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*riya2014
writes:its been 20 days i broke up with my verbally abusive ex, but he still keeps on messaging me goodnight and good morning text, he is saying that he has realised his mistake , now he can understand my importance. he keeps on calling me all of the time.he keeps on messaging me very sentimental messages ,sometimes he dedicate me songs on fb...i really want to move....i don,t want to fall in this trap again two days back he said bad things about my character then he said sorry......but i think he will never let me move on ...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (31 October 2012):
 ... Same here.....
Sorry if that seems like "piling on".... but you need to "hear" it....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 October 2012):
 Yep the Aunties and uncles are right - YOU are allowing this.
BLOCK his number, or get a new number and then start the block and remove him from all aspects of your life.
YOU choose to answer your phone and talk to him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): Many years ago I kept trying to leave an abusive boyfriend, and I too felt like he 'wouldn't let me'. It was like I needed his permission to breakup, and I needed him to agree. He used to ring me at work and plead with me. I was so kind and soft hearted I still didn't want to be mean or rude to him. Eventually he did 'agree' to end it with me. In hind sight, I can see that I just needed to be assertive and stronger. You could say: "It is over, I will never get back with you. I enjoyed most of the time we had together, but our time is over. I am blocking your number and I will not be taking any calls or texts from you". YOU call the shots!! Be VERY strong. You don't have to be mean...just assertive! Good on you for getting out of that relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 October 2012):
 I agree with Cerberus.
YOU are allowing this.
block his phone number
block him on facebook
move on without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): Abusive. That is the total of him. Abusive men are clever, but don't repeat a mistake. He had his chance and he made his choice. Now is the time to make yours. He has hurt you and made you unhappy. If you feel he won't let you go, it is because deep down you know he will destroy you if you stay. Make a good choice, ignore him and his behaviour and walk away, each time you do this you regain strength and are on a path to a happier normal decent life. Ignore him and cut all ties, he will soon move on and no doubt repeat his old mistakes
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): you need to let this idiot go block him on facebook change your mobile number cut all ties with him please dont go back he wont have changed good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): "but i think he will never let me move on ..."
No offence Priya but what kind of bullshit statement is that? He won't let you? You mean you need his permission to move on is it?
Stop being an idiot and take control, block him, block his number and block him on everything online too. He isn't "letting" you do anything, you're the purposefully staying in contact with him because you like the attention. If you really wanted to move on you'd get rid of him, it's very easy to do but you like playing games so you won't.
Don't complain about something you can easily stop, you're doing this on purpose, you're the one who won't let yourself let him go, he's doing nothing at all except what you allow him to do.
You're not a victim her Priya, you're playing games.
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