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writes:So, I'm really insecure about my body to the point where I mostly wear dark colours, slouchy materials in clothing etc. I have my moments when I wear form fitting pieces and I get a lot of compliments but I never take it seriously.Anyway, back on topic, I've been dating this guy that really cares about me for quite some time now (6 months). We haven't had sex yet, mainly because I'm afraid to let him see me naked. I've told him this and he says that he understands, he likes me just the way I am, I look perfect to him etc. But I still can't overcome this fear. I don't know what to do anymore because I want to get over it and be with him sexually. Any suggestions?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 relax. I met my current husband after I had lost a ton of weight and had such horrible sagging skin I had to have major reconstructive surgery....
I hated letting him see my body and to make myself feel better I bought underwire nighties... and wore them... or a tank top even during sex..... he was fine with it...
I suggest that you are perfectly fine and that the concern is in your brain (and normal) and he will be delighted with you just the way you are.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 December 2012):
I've had some beautiful girlfriends with not a thing to worry about, but nearly every one of them has had body issues to some extent, so you're not alone at all.
Remember that your guy has already accepted what you look like because he loves you. Most guys also aren't nearly as picky about their women's bodies as the women are themselves. Many guys are just happy to see a naked woman in the first place! Trust me when the time comes he'll be thinking about how excited he is to be with you, not your imperfections.
If he's one of the few people who doesn't tolerate imperfections then he can move on and you'll be free to find someone else. But if that was the case he probably wouldn't be with you in the first place.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (26 December 2012):
 I would focus on him. Actions in love making. He can already imagine what you look like with clothes off. Really and he is cool with it.. So dont.stress or worry its just nudity.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 December 2012):
 Yeah! Take your mind off of yourself! Trust me, your guy is saying what he means here. You set his loins on fire as you are.
You overcome your fear by focusing on HIM during intimacy. I'm guessing you're not the only one who has body insecurities. There are many guys on here with performance anxiety and worry about their penis size or whether or not to take their shirt off during sex because they're afraid that their abs will turn their woman off.
There's a difference between the airbrushed media and real life. Live for now. Fear is a prison you should be free from, and when you start enjoying sex, you'll kick yourself royally for having let yourself be afraid.
The first time has some discomfort physically, but after that, it is the greatest adventure in my opinion. I love sex so much though, but I remember being terrified at first too.
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reader, N91  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 Believe me, if your BF is telling you this, he means it. Why else would he be with you?
And besides, I don't think any guy will complain what a girl looks like when they're naked in front of them lol
Just relax!
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