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Archived questions from: 7 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I really liked this guy, but then I found he is still in love with his ex - who happens to be my new best friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So, I've recently made some new friends at my school and they are literally amazing. They take me to all the coolest parties and introduce me to the best people. Recently, I meet this guy that I really like. He is good looking, sweet, and an amazing dancer! I told my friend ... (100 words)

I am a nice person so why is my company not preferred?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm living in a house for college with a woman and her daughter. there is two more students here a boy and a girl but i feel that the daughter prefers the other female student's company than mine. I'm easy to talk to and genuinly nice and not a bitch. the daughter is an ... (144 words)

I have a great g/f but I'm bored. Do I keep her or let her go?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Here's the Story. I'v been With this girl for almost 2 years, And she treats me better then gold and It's hard to find a girl that good. but must have gotten bored and my gf isn't big but she has curves I like thin in shape girls. Her sister is in alot better shape then m... (276 words)

How can I repair our relationship after I cheated on him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months and i cheated on him. Our relationship has changed alot since this happened. What can i do to make our relationship work out and get it back to the way it use to be?... (44 words)

My boyfriend says he wants a break so he can date other girls

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4423 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am in a rather interesting situation. My boyfriend well currently ex boyfriend lives with me. And hes confusing and hurting me emotionally. But lets go back to the beginning 4 1/2 years. We met while I was on a field trip when I was still in high school and we dated... (562 words)

My boyfriend is terrible at performing oral sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's the thing - my boyfriend is great but....he's rubbish at giving me oral sex! I've tried giving him subtle pointers but he just seems to ignore them, and then gets annoyed when he can't please me. I dont want to take oral sex off the menu, but as it stands he does more to ... (68 words)

How can I regain his trust for the second time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age - Guys I logged on to the dating website were we met, but I never open up a account. The 1st time it happened, he forgave me, but this 2nd time he told me he could never forgive me and I lost him. I had no intentions in dating anyone on that site ever again, because I love him. I ... (96 words)

Is it too late to tell her how I feel?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've got a friend who I became unusually close to a couple of years ago. We begun talking intimately on an almost 24/7 basis. I started to get quite intense feelings for her and had a sense that she might of felt the same - although neither of us ever admitted it, we often ... (108 words)

Trouble with my childs father, please help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so when I met the father of my unborn child, we were both immediately attracted to each other. Unfortunately, we broke up and were on and off for a while because I had told him some news that devastated him and his ego. (No, I didn't cheat, it had nothing to do with me.) ... (1005 words)

Do you think I should try and salvage this friendship or just let it go?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4425 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've had two really good friends for almost a year now. They seemed like really great people that I am somewhat compatible with. One of those friends got dismissed from the college so she wasn't able to join us this semester. She came to visit this weekend and I noticed that ... (282 words)

Is it wrong to want my boyfriend to buy me things?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it wrong to want my boyfriend to buy me things? I don't mean expensive jewelery or anything, but we've been going out four months and he's never brought me flowers, or chocolates or anything. He's only ever once or twice paid for dinner. I feel selfish saying this, but I buy ... (92 words)

How do I tell a girl how I feel about her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I really like this girl, who happens to be the daughter of my dad's workmate. I first met her about this time last year and have met her again since. Both times, she left me with the feeling of butterflies in my stomach. I felt awkward about speaking to her as I was in the ... (245 words)

Have I ruined this relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My disclaimer now: you will think I'm immature, you will see discord, drama, mistrust, and more...so please, meet my question where it's at for who we are...thank you I'm 27 he's 28. We met a year ago and he swept me off my feet swearing we will marry and that I was made ... (876 words)

What's the best way to go about keeping in touch with a former teacher?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - For those who stayed in touch with their former teachers, how do you so (write, phone, meet up or go for coffee with them)? How often do you contact them? Are you on a first-name basis with them and did you ask for contact details or did they give it to you? Does your way of c... (91 words)

I need a man's opinion on the behavior of my boyfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi There, I wondered if any guys would help me with this problem. My boy friend if 1 year has issues due to his disability, therefore he has trust issues. He pushes me away sometimes and I stay in the background and let him know that i'm still there for him. When he's ready to ... (155 words)

I'm the youngest person at my job, and it seem I'm not liked, not even by my boss

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4422 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I work at a restaurant and I'm the only girl, my co-workers are guys and all of them are in there twenties, I am the youngest being only 17. I started working there about a month and a half ago (it's my first job ever) and my boss didn't teach me how to do my job (I take phone ... (324 words)

2 month LDR has lost its spark

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4425 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months now. Is long distance but I still get to see him on the holidays and I completely trust him. The problem is that he's been really distant, like he texts me every other day and doesn't respond to my texts. I just feel ... (67 words)

Fingering was not pleasant for me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I let my boyfriend finger me for the first time, and it wasn't pleasurable at all. It was sore sort of and was like friction. I was wet. But I don't know whether it was his being dry or me being tight. Help! It's really putting me off doing it again.... (55 words)

I don't want to be with cheating b/f let alone have sex with him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My bf has stepped out on me, more than once, and engaged in sexual activity with these women. I’ve attempted to leave the relationship, but he refuses to let me go, telling me that I am the one he really loves and wants to be with and wants a future with. He claims that he is ... (114 words)

Platonic friendship with Ex, is it even possible?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. So i was wondering if anyone has been in or knows of someone who has been in my situation for some advice. My ex and i have 2 wonderful sons, we drifted apart after 9 years together, we were childhood sweethearts and were together from 16 but we just grew up and... (681 words)

I find myself preferring masturbation over sex with my partner. Why?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4422 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm in a 4-year (gay) relationship and experience difficulties with our sex life. In general I am very happy; couldn't live without him. However, when it comes to sex I find myself preferring masturbation over sex...and it confuses me! I'm aware that a healthy sex life is ... (177 words)

Is there a way to find if she is interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I been seeing this girl at college nearly everyday. We usually always do something afterwards, although simple things.. as friends. She invited me to go cinema with another 2 friends. I declined as i was busy but offered to go next week. Suprisingly she never went with her fr... (96 words)

She's separated and available..do I act on it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4425 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - A good friend of mine separated from her husband two months ago. They have been married two years, and together for about three years before that. There was nobody else involved in the breakup, it just didn't work out. It was essentially my friend's choice. I have been fri... (93 words)

I really love this guy, so how can I get him to trust me again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age - I met this guy online in April, we talked, enjoyed one another and start talking about sharing a life together, but one night I log back on the site and he confronted me about it the next day. I really hurt him, I apolgized and gave him some space to get over it, he did and ... (183 words)

I can't satisfy my husband in bed. I feel a failure. Is this relationship going no where?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. I cant satisfy my husband. It has always been hit and miss and I have tried to leave him too, this was one of the reasons. He says that I don't 'join' with him referring to his sick ways. It has put me under a lot of pressure and guilt. If I do stimulate him it isn't for... (100 words)

I am not interested in this 50 year old married man at work. So how do I discourage him effectively? And before he gets any more ideas please.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently a married man at work has been flirting with me and jokingly we bantered, but nothing serious to start with as I am 22 and he 50, but in the past 3 months he's started heavily flirting to the point people have started commenting on it! For example (I work nights) ... (207 words)

Am I just in Rebound territory? I like the geeky gym instructor who flirts with me, and he is a good kisser

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok for the last few months I've been going to the gym. My fitness instructor and I get along really well and I got to know him more and more with every session. I know for a fact that he doesn't chat that much with any of the other girls like the way he does with me(and I... (360 words)

I am too overcome to talk to him. So how can I find out if my crush has the same feelings as I do for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a crush on this guy but only thing I can do is smile every time I see him. I can't even talk my words disappear from my mind I start shaking I don't know if he see me shaking but I feel it. i can't see anything, or hear anything I just feel the butterflies swim in my s... (126 words)

My mom says he and I are flirting. So is this just friendly, on the part of my professor and how we behave together? Or is it more?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Personally I think we are just being friendly, which is fine with me! He is married and like twice my age, so I'd never do anything with him I'm not stupid. Anyways I meet with him every once in a while and at first we were both awkward, but we are getting more comfy with eac... (339 words)

Am I feeling shock or Jealousy or anger? What should I do if he's now finding excuses to not pay child support?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Im so hurt dont know whether it's shock jealousy or anger? i havent been able to sleep properly i keep getting these dreams about the situation im in. I feel used, worthless. Basically have been seperated from my ex for about 2 months I've put off getting involved with anyone, ... (214 words)

Might it get better or will it get worse? My Bf has ignored my pleas to change. He fails to do nice things to show he cares

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm at this point in my relationship where it's all on my bf. I've told him many times that I need more from him and even wrote a nice letter to him giving examples of moments when he made me feel loved and important in his life. However, nothing has really improved. I'm gue... (100 words)

I am disgusted with my Bf. He is a hypocrite. He's warned me against drugs, yet he does them. Do I have a right to be angry?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I called my boyfriend today and he was high - im so disgusted he was even doing it in the first place, but it makes it worse because I know If I were to do that he would lose it. He's made it clear to me he never wants me to do it!! Do I have a right to be angry?... (62 words)

I don't know what to do or how to free myself from these feelings for my FWB and Best friend. What are the options please?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi My best friend and I are in a situation and need help!! we are Friends with Benefits but I'm in love with the her! it's making things complicated and jeopardising our friendship. she's just come out of a long term relationship and doesn't want anything serious (FWB was... (148 words)

I know the break up of my Bf's parents is not about me. But how is this going to affect the relationship with my Bf? He is moving away too and I don't want to lose him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4428 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - so my boyfriend's parents are getting and divorce. From the bottom of my heart i feel so bad for him like i wish there was something i could do. he found out that his dad was cheating on his mom by overhearing a conversation on the phone. he had to tell his own mom that his... (291 words)

What advice can you give me? I hate having to keep this secret. But my General Manager said he was cool with partying with me if no one else from work found out

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently I got a promotion to catering assistant at my job. I made great friends with the girl whose position I would be taking so on her last night, I went to her going away party at a local sushi restaurant. Surprisingly, my general manager was there, but no one else from... (385 words)

I'm not handling this break well at all

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (M) - We were dating nine months. Things seemed great. We did have our issues, specifically I put off meeting her best friend, which was partially subconscious, partially related to my stresses about grad-work (I'm a writer), but bottom line I should have just bit the bullet and met ... (678 words)

My ex posts horrible things about me on Facebook

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4427 days ago

7 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Can anyone help me on this topic please. My ex who I broke up with 9 Months ago is constantly writing derogatory remarks and twisted round versions about me on Facebook. There is no mention of name but it is written so everyone knows who it is she is talking about. I am not on ... (89 words)

How do I encourage him to ask me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Long story cut short, basically, I fancy my best friend. We've been friends for about a year now and I know there's been a point where he's liked me but I've shrugged it off(found it strange!). And a time where I've been secretly infatuated with him whilst he's dated anoth... (206 words)

When would be the right time to tell my students that I am pregnant?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4426 days ago

7 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a 29 year-old woman and I recently found out that I am expecting. I'm a teacher, so is my husband, and we work at the same high school. We've been married for 15 months. I'm fairly skinny and I'm about 6 weeks pregnant. I haven't starting showing yet and I don't know when ... (79 words)