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writes:HiI'm 21 years old and I came home for Christmas and Broke up with my pot head (ex) boyfriend. I don't drink, I don't smoke weed, I graduated high school and I am currently on a holiday break fromCollege. He smokes dope, drinks, dropped out of high school and has a child that he doesn't even take care of, because his ex gf moved away and moved on with another guy. I have been breaking up with him a lot of times and the longest I ever went was 3 months because he cheated on me, but took him back after 3 months later an decided to try again. But he has been doing shit behind my back like drinking an smoking dope, and I'm always wondering.. What else could he be doing? What else could he be lying about?I've left him for 4 days now and I thought it would be hard but it isn't. I just want to know if I am better off without him because I've tried so many times to let him go, even when I know he ain't good enough for me and isn't what I want to spend my life with. I wouldn't want a son to be just like that, completely unsuccessful. Where do I go from here?
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reader, jose13316  +, writes (29 December 2012):
Hi sweety thank god u left that no good peice of nothing u deserve someone way better than that smart girl I just wish all girls would listen to me and send those stupid bf out on the street sorry if I sound rude but its the truth hunny u don't need that in ur life he's just gona mess up ur dreams and everything so I'm glad u posted ur problem I hope this msg helps u ka good luck and god bless.... :-)
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (29 December 2012):
Smart girl!!! thumb up!!!proud of you!!! He has nothing to offer now or later and I know your parents are so happy you let him go.
Later on in life you will look back and say to yourself, what in the world was I thinking.
At your age, whenever you meet a guy always keep one eye open and one closed. LOL Drop that zero and get yourself a hero BABY!!!
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reader, Pontoon  +, writes (28 December 2012):
You are still very young and have your whole life ahead of you. You will meet other decent guys at school, or elsewhere once you finish. You have your whole life ahead of you. Consider yourself lucky to learn this lesson now and not later in life where it could potentially be a much bigger deal!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): First off you can't get addicted to weed "YouWish" so just because he smokes pot does NOT make him a drug addict. Second off you are making assumptions about someone.
Now to get to the point yes hun you did the right thing by dumping this guy.....he sounds like he isn't ready to grow up yet and you are. You deserve a better person and a better future. Change your number, drop contact with him, try to avoid him......do whatever you have to. Find someone who has similar interests and hobbies as you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 December 2012):
 Yes you did the right thing.
and where you go is forward... wait till you go back to school and see who you meet.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (28 December 2012):
You’ve done the right thing. He’s not going to change, he’s lost you enough times and that hasn’t stopped him from behaving in this way. Either he doesn’t think enough of you to bother changing for you, or he thinks you’ll just come back to him in the end anyway eventually. Either way, getting back with him would basically involve volunteering yourself to take more of this nonsense so don’t do it. What do you do from here? Get on with your own life. If you’re finding it hard and need support, by all means use us, or even better any friends and family who could support you. But time’s going to make this easier. You seem pretty certain you’ve made the right choice, if you’re looking to have that confirmed then yes, consider it confirmed. It’ll never work out with him. In time you’ll meet some-one much better, you are worthy of much more than he’s offering.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 December 2012):
 Where do you go from here? That's easy. This loser you've been dating was a nice diversion in high school, but you now have a future to consider. You're in college, meaning that you don't have any more time to play around with losers who will flush your life down the toilet.
Drop him. Stop ALL COMMUNICATION WITH HIM FOREVER. No more going back and forth, because you've now run out of time to allow it in your life. Persist in this relationship any more, and you might as well hold up a sign saying "I want to get nowhere in life!".
He is a drug addict. He is hurting his child by not being a father. He is a cheater and a liar. He has no education and doesn't care about getting one. Prepare to live below the poverty line if you stay with him.
Leave him forever, and next time you feel the need to be attracted to someone with no future, remember that you're not a high school kid anymore looking to fall in love with the unkempt "bad boy". You only have a small amount of time now to make the decisions, big and small, that affect your life forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): YES! You are a strong, independent and smart girl - you made a very wise decision.Don't question it. By being with him, you were not living to your full potential. Now you have to make sure you do not repeat the same mistake. Be aware that you might enjoy the drama of being with a 'bad boy' and that you are potentially prone to being attracted to this type. Work through this with a counselor possibly. You don't want to make the same mistake twice. Smart girl! You absolutely made the correct decision.
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