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writes:how can i show my boyfriend i really love him with out having sex with him i am planning to be with him for a very long time any ideas tips it would realy help! Reply to this Question
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reader, SOShelp  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Just love him. That sounds so cheesy, I know, but if he knows that you love him then sex should be the least of his worries!
But if you do feel like you need to pleasure him, think about foreplay techniques like handjobs and blowjobs
Just make sure that sexual activities isn't what is keeping you together
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 I understand you're boyfriend is not pressuring you to have sex, and that's great, but that is as it should be. You don't need to reward him for doing what he is supposed to do in polite society.
Do not get sucked into that all too common trap women end up in of trying to prove their love to a boyfriend. He does not need convincing (if he did he'd have left long ago) and you don't need to prove anything.
You stated your terms and he accepted. Leave it at that.
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reader, Annonymous.. +, writes (26 May 2012):
Annonymous.. is verified as being by the original poster of the question well actually im 16 lol ! but yeah he respecs my decisions and he said we will wait untul were ready it really meant alot but i wanna show him he means alot to me! thanks you guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012): Well its clear you love him, but does he love you enough to respect your decision not to have sex so early on as you are both only young and there's no rush? Is the question I'd be asking...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012): You tell him that and if he asks you to prove it tell him "I'm here now aren't I? Why would I be here if I didn't want to be with you?"
If he says sex is the only way of proving it or proving you love him then you need to dump the creep.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (26 May 2012):
 sex is not the way to prove you love him.
"how can i show my b/f i really love him without sex"
you can be with him, spend time with him, be by his side.
when i dated my wife ,i wanted to be with her, i could not see her enough, could not wait to see her the next time.
enjoy the things he is interested in.
develop a common interest. go for walks in a park.
go to a movie. just hanging out ,and being with each other is showing your b/f you love him.
tell him you love him. that should be enough to let him know your feelings toward him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 May 2012):
 Is your age accurate, and you're 13-15 years old??
I will say this to you, that if this boyfriend is after you for sex and keeps pushing the subject even after you've told him you're not ready, and he's actually told you that it's a way to show him you love him, then beware. If he's pushing for sex like that, then that shows that he does NOT love you.
That being said, you don't have to show him in a special way that you love him. Showing you love him doesn't mean that you have to automatically give him sexual relief. Loving someone is like Plexi said -- being there for him.
Love and sex aren't the same, especially for a guy. You are way too young to be having it, and if you're getting pushed, or he tries to emotionally blackmail you with leaving if you don't give him sex, then walk away. You can't use sex to make a guy love you, and you can't use sex to ensure the relationship will last a long time. Often, a guy who's after sex will bolt after his "conquest" is done.
If you want to keep him for a long time, then do NOT have sex with him.
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reader, Plexi +, writes (26 May 2012):
 Sex does not prove love.........it only proves you are sexually attracted to that person and from a biological point of view it means that you find him compatible for procreation! If you want to show him that you indeed love him then tell him, show him affection in other ways, spend time with him doing quality things, be supportive and kind, don't critisize him, make him something special........etc
hope this helps a bit hun:)
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