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writes:Maybe i'm being stupid, i met this guy and he said i was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen, he couldn't stop looking at me because he said it was hard to believe how gorgeous I was. He kept forgetting what he was talking about, or even what I was because of that reason he said!Fair enough that's sweet, in fact he was incredibly, very good looking! So I found any of what he said hard to believe, how can he think I'm the most beautiful girl, or how amazing he says I am when i've seen far, far more beautiful girls! But he just kept looking at me and smiling telling me how happy and lucky he feels to have met me. I have two problems here, how true can this guy have been when he says these things, I mean i think i'm pretty yes. But how he kept going on about the way I look, i just couldn't tell how he thinks that and why? Or even what he was looking at, how can a guy as attractive at him think that, I don't know how I managed to get someone like him!?Also, i'm seeing him tomorrow for our first date. But he saw me in the evening when my makeup is darker and more, I was dressed up and wearing heels. Whereas we're meeting during the day, when my makeup will be a lot lighter, I won't be in heels or clothes I wear on a night out! So i'm worried that he'll look at me and think differently and not think i'm as 'beautiful' as he first did! Night and day images are always different, so I don't know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Maybe that's his patented pick up line? I'd approach with caution. Be yourself, wear what you feel good in and don't allow this to affect your self-confidence and poise.
A guy that over the top sounds like a guy who has successfully used that line in the past. You might ask around and see if any of your friends know him.
If he is so focused on looks and less on personality and you as a whole person, maybe he's not all that great a catch, no matter how physically attractive he may be.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Be on your guard. It's not normal for a guy to start gushing all over a woman when he first meets her. He "can't believe" how beautiful you are? Sure, you might be beautiful, but the point is, any guy who gets excessive like this right off the bat is not to be trusted. He feels lucky to have met you? Sounds like some shifty guy seeing you as an easy mark rather than a guy who has truly met the most beautiful woman in the world.
A con artist can spot a woman with insecurities from a mile away. You're already thinking about how you couldn't possibly be worthy of this guy's attentions. Believe me, a con artist knows you feel this way and is looking to exploit it for his own uses. It's not usual for a guy to gush like this before a first date even! It's the equivalent of saying "I love you" too soon.
Be yourself, and BE ON GUARD. I don't know what this guy's game is, but don't just get carried away by his flattery and stroking your ego. Stuff like this sets my teeth on edge and gets my BS meter tingling.
Don't talk money, show him anything over personal. Don't have sex with him on the first date. Find out what he's about. Something's off here.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I think it would be VERY smart to wear the daytime makeup and out fits and see his reaction.
However, flattery is nice, but once a guy goes over the top it becomes a little... trite?
And I'm SURE there is more beauty to you then what he saw. As in your person, your personality, intelligence, your humor and taste.
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