relationship with. Am I allowed to play the field he... (144 words)

Is Abstinence the only answer as birth control for me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having a lot of trouble with birth control methods and I don't know whether to ask my boyfriend if we can stop having sex until we're ready to settle down. We've been together for a year and sexually active for almost all of it. At the start we tried using condoms bu... (433 words)

14 going out with a 12 year old?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and just yesterday, I was asked out by a 12 year old boy that I liked. I'm really scared that people will make judgements about the age difference and my mum fears I will get bullied for it. He is really sweet and caring and I don't want to hurt him ... (69 words)

Would you put up with a jealous man just so you could get the other nice things back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site and even when I confronted him he said it wasn't him and even blamed me for setting it up. Well he wasn't very nice to me, very paranoid, jealous and angry a lot. I decided to go on this dating site and ... (275 words)

I'm jealous that his 16 year old daughter is pregnant!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4439 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok I know this is going to generate negative responses but here goes. My longtime baby daddy just informed me that his 16 yr old is 5 months pregnant. One, I can't shake off that he waited 5 months to tell me and second, I can't help but to feel jealous. I feel insecure that ... (202 words)

Boyfriend is mean and pressuring me for sex. Should I break up with him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I love my boyfriend of 5 months dearly, but i'm still not ready for sex and he pressures me sometimes. We have different religious views and his parents don't want to meet me,and on top of that he can be soo mean to me. But he can also be soo sweet. But my feelings are fading ... (167 words)

I can't sleep when he's not there

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm struggling to sleep when my boyfriend isn't with me. We've been together 3 years and we are completely in love. Recently I've not been able to sleep when he isn't in bed with me. We live separately at our parents house and I work part time and looking for work and he has ... (173 words)

Ok I'm lost, does she like me or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4441 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - So there is this woman at work who i like. We only see each other for short amounts of time since we are both very busy (usually on opposite sides of the building) I'm not sure if she likes girls or shes straight and playing around with me. When i first met her she would fl... (321 words)

What hope is there for us? We can't be together right now and we fight weekly

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4443 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - We saw each other for 5 months, then separated because of distance, continued LDR on and off for 3 months and then finally ended it because she wasn't ready and have never since tried to be friends. I've tried numerous times to just leave her behind and focus on getting over ... (498 words)

He lies to me. Do I keep putting up with this? I do love him, just tired of being treated like a doormat

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I found out my partner had cheated gave him a second chance everything seemed to go well but then I found out he wasn't telling the whole truth of his affair I told him the lies are now worse than the affair, he said he knows that but he didn't want to create further damage and ... (141 words)

Was inviting him to a movie, as just a friend, the wrong thing to do? I have a crush on him. He does have a GF as well.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear cupid, I really like this guy at my school, but he is a going out with a friend, of mine right. I reassured him that I don't mind being just friends and that I wouldn't dare interfere with his relationship because I care about him and I care about the person he is going... (563 words)

Am I too controlling for wanting to help?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello all, I was curious to get a second opinion on a situation. Now my girlfriend is notoriously for procrastinating, motivating herself, forgetting to do important things, and is very lazy, to the point where if I ask about something she was supposed to do (For example ... (261 words)

I told him I loved him and he said "thank you" What does that mean?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4442 days ago

23 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been seeing this man for some time now and have strong feelings for him. We talk about moving in together even he has brought up marriage a few times, but the other day when I told him I loved him his expression was like a deer caught in head lights and his response was ... (80 words)