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anonymous
writes: My ex constantly said he slept with my sister whenever we would argue. He would do this because he knew that would destroy me and knew that my sister and I were very close. I confronted my sister she denied it and no longer speaks to me. As far as my ex he said he only said it to hurt me but it never happened. He is now asking for us to work things out but I dont know what to do. Things happen and I dont put anything past me.. Help me please!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (28 December 2012):
Should you get back with a man who has constantly lied to you and destroyed your relationship with your sister...ummm that would be a BIG FAT NOOOO!!!...oh unless you have a magic wand that will completely change him into a different person and erase your sisters memory so you can play happy families again....hate to tell you this but it CANNOT be done!!!
Do yourself a massive favour in the bit of life you have left...repair the rift with your sister by NOT getting back with him and find yourself someone decent who is not a lying insecure moron....Now that CAN be done!!!
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (28 December 2012):
Your ex is a dispicable, lying, poor excuse for a man. Why you are even talking to him is a mystery.
Sure 'things' do happen but the important bit is how you react to them.
The only part of you this man should be seeing are your heels, as you turn and run as far and as fast as you can from him. He is a destroyer with no respect for you or your family relationships.
Show him your heels and start making overtures to your sister, let her know you were out of line to ask her if she had slept with him, and do your best to make it up with her. The relationship of sisters should take precendence over any relationship with this toad.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (28 December 2012):
This guy tried to hurt you and destroy your sister's life and reputation in the process, irreparably severing the closeness between you and your sister, and you're thinking about taking him back?
What he did was like the equivalent of kicking a baby, or stabbing a puppy dog or stealing from your mom or drugging and sexually assaulting you.
There are some things so foul and creepy and nasty that he should never be allowed to speak to you again, much less get you to actually consider letting him into your life to abuse your family again.
Talk to him any more, and you are the queen of fools. This choice should be crystal clear to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): That must be an awful feeling and pain to suffer! Both your sister and ex could be lying to you, wonder why she doesn't talk to you? He could have asked her to lie so he would be safe. If you want to give him a second chance that is perfectly fine but put a firm wall up and don't go trusting him until you know for sure he is worth trusting.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (28 December 2012):
Do not get back together with a guy who messes with your family. He is not a person of substance and he's toying with your emotions.
You deserve so much better!
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