Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: Tisha totally read my mind, because when I read the anon male post, the first thing that popped into my head is "Is this all there is is sour grapes", where some guy is pissed that he feels he gets the "leftovers" because other women are sleeping ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: I don't know of anyone who wouldn't have a problem with a wife or girlfriend lying about being in contact with an ex or rival while in a relationship with them.
Being in contact with other men behind a husband's or boyfriend's back is universa... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: So, because men have to be "less choosy" to have sex, that's why we see a lot of super attractive women out there with mediocre-looking guys or less?
Sorry, but I don't see women out there with the mega-attractive guys out there. In fact, so... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 17 February 2015: Okay, I wasn't going to come back to this until I read this:
"The only reason we men are not allowed to worry about our own needs anymore is because it forces women to accept a downside to their total sexual freedom. Now who is being immature... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: Okay, so no one is obligated to do anything with anyone else. So? That's a non-sequitur.
People can be with others who sexual values match theirs. It's perfectly fine for someone who chooses not to have casual sex to prefer a partner who feel... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: Why, do men regret their sexual past??
What is there to regret?? If our past was different, we wouldn't be who we are now. A sexual past isn't the same as "Do you regret stealing" or "Do you regret lying on your work resume" or "Do you regret t... (read in full...)
I fell for the cousin of a girl who rejected me two years ago.
Q. Hello dearcupids, I have just experienced a weird experience. So I would love to hear your opinions. I met a girl yesterday during a journey. She was sitting next to me in the bus. We kept talking the most of the time during the journey. I thin...
A. 15 February 2015: How close is she to her cousin?? That does weigh in on WHEN you should tell her, and trust me, it's not IF you should tell her, it's WHEN. In any rate, you'll be telling her before you get sexual with her, to be sure.
If she is close to her cous... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay focused on my weight loss!
Q. Dear cupid,I have a slight weight issues doctor told me I am at risk for health issues.I have been literally dying in side to lose this weight even before I went to the doctor.I love myself big or small I'm not in denial I just can't understand why ...
A. 15 February 2015: It's a mind game. That's why the "New Year's Resolution" is so popular on January 1st and then forgotten by January 8th.
In order to succeed, your goal can't simply be to "look hot" for graduation. It's to change your relationship with food and... (read in full...)
I know I'm his bootycall. What should I do?
Q. Hey, I'm writing, because I would like to get some help. Any help would much appreciated. Well, there is this guy I've known since October, and everything was going quite well. I then developed feelings for him, and I thought that he liked me t...
A. 15 February 2015: If you are saying "I can't stop", or "I can't keep away", then that's all the more reason to RUN.
You are 15 years old, which makes him 20 years old. I know that the age of consent in the UK is 16, so if this guy is enticing you to have sex over... (read in full...)
How do guys really feel about stretch marks?
Q. I've been reading on this website for the past couple of months and I've noticed a lot of posts concerning stretch marks lately. It's got me thinking a lot. I've always been pretty confident with my body but I do have tons of stretch marks. I...
A. 14 February 2015: I never had them until I was pregnant. My husband doesn't care one bit. I was more concerned about my surgery scars. My husband doesn't care one bit! He was more concerned with the end of the after-surgery sex ban than any scars or marks I had.
... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he's cheating, or at least flirting with someone else?
Q. Things my boyfriend, of 4.5 years, does sometimes confuses the hell out of me and makes me paranoid. Example 1: (stupid really but here goes): he posted on my facebook timeline earlier "sexy you are yes". It's so random that it made me think he got ...
A. 14 February 2015: He was channeling YODA!!! You're being quite paranoid with this one, or shall I say,
"Paranoid you have become. Fear leads to the dark side. Much fear I sense in you."
... (read in full...)
What did I do wrong, she knows I love and want to marry her!
Q. Hi all, I'd like to share my problem and I need your help. I'm not going to tell the 8 years worth of story so I'll try to keep this very short. Okay so me and my ex got back together after 6 years. I broke it off due to unavoidable circumsta...
A. 14 February 2015: What you did was assume you could pick up where you left off. You came on much too strong and got too sexual on the first date. She got dramatic with the "I hate you but I love you" crap, but you blew it there.
You can NOT think in terms of... (read in full...)
Had a massive and intense sleep orgasm. Should I worry?
Q. Okay, this is the first time I've actually BEEN an OP, but something happened a couple of days ago that I'm wondering if it's normal or not. I'm not complaining about it, but it's never happened to me before in my life. Background - I...
A. 13 February 2015: Thank you all -- you put my mind at ease.
I have Polycystic Kidney Disease, which is a genetic disease that ultimately fried my kidneys, hence the transplant. One other side effect was that besides a zillion cysts on my kidneys, there are a fe... (read in full...)
I let myself go and am not quite sure how to get myself back together?
Q. I just turned 21 and I've seriously let myself go. Basically I was abused and it got really bad when I was 17. The person is no longer able to hurt me and I've been to counselling but I sort of regressed into a frightened shell of a person and ...
A. 13 February 2015: You have to do something that every instinct mentally, physically, and spiritually is fighting against you:
You have to move.
The abuse in your life is causing you to lock up and shut away. You've done good things by having some counseling,... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Faking Orgasm's!
Q. My boyfriend thinks I'm faking orgasm's! We have been together for just over a year and I have never faked an orgasm with him. I don't even think I would be very good at faking one! First of all, why does he think that? My downstairs tenses and ...
A. 13 February 2015: As someone who refuses tooth and nail to EVER fake an orgasm, I'd be really offended too, and furthermore, what a shitty way of passing on his performance insecurity onto blaming you in the first place.
I'd tell him that his stupid accusati... (read in full...)
Do I try to pursue a relationship with this friend?
Q. So my friend and I have been friends for a long time. 3 years ago we ended up sleeping with each other and after that we went on dates shortly after we just decided on being friend (just cause I didn't want anything serious at the moment, got out of ...
A. 13 February 2015: I think you need to end things with her. I know you don't want to hear this, but she is no doubt cheating on her boyfriend she's staying with. (the whole "on-again, off-again" bit with the living together stuff is code for "I'm fooling around ... (read in full...)
Was my husband being inconsiderate?
Q. I have an question. I want to know if my husband was being inconsiderate or am i just tripping. Since yesterday i have been battling a major toothache where as my jaw is swollen and half my tooth is gone. All day yesterday i stayed in bed due to the ...
A. 13 February 2015: I don't think he was being inconsiderate. I think he was being horny. You should have told him that you have a massive toothache instead of just letting him climb on. He threw a bit of a snit when he realized you weren't immediately into it ... (read in full...)
Is online flirting cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful person. He is 10 years older than me and I love the fact that he is more experienced and worldly wise than I am. I met him on facebook and we hit it off immediately. We are both abroad away from our families ...
A. 13 February 2015: PS -- Nonny, why not create an ID? If you take time to identify yourself in posts, it would be a cool thing to have an ID! Join us! ... (read in full...)
Is online flirting cheating?
Q. I am in a relationship with a wonderful person. He is 10 years older than me and I love the fact that he is more experienced and worldly wise than I am. I met him on facebook and we hit it off immediately. We are both abroad away from our families ...
A. 13 February 2015: Online flirting IS very disloyal to your current relationship. If someone is exclusive with someone else, that means that loving and flirtatious behavior, sexting, dirty posts, requests for nudes...all of that is infidelity!
This guy when he ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish when I feel that he's too clingy when perhaps he is being concerned and serious about me?
Q. Hello everyone! I'm 21 and before I left to study abroad (6 month exchange program) I was seeing someone (let's call him B) exclusively for about a month. I did not get into an official relationship with him because I felt that it was difficult to ...
A. 13 February 2015: Yeah, this is huge "red flag" territory. One month shouldn't be seeing declarations of love, talks of marriage, OR constant updates of where you are.
What you MUST NOT do is indulge his insecurity or make excuses or constantly defend where yo... (read in full...)
My step-mother seems to think what's mine is hers
Q. Hi I need some advice. Ive recently moved in with my dad, he has redecorated the small bedroom for me while he has been redecorating I have been sharing a room with mu little sister and all of my belongings haven't had a place and have been scattere...
A. 13 February 2015: Getting a safe will fix all of your problems. Use a combination safe versus a key, or your stepmom can get her hands on the key.
She may feel like since your stuff is all over the house, it's for community use. A safe will provide an off-limi... (read in full...)
I'm scared friends and people will see me differently after I tell them I'm bisexual!
Q. I'm bisexual, and I have a girlfriend, and no one really knows. I feel like I want to tell my friends and people, but I'm so scared that they will see me differently after I tell them. Any help on what I should do? I'm so confused....
A. 13 February 2015: Once you start using labels, it will affect how people see you. My advice for people like you is to not focus on your label. At your age, your sexuality is like wet cement. It's forming and fluid. Nothing is set in stone, and you're exploring. ... (read in full...)
I get a tingly feeling when I see a naked woman but nothing when I see a naked man. Am I gay?
Q. I really do not want to ask this question cos I am disgusted by it but it is the truth and has left me pondering if I have any interests in women. I get a tingly feeling down there when I see a females breast but am indifferent if i see a naked man. ...
A. 12 February 2015: Why on earth would you be ashamed and disgusted to have sexual feelings toward women?? Being homosexual is just as beautiful as being heterosexual! It's about being yourself!
You are young -- you're discovering and exploring your sexualit... (read in full...)
What strategy would be best to deal with my flirty boss? It has never gone beyond flirting.
Q. Hi dear aunts and uncles, I need your advice for a simple situation that I Am not sure how to handle it because of my lack of experince in situations like this due to my past life. I really apprecite your help. I worked with my boss for some...
A. 12 February 2015: I agree with Honeypie there...it's gone well past "Borderline" to be sure!... (read in full...)
Did the new girl's attention make me realize the relationship that I'm in is bad?
Q. Hi, My name's Dirk, I'm going on 24 next week and I'm in a bit of a pickle. A bit of background story: I have a bad relationship with my parents, have had a decent if not awesome relationship with my girlfriend, Sarah for 4 years no...
A. 12 February 2015: You have the GALL to "discipline" Sarah? You "annoy" her into having sex with you?? No wonder she's acting cold towards you. You're manipulative and cruel.
You also lie through your teeth:
In your OP, you said:
"Right now, should No... (read in full...)
Did the new girl's attention make me realize the relationship that I'm in is bad?
Q. Hi, My name's Dirk, I'm going on 24 next week and I'm in a bit of a pickle. A bit of background story: I have a bad relationship with my parents, have had a decent if not awesome relationship with my girlfriend, Sarah for 4 years no...
A. 11 February 2015: Let me give you a massive dose of reality, eh?
You think for a second that Nora would be good for you?? Look LONG AND HARD at how Nora is treating her boyfriend by her behavior with you. You're thinking with your penis and considering that if ... (read in full...)
Is yelling a big red flag or not a big deal?
Q. I need some opinions on whether I should be worried about this behavior. I will keep it as brief as possible. My bf and I have been dating for a year and a half. The other night we had an argument. I was calmly speaking the entire time, I'm not on...
A. 11 February 2015: Both of you need to work on your communication skills, to be honest. You may not have been yelling, but name calling over and over again (calling him a liar) is just as abusive as screaming, and calling him names and then laughing at him is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has to fight the urge to shag every woman he sees!
Q. My boyfriend of over two Years just admitted something to me that shocked me. He said it felt like coming out in a way and he's confused. Sex is important to him. He basically said that he finds nearly every woman he sees sexually attractive. He ...
A. 11 February 2015: You're being groomed, and this guy is a sex addict. It has just now started to interfere with your relationship.
Here's the thing -- this guy wants to not have to control himself, yet he wants both you and his addiction, so he's softenin... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me I want to die,my boyfriend of 7 yrs is leaving me because I told him about my past.?
Q. my boyfriend of 7 yrs has a long sexual history including gangbangs,orgys, etc with 50+ girls. he done drugs. he neve r lied n we go to church and we are very in love. i trust he doesnt hide anything and loves me. we started off as f.buddya ...
A. 11 February 2015: If this guy who IS a slut says he wouldn't marry a slut, yet he started as "F*** buddies" with you instead of immediately cultivate a relationship reflective of his intentions??
This guy is a piece of work, and you shouldn't give him any more det... (read in full...)
Online guy deleted me from tinder because I didn't respond in 12 hours???
Q. I had been talking to this guy on tinder for a week and we got along really well and were exchanging messages night and day. He recently moved here from out of the country for a job so he did not have a car yet and was living at his sisters place. I ...
A. 11 February 2015: I agree with Honeypie - this guy is a skirt chaser AND high maintenance. It is best he pulled this early. It's interesting particularly in his wording that he wanted YOU to invite HIM for tea. Something wrong with his extending the invite to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that I have betrayed his trust because of a message on my social media
Q. I have been with my boyfriend over 3 years(I'm 29, he's 31) I work in health care and watch a client of mine at his house to make some extra cash. A man who lives at the house with the client and is around my age, we have developed a platonic ...
A. 10 February 2015: OH! THANK YOU Honeypie! How did I miss that?!? That does change my advice, except for the violation of privacy part. That part is a load of steaming crap.
Yeah, if I were your boyfriend, and you were spending a load of time with someone who WASN... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says that I have betrayed his trust because of a message on my social media
Q. I have been with my boyfriend over 3 years(I'm 29, he's 31) I work in health care and watch a client of mine at his house to make some extra cash. A man who lives at the house with the client and is around my age, we have developed a platonic ...
A. 10 February 2015: Your boyfriend needs to own up to the fact that he betrayed YOUR trust by breaking into your computer and going snooping. I would bust his chops for that. Your boyfriend has trust issues, and his little stunt *IS* a privacy violation. The saying ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my girlfriend's married brother and I'm about to get married!
Q. I'm a guy who has feelings for my girlfriend's brother. He's married and I'm about to get married to. I purposed to my gf last month. I've had feelings for him before but since him and his wife moved out, it went away. However, it's starting to come ...
A. 10 February 2015: I am also in the "Immediately break it off" camp, but I will go a step further and tell you to be HONEST with her as to why.
Do not lie and tell her some sort of crap that makes it sound like you have lost interest in her. Tell her you have fee... (read in full...)
What strategy would be best to deal with my flirty boss? It has never gone beyond flirting.
Q. Hi dear aunts and uncles, I need your advice for a simple situation that I Am not sure how to handle it because of my lack of experince in situations like this due to my past life. I really apprecite your help. I worked with my boss for some...
A. 10 February 2015: Do not bother with this guy. If you say that he's had prostate removal, then flirting I'm guessing is his way to self-medicate his own ego, which as you know is a big deal when it comes to a man's virility.
His life now is drastically differen... (read in full...)
He dropped me like a rag doll. Why, after I gave him some space? How should I react?
Q. ok, long story- When I was in a really bad place in my life I half stumbled across this guy, we went on a date "just for fun" as it was- he then made moves and made everything a lot more intense, he was the first one to say "I love you" he was the ...
A. 10 February 2015: There's a word for what this guy is, and that word is FLAKE. As in, Frosted Flakes, Corn Flakes, Bran Flakes, Pencil Flakes, Snowflakes, and my personal NOT-favorite, Dandruff Flakes.
Your little flake had his warning signs:
1. Got intens... (read in full...)
Pregnant from a one night stand and he has gone back to his ex!
Q. Hi all I need some none judgemental advice!I am 22 and recently had a one night stand with a guy I barely know and stupidly we didn't use protection I am on the pill but recently just switched. Anyway I am now pregnant and petrified and not even ...
A. 10 February 2015: A male's rights are not optional. Many males don't fight in the courts for their rights, and they don't stick it out in the courts if they are challenged. They just sit back and pass the child onto the mom for custody, cashing their check and ... (read in full...)
I feel hurt and betrayed!
Q. I am a 50 plus year old female. I am feeling hurt and betrayed. One of my very best friends, as I've spoke about before in this forum is planning on moving. She claims I am the very best friend she has ever had in her life and I feel the same about ...
A. 10 February 2015: Hold on a second. She was neither dishonest, nor did she "betray" you in any sense of the word!
In fact, speaking as someone who moved around a lot many miles away as a kid, I didn't like telling my best friends that I was moving until I absolute... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is too rough during cuddles
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend isn't violent at all and he loves me very much, but when we go on our bed to cuddle and stuff, he's really really rough. He always squeezes me, pulls on me, pinches me and stuff and it really hurts. I've told him to stop ...
A. 9 February 2015: I don't mean to scare you, but at this point, you need to leave him and do it now. Seriously, GET OUT of this relationship entirely, because it is GOING to get worse.
It is NOT normal for a guy to hurt a woman during loveplay unless both are into... (read in full...)
Does he really care enough after our 6 years together? Is it time to consider an ultimatum?
Q. Im in my mid twenties and I am seriously dating this guy for 5 going on 6 years. We have been dating only each other, no one else. We are both from the same area in the same state. We did our first two years living in different cities two hours...
A. 9 February 2015: What is the rush? Yes, you spent 2 years in a dating relationship as well as 4 LDR years. You also started out young with very clear priorities and goals.
He's trying to get his doctorate. Why does he need to propose to you now, except t... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to travel to Kurdistan but I am too scared!
Q. My husband is from kurdistan, iraq. He is waiting to get his passport and then he was supposed to be meeting me in turkey as i I dont want to go to kurdistan. The travel advice advises no travel or only essential travel as the situation could ...
A. 9 February 2015: It sums up RIGHT HERE:
"He said if I do not go there and wait with him for his passport which will be ready in about 3 weeks , then he is going to get married and we are finished."
That enough is reason not to go with him, because that sho... (read in full...)
She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!
Q. my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...
A. 9 February 2015: Seriously? This has nothing to do with "older" people giving you advice. If older people were so out of touch, and it's totally okay to be friends with exes and go run off to have a drink with them behind their girlfriends' back, then this guy ... (read in full...)
After one year the sex is very infrequent
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. Everything in our relationship is perfect except for one thing. We barely are having sex and every time our relationship progresses he starts a fight and says this is why he doesn't have sex with ...
A. 9 February 2015: I'm so glad Wiseowle said it first, because I totally got a "he's gay" vibe from this post, especially with the whole defensiveness and "this is why I don't have sex with you" thing going on. What GUY says that?!?
Seriously. I've had times wh... (read in full...)
Can I object to certain types of porn?
Q. Am I wrong for being angry at my partner for watching female solo masturbation? I am fine with him watching normal porn, as I do too.. BUT I feel watching a solo (gorgeous) girl masturbate and orgasm is a little different.. It has really hurt me a...
A. 5 February 2015: Why does that bother you so badly?? What about that makes that hurtful to you in a way that intercourse does not??
This one needs clarification, indeed because the MPAA tends to rate movies NC-17 that depict specifically a females orgasmic... (read in full...)
He said he'd stop making comments about other women, but I'm afraid my trust is already damaged
Q. I've been dating an incredible man for the last two months who is thoughtful and kind, caring and loving, he's super sweet and considerate. The way he treats me is great. He is always reliable and consistent, things like offering to drive me home ...
A. 5 February 2015: What other things does he do that bother you??... (read in full...)
He's my Best friend's brother and 3-4 years younger than me (I'm 19) and I'm falling for him. How can I get over him?
Q. Hi I am in a dilemma. A while back my friend had a birthday party, which we all had alcohol. I had just a bit too much and started hanging all over my friend's brother, crying into his shoulder. It ended with us almost making out, but she w...
A. 4 February 2015: Uhh, one way to get over this is to schedule a tour of your state prison. You're in the US, where the age of consent is 18. You're an adult and he's 15. Can you say "Statutory rape" or it's younger brother (pun intended) "Committing a lewd and ... (read in full...)
He said he'd stop making comments about other women, but I'm afraid my trust is already damaged
Q. I've been dating an incredible man for the last two months who is thoughtful and kind, caring and loving, he's super sweet and considerate. The way he treats me is great. He is always reliable and consistent, things like offering to drive me home ...
A. 3 February 2015: Look at it this way - he may be a buffoon, but he's YOUR buffoon. After reading WiseOwle's post, It *is* probably more of a culture thing. I don't think he realized that he was being disrespectful, because it may be more acceptable to be more open ... (read in full...)
He said he'd stop making comments about other women, but I'm afraid my trust is already damaged
Q. I've been dating an incredible man for the last two months who is thoughtful and kind, caring and loving, he's super sweet and considerate. The way he treats me is great. He is always reliable and consistent, things like offering to drive me home ...
A. 3 February 2015: You need to be straight. He didn't destroy your trust. He wounded your ego and stung you in your insecurity. That is very distinctly different. If he had secretly gone out on a date with your instructor, THAT would be a break of trust, not ... (read in full...)
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