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*eg998
writes:I am sooooo shy, but, out of no where! I am suddenly attracted to older men and 2 of my male teachers!!! I've never thought of them in this way before but now just have sexual thoughts about them. It's really annoying because now I can't talk to them properly without blushing and I can't look at them for that long because I'm so self conscious that people will think something's up, like I have a crush on them when really I don't think I do.Everyone says "discipline your mind" and "you'll get over it anyway" but these answers don't help :( .Also, why is it when these two teachers come up to me I always step back or bend backwards because I think that they're too close when they're really about 3/4 of a meter close to me :/ . Please help, these "visions" of having sex (cringe!) with them doesn't feel disgusting but it feels so inappropriate especially when the teachers right in front of me.Oh and does anybody know how to do a presentation in front of my class with my friend with one of the 2 teachers I've just talked about being there???Thank you for the answers guys!
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reader, Meg998 +, writes (26 April 2013):
Meg998 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you sooo much for the answers guys :) Especially to " YouWish " and " WiseOwlE " They were brilliant answers and I will try.
Thank you again!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 What's happening, of course, is that your estrogen is starting to POUR out of (wherever it comes from)..... and it's screwing up your brain..... See... estrogen is to the brain, as nitro-methanol is to your automobile engine....
Be patient.... this may tamp down in about 6 months. OR.... you may end up like several of the girls who I've dated.... who had the darn stuff flooding their brains until they were in to their mid-50's....
Good luck.... and: P.S. DON'T sleep with any of your teachers!!!!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 April 2013):
I think the solution is to let 12 months elapse....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Disciplining your mind is exactly right. That solution doesn't help because you don't want it to help.
Keep the reason why you're in school at the forefront of all of your interactions with your teachers. You're there to learn and get good grades. You're thinking about sex because you're young and puberty is hitting you like a sledgehammer. A few years ago, and sex was the farthest thing from your mind. Now, you're not a child, but you haven't learned the discipline of maturity yet.
Here's a possible way to discipline your mind. Take those weird sexual feelings, and the blushing butterflies, and make them work *for* you. As in, let those feelings propel you to do great exploits. The presentation? The teacher is there? Use those feelings by concentrating on making the presentation the best he's ever heard. Concentrate on becoming much more than merely the same adolescent work he and everyone else is used to.
Bottom line, discipline your mind by using those passions and feelings to propel you into becoming the best, the most excellent, and the most driven person you can be who isn't satisfied with merely fantasizing and slacking, but turning heads with the fact that your skills are head and shoulders above everyone else's.
Passions can be harnessed. Don't just try to ignore them...harness them to propel you to greatness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2013): You are an adolescent female just at the beginning of puberty. Every other young girl in your class is going through the same thing. Your mind is full of fantasies and wishes, that happens to all of us at your age.
Teachers don't jeopardize their jobs messing with young girls your age. If they do, they will end up in prison. It's a crime. There is nothing wrong with your fantasies, just keep then to yourself. Decent men don't notice children your age in a sexual way. Men that do are sick.
Nothing is going to come of those "sexual things" that swirl around in your brain. You're just a child and your teachers are only interested in you doing your schoolwork. They will be the object of dozens of crushes from dozens of little girls over the course of their teaching careers. You're not the first, and you won't be the last.
It's important that you keep your fantasies in your head. You must behave like a classy young lady and be a good student. Trying to act out on what's in your mind will get you a good scolding, and a front row seat in the principal's or headmaster's office. You can ignore this advice and find out the hard way. It's embarrassing.
Practice your presentation in front of a mirror. Read it over and over until you can almost recite it by heart. It's important that you stand straight, project your voice so people can hear you from the back of the class. You can stare at the back wall of the classroom when you feel nervous. Watch the news reporters on TV. Watch how they do the weather report, and how relaxed they are. They know hundreds of eyes are on them, but they ignore it.
Don't bury your face in the paper. Don't look at the teacher; or hold your laptop too high, if you read from it. Let your eyes scan the room and pretend your teacher is invisible. You have x-ray vision and you can see right through him. He doesn't have a crush on you. He's going to grade your presentation. That's all he cares about.
In his eyes, you're just one of his young students. Just impress him with being a good student, and a classy young lady.
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reader, UnknownGoddess +, writes (25 April 2013):
Hey, it does sound like a type of crush and to be honest it's perfectly normally to start feeling like this at your age. Part of growing up I'm afraid.
It will eventually fade away as you come to fancy guys your own age. Although this won't help you right down I hope it will put a little bit of peace in your mind.
My advice is to distract yourself, fantasize about celebs instead, a boy band maybe or an actor you like. Thinking about people you have little chance in meeting may help distract you.
Other than that I'm afraid there's not much else you can do. It's just one of those things that will go eventually by itself.
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