Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 22 May 2015: I think there is a difference between being jealous and being territorial. Not being jealous doesn't mean not caring if someone else hits on your partner.
I think it's healthy if, say, you're at a bar with your partner, you have to use the rest... (read in full...)
What does privacy in a marriage mean to you?
Q. Thinking In regards to a traditional old fashioned marriage like your grandparents had/have, what does privacy in a marriage mean to you? What is considered snooping into other peoples things? Examples? What is considered snooping as far as social...
A. 21 May 2015: Can you be specific as to the bringing up privacy? I have no problem answering the esoteric or general question, but something tells me that there's a specific issue that would help you more in the answer.
So, what behavior has changed in your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 21 May 2015: Jealousy isn't ABOUT the other person. Jealousy is always about the person who is jealous. Some people who have issues with jealousy say that it's because they love the person so much that they get jealous. Jealousy can be obsessive, anxious, ... (read in full...)
Can a 62-yearold man climax twice in a day? Is this possible? The norm?
Q. Anyone know what the turnaround time is for a 62 year old man to have an orgasm? Could he have two in one day? One in the morning and one at night? Or is the recovery period longer that he must wait to go again the next day? Just curious be...
A. 21 May 2015: OH - one more thing - the real question here is:
Can he make YOU climax twice a day?... (read in full...)
Can a 62-yearold man climax twice in a day? Is this possible? The norm?
Q. Anyone know what the turnaround time is for a 62 year old man to have an orgasm? Could he have two in one day? One in the morning and one at night? Or is the recovery period longer that he must wait to go again the next day? Just curious be...
A. 21 May 2015: The refractory period could be longer! The "reload" isn't as fast as those 16 year old walking hormones that guys are.
I say don't worry about breaking him! When the time comes to have sex, let's see if he puts his money where his mouth is!... (read in full...)
Feeling stressed by people's negative outlooks re job market. I'm majoring in Dental Hygiene. But I am hearing that the job market is experiencing no jobs in this field. what else could I study allied to dental where jobs may be easier to find?
Q. Hello- I am currently in college majoring in Dental Hygiene. I have been stressed out due to negative feed back people have been telling me. I have considered ultra sound tech, and surgical tech as well and just not sure which path to choose. ...
A. 20 May 2015: Continue dentistry! Any of those fields are good to go, but go with the one that you feel the most passion in.
Trust me - as long as people have teeth, your job will never be unnecessary.... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter has told me she is bi-sexual. I've accepted it, but I am very upset by this news. What's the best way for me to go forward?
Q. Yesterday, my 17 year old daughter told me she is bi-sexual. I have noticed for a couple of months that she has been very distant from everyone except me. I asked her to tell me what was wrong and she eventually told me. I am very proud of th...
A. 20 May 2015: First of all, you did great. You were a wonderful mother in putting the love and support of your daughter first in your response.
Second of all, go ahead, in your private time, and have your cry. But it is not the end of the world. At age 1... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling guilty? She got offended because I WANTED to use a condom
Q. I really am losing faith in humanity. Here goes: I’m 26, and a mature(ish) student at University. I recently got with a girl who I’d had my eye on for some time. We’d been hanging about in the same group of friends for several months and would fl...
A. 20 May 2015: It looks like your condom not only protected you from STD and pregnancy, but also a psychotic one night stand! You did the RIGHT THING!
Sex like this is a risky behavior. For her to bring up an ex?? Sorry, but you're not him, and if she's en... (read in full...)
Should I have to give up on my dream of travelling?
Q. I have been with my partner for four years, he is studying at university and I am working full times and have been since I was 18. The thing is I am suffering through some hard times and I want to get away from my home town for a bit. My dream ...
A. 13 May 2015: I *love* to travel. That to me is not something I would ever let someone else dictate that I could or couldn't do. I do it less as I get older, have seen many places, and have other dreams and priorities. But I still do.
If you have a partner ... (read in full...)
When is my man likely to feel motivated enough to tell me that he loves me? what could be holding him back?
Q. When will my man say that he loves me? We've been together for 4 months. I've asked some of my girlfriends and they've said he should have said it after about 3 months. We spend every free moment we can together, we have similar interests, he al...
A. 13 May 2015: Four months isn't that long in a relationship, and love is much more than just the FEELING of it. To most guys, saying the Three Words is an escalation of commitment, bringing on the responsibilities and social contract it entails. We say it ... (read in full...)
Do you think it is a reasonable action on my part to ask my boyfriend for a loan? I don't think I can ask anyone else
Q. I'm a young female who is currently going through a struggle financially. I had lost my job and am in the process of finding a new one. I've been in a serious relationship with a great man for over 3 years. He has a great job and does good for hi...
A. 13 May 2015: Don't do it! You'll wreck your relationship when money enters the scene, unless you're asking for $20. It's also a band-aid that will be very hard to pay back.
Instead, use his CONNECTIONS. If you lost your job, ask him if he knows someone ... (read in full...)
I'm sticking to my guns but can anyone tell me what is meant by all of this text?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of a year have recently split up. We had an initial split up a couple of weeks back where he was speaking to another girl and went straight to her after we broke up. But then came running back to me within a week of this break ...
A. 13 May 2015: It's his ego, not you! He wanted "a break" so he could keep using you as a yo-yo, but you called him out on it and broke it off clean, which you did the absolute right thing, and now his ego can't handle your rejection of him outright.
This ... (read in full...)
Despite knowing that we were never meant to be together, why does this break-up hurt like it does?
Q. Hey there. I've got a pretty basic question. I was in a relationship for about 7 months and things were good. We were extremely healthy. Never fought, got along great, and the sex was awesome. But deep down, I always knew she wasn't the girl...
A. 12 May 2015: This intrigues me. It's like you had already talked yourself out of the relationship before you had a chance to let it evolve naturally. In a sense, it's a little heartbreaking to me because nothing you mentioned as being the REASON why you weren't ... (read in full...)
I'm sticking to my guns but can anyone tell me what is meant by all of this text?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of a year have recently split up. We had an initial split up a couple of weeks back where he was speaking to another girl and went straight to her after we broke up. But then came running back to me within a week of this break ...
A. 12 May 2015: He is not boyfriend material. He is frightfully immature, not able to handle what being in a committed relationship means with all of this going back and forth.
You didn't need to violate his privacy if you wanted to see this girl. Public s... (read in full...)
Should I have to pay my ex gf any money back?
Q. My gf moved in with me 2 years ago. She didn't like the way my house was decorated and insisted I get it re-decorated. I own the house. I certainly couldn't afford the whole cost, and my gf earns pretty well. We agreed to split the cost, at £5000...
A. 9 May 2015: Male anon, that doesn't have anything to do with redecorating a house. That has to do with building on rooms or building a lake or repaving a driveway or building a gate or landscaping or putting in a complete state-of-the-art septic system or an ... (read in full...)
I'm broken, my husband is watching daddy-daughter porn
Q. Sorry if you get this twice I tried to do it secretly but closed out before I got the secret code. So I signed up to ask my question. My husband has battled porn all his life porn addiction isn't new to this family or the emotional effect it has ...
A. 9 May 2015: The scary thing is that he is escalating. Yes, there are plenty of "barely legal" and "incest" porn where the actors are 18 but LOOK younger, and if I were a mother to daughters, I would be more than a little terrified that his escalation will grow ... (read in full...)
My husband and I agreed not to spend another Mother's Day with his mother, but she won't stop asking us to come over!
Q. My husband and I don't know what to do anymore, his mom and sister always make plans whenever holiday is near even going on vacations and if we got plans they will get angry saying we are selfish and don't want to spend times with them. It's driving ...
A. 9 May 2015: All that's left is to not show.
If he is supportive and as fed up as you are about the manipulation, then there are no more words to say. Just put actions behind those words. Have him call and tell her he loves her, but you have kids and you'... (read in full...)
Should I have to pay my ex gf any money back?
Q. My gf moved in with me 2 years ago. She didn't like the way my house was decorated and insisted I get it re-decorated. I own the house. I certainly couldn't afford the whole cost, and my gf earns pretty well. We agreed to split the cost, at £5000...
A. 9 May 2015: I agree with the rest of the aunts on all of the moral grounds, but given my background, I have some other things to say about this as well on a legal standpoint...
When she was living with you, how were the tenancy arrangements? She lived wi... (read in full...)
I hated my job so I quit and now my husband is very unhappy with me
Q. hello everyone , it's been a while since I have been here.... I have got married recently and I was so happy to finally find the man of my dreams ... but couples' real life is a entire different thing that what I've expected... We have money diffi...
A. 8 May 2015: So, you've spent several months out of a job, then found one and didn't like it, so you just quit without talking to your husband about it?? He's right to be upset with you. You can't just quit a job when it suits you when you have ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: I don't think you want to set time limits quite yet. A year isn't that long. If you were at, say, a 3 year mark, that would be different.
You are making progress. You're winning over the mom. His brother and SIL you're winning over. You're s... (read in full...)
How do I step out of my S and M past and into a vanilla engagement with the woman I love?
Q. So the problem is I'm trying to change my whole way of life for this woman I'm in love with. She's everything I could ever ask for but she's nothing like my old life. Before I started dating, let's call her X, before I started dating X i was in a...
A. 8 May 2015: To be honest, I think you need to change your view on what sex is. BDSM is a fetish. Your word wasn't law - you simply learned a set of behaviors in order to get the thrill that this fetish gave you. But like other pleasure-seeking behaviors like ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: It is not YOU against the family. You won't get "creamed". The dad is trying to be peacemaker. Relax and don't accept the "rude" crap. Be nice to the dad as well. As for the sister, I think you overestimate how many people consider the sister's ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: Yeah, it's pretty clear now what's what. You're not hated by the whole family. It's been that sister all along, and she's been feeding into her other sister, and that's the root of it. 7 years of sponging off of her brother?? Hell, you live in ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: It's obvious. You are a threat to the live-in sister, and that is the root of your problem. When you first appeared, you weren't yet the threat.
Why does she live with her brother? What is the story there? Why isn't she on her own if she is y... (read in full...)
If he announces he just wants a romp with no sex, would that be a deal-breaker?
Q. I know there has been one or two similar posts, but I would really appreciate negative or positive reponses on the following, from females or males who have experience in this. You meet a guy you think is cute at a party, bar etc, get on really w...
A. 7 May 2015: I'd wonder how long he's been seeing his doctor for erectile dysfunction, OR whether or not he has an STI he hasn't yet disclosed to you. Either way, yes, it's a dealbreaker because it would make me nervous.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 7 May 2015: Ahh...that makes things a lot clearer. Believe it or not, this *IS* a fight over resources. You are the competition for their mom's affections, AND you're the competition for their brother's affections and resources.
If you weren't in the pict... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 7 May 2015: There's something missing from this story, but after reading your post more than once to make sure I didn't miss anything, I have a few questions to ask you, because not knowing the answers means I can't advise you properly on what to do here. The ... (read in full...)
Should my Mom and I continue to share the same boyfriend?
Q. My mom A fell pregnant at 15 and dropped out of school. She later completed her matric and qualified as a nurse. While my mother was studying my grandparents cared for me. My mother did not neglect me but regretted that she could not give me all ...
A. 7 May 2015: Is this for real?!?
In each other's presence?!? Uhh.
This has all sorts of wrong attached to it, borderline incestuous-feeling. But, you've already made your decisions about it, so continue until you don't feel like it anymore??
My ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father to stay out of my business and let me live my life?
Q. Hi everyone hope I can get some advice tonight. I am a full time student and I live with my father who is retired. I moved in with him approximately 9 months ago because his residence is very close to my campus. I don't kmow how to say this wit...
A. 7 May 2015: You live with him, and he loves you. The only way you're going to get the independence you crave is to not live with him. Dads are going to be protective of their daughters. He doesn't want any unworthy guy after your body, because he values you ... (read in full...)
I think my Father is making a huge mistake! There is red flag after red flag with her!
Q. My Father is making a huge mistake. My Mom died over 12yrs ago and my Father has remained single for the most part. He is now in his 70's and met a woman 30 yrs younger. She is actually only a few months younger than my oldest brother. I ...
A. 7 May 2015: I'm going to go out on my own here and give contradictory advice from the flow of the rest of the aunts, because I actually seriously agree with you on all counts.
My father died as well, and left my mom really set up for the rest of her life. T... (read in full...)
Why hasn't she reciprocated and told me she loves me too?
Q. I told my GF I loved her two months ago and she hasnt reciprocated. Weve been together since dec 2014. She has not gotten distant only closer to me. I havent asked her why as im not a soft wuss im just wondering if she needs more consistent action ...
A. 7 May 2015: You've been dating for 6 months. You told her that you loved her at the 4 month point, which many people would say that that is too soon to know, much less say.
She places great importance on those words and wants to say them for more than jus... (read in full...)
Is he telling lies too? He is calling me a liar about changinng my mind
Q. Okay I have a simple yet complex question. My boyfriend and I were arguing and he was calling me out for having said that I used to think my boyfriend was well endowed and once I got with him, my thoughts on that changed. Whether that makes sense or...
A. 6 May 2015: Why the hell is this even a conversation you're having?!? Talking about ex's penises and looks?? Do you WANT to blow up your relationship with your current boyfriend??
YOU DON'T COMPARE exes to current lovers. Don't get caught in it, don't ev... (read in full...)
My parents struggled. Do I have the right to be resentful towards my parents? Or am I being ungrateful?
Q. I don't want this to come off as me being ungrateful or spoiled but I've always had problems and issues with money. Let me explain a little further. I grew up in poverty and it was that way my entire life. It never bothered me until I became a...
A. 6 May 2015: Hold on a second.
Everything you wrote, I felt badly about and understood your frustration UNTIL you said this:
"I ended up not going off to college with my best friend like planned because I wanted to save for a car and have save up to have ... (read in full...)
The smell of smokers is a turn-off for me. Was it wrong of me to reject her? What else could I do?
Q. I am a guy who doesn't seem to have problems attracting girls. I can't stand girls when they are drunk or smokers, also both because of the smell. The drunk ones are not an issue, as I tell them that when we meet, she should refrain from drinkin...
A. 4 May 2015: Of course it wasn't wrong of you! Many people feel the same way, myself included! I have no problem nor do I judge or feel the need to lecture anyone who smokes. My mom did until she quit when I was a kid. My father struggled with it off and on ... (read in full...)
I'm pissed that I told my BF I missed him in a text and he did not bother to reply back!I'm pissed that I told my BF I missed him in a text and he did not bother to reply back!
Q. Why does it bother me so much that I sent my boyfriend a text saying "Have a good night. Miss you." And nothing. No response. No "I miss you too." It was five hours ago. He was out with his family for dinner and texted me to touch base. I texted ...
A. 3 May 2015: AAAaaaaaannnnddd....THIS is why I hate texting.
This isn't about the text. You're feeling insecure about his feelings for you, which shouldn't be put to the test in a TEXT MESSAGE.
I agree with LiveandLearn. Your text was the RESPONSE text, m... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 3 May 2015: Not at all! Your type of penis (hider/retractor) is the most common! You'll be fine. Trust me, by the end of your first year of marriage, you'll be "helicoptering" for your wife in no time flat!... (read in full...)
Did he use me? Is he just selfish? Was it reasonable to expect him to pay his share?
Q. I just wanted to get an outsider's perspective on the kind of situation that my boyfriend and I found ourselves in. My boyfriend and I decided to move in together. I know, it was a super immature decision because we didn't sit down and talk finances...
A. 3 May 2015: I agree with the others that he used you and you were taken advantage of.
However, unless he was to pay YOUR PARENTS half of the rent, then you were taking advantage of them. You were not carrying the financial burden of living there. Your par... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf starting to insult me?
Q. Hope someone can help me understand this. I've been with my boyfriend something like 16-18 months. He's always had a bit of a wandering eye when we are out together, like he will turn to look at someone pretty or really stare, say at women when we...
A. 2 May 2015: Your sister is correct. He is emotionally abusing you by breaking you down.
I would never let him touch me again, and I'd drop him immediately for his behavior.... (read in full...)
Am I fit for marriage? My anxiety over my penis size is worrying me. Don't want my bride disappointed in me.
Q. Friends, Need a suggestion from you friends, Im from India aged 28 and getting married to a girl who is 26 in 2 months. From the date of my engagement im worried about my length of my penis, When erect its 5.2 to 5.5 inch. When i measure from...
A. 2 May 2015: Don't worry one little bit! Your penis is a "hider", meaning it's not one where it's the full length flaccid like a used balloon when the air's been let out of it. It's retracted, and that does NOT mean that it's inferior.
The erect sizes yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 20 and is getting frustrated that I want to wait. (I'm gay and a virgin). Should I ask him about that Phone call? Or allow sex to happen?
Q. Hi, so I'm gay, my boyfriend is 20 and I am eighteen. Anyways, I'm a virgin, but he isn't. Last weekend I told him I was a virgin and wanted to wait on sex, and he was kind and very understanding. Well, a few days ago, I heard him on the phone with ...
A. 1 May 2015: Why are you wanting to wait to have sex? You never mentioned that. How long have you been with this guy? How long have you known you were gay, and what has stopped you from sex before him?
Do nothing sexually until you're ready to do so. You... (read in full...)
Would it be cruel to leave him. Or could it do him some good? I'm terrified of what'll happen if he continues like this.
Q. I'm between a rock and a hard place and I really need some advice. My boyfriend has always smoked weed. At first it was just once or twice a month when he would hang out with a particular friend. I didn't like it but he never did it in front of m...
A. 1 May 2015: You don't leave someone to "do them some good". You leave them because you need to move on, and his heavy drug use has made him no longer good for you to be around him.
You're not his therapist, and if you stay with him, you sign off on his beha... (read in full...)
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