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Archived questions from: 12 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Broke it off with ex but he won't move on! He's scaring me. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy online, we talked for a few months before meeting for coffee. Then we met a second time and that was it. Due to distance we couldn't see each other very often so we just texted. But during that time I met someone else, also online, and we've been together for 2 ... (178 words)

My ex boyfriend keeps texting me for sex!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend got dumped by his girlfriend now he keeps texting me asking for sex and it is really annoying me and my boyfriend now! I am ignoring him but he just isn't getting the picture, if I don't reply he gets a little abusive in the text messages and over facebook... (95 words)

My boyfriend doesn't always ejaculate but says he still enjoys sex. Can anyone relate to this? I'm worried I'm doing something wrong!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Can anyone explain my bf's lack of ejaculation to me? For as long as we've been together (1.5 yrs now), and he says for his whole life, he ejaculates when he orgasms sometimes but not always. Sometimes when we have sex, he will ejaculate. Sometimes he does not, but his brea... (363 words)

Is he interested or just being polite after weeks of silence?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4378 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - A quick question for you all: Hadn't heard from this guy I had a crush on, in 5 weeks, then all of a sudden I get a beautifully worded text. All it did was apologise for the lack of contact, he had been very busy and asked how things were with me. Anyway to the questi... (148 words)

Since I started uni I've really started resenting my boyfriend. Is it just the transition, or more than that?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I've just started university a few weeks ago and it's turned my life upside down. I'd say I'm sad and it's all too much, but in a sense I feel like rather than turning my life on its head, it's simply brought more things into clear light for me. I've been with my boyfrien... (744 words)

Should I dump my boyfriend over this Facebook stuff and his lies?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My Boyfriend wanted me to delete all the male friends on my fb account. I grew up with these guys and most of them are married it is nothing sexual. But to please him I just deleted my account . That made him mad because he said I should have just erased the guys. Anyways ... (191 words)

How do you determine if a woman is interested in dating another woman?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 24 and realised I am more suited with older women........seriously though are ALL older women married or have been in a long term relationship with a guy resulting in kids?!!! The younger girls are more interested in experimenting and they are the only ones that I seem... (93 words)

I have a crush on a girl at school. Does she like me too? Should I tell her how I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - OK, so, I'm a girl and i like my classmate. I have liked her for a few months now and i'm getting very depressed over this crush because she's really cute and when i look in the mirror me and other people find me really ugly and it makes me upset that i think i will never be... (266 words)

Marraige for 5years but we don't have sex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been married for 5 years.My wife has a degree in bussines adminstration and i have a diploma in social work.The last one year i have suffered insults from her.I work on voluntary for a certain NGO in lusaka and they pay me 2million as asllowance.My wife keeps tel... (219 words)

I don’t think I can ever respect another woman again.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Right now my brain is the midst of a battle...Why? It’s because I’m somehow beginning to see women in a completely different light than I did before. Long story short, Wednesday at work, the topic of women came up. In my office there are 3 guys and 1 girl, my boss was out. I’m... (1106 words)

Anxious/preoccupied - has she lost interest already?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been with this awesome girl for six months. We share a lot of interests and especially in the beginning had a sparking, romantically and sexually intense and wonderful relationship. We basically spent every day together. Over time, she has begun to hint that she'd li... (499 words)

Is our relationship falling apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4415 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Things have been diff with us it feels like we are moving back. We used to spend a lot of time together always would talk on the phone nd we would always hang out. Now we don't really talk we hang out we watch tv always sports bc that's what he likes nd have sex. But I feel we ... (162 words)

Is it possible to resign yourself to a life without love?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age - I just want to say this and get it off my chest really. Comment if you wish. I'm getting on for fifty, and have been married for twenty years, most of them unhappily. My wife suffered from serious post-partum depression after our children were born, and it never really stopped.... (703 words)

Messaged an old high school b/f and now can't get him out of my mind

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I got nostalgic and looked up and messaged an old high school boyfriend on a social networking site a couple of months ago. He was someone that I would have really liked to reconnect with but I did not get a reply from him. I have looked through similar questions... (256 words)

If my ex still likes me, what should I do? He has a long distance girlfriend....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - my ex, "justin" started dating a new girl in july, they're long distance right now because she goes to school in another state. he talks to me every night from like 9 until 3 or 4 every morning. this week we've skyped twice. i recently broke up with my most recent ex, "dillon", ... (217 words)

Boyfriend really hurts me during sex

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend hurts me when we have sex. I'm a small built girl and quite skinny and he's a whole lot heavier than me. He lies down ontop of me and puts all his weight on me. He grinds his chest into my boobs and literally drags my nipples down my chest. It really hurts and I ... (191 words)

How can I stop dreaming about a threesome with my brother in law? Do I have to stop?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Help, My Brother in law turns me on but I don't want to have a threesome. I've always liked the idea of threesomes, I even tried two when I was younger. One mmf and one mff. Neither one was as good as imagined. My husband had never had one before but also loves them and t... (655 words)

25 and never had an orgasm! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I am 25yrs of age and has never had an orgasm.I've been with my boyfriend for 6yrs now and I'm clueless as to how to make it happen. Please I need some help cause my sex life is falling apart?... (41 words)

He changed his status to "In a Relationship" on Facebook. Does this mean I should move on now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. I am interested in some opinions on this subject. How much credibility should we give to what friends post on Facebook? For example, if your friend updates his status from "Single" to "In a Relationship" does this really mean he is committed to his girlfrie... (144 words)

If I love him so much why do I continue to push him away and hurt him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My first bf was very abusive both physically and emotionally, We dated from the time we were around 13 right up until last year. We have an amazing son together but he hasnt been in his life since he was few motnhs old In January my brother introuced me to one of his cowor... (591 words)

Because she wasnt honest with me I feel like our whole relationship was a sham....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4173 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have just discovered that my girlfriend of 3 years dumped me in april and then started seeing a new guy who she met in feb at uni within a couple of weeks. the problem is not so much that she has moved on so quickly although that hurts but the level of deception for the past ... (391 words)

Does first time sex really hurt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiiiiiii everyone..my question is does sex really hurts for the first time..i was talking with my bf on this topic nd he told me that it hurts..i have never ever done sex..nd when i try to insert my finger in vagina it hurts like hell i cant insert it..it burns when i try to ... (77 words)

She told me to my face she doesn't love me! Is she being serious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in love with a girl but she boldly told me to my face that she does'nt love me. How do i know if she is serious? And what should i do if she is serious or not?... (39 words)

We can't sustain a conversation now, how is it even going to work in the long run?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi agony aunts, I have been seeing this guy for a month now,and here's the thing I believe in abstinence and I told him I want to wait till marriage and he's okay with it but lately I realise that when we get back home since we come from 2 different worlds,we don't really h... (125 words)

Is my ex trying to tell me he is gay but won't come right out and say it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - This morning I received a text from my ex of a man giving another guy a blowjob and for one split second my mind went blank. I am saying to myself I have kids by this man and he turns around and sends me this picture of two men in a sexual act. I don't know what he wanted me ... (129 words)

Why has this guy cooled off? He said he loved me and still wants to see me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm at a loss. I've been seeing this guy since end of July. He said he loved me after 5 weeks. I was surprised but said it back. For the last month. He hasn't seen me much. Whereas before it was once a week, or once every 4 days. He is busy with work, but so much so he ... (100 words)

How can I put myself out there to find myself a lovely and really great wife ??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hopefully this isn't too small of a matter to bother you with but regadless if it is well or poorly placed, I have confidence that I could get a relationship started fairly quickly if I could find my girlfriend and hopefully wife but I'm not certain where I could meet ... (331 words)

It upsets me when my Bf will not reply to my texts. Why does this wind me up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I feel better when my boyfriend doesn't reply to my text messages? I know, I know, there's stuff that's way more important. Last night we had a long text conversation (which was lovely), then a couple of hours later I sent him a message saying goodnight. I k... (132 words)

Am I being too critical? too impatient? too selfish towards those around me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi there everyone I'm approaching a point where I don't even know what to do about anything. I'm a senior in high school, never been in a relationship, OK looks and struggling to start a relationship with a girl who can be honest with me about why she can't go out with me, ... (588 words)

I'm also jealous of their success with women. So can going to a strip club improve things?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (?) age 30-35 - My friends and I are in college and just finished a string of exams. They want to celebrate by going to a strip club, everyone needs a first time. I'm conflicted because I don't know what to do. I have low confidence and am starting to believe I'll never get any more female ... (181 words)

How do I apologise to him and his Gf? What can I do to keep him in my life as just a friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i have a best friend who did a lot for me more than anyone has ever done for me. i lived with him for 7 years and have known him since i was 14. He was the only person who was always there for me through thick and thin and supported me in all of lifes ups and downs. He is ... (336 words)

Are my fantasies bordering on mental illness?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm kind of worried I've warped my mind through excessive pornography use over the last few years, and through meeting some people in the sex industry, and I'm looking for some advice on what to do next, as my eyes are opening to the extent of the problem lately. I was so ... (650 words)

I'm 29 and never had sex but should I do it now with my B/f?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi So this is a little embarassing for me. Im 29 and Iv never had sex. Iv been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years and hes waiting for me. I know he really wants to do it (as he has before many times before me) Also he has said to me he really needs to do it to feel closer t... (324 words)

Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house as well as going through a nasty... (1341 words)

Is it ever going to get any better? He keeps on imagining I am thinking about him cheating when this is not the truth.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4423 days ago

12 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been with my bf for a little over a year. He's smart, handsome and really outgoing. Women tend to love him (existing friends and strangers he just met) and I think he enjoys that too. There has been a few situations that bothered me and I told him. But now I feel like... (275 words)

Need help losing post pregnancy weight

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4423 days ago

12 October 2012 (F) age 41-50 - My husband and I were highschool sweethearts and have been married for 9 years. I had twins a year and half ago and have been finding it hard to lose the baby weight, I know that snce our babies were born I have let myself go but it has almost turned him off ocmpletely. He ... (84 words)

I'm gay and my boyfriend wants to have sex but I'm scared that he will hurt me

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3915 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok s first of all im gay. My boyfriend of a month really wants to have sex. But im scared to because im the bottom and his penis is very large and hes really rough whenever we have fooled around before. What should i do because i honestly think i would cry if we had sex and he ... (73 words)

Wife is in crisis and how do I move on w/o losing the kids?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4422 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - How do I move on? My W has been in Midlifecrisis for 2 yrs now (though my counselor says its bipolar) and I dont know whats next?I do still love her, but I cant tolerate the verbal abuse any longer. She frequently says how she hates me, and blames me for all of her pain, ... (144 words)

I'm not doing well at university -- any tips on how to turn my effort into success?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4423 days ago

12 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - Hey aunties and uncles, this isn't a relationship question, but it's something that's been distressing me quite a lot, I recently failed a subject at university and I feel so very upset because I've studied a lot, I read the books recommended, I read my notes, my friend's notes ... (241 words)

Bi-curious, but I don't want my first experience to be with a guy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4421 days ago

12 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - hey, this is my first question on here and i heard a friend talking about it and i have a genuine problem. so im just gonna jump into my situation. ok so, i am very bi curious. for the last year or so ive been really tempted to do something with a boy. however, i still... (248 words)