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*onystarkben
writes:Ok... well please bear in mind that my girlfriend has only ever been with jerks. For some reason she thinks im too good for her, when in reality its the other way around. She had only ever gone to the cinema really and she would have to pay for her ex bf. so you get the picture.Anyway, she has never been to the theatre and i know she's a huge Abba fan. So i'm taking her to the saturday night show as a surprise. Anyway, after we go out we normally go back to my place.So i have this idea. I never got to go to Prom, although i always wanted to. She went to Prom with a friend. Anyway, when we get back i'm going to send her into the living room and make some excuse.I have gotten loads of balloons and a " happy prom " banner and a load of candles. I'm going to put on " Hear you me " by Jimmy eat world, make her close her eyes and bring her into the room ( i will just have the candles lit by now) and i want to ask her for a dance as we never got a prom together.Ok...so that's it... what do you think? honestly...i hope she likes it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2012): How romantic and wonderful! I would love if my boyfriend did this for me.
It doesn't matter what factors are involved or what relationship - any girl would be absolutely thrilled!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): I think it is an amazing this thing to do very thoughfull and she will see how much effort you have put into it she's a lucky girl
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (3 May 2012):
It’s a lovely, romantic thing to do. You’ve made a big effort to show her how special she is to you. That’s what really counts! Go ahead, and have a lovely night.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Awesome. Go for it.
Remember, if she has low self esteem and got used to be mistreated, she may not have, as you already suspect, right ?, the happy, thrilled , enthusiastic reaction one would expect. She may feel, at first, sort of embarassed, don't know how to handle all the attention that is now lavished on her.
Never mind- you do this because you love her and because she deserves the best, not because you want to be profusely thanked and told how wonderful you are.
This will come too, though , in time :). She just needs to get used to being treated right.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 First of all, you are awesome! I love romantic guys, and just the fact that you're asking this question makes you a keeper in my book! Unless she has serious issues, she'd love it! You have no idea how many girls on here wish their guys were more spontaneous and romantic. No matter how she responds, never ever EVER lose this trait you have!
I want to address her having dated jerks in the past and thinking that you're too good to her. You don't have to compensate for her past pain and bad choices in love. Are you taking her to Mamma Mia (you mentioned Abba)? Great choice! Remember, she is ultimately responsible for her own self-esteem. You can't "do enough" to fix it for her.
Just be kind and the romantic that you are, and she is responsible for getting over her bad past love choices. Do NOT lose this spark, even if she makes a destructive choice when it comes to you. Hopefully, she's making better choices in guys because she's becoming more mature and starting a positive trend in life.
Good luck! She is lucky to have you!
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