How do I keep from talking to much when I'm nervous around my date?
Q. I seem to talk a lot when I'm nervous. I think my new guy was a little annoyed the other night he was trying to leave but I kept talking to him. He was polite then said baby I have to go I'm so tired. I felt so silly did I blow things? I get so ...
A. 8 January 2013: AskEve is right! Especially about #2! Get him talking! Ask him about himself. Be interested in him.
I don't think you blew it. But next time, ask questions. Eve is right in that they shouldn't be closed-ended (yes or no) question... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend ask me if I had ever been pregnant?
Q. My question is not a very long. But my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a month. And a couple days ago, he asked me if I had ever been pregnant. I told him no and when I asked why he wanted to know, he said no reason. Is he just ...
A. 8 January 2013: Boy does that sound like a "baggage" question if I ever heard one!
Whenever I hear unusual questions phrased unusually, I always wonder who got pregnant in his life. Did he get a girl pregnant? Did his sister get pregnant? Is he out looking ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my feelings may be part of a rebound?
Q. So iv known this girl for about 2 years and she lives not long away from me but last night I spoke to her for hours ( well ...all night... :L ) ... When she laughs I can't help but smile and imagine a gorgeous smile to go with it ... The problem is ...
A. 7 January 2013: I have to answer this question to you with a question. The main question is, are you over the girl who broke your heart? Leave the new girl out of it for a second. Are you over the one who broke your heart? If the answer is yes, then we can move ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 5 January 2013: I respect and welcome disagreement, and I concede that I am handling the question with a rough hand that may come off as harsh. However, talking about legal precedent in the matter of handling a financial dispute among ex-partners is about as ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my beautiful sister would steal my boyfriend away from me
Q. I'm embarrassed to speak of this, but my older sister is beautiful. We look a lot alike, but she definitely looks more mature and gets more male attention. I worry that when I bring a boyfriend to a family gathering, he will see her and find her ...
A. 5 January 2013: How close are you with your sister? Are you two competitive, and has sibling rivalry always been a factor in your relationship?
I can tell you this -- if you and your sister are close, you've got nothing to worry about. A true sister would ra... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 4 January 2013: I'm being hard on you because of the age you said you are, and I make no apologies for it. You telling all the new guys you date about where this ring comes from? You're totally sabotaging all future relationships that you have, and the fact that ... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 4 January 2013: You really blew it with this guy, and since you're 30-35, you should have known better than to do what you did.
When you broke off of the engagement with a guy, you give him his ring back. An engagement is a ring given in contemplation of marri... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 2 January 2013: You are the last. That's all that's important. She didn't cheat. She didn't lie. She didn't misrepresent. You said you accepted her past, and that's it. Now to hear you counting off her ex-boyfriends and times they did it and the stuff they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is overly friendly with another girl, now he's travelling miles away to visit her and has booked a double room......is he cheating?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm in a bit of a predicament with my partner right now and I have no idea what to do. We have been dating for five months, almost six, I really like this guy and we spend loads of time together but he met a girl at a festiv...
A. 2 January 2013: Exactly. Why aren't you with him? If his friend is with his girlfriend, then logically you should be the one with him, not this other girl. If it were truly platonic, there would be 5 of you going. No way would this guy have a girlfriend only to ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bisexual if he's had multiple homosexual relations in the past but claims he doesn't like men?
Q. I'm a woman. My 33 year old boyfriend of 6 months recently admitted to me that when he was a preteen, him and 2 if his best friends would masturbate together, rub on each other and give each other oral. This happened for over a year. He also just ...
A. 2 January 2013: Wow. I was absolutely right about this. He *did* groom you to be okay with his male affairs. You've gotta run away fast from him! He got head from his friend and doesn't consider it cheating? What if his friend had been a woman?? He is ... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife loves me anymore, but another woman has taken an interest in me
Q. Me and my wife have been together for 5 yrs and married for four. we have a child together, she is 2. I have two teenagers that live with us. she does the world for them and me even when I wasn't working, but even when I was working she has been...
A. 31 December 2012: First of all, let me stop you right there. This whole "I don't think she loves me" crap is you trying to justify and break down your wife in your eyes so that you can go have sex with this new woman. "Oh, she doesn't love me anyways".
That'... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being skinny
Q. I am a girl, 14 years old. i dont get my period yet and i am very skinny. i have small boobs. i dont wear a bra and my weight is 30 kg (66 lbs). i dont eat enough, 1 time in the day. i cant eat i dont know why. please help! all my friends always t...
A. 31 December 2012: EAT more than one meal per day! You're really damaging yourself this way and sending your body into starvation mode. You need adequate vitamins and minerals and calories, which isn't a bad word! Calories to you are like gasoline to a car.
If yo... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 31 December 2012: My best friend was adopted, and she didn't feel abandoned in the slightest bit. She loves her parents and to her, they're flesh and blood. There are parents out there who ache to love a baby, and the waiting lists are so long. You would be making ... (read in full...)
I thought we were in love, but she was out cheating on me!
Q. I am a lesbian, and my girlfriend of 3 years, I just found out has been cheating on me , she's moved in with the other women a block away from me and they got married today!! All in 6 weeks!! And they say they are soul mates!!! How would you feel ...
A. 31 December 2012: I agree with Abella, and I'm truly sorry you were cheated on. That is one of the most devastating, traumatic events I wish nobody had to go through.
This won't be consolation now, but it will in the future, so I'll say it now. If your ex-partn... (read in full...)
Short with small penis - what should I do?
Q. I’m a 22 year old virgin male – cause I only want to date when I am financially stable. My problem is that I’m short (5'4) with a small penis (3 and a half inches erect). I look like a hobbit. Plus girls always say I’m cute and sweet, which ...
A. 31 December 2012: What's "Everything you're reading"?
I say this a lot -- never ever think that the penis is your only sexual tool, and way too many guys do. What you do with your hands, your arms, your lips, your eyes, your time, your skill, far outweigh whether ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: I echo everyone else here in saying that this is your choice, not his, and that you will have to live with the effects of it.
At this point, it's not about your ex. It's about you and your unborn child. You're worried about bringing up a child ... (read in full...)
Is my female boss taking advantage? She wants me to provide her with sex. What can I do?
Q. it is with big pain and confusion I write this. I have never told this to any one. I have been away for a month for work and my boss (female, may be around 38-40) was also there. Though she was my boss, we were in good friendship. As the bed was...
A. 29 December 2012: You forget something here:
You initiated the physical contact by starting the massage. You made the choice about going into her room. You also mentioned that you accepted her room invitation "without any hesitation". Doesn't sound to me like ... (read in full...)
I've just dumped my pot head boyfriend. Where do I go from here?
Q. Hi I'm 21 years old and I came home for Christmas and Broke up with my pot head (ex) boyfriend. I don't drink, I don't smoke weed, I graduated high school and I am currently on a holiday break from College. He smokes dope, drinks, dropped ou...
A. 28 December 2012: Where do you go from here? That's easy. This loser you've been dating was a nice diversion in high school, but you now have a future to consider. You're in college, meaning that you don't have any more time to play around with losers who will ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that a guy tried to kiss his fiancee in a nightclub?
Q. I was in a nightclub the other night when a guy i know tried to kiss my friends fiancee. She moved her face so that he kissed her on the cheek rather than the lips he was aiming for. They then just continued to chat. I am now in a dilemma as to wh...
A. 28 December 2012: Why the hell do you feel "obligated" to tell him?? I hope that the "obligation" means that you'd tell your friend that his fiance is loyal, honorable, and a good woman, because that's really the only thing that matters.
Your friend's fiancee ... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and the new guy. What should I do for the best?
Q. I have been torn between to men now for a few months, but I think I have decided to give my ex another chance since we have has such a long history together and we have children together. But I don't know how to let the other man go, because I feel ...
A. 28 December 2012: Okay, this is starting to sound a bit whacked, for lack of a better expression.
You left your husband and the father of your child because he was becoming distant and worked too much.
Now you want to leave the guy you're with, even though he's... (read in full...)
Married in 1975 and then in 2011 he cheated. He blames me for the break-up. Could we ever get back together?
Q. my husband and i met when we were 16 and 17 he was my only boyfriend. We married in 1975 and been married for 37 years. In June 2011 he did something unusual that he never did before it was only a phone call to me and said he had rang the wro...
A. 28 December 2012: **sigh**
Stories like these to me are among the most heartbreaking. Marriages that had previously defied the odds and endured many years shattering over one or both people developing a mid-life crisis and throwing away that which is most precious... (read in full...)
How do I deal with people who make fun of my height?
Q. any ideas about how to deal with people who make fun of my height? usually i would just walk away and ignore such people but then i go home feeling i should replied them in kind. my major problem is i cannot get negative comments abt my height out ...
A. 28 December 2012: If they are your friends, then tell them that the demeaning and teasing comments about your height are insulting and offensive to you, and that you ask them not to do it again.
If they are strangers, walking away is a mature response, but if they ... (read in full...)
Despicable actions by him in the past. So do I try to forget that? And see him again? Or say NO to him?
Q. My ex constantly said he slept with my sister whenever we would argue. He would do this because he knew that would destroy me and knew that my sister and I were very close. I confronted my sister she denied it and no longer speaks to me. As...
A. 28 December 2012: This guy tried to hurt you and destroy your sister's life and reputation in the process, irreparably severing the closeness between you and your sister, and you're thinking about taking him back?
What he did was like the equivalent of kicking ... (read in full...)
We are both 18. He's a virgin. But his technique needs work. How do I teach him without offending him?
Q. I'm a 18 y/o female, not a virgin. I've only had one sexual partner but he was a lot older and more experienced guy, so the sex was great! He taught me a lot... However I'm now going out with an 18 year old virgin, who hasn't done Anything sexual.....
A. 27 December 2012: YES!!! Not only should you be teaching him, but you have a rare opportunity to show an inexperienced guy exactly what pleasures you. To wait to see if he can read your mind is not even logical, much less possible! Most people suck at sex at ... (read in full...)
He needs to accept that NO is an answer. Surely, if he cared, he's stop asking for anal?
Q. So I've been with my partner 2 years. He wanted to try anal since we got together but until a few months ago I said no. Well a few months ago I let him try and I hated it. Add to this I was in pain for 3 days. I thought to let him try twice mo...
A. 27 December 2012: I agree with Cerberus here. I would drop a man who kept pressuring me. I wouldn't have let him try unless he was willing to let me ram a 10-inch dildo into his anus in and out for about 10 minutes.
Porn is fake. Those women are paid to moan lik... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 27 December 2012: Thank you for following up, OP. Like a doctor diagnosing a patient, more information and knowledge helps paint a more accurate picture, thus giving more accurate advice.
Did you say that it was just this past weekend that her grandma passed a... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure about my body to get physically intimate with my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
Q. So, I'm really insecure about my body to the point where I mostly wear dark colours, slouchy materials in clothing etc. I have my moments when I wear form fitting pieces and I get a lot of compliments but I never take it seriously. Anyway, back on ...
A. 26 December 2012: Yeah! Take your mind off of yourself! Trust me, your guy is saying what he means here. You set his loins on fire as you are.
You overcome your fear by focusing on HIM during intimacy. I'm guessing you're not the only one who has body insecuri... (read in full...)
Everyone I know is married, has babies or is in a settled relationship except me! Am I behind and missing out?
Q. Hi, I'm having a little age crisis I guess haha. I've just turned 20, and I don't have one friend that doesn't have a baby or isn't married. Everyone I knew from school is married, had a baby or has been with the same guy/girl for a couple of years. ...
A. 26 December 2012: Geeze, at 20 years old, your mind should be on college and your future, not whether or not your friends have babies! You need to move away from the high school mentality of doing what your friends do and into the college and grownup mentality of ... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and the new guy. What should I do for the best?
Q. I have been torn between to men now for a few months, but I think I have decided to give my ex another chance since we have has such a long history together and we have children together. But I don't know how to let the other man go, because I feel ...
A. 26 December 2012: You didn't say why you broke up with your ex. This is the key to what advice anyone gives to you here. Why did you two break up, and who did the breaking up?
I will say this, if your breakup was due to him cheating on you, then don't get back... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend taking advantage of me financially? He also makes me feel insecure.
Q. First of all I'm sorry for the long read I'm guessing this is going to be but I need help in what I should do. I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and well I have basically lived with him for that whole year. I give him £75 a week for rent...
A. 26 December 2012: I say this a lot on here, but people forget that the prime reason to date someone and enter into a relationship is to get to know someone and find out whether or not you can spend your future with them, whether by marriage, domestic partnership, or ... (read in full...)
Shall I trust him or not? My friends say he only sees girls for a short time and then dumps them. I don't want to be hurt.
Q. Just recently, one of my friends invited this guy to a movie with me and a couple of friends. He seemed really nice, and we'd been texting each other quite a bit. He then randomly told me he liked me, just completly out of the blue. I have to sa...
A. 26 December 2012: If there is one rule you must live by when it comes to your love life, it's never ever ever ever indulge feelings of desperation. Not ever. That is the enemy of dignity and can put you in some really regrettable situations.
Desperation has had ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 26 December 2012: Question - Why is she offering sex for you to do chores?? Why aren't you already doing them anyways? You both work full time, right? I completely hate the idea of sex being used in that way, and I would never use sex as an incentive, because that ... (read in full...)
FWB offends me. Is FWB just a cheap way to get easy sex instead of paying a sex worker? Does FWB stand for anything else other than sex?
Q. FWB I don't really like this game because what if the other person start to have feelings? To me it seems to be basically about money. Where does one draw the line and say this is not what I want? I really think FWB is a trade off for free sex. I c...
A. 25 December 2012: I don't like FWB either, primarily because someone usually gets hurt, and also that too many women either believe that it will lead to a relationship, OR view it as a promise for an eventual relationship. FWB is using someone else to relieve sexual ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 25 December 2012: I don't know of many marriages where both of the parties work full time and have a 5-month old baby AND a death in the family that have a rocking sex life. If she was close to her grandmother as I was, it's a very traumatic thing. I'm guessing ... (read in full...)
No strings attached, how to stop being so casual?
Q. Have you ever seen the movie 'no strings attached?' Well, Natalie Portmans character is me! I'm afraid of commitment and 26 years old. I am pressured by my wonderful, caring but extremely traditional south Asian parents to get married. This makes me ...
A. 23 December 2012: IAmHereToHelpYou hit it right on the head. You're 26. You should have outgrown the "need to rebel" 10 years ago when you were a 16 year old kid! You call your shots now, not your parents.
And along those lines, that desire not to commit, ... (read in full...)
My guy is going bald - HELP!!!
Q. My guy is going bald!!!!!! I dont want to leave him, but he looks too elder than me! What do I do? He is ready to do anything if I have the solution..Pls help me! He is just 25! and Am 23 !! :-( :-( Am so sad abt his baldness..Am trying to support ...
A. 22 December 2012: Oh man. I know you can't change how you feel, but personally, I think bald is SMOKING HOT! I had a massive crush on Patrick Stewart/Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek when it was on. When he said "Come!", I very nearly did!
Anyways, I digress.... (read in full...)
Is keeping a memory box lame and depressing? My friends comment upset me!
Q. I just wanted to get another opinion on this as my friends comment I thought was rude and didn't make sense... Basically, in my room at university I put in this wristband someone gave me the night before from an epic night out in this box. She as...
A. 20 December 2012: What?!? That's *extremely* common to have a place for mementos/memories! I have one, though I haven't named it anything. I have stuff from when I was a kid, a middle schooler, stupid notes from high school that were passed to me in class (that's ... (read in full...)
Just feeling lost and confused...
Q. My husband and I will be married 6 years really soon. This year has been emotionally tumultuous as we have struggled through walls of miscommunication in several areas of our relationship. We were the best of friends in college for a whole, so our ...
A. 18 December 2012: Simply put, he has become an addict.
The fact that it's porn can blind that fact, making wives feel like they are not enough to please their husbands. Truth be told, you wouldn't feel that way if the drug was heroin, meth, or alcohol. His porn... (read in full...)
I thought I finally met a sweet guy. Did I do something wrong?
Q. I went to a party to celebrate a friend getting a new job, she invited her coworkers/friends from her old job over. The new guy shows up and instantly we spot each other. He thought I was cute I thought he was cute. We made eye contact and smiled at ...
A. 18 December 2012: First of all, good for you for not having sex with him. Second, double good for you for being intelligent and wise in terms of discovering that he wasn't good for you. You didn't blow that off like many stupid people do when finding some serious ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my partner - I found out he's looking for sex on-line!
Q. I have been with my partner for 25 years. The last four years have been very difficult as I have a condition called CRPS and the pain is debilitating. I have lost all interest in sex. My partner is very supportive and has put up with a lot. I ...
A. 17 December 2012: I think talking to him about this is a good idea. It's an issue both of you should be engaged in finding the solution to. He should have come to you first before doing this, because a lack of sex in a relationship is a heartbreaking thing. To ... (read in full...)
If say to wait before we do it, will he leave?
Q. Im talking to this one boy at my school and we've liked each other for awhile now. He tells me im beautiful and that he want to be with me. He calls me babe and bae. He told me he wanted to kiss me but i said im not ready for that. that i need some ...
A. 17 December 2012: In principle, I fully agree with being allowed to set boundaries and a good guy being able to respect them, and that's true. If a guy was looking for sex or groping or for you to perform oral on him or whatever, I'd say that if he were to leave ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bisexual if he's had multiple homosexual relations in the past but claims he doesn't like men?
Q. I'm a woman. My 33 year old boyfriend of 6 months recently admitted to me that when he was a preteen, him and 2 if his best friends would masturbate together, rub on each other and give each other oral. This happened for over a year. He also just ...
A. 4 December 2012: Actually, Jannie's on the right track, but I'd go a step farther here and say that this is sounds creepy.
The only time you ever hear about a guy talking about this sort of thing with his current love interest and going into this much detail i... (read in full...)
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