I told him I wasnt ready for a relatiosnhip then I found out he slept with someone else...
Q. I had been dating this guy for the passed 4 months around 2 months into thing he said that he wanted a relationship and that he had strong feeling for me but as i had not long got out of a terrible 3 years relationship i told him i wasn't ready just ...
A. 23 February 2015: He didn't owe you anything. You said that you didn't want a relationship. He didn't violate your trust, because you weren't in a relationship.
And, you need to know something very important - you can not and must not penalize a future relation... (read in full...)
Advice for moving out of your parents' home on a low income?
Q. Hi. I would like some advice on how I can move out of my parents house. Id like to get out ASAP. My household is pretty dysfunctional. My parents always fight, my dad drinks, they both verbally abuse me and question my every move. My dad has tried ...
A. 23 February 2015: You may not be able to rent an apartment on your own. However, there are many people who rent out a room in their houses to people, or there are houses looking to have multi-people rent shares. Those are very inexpensive, and as long as you're ... (read in full...)
My sister wants to go out with my ex
Q. Hey im ayden and im a 16 year old girl and Ive got a problem. My problem Is that I was with my beyfriend for a whole year and we broke up around 7 months ago.he is a year older than me and my sister is two years older than me and recently she told ...
A. 23 February 2015: You should be honest with your sister. This guy is only 1 of a billion other women in the world.
She's doing the right thing by talking to you about it first. That's being a good sister. And it's possible you may get over your bitter feelings... (read in full...)
Does the volume of semen a man ejaculates matter to a woman?
Q. I was talking with a female friend of mine and she called herself a "slug girl." I asked her what she meant by that and she said she she gets very wet when she gets turned on. She was quite embarrassed to admit that. However, I think most men thin...
A. 23 February 2015: ARGH. Porn. I don't care if guys get into it, but news flash: it ISN'T educational. Like Honeypie said, a real woman's greatest sexual wish is not to have every hair waxed from their body while ropes of semen go flying into their face or all ... (read in full...)
Does my attitude keep men away?
Q. Dear Cupid,I'm single I have been single for quite sometimes by choice now that my children are grown im ready to mingle I have often been told I have a beautiful personality but my attitude is different.What could it be? I'm a beautiful person im ...
A. 23 February 2015: Can you tell me more? Your post has very little information in it.
What is your attitude, and who was it that gave you the feedback on your personality vs. attitude? Why is your personality described as "beautiful", but your attitude describe... (read in full...)
Are they really only after sex?
Q. I am a 27 year old virgin who has never had a boyfriend before. I am starting to get scared especially as I'm heading towards my 30s and I'm still single and never been in a relationship before. I have been out on dates. I went out on many date...
A. 23 February 2015: That makes sense, because a couple of months is usually the time in a relationship where becoming exclusive and sexually active enters the scene as a next step.
So, I take it you've been a NSBM, but now you're not sure what you are, except t... (read in full...)
Are they really only after sex?
Q. I am a 27 year old virgin who has never had a boyfriend before. I am starting to get scared especially as I'm heading towards my 30s and I'm still single and never been in a relationship before. I have been out on dates. I went out on many date...
A. 23 February 2015: You never mentioned why you are a virgin. There's a distinction between one who is one because they haven't found the man they fall in love with, and one who has chosen to remain a virgin until marriage. You didn't mention which one you are.
... (read in full...)
I've recently discovered inappropriate messages between my boyfriend and other girls
Q. My boyfriend left his snapchat logged in on my ipad and my friend was over using it and thought it was my snapchat and saw some things that were quite questionable. There are many message from him to other girls telling them they look extra hot ...
A. 23 February 2015: He's a cheater. Drop him and do it fast. Every month more you spend with him is an insult to your own intelligence, now that you know what an insect he truly is.... (read in full...)
When I get depressed I rely too heavily on my boyfriend
Q. The past 6 months or so I've been extremely depressed (tried medications, therapy, etc), and I've become clingy and overly dependent on my boyfriend. I know it's not healthy and I know it's not fair to him -- he has been so amazing and always t...
A. 22 February 2015: Yes, I have advice. Let the therapy work. It takes time to get the medicine right, and the person to emotionally draw on should be your psychiatrist or therapist.
A relationship isn't built for the emotional draw you're putting on it. You need... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what my friends will think of my much older father
Q. Hey, I am having trouble... My dad, well, he's a bit older than most dads, I'm a teenager, and he's in his 70's. I love my dad, but this has made me so so so self conscious! Anyway, it's my birthday in a few days, and I'm having a party with my ...
A. 22 February 2015: Don't worry! If they don't know you, they may wonder if he's your grandfather rather than your father, but that's not anything to be embarrassed about. Many people have kids later in life, so once you introduce him as your dad, they will probably ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable saying his name because of my accent
Q. This is going to sound really stupid but I'm genuinely finding it difficult to say the name of someone I've just started talking to platonically online. I haven't met them yet and, if I will it will be a while away, so I don't need to say it but t...
A. 22 February 2015: Actually, you have nothing to worry about! In fact, he'll probably totally love it and think you sound exotic when you say it.
There's nothing quite so amazing as when you hear someone you have feelings for say your name. The fact that you say ... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 22 February 2015: I totally feel your pain, and that's tough when you have a crush on someone, and their moods and conversation can make or break you!
She was probably having a bad night, and of course, most likely oblivious to the fact that you're interest... (read in full...)
He gets mad over the small things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I love him dearly but I'm starting to get fed up.. I go home a lot near tears or just in disarray because of his yelling and stuff. An example of this is when he had locked himself in his ...
A. 21 February 2015: He may not like that sort of teasing that you do. I personally hate it when someone holds onto a door like that. My brothers used to do that sort of thing all the time.
When you play pranks or jokes on someone, you have to make sure that you... (read in full...)
My mom is an attention whore on the beach and it botherd me!
Q. My mom likes to wear skimpy bikinis to the beach! Ok so this has been going on my whole life but now that I'm beginning to mature it's starting to matter to me. My mom wear's the smallest bikinis in the world it seems even when we are going as a f...
A. 21 February 2015: She isn't a whore. She's not doing anything wrong! You're just feeling "oogy" for the same reason kids feel all uncomfortable when they hear their parents having sex in the next room.
Your mom is a woman. She is wearing the bikini at the beac... (read in full...)
How do I let him know of my needs? I do worry about him flirting with other girls. And it does upset me that he doesn't compliment me as often as I would like.
Q. How do I learn to trust my boyfriend? He does go out with his friends. But I'm just worried he is out flirting with women. Its frustrating that at his age he still loves going to clubs and he drinks a lot. I love him but wish he grows more m...
A. 21 February 2015: It's obvious now why he's divorced. He's a shitty partner.
He's 38 and had zero self-control or loyalty towards his partner?? When someone is with someone else, they DON"T FLIRT with other people! Would he feel as cavalier if you were out at t... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 21 February 2015: Heh, am I a dork for actually shampooing "down there"? I keep it at maybe a quarter inch, and I agree with pinktopaz - hair can pick up odor.
That being said - you think going down on a guy doesn't have that kind of odor in their hair? The male... (read in full...)
Newly married, but I've lost my sex drive completely. What can I do? What could cause this?
Q. Hello, I just recently got married literally about a week ago. However, I've lived with my husband for a little over a year. For about 9-10 months now, I've not wanted sex at all. I'm on birth control pills, and on anxiety medication so I'...
A. 20 February 2015: It's the anxiety medication. Stuff like Celexa, the benzodiazapines like Ativan, Valium, or Xanax, Zoloft, and all of that stuff have "sexual side effects". In short, they sap out a sex drive.
Go to your doctor who's prescribing this stuff to... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 20 February 2015: It's funny that I should see this article. Last night on Youtube, I stumbled across a video (the BuzzFeed channel) that saw women reacting to Playboy throughout the years, and as early as the 80's magazines, they commented "Wow, they had no problem ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my rich grandfather for help?
Q. I don't come from a wealthy family. The only person in my whole family who has been well off is my grandfather. He's very rich. However, I rarely speak with him. He's a somewhat distant person from our family and I've always felt rather weird around ...
A. 20 February 2015: Ciar touched a point that I agree with, so I wanted to answer it, because it's important.
She said this:
"Though, I would be very cautious about even asking him for job referrals because any conversation that touches on money will smell more ... (read in full...)
I told her I need some space and she's still texting me
Q. I recently told a friend how I felt about her, we became close friends and I started falling for her. She would send me text messages everyday and she would initiate it. She also did a few things that made me think she liked me. I talked to ...
A. 20 February 2015: Hey, I'm sorry your risk didn't pay off, but I salute you in taking it! That's not easy, and I salute your bravery!
I think the mistake was in saying "We can still be friends". When it boils down to it, you don't want to be "just" friends,... (read in full...)
How can I get over my current beliefs and accept my partner's past?
Q. Hey guys, I am in a relationship with someone of "20...30... i lost count" sexual partners and past bursts of casual sex with a casual view on sex, in comparison to my 4 partners, including her and conservative values. I love this person and thin...
A. 20 February 2015: You summed up your entire view towards women in one word:
"feminazi"
That's really offensive.
You can't say you have these "values", yet admit to having had casual sex, and indeed have had more than one partner.
You can't partake in... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my rich grandfather for help?
Q. I don't come from a wealthy family. The only person in my whole family who has been well off is my grandfather. He's very rich. However, I rarely speak with him. He's a somewhat distant person from our family and I've always felt rather weird around ...
A. 20 February 2015: What would you do if you didn't have a rich grandfather?
There are always things you can do. If you were laid off of your job, you should be applying for and collecting unemployment insurance, even if you worked in a small business. Unless y... (read in full...)
How can I stop cum leaking out after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me. Whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especial...
A. 20 February 2015: What goes in, must come back out!
The other aunts have great suggestions. A washcloth, kleenex, a trip to the bathroom after sex to use the bathroom (you might feel like going to the bathroom anyways with all of that pressure to your bladder ... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 20 February 2015: Is this the OP who comes on here every so often under this same subject told with slight variations?
If so, ugh.... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 19 February 2015: What the hell are you trying to accomplish here?? You think your game playing and petty vindictive behavior will make you an "alpha" male? Seriously. If she's not into you, and you heard that she wants to use you, you drop her, block her emails, ... (read in full...)
I'm about to get married, and my fiancé has started to smoke weed- how do I deal?
Q. I began dating my now fiancé 7 years ago when we were 18. We both had very strong Catholic morals, including both being extremely against any form of smoking. Well, I found out he has lied to me for over a year and has started to smoke weed on ...
A. 19 February 2015: You already know your answer. You just need the courage to do it before you hit older age and waste your youth on the guy.
You said this:
"he doesn't think it's a big deal at all and insists I don't make it into a big deal, therefore, he's ... (read in full...)
Need help to move past then when I see the OW all the time
Q. My husband told me that he had cheated on me I have decided to stay and see if we can make it work. We have been together for 10yrs and have 3 children hence why I am trying to move on. He has done everything I have asked ie deleted her number, ...
A. 19 February 2015: You're feeling the vacuum that happens in the aftermath of the disclosure of the affair, and you're right, the process is far from over. It isn't enough just to cut off contact (though that's a good start). There's the damage done by the cheating ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 19 February 2015: Tisha totally read my mind, because when I read the anon male post, the first thing that popped into my head is "Is this all there is is sour grapes", where some guy is pissed that he feels he gets the "leftovers" because other women are sleeping ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's child is 15 months old and her tantrums are frazzling my nerves!
Q. So I've recently started dating a woman about 4 months ago. Things between us are fantastic. We get along amazingly and chemistry between us is definitely there. However, there's one thing I'm having a hard time admitting is a problem for me. Her ...
A. 19 February 2015: Yeah, she shouldn't be dragging the kid for 4 nights per week to a new guy's house (4 months is way too soon). No wonder she's freaking out! That's no kind of stability.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's child is 15 months old and her tantrums are frazzling my nerves!
Q. So I've recently started dating a woman about 4 months ago. Things between us are fantastic. We get along amazingly and chemistry between us is definitely there. However, there's one thing I'm having a hard time admitting is a problem for me. Her ...
A. 18 February 2015: I'm really glad you wrote in here! There are guys in positions like yours...boyfriends to women who have children who seem inconsolable at times or have behavioral issues, and they choose to take it out on the child to the point of abuse or ... (read in full...)
Did he use me? My married lover just stopped seeing me
Q. So I know that what I have been doing is wrong. I wholeheartedly know this. I just feel sometimes you cannot help who you have a real connection with. This is my situation in a nut shell; I am now 26. When I was 18/19 I used to work for a l...
A. 18 February 2015: He is MARRIED. He had nothing to offer you, and you got a good look at how he treats a woman he vowed to love and declared it from the rooftops. Yes, he used you, but you went with your eyes open. You were an accomplice to his betraying his wife, ... (read in full...)
She did us a big favor, but how long do we owe her?
Q. It's a bit sensitive situation andi need an advice. We have a customer who at one point did a huge favor for us that it resulted in bringing us quite a bit of business. On her part it was absolutely effortless. She is kind and generous lady, r...
A. 18 February 2015: Actually, I think you may have a golden opportunity here if you know how to play it right. Instead of looking at what she did for you as a one-time event that she may or may not be taking advantage of (I know you're starting to feel resentful for ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: I don't know of anyone who wouldn't have a problem with a wife or girlfriend lying about being in contact with an ex or rival while in a relationship with them.
Being in contact with other men behind a husband's or boyfriend's back is universa... (read in full...)
What can we do to work through the issues that impact on us as a couple due to her parents prejudice against disabilities?
Q. first off, i have a disability which impacts me physically. it's nothing serious and i can live a normal life, but with some minor limitations. ok, so i've been dating this absolutely amazing girl. she fully understands my limitations, and...
A. 18 February 2015: I read this twice, because my answer may be controversial.
I think your girlfriend is lying her ass off to you about her parents. I think her parents are NOT the way she says they are, especially if you have a disability, yet are still function... (read in full...)
I walked in on my 15 year old cousin masturbating
Q. I walked in on my 15 year old cousin masturbating. My mom told me to go see if he was sleeping and if not tell him breakfast was ready. It was silent and I thought he was sleeping so I peeked in to look and forgot to knock (worst mistake ever) I ...
A. 18 February 2015: If you love your cousin, and you want to keep a good relationship with him, I think you should clear the air by apologizing to him for walking in on him without knocking. Then let it go. Make a blazing promise to him and yourself that you'll KNOCK ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be exclusive with him. But there is another woman in his life. What should I do?
Q. i met this guy i been having sex with him the last mouth he has been helping me in so many ways. he talks to my kids he tells me he wish he met me fours years ago before he met the women he is with now he wants me to wait for him for me to have no ...
A. 18 February 2015: Not a chance. He needs to drop the woman he is with before you touch him again, much less become exclusive. His request isn't a request of love! It's territorial. That's why he wants you to be exclusive while he doesn't hold himself up to the ... (read in full...)
My Bf wanted to pay for a private lap dancer. For me. Should I be worried by his actions during the lap dance?
Q. My boyfriend and I just went to Mexico and decided to hit up one of the local strip joints. He wanted to pay for a lap dance for me in a private room. It began with him just watching to the stripper asking him to join in. While it was hot and heav...
A. 18 February 2015: Of course you should worry. It's not a normal thing for a person to remove their pants during a lap dance. His saying he wanted to pay for a dancer "for you" was really about himself. He wanted to get off on seeing her with you, and then when he ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 18 February 2015: So, because men have to be "less choosy" to have sex, that's why we see a lot of super attractive women out there with mediocre-looking guys or less?
Sorry, but I don't see women out there with the mega-attractive guys out there. In fact, so... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 17 February 2015: Okay, I wasn't going to come back to this until I read this:
"The only reason we men are not allowed to worry about our own needs anymore is because it forces women to accept a downside to their total sexual freedom. Now who is being immature... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with an obsessive lover
Q. I need help dealing with an obsessive lover. Here is some background info. Thank you all for taking the time to read. I teach at a University and very recently, we had a new colleague join the Department. He was a part of the Dept prior to my j...
A. 16 February 2015: I agree with the others. The tip off is when he began the conversation by telling you he didn't want you talking to other guys at the university so freely.
The other part was when he went from zero to "future husband" right off the back, as if hi... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 16 February 2015: Okay, so no one is obligated to do anything with anyone else. So? That's a non-sequitur.
People can be with others who sexual values match theirs. It's perfectly fine for someone who chooses not to have casual sex to prefer a partner who feel... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: Why, do men regret their sexual past??
What is there to regret?? If our past was different, we wouldn't be who we are now. A sexual past isn't the same as "Do you regret stealing" or "Do you regret lying on your work resume" or "Do you regret t... (read in full...)
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