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writes:i need help... so i just got married to a beautiful women named Jo Beth. well. a couple weekends ago, we were argueing about how i dont do anything around the house (shes four months pregnant . weve also lived to gether for the past couple of years) things got so bad that i just left to blow off steam. my buddy invited me over to his house since he was having a little get together. .. i ended up getting high and drunk ( which usually i dont do AT ALLL) and there was this girl that was giving me so much atttention. i vented out, telling her everything that was happening with ,me and my wife. . without ever thinking.. i ended up having sex with her.. i feel so terrrible... my wife found out a couple days ago . shes moving everything of hers out. i have never cheated on her before and i never ment to.. i was just being an idiot.! i knoe i hurt her soo soo bad. because when she asked me to come talk to her, she was already in tears. this is how our convorsation began.. " Ricky. the other day when u left, .. what happened.. and pplease. please be honest with me." so i told her everthing. and what how sorry i am . and if she just give me a second chance things would be better but of corse.. will some one please tell me what to do
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reader, lungalele  +, writes (25 September 2010):
I really doubt if u will get her back,I really understand how she feels. She definately think you are gonna leave her or never be a good father and at dis point she is in a state where she cares abt herself and totally doesn't care abt what will happen bcoz of hormones. Please be a man and swallow ur pride, just ignore what happened nd be more than u can be there for her, she will regain her trust nd try to forget wat happened nd take u back. Bcoz if u distant urself from her u may lose her forever. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): NO one knows wath they got until they lose it!
Sin has consequences. Don´t just feel bad ... Repent!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): First, you need to do whatever your wife asks you to do, and support her taking the actions she needs to make herself feel safe, and insure the safety of the child.
Second, you need to get screened for STD's and that includes HIV testing now and every 3 months for the next year. IF you and your wife get back together, and have sex, then you need to use a condom to insure that if you do have HIV, and just haven't converted yet on the blood test (remember a negative blood test doesn't mean you haven't been infected), that you don't infect her and your baby.
3rd, you need to do a lot of work to figure out why you would cheat on your wife who is pregnant. Drop the drugs and alcohol, and own up fully to your actions...which probably means getting some counseling.
If you do all the above, you may or may not get your wife back, but you may actually just be a happier person in the end of it all and not fuck up the next marriage or relationship.
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reader, hurtingmom_wife +, writes (25 September 2010):
 I had this done to me by my ex any i left as well, but all i have to tell you is. You must be a good father to this child and doing any thing you can for them no matter what it is. and you never know you might get another chance. i give my ex other chance. He showed me he would be a better. but dont mess up again you might not get another chance. when we get pergnant we fear that our men will leave us for another women and leaves us with the baby and we dont know what to do. Be the best father you can be and man.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 September 2010):
 I think I'd agree with MrsCary on this one. It's one thing to cheat on your wife, but cheating on her while she's pregnant with your kid is a whole new low.
Relationships take WORK from both of you. She is pregnant, which causes a wreck of hormones in and of itself. She's scared that when the baby comes, you wouldn't help her out around the house or with the baby. Apparantly, she was right if your response to the fight is to go run out and have sex with some random girl after getting drunk and high.
You need to seriously grow up, drop the illegal drugs, and start thinking about being a father to your kid, even though things don't look good for you and your wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): I am sorry I cannot help. I feel really badly for you because I believe you are truly sorry.
However, I would pack my stuff and leave you and never come back if you were my husband and I was pregnant with your child and you cheated on me.
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