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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?

This question has 33 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's a $10,000 ring, natural pink ... (198 words)

My friends that were dating broke up. How do I deal with this? I care about both of them!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I went away with my best friend and her parents when I was 15, we ended up meeting a family who didn't live too far from us. My best friend ended up getting in a relationship with this guy and they were together for 16 months, he was her first boyfriend and her first love. He ... (91 words)

What are they getting out of this? It seems they want drama all the time.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - One of my housemates is going out with a guy and their relationship is rocky to say the least. The guy is a douche bag but he makes it his business to try and rise me when he comes over but he never succeeds. we get a great laugh out of the witty comebacks and and banter. ... (173 words)

He's getting married, we cheated, and I want to hook up again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! Last Friday I went out with some friends and I ended up going to a hotel with this 31 year old guy who is married... We both knew what we were getting into and agreed that it was just gonna be a couple of hours of fun... We did have fun and he enjoyed that til... (210 words)

What do I do now? I lied and told my boyfriend that I wasn't a virgin

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So this is the problem, this guy I really liked we met on a night out and instantly hit it off, we were attracted to each other so much and i don't know how this came out in our conversation but we ended up talking about how many people we slept with and when he went to ask me ... (453 words)

Is it ok to get attached to my fiance's mother? I recently lost my mom and I really care about my fiance's mom

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello. I've recently lost my mother who was the person I loved the most in the whole world. Since she died I've met my fiancé and grew really close to his family, especially his mom: I really love her and I feel her as both a friend and a mother. Do you think it's okay to ... (161 words)

How did you feel a few days before your marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi! I am about to get married and I'm having so many feelings going through my heart and my head. How did you feel a few days before your marriage? Did things change in any way after you got married? Were you even remotely worried things might not work out in your married life? ... (80 words)

Why has my sex drive suddenly dropped?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 3 years, a few months back we broke up because he ended up kissing another girl, we just stopped having any type of contact with each other. After a month of that we gradually got back into contact and soon ended up as 'friends ... (259 words)

I'm in love with my female bestfriend, who's straight... HELP!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4269 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm confused about what to do about my feelings for my female bestfriend who is straight (atleast, I think she is). I'm straight too (atleast, I thought I was). My bestfriend and I are sooo close. We talk and/or text everyday. She gets upset when I don't send her goodmorni... (838 words)

Am I so psychologically messed up with myself that I won't ever let myself be happy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I apologize ahead of time if this gets a little too long, but I need to give the whole story to get the right advice. So I'm a 21 yr old woman, and well I may not be the most beautiful girl in the world but getting a guys attention has never really been a problem. I'm not... (784 words)

How can I be successful with girls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have absolutely no experience with girls and i am trying to make sense of relationships. I want to know what does it mean to be successful with girls? and what does it take to be so?... (39 words)

I want to marry my boyfriend but parents don't approve! And advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to marry with my boyfriend but the problem is that we both same caste but in our religion same caste cant marry with each other. We both love each other so much, please suggest what should we do...then our parents agree....????????? ... (46 words)

Any advice in getting over breakup with my first love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4386 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - OK so I've been talking to this guy since the end of June. We met off of facebook, him and my friend were kinda friends, he asked me out and i said i wanna meet you first, so my friend told him too meet us at a field, and we met. When we looked into each others eyes i ... (634 words)

I'm back in touch with b/f from 18 years ago. I want to be with him but have a boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi ive been with my partner for ten years but recently ive been in contact with an old boyfriend from 18 years ago i loved my old boyfriend then but we were too young,now were bk in touch my feelings have returned!i want to b with him what do i do?... (51 words)

When I use toys sometimes I bleed. Can this cause future problems?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey well when i use toys roughly some times i start to bleed im just worried this wont make it so i cant have kids in the future will it? thank you... (32 words)

Why do men never EVER approach me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel embarassed just typing this, but well... I am nineteen year old, college student, I am extremely outgoing, I have a lot of friends and I am quite popular with them. I am tomboyish as in "loving sports, fights and cars" but you wouldn't tell from the way I looked apart fr... (262 words)

I'm dating a guy my mom doesn't like and she doesn't know we're dating!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! Me nd my bf just started dating but we've been friends for a while now. The Thing is we work together and bc of that my mom docent approve of us being together and it's not just that he is 24 I'm 21 he didn't finish collage but told me he plans on going back. My ... (196 words)

Guy a really like, but how can I hint that I want to spend time together outside school?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, There's this guy that I talk to pretty often. I just met him in university and he's in his mid twenties and I'm 18. I've had a bit of a crush on him even though the only times we see each other are during labs because he's always my partner or sometimes we sit together ... (340 words)

My boyfriend touches other girls and it makes me hurt, am I over re-acting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Today in class my boyfriend had to do some work with this girl amy and shes really pretty. They both really get on too well i feel like my boyfriend wants her, Anyway she bumped into him purposely so he would do something back to her like chase her, it makes me feel really ... (69 words)

Did my ex just kiss me to have some fun and make himself feel good?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear friends, I'm so confused! My exbf and I broke up over one year ago. Since then, we mantained a rather friendly relationship, talking twice a month or so. It was a long distance relationship, so we always thought one of the reasons it didn't work out was because of t... (434 words)

I am not in a relationship and too ashamed to tell my father. I bought a doll as comfort

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 21 years old. I never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, none of that. It's not like I never wanted it. I've tried looking for a boyfriend since I was 13 to no avail. I heard many people telling me that you find one when you're not looking. I even tried to do this but ... (679 words)

I think I need a break from boyfriend but he doesn't want this and I don't want to hurt him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 7 years, everything was perfect up until about a year ago, I have mentioned to him how I feel, when im around him I adore the ground he walks on and never want to leave him but when im home I act like im a single person, ... (252 words)

I don't think we can have vaginal intercourse because of my yeast infection, what else can we do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I got a yeast infection and im doing treatments and it is helping very well. My fiance and i are spending friday together. Im meeting his parents and then to his place for one on one time. Im concerned because i read the back of my box to see if we could make love. It said "do ... (152 words)

Should I tell my boyfriend that I had online sex with a stranger?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. Im a gal of 18. it has been an year since i have been in a relationship with my bf. i love him wholeheartedly .everythings going well but a mistake of mine ruined evrything.I met a guy online .Soon we become good friends.But what happened exctly yesterday night that we ... (100 words)

He made a big fuss pretending to not know this woman when she only said 'hi' to him, is he hiding something?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age - I'm not sure if my husband is hiding something from me. The other night we went to dinner and after went window shopping. A female said hi to him. I immediately said who was that. His first response was I dont know. So I said to him well think who was it. He got really ... (146 words)

She ended our FWB situation because she was unsatisfied with the sex, but all the time she told me how great I was! How do I deal with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Im shattered over here. A woman i met for intimacy is seeing another guy and is done with me because i had mental issues regarding vaginal sex. In the four times i met up with her over several months at the end of each meeting i asked if she was satisfied n she said yeah you ... (206 words)

She's suddenly started ignoring my messages, what is wrong with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been speaking to this girl online. she's 17 and i'm 19 and we got on well. we met up as friends and i met 3 of her other friends and it was great we got to know more about each other and things were fine. we carried on talking over facebook and got on really well. I told ... (208 words)

I want to propose to my girlfriend, but need to get her brother and mother's permission first! How do I do this, and what happens if her mother says no?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Next weekend I am going to be asking the biggest question I have ever asked. My gf and I are in a gay relationship and have been for just over two years. She's the one. We have discussed marriage and have both said we'd like to get engaged soon. We get on great with each ... (1303 words)

Why do romantic novels make it seem like all women achieve vaginal orgasms?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - We all know that a tiny fraction of women achieve a "vaginal" orgasm. Then why do 90% of romantic novels talk of this kind of orgasm as if its only natural for a woman to achieve it? And they always talk of "reaching the heights together" bulls**t. Im totally pissed at how ... (91 words)

First Date: Should it be the expensive restaurant, or something less formal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Im taking my neighbor on a first date today. I knew she liked me and i liked her and decided to man up and ask her out. I asked her out bye inviting her to my bday party and asking her to play bp with me and she said shed rather kick my ass. so we made a bet and I told her to ... (222 words)

My friend's boyfriend is coming onto me, how can I make him stop?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a problem. My best friend has been with her boyfriend for 10 months. We both have known him for the same time. He doesn't act like he likes her. You can say he is "lovey-dovey" with her. But he is with me. He hugs me. A few times he has feeded me(literally). Oncce, even ... (171 words)

My past has affected me and subsequently my troubled relationships led to me turning to porn. Can I have a normal sex life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I am porn-damaged and I need help. Modnote: this paragraph was reduced to a precis, due to the graphic images therein: The background is that I have had a very troubled life where things have happened that were NOT my fault and for which I was NOT to blame. I was the INNOCENT... (361 words)

Not happy about anything. And my family are pressuring a marriage. What would you do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I love this guy and i really can't think of being happy without him but the chances are very less that we will be together forever as his family doesnt want this i doubt if even he does like me or is he just afraid ? i am not sure. If i even speak about this ....he gets ... (164 words)

What are my chances with this girl from another country in an LDR and despite her family and her health issues?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

- I am 43 and live in ,Greece I met A from another country online on Facebook in February 2012. We had common musical tastes and met in a group dedicated to such music. After a few initial messages on FaceBook, we became closer and closer. At some point, A got flirty and ... (1551 words)

I'm feeling unwanted. Can I try again to rekinde our marriage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girl rarely sleeps in the bed with me. she falls sleep on the couch damn near everynite. i work a lot so when i come home at nite i want to cuddle. she says im complaining too much , but i'm not im human who like affection. but when thgs arent going hood on her end i go ... (191 words)

Marriage in trouble. But could we get back together? best advice???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Well, my world came tumbling down to earth about 5 weeks ago. I have been married for 8 years, known each other for another 7 or so years earlier, have two boys 8 and 11 with her. We had one break up before we had kids, she met someone at her work after we had kind of fall... (898 words)

Even though he is planning to marry me, why do I feel like I am second best? Does the mother of his child have more claim to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a guy we are so good together. he has a child froma past relationship, he loves her so much, that i fear he might have to choose her/(and of courss the mother) over me.,when it gets to the point, where i will ask for us to settl... (193 words)

Is ALMOST cheating, cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I'm in a very confusing dilemma with my boyfriend at the moment, and I'm afraid to talk to my friends about it because if we do stay together, I don't want them to think badly of him. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship for a year now. We ... (507 words)

I cant even find a decent guy for sex! Am I just unlucky, or is this the way its going to be now I'm getting older?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I m in my early 40swith a grown child. I own a small business for many years now and did well for myself. I m not rich by any means, but deffinitely independent. All I m missing is love in my life. I m in good shape, considered to be above average pretty woman, but for t... (552 words)

Family Guest arriving soon. Is it okay to put a rubber(?) mattress cover on the double bed where they will be sleeping alone?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Okay, this is an odd question and probably doesn't belong here, but... We have some guests coming soon. One of them is a bit mentally challenged. The last time we saw this person, they smelled terribly of urine. Is it okay to put a rubber(?) mattress cover on the ... (89 words)

Drinking: How much is too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I know this is not a relationship question, but i dont know where else to ask and i have posted stuff on here before and i like the amount of help i have received so i would like to try to get some help. This is about my life and drinking. I am currently in college and i ha... (311 words)

The sex is so unsatisfying for me. What are my options? My husband has ED and has been the doctor, but then forgets his medication for ED

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know where to go. My husband and I were raised in very conservative religious homes and had no sexual experience prior to marriage (at 18 and 19). He has an ongoing problem with premature ejaculation (I think his record is 10 seconds) and he refuses to deal with it.... (554 words)

Do I dump him over the attention he's giving his 'back-up women?" I no longer trust him.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is around 10 years older than me and is in a rush to get married because he feels that he is of that age and his family and culture expects that of him. We're of the same culture and I definitely understand that about him but I just can't get married right no... (340 words)

I am so worried about losing him. Yet I feel like we've fallen out of love. Could the real problem be that we're both depressed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need to get this off of my chest... I am not sure if I love my boyfriend or not. We have been dating for a little more than nine months. We started our relationship on very strange terms, and were strictly friends who smoked weed together (or so I thought). Anyw... (744 words)

Realistically, what do 20 something year old girls think of men with long hair?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I've always been really self-conscious about my appearance, namely because I have pale-skin, red hair, freckles, and glasses, while the rest of my family all has dark Native-American hair, eyes, and skin. As such, I was always picked-on for being the ugly duckling, but I'm ... (208 words)

She is half my age and up the duff!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age - OMG!! my husband of 21 years wants a divorce after getting his co-worker who is half his age pregnant. he says he loves me but he is in love with her and wants to marry her, and is excited about the baby. we had no children together but i had 2 from a previous marriage. i just ... (205 words)

I dumped my married lover when I found out about another woman, I think his wife needs to be told!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age - I am married and had an affair with a married man. We're both in our early 50's. For four years. I've been needing to end it. He ended it, after some bad behaviour on my part, and well, I just got really angry. It wasn't some soulmate thing, it was just egoist recreation ... (173 words)

My ex-girlfriend has lots of issues that she needs to talk out. But is that my responsibility still?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my girlfriend of about 10 months a little while ago. I still miss her, and I really do wish things could have worked out, but the fact of the matter is that I don't think they would have. I'm an honors biochemistry major, I wake up before sunrise and go to be... (420 words)

His sleazy behaviour around young girls disgusts me. Do I tell him how I feel? Or just walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age - My boyfriend is into every other female but me, or so it seems. He lost a good summer job, teaching science to high school students, at a local university because he was giving high school students rides in his van without permission and someone told on him. He leers at tee... (282 words)

Girls say I'm nice. So why am I still single? Am I missing something they are trying to tell me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been talking to all the girls in my class who all happen to have significant others and they all call me the nicest guy they have ever met Some of the girls say that any girl would be lucky to have me and that I'm too good for just any girl. Yet, here I am single can'... (111 words)

In love with the wrong guy... Is there a way out of this for me??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been seeing a guy for 2 1/2 years with the the relationship being intimate for just under 2 years. We met and there was immediate attraction. We stated our goals for long term relationship at the beginning and as things progressed he changed his mind on that. We continue... (317 words)

I'm a lost girl and I'm losing myself in this sea of men I've been seeing. What advice can you give me please?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Facts and dates these thing occurred: June 9th- ectopic pregnancy August 17th- He went back to his hometown September 1st- October 12th guy number 2 who went back to his baby mamma October 13th- I slept with guy number 3 twice Heyy cupids ... (754 words)

I got too sexual with my flirty texts, now she doesn't want to know me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - hi, I really like this beautiful young lady that goes to my church and she has told me that she likes me also .The problem that I have is we have been talking to each other and texting other for the 4 or 5 months and everything has been going well . She has been ... (241 words)

Am I doing too much for my Gf? I sometimes feel used by her.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4419 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I sometimes feel like i'm being used by my Gf. Like i always give her money and i buy stuff for her. She always ask me do i want anything and i just say no. I don't really want her to buy me anything. I'd rather be the type of gf, thats always there for her. She's a re... (83 words)

Does he like me? He hugs me for the smallest of things, plays footsies with me and always teases me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy baked me a box of brownies on my birthday. He always compliments me (albeit in a weird way sometimes, like "why are you so funny?"). He hugs me for the smallest of things, plays footsies with me and always teases me. He even yelled at me for asking about why he hated... (98 words)

My girlfriend is upset our porn movie has been posted online.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

15 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend is a sweet, amazing girl but very shy 21 year old. She was in a few very bad relationships before we met and has some trust issues from being hurt in the past. I had always wanted to make a sex tape but never did because I just didn't feel comfortable... (414 words)

I'm embarassed about how I look - should I cancel my date?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4393 days ago

15 October 2012 (F)

age - Hello Everyone, I met a guy online a week ago, and we hit it off really well, and have now started speaking via mobile phone, he seems nice and there seems to be a positive connection. We've scheduled to meet each other for the first time next Saturday. I'm overweight, ... (361 words)