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writes:Hai. Okay i fell inlove with a guy at my school. He was always looking at me strangly for a year. It hit me by surprise and i immediately fell inlove with him. We never talked, im afraid of talking to him because he s one of the most wanted guys(Players), but still i couldnt stop liking him. Im a good girl, most people say i look innocent, a bit shy and dont fall for people easily(even thou they like me that much). So i began having this thoughts about this guy, i even told my friend about him. She told me i should just tell him and let it go. I thought it was a great idea, i thought maybe the guy likes me too that s why he s been looking at me. So i invited him on the internet, i told him who i am, surprisingly he knew me n where i stay. Then we were sharing texts for a week just being friends, until it got to this climax when i told him that 'i love u' . He was shocked, i asked him if he feels the same way. He said 'not a chance' that really hurt me, and then later he said 'ur amazing' i didnt understand what he meant. What was this guy trying to tell me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): Honestly Aunts i regret what i've said to that guy so soon. Im not like that and i wish it never happened. I feel like i proposed the guy 'which is a bad idea' according to my opinion. Thank you for the wonderful advice, ive learnt my lesson. I promise you that it wont happen again. xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2012): Maybe he thought u were just kidding or something but ovously he don't love u he's a player players won't fall in love till they find a girl they can't have girls are easy now a days and if I were u I would forget what u said and just txt and see if it goes ne where but oviously he likes u as a friend so keep it that way 4 now!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 General rule of thumb when you're deeply, deeply, attracted to someone is not to declare their love for them until you are sure they are the person you THINK they are and not who you've constructed in your head as them being. I had a strong crush on someone for years and declared my love in a school paper, but hadn't really had more than a 5 minute conversation with him before, and was made fun of for a couple of months after that. It was a bad move, because people are taken aback from that kind of thing when they don't know you.
Love usually takes time, and that time needs to be WITH the person, cause right now you're loving on looks and idle chit chat. He may have meant 'you're amazing' to mean you've really startled him, or maybe he is interested now that you've expressed such a strong interest, but I feel like because he's a player you should have tried to keep your feelings to yourself to protect yourself until you saw that he was worth your feelings and could validate them a little longer than a week. He may see that your worship of him as the green light for taking advantage of you. I would just back off and if he starts initiating interest in you then you may still have a chance.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 May 2012):
 You go from introducing yourself to saying "I love you"? That's way too fast and looks desperate and clingy. You don't really even know him. How can you know that you love him? Don't ever mistake feelings and infatuation for love. People don't usually declare love until months in at least. It takes that long.
You're lucky he said "you're amazing". Next time, DON'T say that stuff in texts. Don't declare love right off the bat unless you want to seriously scare away whoever it is you're interested in, and take it slow!
People who say "I love you" like that are one of two people: Players/predators who prey on neediness and take advantage, or desperate restraining orders waiting to happen.
Take it easy and let things happen naturally!
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